What's a reasonable expectation when the provider cancels?

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

Killian and the wise and brilliant Juan have recently emphasized the importance of maintaining clear boundaries, and of remembering that at least one person in the room is always working. I've taken their advice to heart, and find it throws a new and unflattering light on the business practices of some of my regulars.

 

I pay for appointments that I cancel on short notice because that's the right thing to do. But masseurs and escorts cancel far more frequently than I do, and rarely offer compensation when they leave me high and dry. I wouldn't accept a freebie from a guy who's just scraping by, but I think everyone could afford to comp a treatment or add extra time to the next appointment. Because of the imbalance of power and money, and the pleasure I take in giving, I know I'll always be a bit of a sugar daddy. I'm perfectly happy with that. But am I reinforcing some bad habits by letting things slide?

 

Providers -- What should I do? What Would Juan Do? (Juan, PM me if you don't get the reference.)

[+ purplekow]

Unfortunately, you, the client, are paying for his time, the escort. Many escorts therefore do not see your time as worth anything but what you will pay them to spend it with them So while it is generally a great business practice to keep the customer happy, most escorts only look to keep the client satisfied. The real good ones know they have to do both.

[Juan Vancouver]

What should I do? What Would Juan Do? (Juan, PM me if you don't get the reference.)

 

I don't get the reference but I have no problem asking in public before I answer to your question.

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/What_would_Jesus_do?

[Juan Vancouver]

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/What_would_Jesus_do?

 

Oh, That! I was expecting something very Message Centre specific.

 

All I can say is what I do in such situations. Whenever I receive a service that is under the level I am either accustomed to or expect to, I have a choice: I can go elsewhere where I believe I will get better service, I can let the service provider know that I am dissatisfied with the service and that I hope in our future transactions service will be better or I can simply shut up and take it.

 

I have done all three in different circumstances. Sometimes the fault is negligible and the overall benefit I receive outweighs the flaw. In such cases, sometimes speaking about the flaw might bring in negative energy that would make the whole business unpleasant, so the only choice is to try to ignore the flaw and focus on the overall experience.

 

Sometimes by letting the service provider know it is possible to create an even closer relationship with greater mutual respect. If it is done kindly and using non emotional, concrete examples, the provider might see it as an opportunity to do better and extend the business relationship by making it more pleasant for both parts.

 

Sometimes I say Fuck It! Service overall is not really that special and I can do without it. I simply pack my shit and go somewhere else.

 

Trying to make them give me what I expect is futile. All I can do is decide whether what I am getting is worth it or whether it isn't and adjust my actions accordingly. I can only effect change on myself, I have gone up trying to make other people change long time ago.

 

I think it's up to you. If you are not comfortable with the way things are, either speak up or go elsewhere. You deserve to get the level of service that you want.

[Steven_Draker]

What Would Jesus Do?

 

And more recently ...

 

[MiamiLooker]

Because of the imbalance of power and money...

What do you mean by that?

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

Oh, That! I was expecting something very Message Centre specific.

 

All I can say is what I do in such situations. Whenever I receive a service that is under the level I am either accustomed to or expect to, I have a choice: I can go elsewhere where I believe I will get better service, I can let the service provider know that I am dissatisfied with the service and that I hope in our future transactions service will be better or I can simply shut up and take it.

 

I have done all three in different circumstances. Sometimes the fault is negligible and the overall benefit I receive outweighs the flaw. In such cases, sometimes speaking about the flaw might bring in negative energy that would make the whole business unpleasant, so the only choice is to try to ignore the flaw and focus on the overall experience.

 

Sometimes by letting the service provider know it is possible to create an even closer relationship with greater mutual respect. If it is done kindly and using non emotional, concrete examples, the provider might see it as an opportunity to do better and extend the business relationship by making it more pleasant for both parts.

 

Sometimes I say Fuck It! Service overall is not really that special and I can do without it. I simply pack my shit and go somewhere else.

 

Trying to make them give me what I expect is futile. All I can do is decide whether what I am getting is worth it or whether it isn't and adjust my actions accordingly. I can only effect change on myself, I have gone up trying to make other people change long time ago.

 

I think it's up to you. If you are not comfortable with the way things are, either speak up or go elsewhere. You deserve to get the level of service that you want.

 

Thank you, Juan. This is exactly the kind of balanced insight I was hoping for!

[Epigonos]

I usually find myself in complete disagreement with Juan , HOWEVER, in this instance I am in total agreement with his entire post.

[Juan Vancouver]

I usually find myself in complete disagreement with Juan , HOWEVER, in this instance I am in total agreement with his entire post.

 

Well, I entirely disagree with your agreeance. =)

[mike carey]

Well, I entirely disagree with your agreeance. =)

Oh, Juan, there's no need to be difficult, just let him agree with you for once!!