Dad, what do I tell my friends you do for a living?

[Zapped]

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[gallahadesquire]

That he owns an exclusive concierge service catering to wealthy foreigners. He'd talk about it but discretion is a staple of the job.

 

Huh?

[+ poolboy48220]

Huh?

That's the answer to "Dad, what do I tell my friends you do for a living?"

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

"Don't tell your friends. Tell their dads."

[Zapped]

I think it's a fascinating topic--sex workers who have families, working in a culture that has no respect for sex work except when it's medicalized as "sexual surrogates." So many escorts, especially male escorts who do this work by choice rather than a job they would rather not do but it pays well, would in another culture be recognized and honored as erotic healers.

 

There used to be a dancer at the now-defunct Unicorn Club in Indy who used the stripping/erotic dancing work to meet potential "private show" clients (something the management frowned on but could never stop). He told me he was supporting a young son. When I first met him, he seemed quite happy with it; a few years later, you could tell he was burned out with it. I never did hire him for a private session, but the sweet affection with which he did a lap dance made me imagine he would be lovely to spend time in bed with.

 

It did seem a little strange at the time that he was doing this sort of work when he had a kid--but why not?

 

In my own family, my daughter in law is a partner in what we half-jokingly call the "barely legal massage service." It's a very upscale day spa for men in a large Asian city. As we understand it, she recruits and books customers, many of whom assume there will be a "happy ending" although this is never explicitly promised. (She doesn't provide any of the modeling or massage services herself--she's in the sales end of the business.)

 

When people ask what she does for a living, we say she is "a partner in a high-end day spa" and don't add any additional information

 

My son is somewhat uncomfortable with the arrangement, including the fact that his wife allows these businessmen to think they'll get something they don't (and who knows what they may manage to arrange with tips). The money is very good, though.

 

Would it make a difference to you in hiring an escort to know he had a kid or kids and/or a wife?

[TruHart1]

I find this an interesting topic too. I have hired an escort twice so far, who explained to me that he always knew he was bisexual but that he lived the happily married life long enough to have a son and two young daughters. After emerging from a very messy divorce, he found himself being required to pay child support for his two young daughters out of his wages of being a manager at a restaurant. With the economic downturn in 2008 he was laid off from that job, which had barely left anything for him to live off after child support was taken out of his check anyway.

 

After a number of court appearances, a few in which he was sentenced to some months in jail because he had no income and was unable to pay any child support, he decided to try escorting (he'd gotten a few jobs stripping in a gay strip club but never earned much, he said) and all of a sudden he found himself not only able to pay all his back child support over the next few months but also able to buy a good used car and move out of a relative's home where he had been crashing and get his own place!

 

Our last time together a couple of months ago he told me that he was beginning to feel burned out with the job, and that he'd been working at it long enough for his daughters to have reached the age where he no longer was required to pay child support, so he had decided to completely retire from escorting in a few weeks and take a job offer he'd gotten in a state far from his ex-wife. I usually ask most escorts I see more than once how they got into the business, but I found this particular escort's story quite fascinating. BTW, he was adamant about not wanting his daughters to ever find out about his escorting (his ads did not show his face) so he told no one in his family how he was actually earning his money.

 

TruHart1

[BasketBaller]

Really interesting topic. I once had an appointment with a very well-known escort and had to reschedule because of a sick kid. I thought he would assume I was making it up, but when we got together he asked about it and volunteered that he had a daughter so he was sympathetic. It oddly made the session better, i guess it was a "bonding" moment, LOL.