Time Between Appts

[Guest ilc1980]

I've only recently had my first experience with en escort. I've had few appts with a great guy here in St. Louis. I always have a wonderful time. Thanks Jamie!! I'm looking around at other cities where I will traveling so I can try to schedule time with some hot guys there. But here's my issue --

I'm not an independently wealthy man, so I have to save up in order to make these appts. Several weeks will go by between appts. I go crazy with anticipation. Does anyone else suffer like this? How do you cope? I'm a married guy so I have to be very discreet.

[guptasa1]

Yes and no. I sorta had the same dilemma initially, but I find it easier to space things out now that the initial excitement if you will has worn off some. After I realized I really *could* see an escort and did my first time, I went through a period of almost euphoria where I wanted to do so every month or more...an amount which would have been too much for me financially. Now that I have seen escorts a few times, I don't feel as much urgency and think I'll be more than content with every few months but for longer appointments (probably with a regular most of the time). Everybody's different, but you may find it gets a bit easier to balance things after a little bit of time when the initial excitement wears off. If you don't, you may also need some help instead - escorts can be addicting too. Good luck my friend.

[Guest ilc1980]

Hmmm . . . hooked on studs . . . I can see that!! Seriously, thanks for the words, I appreciate it.

[JamesK840]

Once I actually hired an escort for the first time (and had sex with men for the first time) I was hiring weekly, often more then one a week for a couple months. Went for quantity instead of quality. Wasted a lot of money.

 

Then I tried craigslist.org found that in addition to some good bargain escorts I could have fun with guys there for free too, and men4sexnow.com is also pretty good for that. If you're patient and keep at it I think you can find somebody into anything/anyone between those two sites.

 

Lately one of the Hooville LA gathering's sluts introduced me to a gay 'spa', that was pretty fun too, though these may not exist in your area.

[Guest DevonSFescort]

I think what strategy you'll end up needing to use to cope will depend in part on what this new phase in your life -- hiring male escorts -- means in the bigger picture. Is this an early stage in a process that will ultimately lead to coming out and thereby, if not ending your marriage, at the very least initiating a dramatic shift in its terms (I do know of married couples who stay together after a spouse comes out)? Or are you hoping to keep your marriage as it is, secretly using escorts as a release (excuse the pun) that you hope will allow to you carry on with your current arrangement?

 

I'm afraid I haven't got any good advice to offer in either circumstance, not ever having found myself in a situation like yours. But it occurs to me that how you cope may be influenced in part by what you see at the other end of the proverbial yellow brick road. Good luck to you.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Fantasy and Anticipation

 

>I'm looking

>around at other cities where I will traveling so I can try to

>schedule time with some hot guys there.

 

If you can travel, I would try a spa, sauna, bathhouse, sex club environment, although it would be a good idea to look into a place, including asking for suggestions here or elsewhere on line. I might observe as opposed to taking part.

 

>I'm not an independently wealthy man, so I have to save up in

>order to make these appts. Several weeks will go by between

>appts. I go crazy with anticipation.

 

I think anticipation can be a very good thing. You waited most of your teenage years before your first sexual experience. You coped then, as most do, with the excitement of that anticipation as well as an active fantasy life. Your prior experiences should help form as well as create starting points for your fantasy life.

 

Does anyone else suffer

>like this? How do you cope?

 

Pizza.

 

 

 

Ask me no questions - I will tell you no lies.

 

http://www.gaydar.co.uk/francodisantis

[mansniffing]

The subject and replies are most helpful. I am in the stages of early euphoria myself. The first escort I saw twice this month and plan to see him again next month. I 'm now in sexual heat about an appointment I will be having on Monday with another escort. Actually, I have been in heat since the first appointment. Both escorts offer different skills that I have been anxious to indulge. I've been a little bold with my emails to the second escort . I hope I manage to do all the things I say I want to do. Both men are six foot plus and muscle. A complete turnaround of type for me. I prefer two hour sessions as I like foreplay.

 

Well, to get back to the subject I am aware that at the moment I am somewhat out of control. I realize though that I must calm down and pace my assignations further apart. I do like both men and don't want to satiate myself to the point where I no longer call them. I've had some experience with escorts and these two men are tops both figuratively and literally. Now that I've gotten that said I will now go to the YMCA and take a cold shower.

[Rick Munroe]

>I realize though that I must

>calm down and pace my assignations further apart.

 

Are "assignations" a new type of anal sex? Geez, concentrate on oral and you can so easily get out of the loop.