Can i ask if something is rude?

[pubic_assistance]

Keep in mind...some guys are full time escorts and some only part time. That said: the part timers have a tendency to only check their mail when they are feeling like working. I've run across this several times, and now that I "get it" I don't feel so annoyed at the lack of communication, I just move on to the next person.

[ChrisWydeman]

I think its probably best to give the escort you contact the benefit of the doubt, sometimes I get emails and forget to respond to them because I have a lot going on. Rather than feel slighted I think it might be better use of your energy to assume that the escort you contacted has a busy life (we do have a life outside of work) and hope they will get back to you. If an escort doesn't get back to you there are plenty of others available

[Guest]

is it bad of me to think it is rude to not respond at all?

 

No, it's not bad of you, and yes it's rude not to at least acknowledge someone who is offering you business. It shows lack of respect for the clients. Even business that may not have such good customer service are usually at least smart enough to have their sales lines well-staffed. Escorts have their lives, but so do clients. We want to know if the escort will be available/in town around a certain time, and don't want to be asking a dozen different escorts at the same time hoping that a few will respond. When I come into a major city, I have a number of escorts from which I can choose. If an escort doesn't respond, I move on to my next choice. Why should I sit around waiting, and risk losing out on my 2nd choice during the wait? An escort who feels it's too much effort to send me a 1-sentence note saying that he will or will not be in town (or isn't sure at this time) is probably also more likely to disrespect my time when it comes to showing up on time, and so on. As I replied in a prior posting, I feel that about 5 waking hours is an appropriate response time for a text (allowing for the fact that the escort may be doing something which lasts a few hours during which texting is not appropriate, such as movies, opera, intimate moments, the gym, and meals), and 24 hours is appropriate for e-mails, with exceptions I mentioned in the prior post.

Let's be honest. While some escorts are very dedicated to their jobs, some men go into escorting because their personalities or lack of consideration of others make it nearly impossible to hold down regular jobs. It's one of the few jobs out there for people who want to "be their own boss" but not requiring any training or work experience. I'm not pointing fingers to any particular person here. If an escort doesn't respond to a client inquiry, no one's going to berate him for it. He may lose out on income, but there won't be anyone on his back or criticizing him. How many of us with other jobs can choose to just not answer to potential clients, or even to co-workers?

I have traveled out of town and had potential escort encounters blown by flaky escorts. So if an escort doesn't respond within a reasonable time frame, I move down the list. Sometimes an escort does answer some time later, and I let him know that I made other plans while waiting for the escort's response. Sometimes the escort never answers back. You never know what will happen.

[Juan Vancouver]

This cracks me up every single time. Whenever I hear someone saying "But let's be honest..." I know I am in for a laugh.

[UpDownUnder]

One guy I know - actually a very close friend of mine - has a really well-paying job with a large corporation and escorts on the side. He has a great ad (in large part because I wrote it - and took the pics ). He lives in a major US city, has several regulars, and realistically only can see one or two new clients a week - assuming he's in town and not traveling on business. He gets TONS of inquiries on RM and M4RN. Sometimes he doesn't check his email on those sites for a week or more, and when he does he'll often have 50-75 inquiries. He responds to very few of the emails he receives. More than once, I've yelled at him and told him that as a client, I consider that rude - in response I get a shrug and a sheepish "what do you want me to do? I just don't have the time to answer 50 emails a week".... Notwithstanding his being an email asshole, he's the nicest guy in the world and all of his clients adore him.

 

My point is, there are lots of reasons why an escort may not respond to an email inquiry and some (probably most) of them have nothing to do with the client sending the request. Though I know - from experience - that it sure as hell feels that way to the client whose email goes unanswered.

[Guest]

He responds to very few of the emails he receives. More than once, I've yelled at him and told him that as a client, I consider that rude - in response I get a shrug and a sheepish "what do you want me to do? I just don't have the time to answer 50 emails a week"

 

Simply not true. So he gets about 7 e-mails per day. He shouldn't be waiting a week to send a response. If he's not available, he can simply send a one-sentence note "Thank you for your interest, unfortunately, I don't have any availability this week. Please feel free to inquire again next week." Then hit "Send." If that takes one minute, he's a pretty bad typist. Then the potential client can know to look elsewhere. A simple courtesy that should really take only seconds. As the sign in the store says "Customers aren't an interruption of your business. They are your business." In your friend's case, it looks as if he's really not that into it, and that it's just something on the side. It's still no reason to treat potential customers as if they're meaningless. Unlike lawyers, doctors do not get paid to answer patients' e-mails and phone inquiries. We do so because it's good customer service. And we don't wait for a week, then say "Damn! That's 50 messages accumulated! I guess I'll just delete them without responding."

[Guest]

Hey, DK, you're looking hot in that new face picture with the black T-shirt.

[sincitymix]

One guy I know - actually a very close friend of mine - has a really well-paying job with a large corporation and escorts on the side. He has a great ad (in large part because I wrote it - and took the pics ). He lives in a major US city, has several regulars, and realistically only can see one or two new clients a week - assuming he's in town and not traveling on business. He gets TONS of inquiries on RM and M4RN. Sometimes he doesn't check his email on those sites for a week or more, and when he does he'll often have 50-75 inquiries. He responds to very few of the emails he receives. More than once, I've yelled at him and told him that as a client, I consider that rude - in response I get a shrug and a sheepish "what do you want me to do? I just don't have the time to answer 50 emails a week".... Notwithstanding his being an email asshole, he's the nicest guy in the world and all of his clients adore him.

 

My point is, there are lots of reasons why an escort may not respond to an email inquiry and some (probably most) of them have nothing to do with the client sending the request. Though I know - from experience - that it sure as hell feels that way to the client whose email goes unanswered.

how about a link to your friends ad

[UpDownUnder]

Haha, I knew that was coming as soon as I hit send. Not a chance! First because clearly he has way more potential clients than he seems to need or want, and also because I'll end up feeling guilty when he doesn't respond to forum member emails (recovering old school Catholic here, so I'm adept at misdirecting guilt from others to myself).

[instudiocity]

Manners are sadly dead.

 

In your dealing with escorts and in life in general you will find a lot of behaviours that a mere 15 years ago would have been considered outrageously rude. Sadly, this is the way this culture is evolving and in my mind there's two different ways in which you can react:

 

1. You can live in outrage, calling other people's attention to it and demanding that heads roll, discussing this deterioration of common courtesy and trying to correct people. The will only result in you having to be angry and belligerent all the time and they becoming increasingly rude. You can come to the internet and discuss with others how some people are rude. You can shake your collective heads and live with a sense of disconnection and sadness.

 

2. You can learn to early-detect rudeness and train yourself to avoid it at all costs once it has been detected. Instead, focus on the the few people that still exhibit politeness, common courtesy and who treat you like you enjoy treating human beings. Don't even comment on the rudes... that would be a terribly sad way of wasting time while you are enjoying the nices. Reward nice with smiles and more nice. Talk with people about how this or that person were kind, fun, polite and inspiring. With your focusing on nice, give Nice another chance.

 

A distraught man, trembling with rage at a street corner, shaking his fist and yelling "RUDE!" to everyone is just another symptom of the rude culture.

 

A kind man, celebrating kindness and politeness and choosing to reward and interact only with well-mannered people, is a hope for good manners to become prevalent again.

 

I m sorry escorts have not treated you with the consideration you wish for yourself. Keep trying. I am sure you will find a few that will blow your socks off. In the end, when you are with those who treat you like a king, you will be happy you missed all those other ones.

 

Good luck!

Juan honey, I'm wet for you, baby, I'm here in LA, naked and wet and just wishing you were here in the same room. I'll be putty for you, just take me and mold me and take me as yours. As long was you can stand me wearing my socks!

[+ quoththeraven]

Simply not true. So he gets about 7 e-mails per day. He shouldn't be waiting a week to send a response. If he's not available, he can simply send a one-sentence note "Thank you for your interest, unfortunately, I don't have any availability this week. Please feel free to inquire again next week." Then hit "Send." If that takes one minute, he's a pretty bad typist. Then the potential client can know to look elsewhere. A simple courtesy that should really take only seconds. As the sign in the store says "Customers aren't an interruption of your business. They are your business." In your friend's case, it looks as if he's really not that into it, and that it's just something on the side. It's still no reason to treat potential customers as if they're meaningless. Unlike lawyers, doctors do not get paid to answer patients' e-mails and phone inquiries. We do so because it's good customer service. And we don't wait for a week, then say "Damn! That's 50 messages accumulated! I guess I'll just delete them without responding."

 

Ha. I've received plenty of poor customer service from doctors and doctors' offices that no client would tolerate from a lawyer, including a doctor being short with me when I had questions and trying to hustle me out the door when he had less time because he arrived late. (I was there, along with other patients, at 7:30 am; he showed up with a teen who I assumed was his son at 8 am.)

 

Yes, he may have come directly from rounds (he's a gastroenterologist) and not from home as it looked like (it was winter and it had snowed the day before, so delay because of clearing the driveway is a possibility), but for him to ask me to hurry it up because he was running late and had other patients to see? That's bad customer service.

[+ Keith30309]

There have been a number of threads about specific individuals containing posts to the effect that he hasn't responded to someone's text/email/voicemail (I know because I've written several). You can begin to see a pattern with successive "yeah, me too"'s and it becomes part of someone's reputation of being a poor communicator (or, worse, the dreaded Flake!).

I tend to take it a little easy when RM Email is involved because of its known issues but otherwise, if someone's name arises in a query, I contribute my observations.

 

There are 2 guys actively advertising in Atlanta with whom I've communicated (I.e., received something from them indicating there's a heartbeat) but don't respond to follow-ups to set a date/time. My assumption is they are busy or otherwise not interested and move on without stressing over it. Not a big deal - if they've all the clients they can handle then that's great.

I believe that if the hiring micro-economy in my area is healthy enough to support lots of good, full-time escorts then everybody wins.

[LADoug1]

That's why I text rather than email. Better chance of a timely response. Professional escorts will reply.

[sincitymix]

Haha, I knew that was coming as soon as I hit send. Not a chance! First because clearly he has way more potential clients than he seems to need or want, and also because I'll end up feeling guilty when he doesn't respond to forum member emails (recovering old school Catholic here, so I'm adept at misdirecting guilt from others to myself). [/QU

 

Ahhh:( a shame, i doubt im in the same city as him.. it would have been nice to eye drool over someone lol