Bragging.....

[JDXXX]

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen Of The Forum:

 

Hope all of you are doing fine and well on this happy Friday.

 

As for me, I'm doing great as I'm relaxing enjoying a nice cold bowl of Strawberry Ice Cream, and watching Queer As Folk -Season 4.

 

Love me some Ben Buckner(Robert Gant). My dream husband. LOL. . He's SOOOO HOTT!!! I think him and Brian would have made more of a hot couple on the show. What a hot scene it was to see on Season 2 Ben and Brian did fuck together at one point as a hook-up before Ben met Michael. ;).

 

What was hot about scene: Ben was the bottom for Brian. Usually Ben is a top for Micheal. Not in this case with his hook-up with Brian. Lol. :rolleyes:. Ben does have a hot ass on him. Same with Michael too. .

 

Anyway - Here is my dilemma, folks, and need everyone's advice on how to handle or deal with such a complicating issue I'm facing with my close friend, so here it goes (sigh).......

 

Have a close friend I've known for 7 years now who is also a fellow escort/masseur in the Midwest. We talk on the phone at least once a week, and even visit each other 4 times a year.

 

Don't get me wrong, I love the guy - really I do, but he gets on my freaking nerves with his constant bragging how in well demand he is in everything. Without asking "how you doing - how's you're day going", it's right away all about HIM, and how clients are lining up to see him, ect. Sometimes I wonder does he intend to lift himself up on a pedestal on purpose to intimidate me or make me invy him.

 

I think he's trying to make me feel inferior as it appears to me that's what he's doing at times seeing how he has to make the conversation all about him, and how grand he is to everybody on earth.

 

He'll re-route a conversation we'll be having about a world events or working on our future goals, and right away he'll make the subject about him on how he lived lavishly with his ex-lover all over the world, and how his ex-lover of 19 years was wealthy, owning houses together, owning lavish cars, traveling around the world, knowing wealthy celebrities, Congressman, English royalty, ect. You name it - him and his ex-lover done it.

 

I become so annoyed when he speaks or goes on and on about how guys outside of escorting chase after him, and hit on him wherever he goes to be his boyfriend. Proves to me he has low self esteem, and do feel he exaggerates a tad much as nobody is that lucky all the time - everytime like that 95% of the time in they're lives. Makes my head spin as it's pathetic to me how someone has to brag to such annoying extents like this.

 

Had a heart-to-heart talk with him a month ago, and explained to him how his behavior in bragging to me or others can be a turn-off, and he need to get a grip on this before people think he's too high-maintenance or one who's a show-off. What does he do? Be on the defense, and say how I'm being too sensetive or jealous. I broke out laughing because it's so ridiculous to me of why would I be jealous of someone who has to brag to me or clients on how well they've had it in the past with a wealthy lover, and how high in demand they are client wise.

 

I know he's well loved and in high demand by clients as I've worked with him in the past as he's really good at what he does, and am happy for him, and his success, but when you throw such success constantly in someone's face all the time trying to make the other escort feel they are beneath you or inferior - to me, that's going way overboard, and is considered as bragging in my opinion.

 

Some may ask "Have you talk to your friend, and told him how you feel about his behavior"? Some may say " Maybe he doesn't see or is aware he's bragging being he's sharing his life experiences with you as a friend". Both maybe true, and he maybe sharing his life experiences, yes, but there is a difference in sharing your life experiences, and just plain being a show-off intentionally on purpose to prove to someone how well you have it made in life in and out of escorting.

 

What do you guys think I should do about my bragging friend? Should I be firm, and confront him again on how uncomfortable it makes me feel of him bragging too much or cut him loose?

 

May the suggestions begin........:).............

Edited April 1, 2016 by JDXXX

[+ glennnn]

Sounds like you have tried everything I might suggest. You now have three options:

 

Change his behavior. You tried

Live with his behavior. Can you just accept his bragging and not let it bother you?

Walk away. Extricate yourself from the relationship.

 

Some folks just need to be, have, feel MORE than everyone else.... More happy, more sad, more wealthy, more poor, more healthy, more sick. I had a college friend who was like this. If I was in pain, his pain was greater ("you think you have pain? Why my back requires I take morphine three times a day")

If I got an acting role I had sought, he was going to star in a movie. If i found ten bucks, he found a hundred. You get the idea. I tried to change it through heart-to-heart talks, and I tried to live with it, but I was pissed off all the time. I dropped him many years ago and haven't communicated for 30 years. Sad, but inevitable. I still miss him for some reason.

[mike carey]

JD, just tell him you are happy no matter how his life works out but that you love him and don't need all the details of his life. Tell him he doesn't need to prove anything to you. He doesn't need to tell you how successful he had been because you like him whether he has been successful or not.

[+ sync]

JD, one day he will catch you when you are not in the mood and you will take care of it.

[jjkrkwood]

Well, the situation doesn't only apply to "escorts". As a civilian, I had 2 friends (they were a couple) who always made "everything" about THEM. When we would make plans to do something, it had to be their ideas, what they wanted, when they wanted. They wouldn't be the least bit flexible on anything. They were braggadocious and "self serving" about everything. If you did something, they "ultimately did it better" . If you bought something, what they bought was better. It was exhausting... I tried to overlook and ignore, but after several years I just couldn't anymore. I confronted them and told them how I felt, but instead of receiving an understanding of my issues, I got the "oh, you're just jealous" line. At that point I realized they were all about themselves, and really didn't comprehend the idea of "Friendship"... I cut them loose...because i was getting absolutely nothing from the relationship....

 

So JD, my advice is to weigh the Pro's and cons of the relationship, and decide if you can exist in the space created for you with him.... Usually when you sit down and seriously THINK about it, the picture becomes perfectly clear as to what you need to do....

[jjkrkwood]

And THEN, I started carrying the FAN.... now if someone does or says something I don't like, I smack em on the head with it. For you, that may not work long distance, so you'll just have to smack him "with your Words"....

[JDXXX]

Sounds like you have tried everything I might suggest. You now have three options:

 

Change his behavior. You tried

Live with his behavior. Can you just accept his bragging and not let it bother you?

Walk away. Extricate yourself from the relationship.

 

Some folks just need to be, have, feel MORE than everyone else.... More happy, more sad, more wealthy, more poor, more healthy, more sick. I had a college friend who was like this. If I was in pain, his pain was greater ("you think you have pain? Why my back requires I take morphine three times a day")

If I got an acting role I had sought, he was going to star in a movie. If i found ten bucks, he found a hundred. You get the idea. I tried to change it through heart-to-heart talks, and I tried to live with it, but I was pissed off all the time. I dropped him many years ago and haven't communicated for 30 years. Sad, but inevitable. I still miss him for some reason.

 

JD, just tell him you are happy no matter how his life works out but that you love him and don't need all the details of his life. Tell him he doesn't need to prove anything to you. He doesn't need to tell you how successful he had been because you like him whether he has been successful or not.

 

JD, one day he will catch you when you are not in the mood and you will take care of it.

 

Well, the situation doesn't only apply to "escorts". As a civilian, I had 2 friends (they were a couple) who always made "everything" about THEM. When we would make plans to do something, it had to be their ideas, what they wanted, when they wanted. They wouldn't be the least bit flexible on anything. They were braggadocious and "self serving" about everything. If you did something, they "ultimately did it better" . If you bought something, what they bought was better. It was exhausting... I tried to overlook and ignore, but after several years I just couldn't anymore. I confronted them and told them how I felt, but instead of receiving an understanding of my issues, I got the "oh, you're just jealous" line. At that point I realized they were all about themselves, and really didn't comprehend the idea of "Friendship"... I cut them loose...because i was getting absolutely nothing from the relationship....

 

So JD, my advice is to weigh the Pro's and cons of the relationship, and decide if you can exist in the space created for you with him.... Usually when you sit down and seriously THINK about it, the picture becomes perfectly clear as to what you need to do....

 

I agree too. You guys are absolutely 100 percent right all the way with all your suggestions. Couldn't be put any better way as to how I feel. Each day I'm thinking more and more on how to sort out this dilemma and put an end to this bragging business he's conducting.

[jjkrkwood]

Listen & Learn......

 

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[bigvalboy]

. Each day I'm thinking more and more on how to sort out this dilemma and put an end to this bragging business he's conducting.

 

 

[TruHart1]

I agree too. You guys are absolutely 100 percent right all the way with all your suggestions. Couldn't be put any better way as to how I feel. Each day I'm thinking more and more on how to sort out this dilemma and put an end to this bragging business he's conducting.

It seems to be true with this particular friend/escort that if he's continued being this way for most of your acquaintance, he is not willing or able to listen to criticism regarding his need to continue this behavior. Rather than making some dramatically over-the-top farewell statement such as, "I can no longer be your friend if you continue this behavior, etc." you need to just walk away from the relationship, and make sure not to have any time to talk or to visit when you happen to be in the same geographical area. You've already found that, in this case, he will never change. So do nothing mean or negative, just be too busy to give him anymore of your time, especially given that having a conversation or visit with him always gets on your last nerve! No one has time for that!

 

TruHart1

[marylander1940]

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen Of The Forum:

 

Hope all of you are doing fine and well on this happy Friday.

 

As for me, I'm doing great as I'm relaxing enjoying a nice cold bowl of Strawberry Ice Cream, and watching Queer As Folk -Season 4.

 

Love me some Ben Buckner(Robert Gant). My dream husband. LOL. . He's SOOOO HOTT!!! I think him and Brian would have made more of a hot couple on the show. What a hot scene it was to see on Season 2 Ben and Brian did fuck together at one point as a hook-up before Ben met Michael. ;).

 

What was hot about scene: Ben was the bottom for Brian. Usually Ben is a top for Micheal. Not in this case with his hook-up with Brian. Lol. :rolleyes:. Ben does have a hot ass on him. Same with Michael too. .

 

Anyway - Here is my dilemma, folks, and need everyone's advice on how to handle or deal with such a complicating issue I'm facing with my close friend, so here it goes (sigh).......

 

Have a close friend I've known for 7 years now who is also a fellow escort/masseur in the Midwest. We talk on the phone at least once a week, and even visit each other 4 times a year.

 

Don't get me wrong, I love the guy - really I do, but he gets on my freaking nerves with his constant bragging how in well demand he is in everything. Without asking "how you doing - how's you're day going", it's right away all about HIM, and how clients are lining up to see him, ect. Sometimes I wonder does he intend to lift himself up on a pedestal on purpose to intimidate me or make me invy him.

 

I think he's trying to make me feel inferior as it appears to me that's what he's doing at times seeing how he has to make the conversation all about him, and how grand he is to everybody on earth.

 

He'll re-route a conversation we'll be having about a world events or working on our future goals, and right away he'll make the subject about him on how he lived lavishly with his ex-lover all over the world, and how his ex-lover of 19 years was wealthy, owning houses together, owning lavish cars, traveling around the world, knowing wealthy celebrities, Congressman, English royalty, ect. You name it - him and his ex-lover done it.

 

I become so annoyed when he speaks or goes on and on about how guys outside of escorting chase after him, and hit on him wherever he goes to be his boyfriend. Proves to me he has low self esteem, and do feel he exaggerates a tad much as nobody is that lucky all the time - everytime like that 95% of the time in they're lives. Makes my head spin as it's pathetic to me how someone has to brag to such annoying extents like this.

 

Had a heart-to-heart talk with him a month ago, and explained to him how his behavior in bragging to me or others can be a turn-off, and he need to get a grip on this before people think he's too high-maintenance or one who's a show-off. What does he do? Be on the defense, and say how I'm being too sensetive or jealous. I broke out laughing because it's so ridiculous to me of why would I be jealous of someone who has to brag to me or clients on how well they've had it in the past with a wealthy lover, and how high in demand they are client wise.

 

I know he's well loved and in high demand by clients as I've worked with him in the past as he's really good at what he does, and am happy for him, and his success, but when you throw such success constantly in someone's face all the time trying to make the other escort feel they are beneath you or inferior - to me, that's going way overboard, and is considered as bragging in my opinion.

 

Some may ask "Have you talk to your friend, and told him how you feel about his behavior"? Some may say " Maybe he doesn't see or is aware he's bragging being he's sharing his life experiences with you as a friend". Both maybe true, and he maybe sharing his life experiences, yes, but there is a difference in sharing your life experiences, and just plain being a show-off intentionally on purpose to prove to someone how well you have it made in life in and out of escorting.

 

What do you guys think I should do about my bragging friend? Should I be firm, and confront him again on how uncomfortable it makes me feel of him bragging too much or cut him loose?

 

May the suggestions begin........:).............

 

is it for real or another case of...

 

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[+ Truereview]

JD, I have a somewhat different perspective. It is very hard for me to trust, and when I am lucky enough to have a close friend, I find it very hard to distance myself or discard them just bc their behavior is "annoying" to me. If their behavior was criminal, dangerous, or something worse, then, yeah, I would probably modify the relationship or end it. However, in the grand scheme of things, if someone is a braggart is that enough to modify the friendship? Before giving up on him, I would take a hard look at myself and ask: can I control my negative reaction to his bragging? Can I stand losing face when he brags to others in front of me? Sometimes, being a close friend really entails embracing someone fully for the good and the bad. I certainly hope my close friends don't give up on me when I annoy them - even if continuously. good luck! -TR

[mattr]

People who are compelled to tell you how great their life is are trying convince themselves as much at they are trying to convince you. People who are truly happy with their lives don't need to convince anyone else of the fact and want others to be as happy as they are. It is really kind of sad but there is nothing you can do about it. He is likely exhibiting this behavior out of feelings of inadequacy. This reminds me of a a friend who was constantly telling me how great his marriage was and then one day up and announced that he was getting a divorce.

[jjkrkwood]

JD, I have a somewhat different perspective. It is very hard for me to trust, and when I am lucky enough to have a close friend, I find it very hard to distance myself or discard them just bc their behavior is "annoying" to me. If their behavior was criminal, dangerous, or something worse, then, yeah, I would probably modify the relationship or end it. However, in the grand scheme of things, if someone is a braggart is that enough to modify the friendship? Before giving up on him, I would take a hard look at myself and ask: can I control my negative reaction to his bragging? Can I stand losing face when he brags to others in front of me? Sometimes, being a close friend really entails embracing someone fully for the good and the bad. I certainly hope my close friends don't give up on me when I annoy them - even if continuously. good luck! -TR

 

 

 

Hey Trudy, since we are "besties" can you send me a cashiers check for $10k. I need a tummy tuck !

[+ Truereview]

Hey Trudy, since we are "besties" can you send me a cashiers check for $10k. I need a tummy tuck !

Even besties have to draw boundaries. I draw mine at lending a cup of sugar or a spoon of honey, but I will be there for you in the recovery room to jiggle the leftover skin & tighten your girdle.

[jjkrkwood]

Even besties have to draw boundaries. I draw mine at lending a cup of sugar or a spoon of honey, but I will be there for you in the recovery room to jiggle the leftover skin & tighten your girdle.

 

That's what NURSES are for...... Geesh !

 

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[JDXXX]

You guys are not going to believe this as I am so pissed off beyond belief at this point - I just finished an overnight session with long-term client of 6 years just now, and come to find out that my "so-called" close friend has actually been trashing other escorts(including me) telling my client that I'm a drug and meth addict. The client wanted a 3-way session, and asked if I knew anyone who I can bring on board, so I recommended my friend to join in the mix who was happening to be visiting me in LA at the time.

 

The client admitted to me he saw my friend in Nebraska for a one-on-one session about 2 months ago for an overnight session, and supposedly this is when my friend told the client I was a drug addict. I told the client to prove that my so-called friend was lying I would be more than happy to take a drug test, and have the results to him by Tuesday. The client felt that wasn't necessary and have decided to dismiss seeing my friend at this point seeing he is cut-throat and territorial. Basically to have the client turn on me so he can have FULL access to the client.

 

My client opened up, and stated during our conversation he was turned off how high-maintenance my friend was by shelling around of his past life with his ex-lover, and told him things that appeared he was bragging or trying to present himself as a one of a kind escort that everyone wants cause he has a big penis.

 

I am highly upset to have found this out being I never said bad things about my friend to any client, and was the one who introduced him, and referred him to the client, and this is how he treats me in the end - by backstabbing me, and lying to the client that I'm a drug addict. Oh no!! I'm officially through with this bastard. What he did was horrible and highly unprofessional.

 

I guess this is what I get being around people who are full of themselves like he is. .

 

Honestly I think I am done with my friend seeing now he's slandering me costing me clients I recommend to him. I was informed by the client he voided from seeing me somewhat based on what my friend told him. That's ashame being now I don't care to see the client anymore cause of the fact he dismissed me on the count of what another escort(he's known for a lesser time) has said to him that wasn't true.

 

The only reason the client decided to see me again (from what I gathered) is due to the fact my friend pissed him off in someway, so now he wants to resume seeing me again, and I don't know if I'm comfortable with seeing the client again after finding out he turned on me based on a lie. My client should know better to believe(after knowing me for over 6 years) that I'm not a drug addict or thief.

 

I just hope I'm doing the right thing by cutting them BOTH loose. . What a swift kick in the groin this is to find out the very friend your unsure of pulls this stunt, and has been stabbing me in the back for while lying to clients on me about my persona as an escort who does drugs.

[MiamiLooker]

An escort brags incessantly and smack-talks other escorts. Haven’t we heard this story before?

 

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[JDXXX]

Hey JD,

 

You may have a similar experience to what I'm describing now. As escorts we often meet people high on the social ladder. I often noticed that the higher someone is on that ladder and the more successful they are, the kinder and more pleasant they are. (Actually, I think that that's one of the reasons why they are successful, not the only reason, but one of the reasons.)

 

I sometimes say, If someone's really good and successful, there's no need for them to brag about it. Others will tell again others that he's good and the successful guy will get the confirmation constantly during his work. No need for him to repeat that outside work. If however someone is not that good, they need to create the impression that they're good themselves and the only way to do it is to start "spreading the 'message' themselves". I call this compensation behavior. From what I read in your post, I believe this is what you are describing, and you may have made that conclusion yourself as well.

 

A funny thing happened during lunch at one of my previous jobs. Two guys at the other end of the table were bragging about how much sex they had and how many "chicks" they had had. To me and a few other colleagues at our side of the table it was a bit annoying and suddenly the sentence "the more they talk about it, the less they do it" fell out of my mouth. You won't believe how fast they stopped bragging about their sexual escapades.

 

If you think that your friend is also showing compensation behavior, and if you keep this in mind the next time he's bragging, you may feel much less bad. After all, you may be doing better than him.

 

Sometimes I just start confirming what someone else said. I will say things like "Boy, you're so lucky. Geez, you must be the happiest guy in the world. Goodness, there are a lot of guys chasing you." etc. etc. In my mind I will be thinking "yeah, yeah, yeah". After a while he may get the message that you're playing games with him and his bragging may even stop.

 

Anyway, if you have tried everything you could think of, there may be one remaining thing you can do. Imagine a scale and in one of the two scales you put all the positive and pleasant things of knowing your friend. In the other scale you put the negative and unpleasant things of his company. Which way do the scales go?

 

Most of all, I hope this helps.

 

Hugs, Anton.

 

Hey Buddy,

 

Long time no see. Everything you have said makes sense, and will think long and hard about what you said which is dead on correct to what I've been feeling about my friend, and his "compensation behavior". ;)

 

Hey JD,

 

I think we have been posting almost at the same moment, and you may have answered the question I just asked in my previous post.

 

Regarding cutting them both loose, I wouldn't cut the client loose. Do you want to operate on the same (low) level as your friend, or do you want to be more classy and shine above his level? If yes to the latter, you might want to continue seeing the client. (I don't think you can blame the client for being misinformed.)

 

Again I hope this helps.

 

Cheers, Bart.

 

The reason I was considering on dismissing the client is because I know it was true as to why he stopped seeing me being he admitted he took in what told him for which he should know I don't do drugs, and it was wrong for my client to dismiss in a arrogant manner like he did by voiding me. I feel at this point he is only seeing me on the count of my friend making him uncomfortable in they're past meetings with his unprofessionalism bragging. If it wasn't for my friend failing him - he wouldn't be seeing me right now til this day. .

 

However, I get what your saying and will consider your advice, and words of wisdom which are good points and quite informative.

 

Hugs,

[dcguy20]

Lather, rinse, repeat. Some people never learn!

[Nvr2Thick]

Have a close friend I've known for 7 years now who is also a fellow escort/masseur in the Midwest. We talk on the phone at least once a week, and even visit each other 4 times a year.

 

Don't get me wrong, I love the guy - really I do, but he gets on my freaking nerves with his constant bragging how in well demand he is in everything. Without asking "how you doing - how's you're day going", it's right away all about HIM, and how clients are lining up to see him, ect. Sometimes I wonder does he intend to lift himself up on a pedestal on purpose to intimidate me or make me invy him.

 

I think he's trying to make me feel inferior as it appears to me that's what he's doing at times seeing how he has to make the conversation all about him, and how grand he is to everybody on earth.

 

You might ask yourself why you consider him to be a close friend, or reevaluate your definition of the term.

[Bearofdistinction]

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen Of The Forum:

 

Hope all of you are doing fine and well on this happy Friday.

As for me, I'm doing great as I'm relaxing enjoying a nice cold bowl of Strawberry Ice Cream, and watching Queer As Folk -Season 4.

 

Love me some Ben Buckner(Robert Gant). My dream husband. LOL. . He's SOOOO HOTT!!! I think him and Brian would have made more of a hot couple on the show. What a hot scene it was to see on Season 2 Ben and Brian did fuck together at one point as a hook-up before Ben met Michael. ;).

What was hot about scene: Ben was the bottom for Brian. Usually Ben is a top for Micheal. Not in this case with his hook-up with Brian. Lol. :rolleyes:. Ben does have a hot ass on him. Same with Michael too. .

Anyway - Here is my dilemma, folks, and need everyone's advice on how to handle or deal with such a complicating issue I'm facing with my close friend, so here it goes (sigh).......

 

Have a close friend I've known for 7 years now who is also a fellow escort/masseur in the Midwest. We talk on the phone at least once a week, and even visit each other 4 times a year.

Don't get me wrong, I love the guy - really I do, but he gets on my freaking nerves with his constant bragging how in well demand he is in everything. Without asking "how you doing - how's you're day going", it's right away all about HIM, and how clients are lining up to see him, ect. Sometimes I wonder does he intend to lift himself up on a pedestal on purpose to intimidate me or make me invy him.

I think he's trying to make me feel inferior as it appears to me that's what he's doing at times seeing how he has to make the conversation all about him, and how grand he is to everybody on earth.

He'll re-route a conversation we'll be having about a world events or working on our future goals, and right away he'll make the subject about him on how he lived lavishly with his ex-lover all over the world, and how his ex-lover of 19 years was wealthy, owning houses together, owning lavish cars, traveling around the world, knowing wealthy celebrities, Congressman, English royalty, ect. You name it - him and his ex-lover done it.

 

I become so annoyed when he speaks or goes on and on about how guys outside of escorting chase after him, and hit on him wherever he goes to be his boyfriend. Proves to me he has low self esteem, and do feel he exaggerates a tad much as nobody is that lucky all the time - everytime like that 95% of the time in they're lives. Makes my head spin as it's pathetic to me how someone has to brag to such annoying extents like this.

Had a heart-to-heart talk with him a month ago, and explained to him how his behavior in bragging to me or others can be a turn-off, and he need to get a grip on this before people think he's too high-maintenance or one who's a show-off. What does he do? Be on the defense, and say how I'm being too sensetive or jealous. I broke out laughing because it's so ridiculous to me of why would I be jealous of someone who has to brag to me or clients on how well they've had it in the past with a wealthy lover, and how high in demand they are client wise.

I know he's well loved and in high demand by clients as I've worked with him in the past as he's really good at what he does, and am happy for him, and his success, but when you throw such success constantly in someone's face all the time trying to make the other escort feel they are beneath you or inferior - to me, that's going way overboard, and is considered as bragging in my opinion. Some may ask "Have you talk to your friend, and told him how you feel about his behavior"? Some may say " Maybe he doesn't see or is aware he's bragging being he's sharing his life experiences with you as a friend". Both maybe true, and he maybe sharing his life experiences, yes, but there is a difference in sharing your life experiences, and just plain being a show-off intentionally on purpose to prove to someone how well you have it made in life in and out of escorting.

What do you guys think I should do about my bragging friend? Should I be firm, and confront him again on how uncomfortable it makes me feel of him bragging too much or cut him loose?

May the suggestions begin........:).............

 

You made him aware of how annoying his behavior is - now is time for Behavior Modification.

Modify a canine Shock Collar and lock it around his cock and balls - and everytime he starts to brag --- ZAP HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!

Edited April 2, 2016 by Bearofdistinction

[TruHart1]

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My client opened up, and stated during our conversation he was turned off how high-maintenance my friend was by shelling around of his past life with his ex-lover, and told him things that appeared he was bragging or trying to present himself as a one of a kind escort that everyone wants cause he has a big penis.

 

I am highly upset to have found this out being I never said bad things about my friend to any client, and was the one who introduced him, and referred him to the client, and this is how he treats me in the end - by backstabbing me, and lying to the client that I'm a drug addict. Oh no!! I'm officially through with this bastard. What he did was horrible and highly unprofessional.

 

I guess this is what I get being around people who are full of themselves like he is. .

 

Honestly I think I am done with my friend seeing now he's slandering me costing me clients I recommend to him. I was informed by the client he voided from seeing me somewhat based on what my friend told him. That's ashame being now I don't care to see the client anymore cause of the fact he dismissed me on the count of what another escort(he's known for a lesser time) has said to him that wasn't true.

 

The only reason the client decided to see me again (from what I gathered) is due to the fact my friend pissed him off in someway, so now he wants to resume seeing me again, and I don't know if I'm comfortable with seeing the client again after finding out he turned on me based on a lie. My client should know better to believe(after knowing me for over 6 years) that I'm not a drug addict or thief.

 

I just hope I'm doing the right thing by cutting them BOTH loose. . What a swift kick in the groin this is to find out the very friend your unsure of pulls this stunt, and has been stabbing me in the back for while lying to clients on me about my persona as an escort who does drugs.

What you should always remember is that a client is just as human as you are, JD, and he can be convinced of a lie about you if your "friend" escort sounds sincere enough. The very idea that an escort may be addicted to drugs is enough to make some clients shy away from any interaction with you, even though he might never have even thought of the possibility that you might be on meth until this "friend" of yours convinced him.

 

In this instance, the client became unhappy with the escort, decided to hire you again, and cleared the air with you about the accusations. Although you may be disappointed that the client could not see through your "friend's" lies, I don't think that's the best reason for dismissing your client completely. Drop your so called escort "friend" - absolutely, but give your client another chance. If you do that, you just might have a faithful client for life, or until you decide to leave the business! JMHO

 

TruHart1

[killianjamesnyc]

wow this is like a telenovela lol, all the trash talk, fighting and backstabbing that happens behind closed doors in an escorts life

 

I don't have these issues as honestly I don't have any friends. I thinks thats the solution. I try to keep to myself, I don't have any escort friends. I try to be as kind and open to people and hope they are the same to me. This forum is pretty much the only segway for me to be connected in this industry.

 

I'm right there with you dominiking. I only have two guys in my life who are working boys that I can truly call my friends. One doesn't even live in this country. I can honesty say I don't have any issues like these and haven't had any in a very long time. I agree that keeping people at a friendly distance is the best way to stay out of getting caught up in any drama, and we all know how easy getting caught up can be.

[JDXXX]

I'm right there with you dominiking. I only have two guys in my life who are working boys that I can truly call my friends. One doesn't even live in this country. I can honesty say I don't have any issues like these and haven't had any in a very long time. I agree that keeping people at a friendly distance is the best way to stay out of getting caught up in any drama, and we all know how easy getting caught up can be.

 

Thanks Killian - you and Dom's post give me an idea being I like how you formulate and separate who are your "real" friends and who are more associates.

 

Honestly, I need to start screening who I call friends more carefully, and not be so much of an open book when it comes to just accepting anyone as a "friend" in my life.

 

I'm starting to realize not everybody is meant to a friend or have the qualities of what you looking for in one. True friendship develope over time, even years in order to determine if they're a good fit in that department.

 

So, maybe it's good for from now on to just ease up on accepting anyone as a friend.

 

Good post you guys. Very beneficial. .