Not so sure

[seaboy4hire]

So heres the situation. For the last few years I have been involved romantically with a good guy off and on. But he'shaving a hard time wrapping his head around me working. I tired explaining to him why, the economics of it and the emotion part. But hes still having a hard time. He confessed that when we first met he googled my name and phone number so hes known about this for a while. But we want to take the relationship to another level and like I said this bothers him. Any suggestions? On how to make it easier for him? This is something I enjoy and it's honestly not all about the money. I genuinely enjoy the guys I've met. I feel like even if its just an hour or over night have left a positive impression and wouldn't trade any of the experiences I've had because they've been life lessons for myself. Being in this biz has taught me never judge a book by its cover and reinforced the rule treat others as you'd like to be treated.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[tyro]

Groggy, I hate to tell you this, but...

I don't think there is a way to make it easier for him.

T

[big-n-tall]

Yeah, I agree with Tyro. If he knew going in (so to speak) about your job and he still is having trouble (I don't know how long you've been dating)... it will never be easier for him. It's always will be an issue of him thinking about what you are doing, I figure.

 

If you move forward the only thing that may help is to make sure you reassure him, like a lot...constantly. (That may be draining on you over time.) I'm sure you're doing that at some level already. Also, I don't know if you talk to him about what you do or the people you've seen, but keep the business side of your life away from him as much as possible.

 

Anyway, I hope it works out in your favor.

[+ sync]

I wish you well, but I agree with Tyro and BNT, it will be a constant upstream swim.

[AdamSmith]

Here is a somewhat extreme solution, but I know one working guy for whom it solved this issue. He had been escorting for a good while, got into a serious relationship, told the guy right up front what he did -- and eventually, after some months together, convinced the bf to hire out with him as a twosome a few times. That let the bf see from "inside" what it's like. And how it's not anything that competes with their relationship. The bf has been fine with it ever since. (And they continue to do the occasional twosome together.)

[MikeyGMin]

That is a tough one. If he's not down with what Adam Smith suggested, maybe a twist would be to encourage him to hire someone. He could see that while it might be intimate, it's not long term intimate.

 

I'm not sure I could handle being an escort's boyfriend. Not sure I could muster the control over my jealousy that would be required. There would certainly have to be some boundaries and rules to keep me sane.

 

I wouldn't want to hear about it, which would be a little hard for you because everyone talks about their job, but I would need that concession. Overnights would be very difficult on me, but I know they're good money, so I would try to work on that.

 

The most important one would be that you schedule and plan ahead so you don't break plans with me to take on a client. I couldn't handle you ditching me to go fuck someone else - - even if it's just business. I've been told by a couple escorts that this is the very thing that usually destroys their relationships. Even if their partner is not at all jealous, they cannot handle the schedule an escort keeps.

 

Good luck to you Greg. No matter what our profession we all want/need someone in our corner.

[seaboy4hire]

Boundaries are important and I am going to bring that up when I see him on Tues. I've tried explaining that hiring is a mix of therapy and fantasy for many guys but he doesnt get it. I'm not sure getting him a hooker for a couple hours would work, he's an odd bloke. I wish that there was a positive documentary out about escorting. Theres no way in bloody hell I would show him that hot mess that came out in early 2000 late 1990s 101 rent boys. He'd lock me away and take all my electronics away lol.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[seaboy4hire]

Here is a somewhat extreme solution, but I know one working guy for whom it solved this issue. He had been escorting for a good while, got into a serious relationship, told the guy right up front what he did -- and eventually, after some months together, convinced the bf to hire out with him as a twosome a few times. That let the bf see from "inside" what it's like. And how it's not anything that competes with their relationship. The bf has been fine with it ever since. (And they continue to do the occasional twosome together.)

 

This boy is an ethnic queen, if the guy doesnt have a latino last name or brown skin he's not interested. Most hires are white guys. So him working with me wouldn't work. Plus he's a lil on the cubby side minus being furry. Not what most guys are looking for I think.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[AdamSmith]

This boy is an ethnic queen, if the guy doesnt have a latino last name or brown skin he's not interested. Most hires are white guys. So him working with me wouldn't work. Plus he's a lil on the cubby side minus being furry. Not what most guys are looking for I think.

 

Hugs,

Greg

Oh well. Good luck and best wishes in any event.

[Brian Kevin]

This boy is an ethnic queen, if the guy doesnt have a latino last name or brown skin he's not interested. Most hires are white guys. So him working with me wouldn't work. Plus he's a lil on the cubby side minus being furry. Not what most guys are looking for I think.

 

Hugs,

Greg

 

 

+1 for the thick guys.

 

PS greg did u see my new ass shots on RentMen I was feel scandalous.

[seaboy4hire]

+1 for the thick guys.

 

PS greg did u see my new ass shots on RentMen I was feel scandalous.

 

You tease! Lol Imma need to head on over there in a few.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[Rudynate]

Here is a somewhat extreme solution, but I know one working guy for whom it solved this issue. He had been escorting for a good while, got into a serious relationship, told the guy right up front what he did -- and eventually, after some months together, convinced the bf to hire out with him as a twosome a few times. That let the bf see from "inside" what it's like. And how it's not anything that competes with their relationship. The bf has been fine with it ever since. (And they continue to do the occasional twosome together.)

 

 

What a fabulous idea.

[Brian Kevin]

Those were only the PG13 ones. I have so many more I wear my undies like Nicki, tight, small and revealing. Down another 7 pounds. Once I start losing the ass I'm done dieting and exercising. I will NOT be skinny AND flat assed. Never. Again.

[seaboy4hire]

Those were only the PG13 ones. I have so many more I wear my undies like Nicki, tight, small and revealing. Down another 7 pounds. Once I start losing the ass I'm done dieting and exercising. I will NOT be skinny AND flat assed. Never. Again.

 

Alright Ms. Scarlett

 

Hugs,

Greg

[Brian Kevin]

None the less best of luck with your boy toy with racial quuen tendencies. Apple don't fall far from the tree they say. Him being the tree u being the.... U get it?

[big-n-tall]

Boundaries are important and I am going to bring that up when I see him on Tues. I've tried explaining that hiring is a mix of therapy and fantasy for many guys but he doesnt get it. I'm not sure getting him a hooker for a couple hours would work, he's an odd bloke. I wish that there was a positive documentary out about escorting. Theres no way in bloody hell I would show him that hot mess that came out in early 2000 late 1990s 101 rent boys. He'd lock me away and take all my electronics away lol.

 

Hugs,

Greg

 

Show him that cockyboy docu-vid about why Rob Yaeger escort does what he does. It might help a little.

http://cockyboys.com/movietour/trailer.php?id=1349

 

I don't know how your friend will take it though.

[Brian Kevin]

Alright Ms. Scarlett

 

Hugs,

Greg

 

I'm personally rooting for Ms. Melt. Now that's a title I'd solicit votes for.

[Rudynate]

Those were only the PG13 ones. I have so many more I wear my undies like Nicki, tight, small and revealing. Down another 7 pounds. Once I start losing the ass I'm done dieting and exercising. I will NOT be skinny AND flat assed. Never. Again.

 

The thing is to replace fat with muscle. A good trainer will design a program for you that will allow you to build muscle in your booty to replace the lost fat. Trading a fat butt for a muscle butt is a good thing. In addition to looking good, it will help correct postural deficiencies and imbalances and it just generally feels lots better to inhabit a muscled body than a fat body.

[Brian Kevin]

The thing is to replace fat with muscle. A good trainer will design a program for you that will allow you to build muscle in your booty to replace the lost fat. Trading a fat butt for a muscle butt is a good thing. In addition to looking good, it will help correct postural deficiencies and imbalances and it just generally feels lots better to inhabit a muscled body than a fat body.

 

You find me a trained whom travels like me and I will commit

 

The dieting was hard enough to adjust to. I can't afford a new trainer in every city. They said insanity would work, but all that does is my make legs look like they're gonna explode with muscle and help me sleep at night.

[+ WilliamM]

I have know working guys with the same problem. In each case they are still together with their non-escort partner after therapy together or separately.

[Rudynate]

You find me a trained whom travels like me and I will commit

 

The dieting was hard enough to adjust to. I can't afford a new trainer in every city. They said insanity would work, but all that does is my make legs look like they're gonna explode with muscle and help me sleep at night.

 

You don't need to work one-on-one with a trainer. Find one who will do an assessment and work with you to design a program that can be done on the road (there are road warriors who maintain an amazing level of fitness). Meet with the trainer every six weeks or so to tune your program.

[seaboy4hire]

I have know working guys with the same problem. In each case they are still together with their non-escort partner after therapy together or separately.

 

He currently sees a shrink. Im not too big on talking to a shrink, someone I don't know.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[jackjackjack]

Those were only the PG13 ones. I have so many more I wear my undies like Nicki, tight, small and revealing. Down another 7 pounds. Once I start losing the ass I'm done dieting and exercising. I will NOT be skinny AND flat assed. Never. Again.

 

Rudynate is right and you don't need a trainer. You won't lose your butt if you do squats, lunges, leg lifts... just tightens your gluts.

[+ glennnn]

Wow! I think this is the toughest thread I've seen on here. I wish I had some solution to offer. I hope he can deal with your work and see what a loving, caring guy he has found. Hugs and good wishes.

[+ WilliamM]

He currently sees a shrink. Im not too big on talking to a shrink, someone I don't know.

 

I agreed with you until I found an excellent therapist. Believe me, Greg, it does work.