So hard to figure out where I want to relocate, any ideas?

[+ WilliamM]

So much to respond to in this thread. First, Philly is a wonderful city to live in (reading american executive's description makes me homesick), but there is a reason there are so few escorts: it is close enough to NYC and DC that local clients often go there instead to hire, or escorts go to Philly from those cities to satisfy the locals' needs.

 

Completely true. I can only speak for myself, but I am tired of trips to New York and Washington. Now that Premier is not the escort agency it once was (partly because agencies are just barely surviving now), perhaps several good escorts could survive here. I enjoy in-calls in my house far more than paying for a hotel in DC or NYC.

[JC954]

When considering relocation(s) I always advise to begin with an effective mental health self-assessment.

 

It can work wonders to exclude any irrational and disappointing outcomes.

[Lookin]

Finally, an admission: no matter where I have lived and no matter how much there is to like about it, I have always found myself fantasizing about living somewhere else that is better in some way, because unless you have enough money to live in multiple places, you will never be totally satisfied anywhere. That may be one explanation why you are happiest when traveling.

 

Oddly, I'm just the opposite. I have never lived anywhere that I didn't like. Closest was my first winter in Chicago, when I asked myself what the hell I was doing there but, by spring, I had survived the cold, it was all better, and Chicago became one of my favorite cities.

 

I enjoy travel (except the getting-to-and-through-the-airport part), but always look forward to coming home again. For me, it has to do with being in a community, among friends.

 

I've noticed that many of Joey's frustrations have to do with the irritants thrown up by his 'friends', and I wonder if getting into a different crowd might make all the difference. Or, perhaps, a couple of different crowds: one crowd of attractive twenty-something clubbers, and another crowd of folks who like you for who you are and always have your back. In my experience, it's that second crowd who will make you happy and content wherever you are. They will be givers and not takers, and you will usually have to start by asking what you can do for them before they will start asking what they can do for you.

 

You can find these folks anywhere and, when you do, my hunch is you'll be happy. On the other hand, if you don't look for them, there may be no place on God's Green Earth that will keep a smile on your face.

 

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[mmk123]

I live in Pittsburgh, PA and if I was relocating, I would choose a city the size of Pgh or one larger. I grew up in a small town and I could never go back to that life. Any time I do go up to visit my mother (who only lives an hour north) I get frustrated when I am there - even though it might only be for a 4 or 5 day stay.

[+ Charlie]

I live in Pittsburgh, PA and if I was relocating, I would choose a city the size of Pgh or one larger. I grew up in a small town and I could never go back to that life. Any time I do go up to visit my mother (who only lives an hour north) I get frustrated when I am there - even though it might only be for a 4 or 5 day stay.

I just returned from my first visit to Pittsburgh in 30 years, and I was surprised at how much I liked it now. I thought that if I were going to return to the east, it is a city I would seriously consider. However, I'm not sure I would feel the same way if I were a young single gay man, or if I were an escort.

[mmk123]

for some reason, a lot of traveling escorts shy away from coming to Pittsburgh. I know that Joey Jordan comes here every few months and I know that Steve Draker has been here in the past (at least I think so) but a lot that will go to Cleveland and Columbus shy away from here.

 

I am glad that you liked your visit here Charlie. This city has changed tremendously in the past 30 year. I first moved here in 1988 and so much is different-alot for the better but there is some stuff that I do miss that is no longer around. Actually, for the first time in years young people right out of college are actually staying in the city and not moving away and people are actually relocating here.

[samandtham]

Mocha, I'm the same age as you, and let me tell you, I am nowhere near certain where I'll be in the next year or two. Granted, I have not lived at plenty of cities in the U.S. (actually a grand total of three), so I have a very limited breadth of experience to draw from.

 

If I was in your situation, I would do what you said and would travel around. One of the great things about the industry I'm in, is that if I want to, I can take 3- to 6-month-long contract jobs, sometimes at different states. I'm able to get a taste of how it's like to live at different cities and suburbs without the long-term commitment.

 

I would +1 the Philadelphia suggestion, and would also throw in the hat either Princeton or Hoboken in New Jersey. They're both very active towns that are not far from New York. For what they have to offer and their proximity to one of the most popular cities in the world, the cost of living is rather decent in either town.

[Guest]

Also Vancouver, BC and Las Vegas.

 

While Vancouver is, indeed, the nicest city in Canada, an American cannot just "decide" to live in Canada. Believe it or not, they are a separate country. To obtain residency there, you would either have to show that you can comfortably self-support yourself, or that you can do a job that needs to be done. I suppose you could live in Point Roberts, Washington and commute. Easy enough....

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The formidable border. The houses on the right (and the trampoline) are in Tsawwassen, BC. The ditch forms the border:

 

[seattlebottom]

While Vancouver is, indeed, the nicest city in Canada, an American cannot just "decide" to live in Canada. Believe it or not, they are a separate country. To obtain residency there, you would either have to show that you can comfortably self-support yourself, or that you can do a job that needs to be done. I suppose you could live in Point Roberts, Washington and commute. Easy enough....

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The formidable border. The houses on the right (and the trampoline) are in Tsawwassen, BC. The ditch forms the border:

 

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While Vancouver is, indeed, the nicest city in Canada, an American cannot just "decide" to live in Canada. Believe it or not, they are a separate country. To obtain residency there, you would either have to show that you can comfortably self-support yourself, or that you can do a job that needs to be done. I suppose you could live in Point Roberts, Washington and commute. Easy enough....

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The formidable border. The houses on the right (and the trampoline) are in Tsawwassen, BC. The ditch forms the border:

 

 

I meant that Vancouver is an easy flight from Portland. Thanks for the geopolitical lesson though as I've given thought of emigrating to Canada.

[Guest Wetnwildbear]

I just turned 28 earlier this month, and it's time for a change. I've been living in Denver for 4 years, and if I could sum up every feeling and emotion...it's just time for a change. This place is centered around family, outdoors, and dog ownership, and there's not enough diversity. The scene here is very small and almost incestial. Everyone knows everyone and have been around twice over. More so, it's hard to meet someone for me. They all want the same type of guy here, and anyone different is seen as fetish or "player" material. They all seem so friendly, but when I look around and see that very few groups at restaraunts have any diversity...it makes sense why it's very rare that I get asked for a simple dinner or movie. Businesswise, Ive been able to see some improvement recently, but many of the clients tend to be from out of town or very temporary, and local regs hire at infrequent intervals. And being that a large amount of 20s, 30s and 40s something "party types" have moved here, people just bullshit, bullshit, bullshit around the clock and half the time sound like they're stoned when they call. I would have a rough ride if I didn't travel every 2-4 weeks for the last 4 years.

 

But now, I'm tired of coming home. Everytime I get back, I start feeling frustrated and depressed...and it's mainly because I'm so miserable here. I am so desperate to leave this place, that I'm considering putting my things in storage, or bringing it to my parents place in Florida...and just traveling the country city by city until I figure something out, because I'm happier traveling than I am dealing with this shit everyday.

 

In the past I've considered Minneapolis (glad I didn't make that choice). But that's what's so hard. I'm Trying to avoid making another wrong move and end up stuck there like I am now. I've also looked in Phoenix, Nashville, DC...can't figure anything out. I even have the opportunity to live in a small town in Wisconsin. I don't want to be in the south. I don't want to be in the middle of a huge city either...though a suburb could be nice. And not like the boring, white bread suburb I live in now. Something like the Glendale of LA or the Arlington of DC.

 

At this point, I'm ready to make the move ANY DAY. I can't go on another hour, another week, another YEAR being so unhappy.

 

You are the whiniest fucking bitch I have ever read -- There is always something wrong - someone is always taking advantage of you -

People are mean --- People are racist - Nobody luvs you -

Lesbian Goats are trying to gang rape you - I Should make more money -

So Pull Out Your Bloody Tampon = Find Your Balls and put on your big-boy Jock and tough it out, make it better and be a fuckin MAN and take responsibility for your own success and happiness - or Boo Fuckin Hoo!

 

And if you cant do that == Then if you have to go some place allow to me suggest that you go to hell!

 

And to quote Dame Edna Ethridge - "And I mean that in the most Lovely way possible - possum."

[seaboy4hire]

I have a friend whos lived in Denver proper for 4 yrs now and he shares some of the same problems as Mocha. He recently made a visit to Chicago (where I live) and really enjoyed it. He is coming back just after xmas to check it out during the winter. Chicago is a good fit for him since he loves architecture diversity and good eats.

 

Hugs,

Greg