Lesbians

[foxy]

Ok, this is a funny thing to bring up on a site like this but I'm often surprised and mystified why there is such little interaction between gay men and women. I have gay friends, straight friends, both men and women but I don't really have any lesbian friends.

 

I've met some really interesting lesbians over the years but have never been able to maintain any lasting friendships with them. Are we really too different?

 

Several years ago I was spending a few days in Cherry Grove on Fire Island which has a big lesbian community. One afternoon I was talking with this women and the two of us got a little drunk together at a bar overlooking the beach. Oddly enough the two of us were attracted to each other.

 

I remember she kept lighting my cigarette which I found very provocative. The sexual tension was really high. We were also pretty drunk, which helped. She had the most gorgeous green eyes. She wanted to have sex and I ran.

 

When I was younger I had sex with straight women, later on, when I realized I was gay I only had sex with gay men. When escorts entered the picture I knew I was often having sex with straight men.

 

I sometimes regret passing up this opportunity to have sex with a willing lesbian. It just seemed too strange at the time (even though I was kinda drunk).

 

So....I wonder....are we too far apart, gay men and women, not just sexually, but socially as well. Can or do gay men have gay women friends? And am I the only guy who ran from a gay women when she wanted to go to bed?

[+ Lucky]

Foxy, my dear friend. You need help. Last week you were writing about a pretty girl that distracted you at the Gaiety, now you want to have sex with lesbians. This is probably a passing thing, some kind of a phase you are in, but it needs to be stopped...now, before it gets worse. August is now over, so New York's shrinks are all back from vacation. Hurry!

 

(Just kidding, foxy. Anything you want is fine with me!!)

[OneFinger]

Actually, I have a very healthy supply of Lesbian friends. Over the years I've had 2 as co-workers (one of them I actually hired). I "think" a current co-worker is gay and we have lots of fun together on business trips. But, she's never brought up the subject and I suspect we both "assume" the other is gay.

 

I've had several as neighbors in various communities. Right now the neighbor behind me is Lesbian and we walk our dogs together. There's another one across the street and we go hiking, fishing, and shooting together. (Have yet to find an openly gay man in the neighborhood.)

 

There have been several Lesbian couples that I become close with at church.

 

One Lesbian friend actually moved across country with me and we shared a house together in Michigan.

 

In short, I've really enjoyed my Lesbian friendships and have met some wonderful gay men through them. :7 But I've never been sexually attracted to any women (Lesbian or otherwise). I think I'd probably run away too.

[Guest zipperzone]

>So....I wonder....are we too far apart, gay men and women, not

>just sexually, but socially as well. Can or do gay men have

>gay women friends? And am I the only guy who ran from a gay

>women when she wanted to go to bed?

 

The trouble with lesbians is that they always decorate their apartments to match their desert boots!

[mansniffing]

All I gotta say is: The LEZ BEIN' said about this subject the better.

[Kippy]

Jack McFarland said it best on "Will and Grace"-- "Do not use flash photography, since the lesbians may attack you..."

 

Peace,

 

Kipp}(

[Guest Fluffytest]

While I'm neither, my guess is that gays and lesbians are very different simply because they are men and women. So it's the same story as it is for straight men and women: Unless they're flirting with one another (which isn't the case here), they'd rather hang out with those who are similar to them.