Do most clients look like their review say?

[Epigonos]

I find this thread fascinating. ALL experienced escorts have seen it ALL and as long as the client is clean, nice, and polite he is ahead of the game. In my individual case I have found that ALL experienced and good escorts are perfectly capable of dealing with my age (74) and the fact that at that age the body beautiful certainly ain't beautiful anymore.

[happyguy2]

I find this thread fascinating. ALL experienced escorts have seen it ALL and as long as the client is clean, nice, and polite he is ahead of the game. In my individual case I have found that ALL experienced and good escorts are perfectly capable of dealing with my age (74) and the fact that at that age the body beautiful certainly ain't beautiful anymore.

I am an overweight, middle-aged guy, not a "catch" in any way, nor am I ugly or unpleasant. I gotta say that with very few exceptions, I have always had a very good time with they guys I have hired. A big part of it is this is their business approach to make clients happy. But, for what it is worth, this is what I do:

 

First of all, I tell them up-front on the phone that I am an overweight, middle-aged guy so they are forewarned. Secondly, I make sure they can see that I am a decent, honest and likable guy. Thirdly, they see from the start that I also have qualities, I am reasonably successful in my work and in my friendships. Fourthly, I treat them as friends, I offer them quality drinks and snacks. I am always amazed at how often these so simple things help us to click. Humor helps too. I will never be the romance of their lives, but I assure you, with just a simple and honestly kind approach, most of these guys remember me and always look forward to meeting up for on-going hook-ups. A few guys actually confided in me that it ended up being so much more exciting than they ever thought possible, just because we clicked. Finally, I am extremely generous, and always very interested in them, just letting them talk about what they want to and avoiding what they don't want to!

 

Remember, it this works for this super average guy, it will work for anyone.

[curiousnomore]

If you're interested... go for it. I am in no way consider myself ugly. I think I'm cute. Some say boarding on handsome, but cute definitely. I'm definitely no built Adonis. When I first started this hobby, as some call it, yeah I was hella intimated. But you know what, I got over that quickly because of the fun that can be had. And sometimes the lasting friendships that can be made from regular encounters.

 

Anyway, as has been stated, a good escort can find something appealing about anyone. You may be surprised by this, but some escorts are just as nervous meeting clients (even ones they know). We all have our insecurities... including the beautiful people. Besides, you may encounter an incredibly hot guy/escort and just click. Click to the point the guy may be more into you or the experience, than you know. Trust me you'll be amazed by what could happen if you let go and give in to the situation.

 

Don't ever sell yourself short... self doubt is a killer.

You are so right! I consider myself to be average looking, average build for a guy my age. I met a well reviewed escort for an overnight (first time meeting), and after some get-to-know-you chat, he said he was "very happy" when I opened the door. Why, because I was handsome, and he never knew who would be on the other side of the door.

 

Did he mean it? Don't know and don't care. He found a way to make me feel good about myself. And, he interacted like he thought I was "handsome", so I was very, very happy!!!

[robberbaron4u]

I am one "Hot Papa"; and, the hump on my back adds "character" to my presentation.

[Lookin]

What hump? .http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/unsure.gif

[Bargara Leatherboy]

After the experience of being rejected at the door, I prefer to email, mention I am a bear 130 kg and see what the reaction is.

 

Those meetings which work, I get told I am peasant interesting and a good client.

 

Clean, turn up on time and pay.

[Bart]

I have never had a gentleman give me a second look when the door has opened. I have never had anyone close the door in my face or avoid me. Whenever I contact a gentleman my description is right up front 60 yo, 5'9,225 lbs, mostly hairy, mostly bald, bottom. In my reviews always describe my self as an older average looking overweight hairy guy not very interesting. I can not tell you how many times guys have told me I am too hard on myself and miss the most important features about me which are my personality and smile. I have hired lots of different men over 13 years, when it comes to looks they have all been respectful and has never been an issue. To a T every gentleman has told me it is far more difficult when a client describes themselves as the second coming of Brad Pitt or some other exaggerated sense of who they are.

Just be yourself, smile and engage and all will be okay.

[AresEscortNYC]

Don't be intimidated. For me, the only thing tbat would put me off a client would be disrespect, which in my experience shows up ---if it's ever going to --- in the tone (text exchanges/ phone call) prior to meeting. The fact that you're even asking this question shows that you're not that person, so you'd be ok in my book. Most well-reviewed escorts are professionals who will not have a pb w looks. So don't worry about this issue too much, go for it, , and chances are you'll be more than pleased with the results.

[rguer]

I am one "Hot Papa"; and, the hump on my back adds "character" to my presentation.

Quasimodo fetish!

 

http://cartoonvalley.com/db/2014/02/13/quasimodo-frollo-gay-action/

[BaronArtz]

Don't be intimidated. For me, the only thing tbat would put me off a client would be disrespect, which in my experience shows up ---if it's ever going to --- in the tone (text exchanges/ phone call) prior to meeting. The fact that you're even asking this question shows that you're not that person, so you'd be ok in my book. Most well-reviewed escorts are professionals who will not have a pb w looks. So don't worry about this issue too much, go for it, , and chances are you'll be more than pleased with the results.

 

Even with 20+ years hiring escorts, I am still amazed how professional escorts pull it off. It must be a rare skill. It is probably even more of true skill if the escort is gay for pay and, deep down, straight.

 

By the end of 2014, an escort whom I had hired frequently, retired. He was 23 years old, called himself straight, a rugby player in college, striking appearance. His trannie girlfriend (how straight can he be if he loves trannies, but he did/does love them) convinced him to try his hand at escorting. He didn't have much of a support network and started out by posting on BackPage. He could not get hard with men, he tried Cialis but didn't like the side effects. So topping was out. At the beginning of his career, pressured for cash, he offered to bottom at twice the hourly rate. It was not his thing either. His scenario, as disclosed in his ads, was muscle worship with some extended foreplay. No oral or anal. He was an amazing kisser though, which he did with some clients. Even with the limited repertoire, he told me that he had a real aversion to clients whose appearance he didn't like. They did not get a chance at a second appointment. The worst to him were clients who were totally disrespectful, abusive, would grab his genitals or were in other ways unpleasant. Clearly, in spite of the lure of good money, it was not for him. He has several reviews posted on this website, all of which were glowing. But he retired. It wasn't for him. In other words - congratulations to the professional escorts on the work you do. I am sure it is not always 'fun' ...

[thickornotatall]

Even with 20+ years hiring escorts, I am still amazed how professional escorts pull it off. It must be a rare skill. It is probably even more of true skill if the escort is gay for pay and, deep down, straight.

 

By the end of 2014, an escort whom I had hired frequently, retired. He was 23 years old, called himself straight, a rugby player in college, striking appearance. His trannie girlfriend (how straight can he be if he loves trannies, but he did/does love them) convinced him to try his hand at escorting. He didn't have much of a support network ands started out by posting on BackPage. He could not get hard with men, he tried Cialis but didn't like the side effects. So topping was out. At the beginning of his career, pressured for cash, he offered to bottom at twice the hourly rate. It was not his thing either. His scenario, as disclosed in his ads, was muscle worship with some extended foreplay. No oral or anal. He was an amazing kisser though, which he did with some clients. Even with the limited repertoire, he told me that he had a real aversion to clients whose appearance he didn't like. They did not get chance at a second appointment. The worst to him were clients who were totally disrespectful, abusive, would grab his genitals or were in other ways unpleasant. Clearly, in spite of the lure of good money, it was not for him. He has several reviews posted on this website, all of which were glowing. But he retired. It wasn't for him. In other words - congratulations to the professional escorts on the work you do. I am sure it is not always 'fun' ...

 

He shouldn't be doing any sort of work he's not comfortable with....bad for him.....bad for the client....Trying to fake the feeling is almost always evident..if even possible....When I was very young and dating..the very idea of being with someone I wasn't attracted to was out of the question..not even thought about...I never wanted to hurt anyone's feelings by not accepting advances....I would always say I was with someone and leave...or grab a friend to hold tight to....

Lots of respect for escorts that can fake the feeling.....Now that I'm much older and do hire...I am very careful and clear about not only what I'm looking for...but what I look like...I was told last week by (name withheld review to come) that I should escort...he said guys are looking for Daddy types with big dicks.....no thanks! no stomach for that...

[+ quoththeraven]

It's weird. (There I go again.) I have no particular problem believing that escorting is a mostly enjoyable endeavor for the right guy and that the not so enjoyable part has to do with dealing with flakes and jerks. "The right guy" being someone who genuinely loves sex for its own sake, is good at it, and is open-minded about who he'll have sex with. If that person can find something positive to build on, like a smile, personality, or an awesome butt, all the better. I've also been told that a client who doesn't seem outwardly prepossessing may turn out to be a tiger in the sack.

[jimboivyo]

Even with 20+ years hiring escorts, I am still amazed how professional escorts pull it off. It must be a rare skill. It is probably even more of true skill if the escort is gay for pay and, deep down, straight.

 

By the end of 2014, an escort whom I had hired frequently, retired. He was 23 years old, called himself straight, a rugby player in college, striking appearance. His trannie girlfriend (how straight can he be if he loves trannies, but he did/does love them) convinced him to try his hand at escorting. He didn't have much of a support network and started out by posting on BackPage. He could not get hard with men, he tried Cialis but didn't like the side effects. So topping was out. At the beginning of his career, pressured for cash, he offered to bottom at twice the hourly rate. It was not his thing either. His scenario, as disclosed in his ads, was muscle worship with some extended foreplay. No oral or anal. He was an amazing kisser though, which he did with some clients. Even with the limited repertoire, he told me that he had a real aversion to clients whose appearance he didn't like. They did not get a chance at a second appointment. The worst to him were clients who were totally disrespectful, abusive, would grab his genitals or were in other ways unpleasant. Clearly, in spite of the lure of good money, it was not for him. He has several reviews posted on this website, all of which were glowing. But he retired. It wasn't for him. In other words - congratulations to the professional escorts on the work you do. I am sure it is not always 'fun' ...

 

agree with every thing you said

 

but the best escorts out there don't stand for bad treatment. they have the client base to say no when they want and up and leave if they don't feel it's a good situation to be in.

[curiousnomore]

He shouldn't be doing any sort of work he's not comfortable with....bad for him.....bad for the client....Trying to fake the feeling is almost always evident..if even possible....When I was very young and dating..the very idea of being with someone I wasn't attracted to was out of the question..not even thought about...I never wanted to hurt anyone's feelings by not accepting advances....I would always say I was with someone and leave...or grab a friend to hold tight to....

Lots of respect for escorts that can fake the feeling.....Now that I'm much older and do hire...I am very careful and clear about not only what I'm looking for...but what I look like...I was told last week by (name withheld review to come) that I should escort...he said guys are looking for Daddy types with big dicks.....no thanks! no stomach for that...

I agree completely TONAA. I respect anyone who works hard and gives their best effort every day. As clients, we need to be respectful and appreciate that these incredible men are sharing something very personal of themselves with us. That is special, for me at least, and I try to treat them accordingly.

[BaronArtz]

agree with every thing you said

 

but the best escorts out there don't stand for bad treatment. they have the client base to say no when they want and up and leave if they don't feel it's a good situation to be in.

 

Thank you for your kind words. Indeed, escorts with an established client base can pick and choose, and decline/leave when they are not comfortable with a situation. The situation for an escort who is new to the business is different though - inexperienced, pressured for money ... The guy I referred to was badly abused by some clients early on in his career. He accepted - for money - to do things that he is still deeply ashamed about. It didn't set the right tone. He retired about a 1 1/2 year later, kept a few of his favorite clients but now he has stopped seeing them as well. It was time for him to make a change in his life. It is not for everybody!

[curiousnomore]

One of the reasons to hire an escort is that payment levels the playing field. Because you're paying an escort, you're not supposed to have to worry about your looks, even if he looks like Adonis. In fact, one of the things you're paying for is for him to help you feel desired/desirable no matter what you look like. I guess I have been lucky in hiring, but I have never been asked, in advance, by someone I was considering hiring, about my looks or to provide a picture. If someone did, that would immediately disqualify him for me because it would violate a fundamental rule of the client/escort relationship and I would view it as being unprofessional.

 

I think an escort, if he has any limitations as to size, age, appearance, ethnicity, etc. should be very forthcoming with them.

I agree 100%. My personal insecurities go out the window with an escort. I still have them, but I don't worry about them nearly as much.

[Muscle Lover 2]

When I first saw this post, I thought it spoke to a question I often have -- how does an escort deal with older, overweight (or otherwise less than hottie-pattatie) clients? If, in a review, an escort seems unfazed by this, I know that is a guy I would be willing to consider. But then you read reviews on a guy you are interested in and everyone writing a review professes to be hot, tall, hung, HWP, etc. It makes it hard to make the sort of evaluation I want help with from a review -- and I do not believe for one second that the average hot, tall, hung, HWP dude out there is hiring escorts. Just my 2 cents....

[+ quoththeraven]

When I first saw this post, I thought it spoke to a question I often have -- how does an escort deal with older, overweight (or otherwise less than hottie-pattatie) clients? If, in a review, an escort seems unfazed by this, I know that is a guy I would be willing to consider. But then you read reviews on a guy you are interested in and everyone writing a review professes to be hot, tall, hung, HWP, etc. It makes it hard to make the sort of evaluation I want help with from a review -- and I do not believe for one second that the average hot, tall, hung, HWP dude out there is hiring escorts. Just my 2 cents....

 

You may not have run across any reviews by older, overweight, or otherwise less than hottie-pattatie clients, but they exist. For me, putting that information in "about you" at the end of the review smacks of running oneself down. I include it in the body of my first review of a particular escort and don't mention it thereafter.

 

I also think it unlikely that there are no hot, tall, hung, or HWP dudes out there hiring escorts. If you have the money and the interest, why spin the wheel? Also, some of us are shy, find small talk a waste of time, or don't want to play the hookup app/bar scene game, It's a way of seeking an experience that's more tailored to your desires with someone who's likely to be better at sex than the most civilians, no matter how good-looking they are. (And I've seen arguments that good-looking people have less incentive to be good in the sack.)

 

Also (and I know I'm boring everyone to tears with this, but it's a fact) there's no real way to know what kind of people hire unless someone does a study, which could conceivably involve asking a bunch of escorts what their experience is. But the needless argumentativeness means most escorts don't bother to engage. I appreciate the ones who put their combat boots and flameproof armor on and wade in anyway.

 

On an even more shocking note (I know, I'm on fire today), I'm on the cusp of 60, not HWP, nor am I a super-hottie (I'm also female, which may be a drawback from your perspective, Muscle Lover 2), but I have every reason to believe that the people I've had sex with over my lifetime, including the two escorts I've been with, enjoyed the experience. THAT"S ESPECIALLY TRUE NOW THAT I'M OLDER. I'd also say I clean up pretty well for someone of my size and age, but I'll leave that determination to the people on the board who've met me in person. All I can really say is that WilliamM, with whom I had a quick lunch on my way back from the Forum lunch in DC in January, told me my nose isn't large. (The glasses hide it.) Whether one is good, giving, and game is more important than one's looks or measurements. See the comment above about how good-looking people may have less incentive to be good at sex because they've gotten by on their looks.

 

And just to outrage everyone even more, studies show that the mildly overweight have an advantage over the mildly underweight: they die at later ages. Doesn't mean that excess weight never adversely affects the health or mortality of some overweight people, but on a population basis, it's healthier (as measured by lack of death) to be mildly overweight than underweight. This is well supported by the evidence, folks. Go argue with it.

[+ WmClarke]

and I know I'm boring everyone to tears with this,

 

Never!

[RPCny]

I know that the appearance of clients run the full gamut, just as the reasons for hiring similarly include a wide variety of reasons. It explains why conventionally attractive men hire escorts. Whether guys who write reviews are accurately describing themselves is a topic for another thread. However, I always identify myself objectively (6' 280) to provide information for other guys, like myself, who seek chub-friendly escorts. As to comments above about identifying oneself as "overweight" or "older" as running oneself down, I have to disagree. Those are objective terms that may have negative connotations for some, but accurately describe someone, to my thinking, without offending. I am, in no uncertain terms, overweight. At 54, older is a relative term to the person using it. In any event, as has been noted here, while a professional escort will be able to perform well with virtually anyone, there is a difference between someone who can "perform well" and someone who has fair amount of experience with, or perhaps even an affinity for, a certain body type (in my case, chubs) or age group (ie; over 65). While I've been fortunate to have not had a bad escort experience as of yet, I've been able to tell the difference between the two types I describe.

 

Through my copius research, I've been able to identify escorts who not only advertise that they welcome men of all body types or sizes, but those that were willing to identify themselves as chubs. I greatly appreciate their willingness in doing so because I believe it's been instrumental in helping me make good escort selections. It's natural to feel insecure when meeting with an escort, especially for the first time. So it's great to have as much information as possible before hiring. That's why the reviews and this board are so helpful. But sometimes there are specific areas of concern for which you'd like an objective appraisal that might not be covered in most reviews. My suggestion to escorts, who don't do this already, is to be as welcoming as possible in your ads to help alleviate potential clients' insecurities. (I know some of you do a great job of this.) As for client/reviewers, I believe that providing detailed information about yourself is very helpful in the same way. The OP developed further insecurity by reading reviews from all these "hot clients". Whether these reviewers are providing accurate descirptions, I would urge everyone to do so, so guys like the OP don't come away with the wrong impression.

[Rudynate]

When I first saw this post, I thought it spoke to a question I often have -- how does an escort deal with older, overweight (or otherwise less than hottie-pattatie) clients? If, in a review, an escort seems unfazed by this, I know that is a guy I would be willing to consider. But then you read reviews on a guy you are interested in and everyone writing a review professes to be hot, tall, hung, HWP, etc. It makes it hard to make the sort of evaluation I want help with from a review -- and I do not believe for one second that the average hot, tall, hung, HWP dude out there is hiring escorts. Just my 2 cents....

 

I have always wondered. It's something they have to be able to do, or else how could they be successful as escorts? I marvel at these men's ability to deliver a satisfying experience, on demand, to nearly anybody who shows up, no matter what they look like. I want to know how they do it, but don't want to know at the same time.

[Steven_Draker]

I marvel at these men's ability to deliver a satisfying experience, on demand, to nearly anybody who shows up, no matter what they look like.

 

That's why they are called professional escorts.

 

This job is not for everybody and not everyone can do it.

[dannyboynyc]

Several years ago I lost a substantial amount of weight. Before losing 85 pounds (I'm 6'1" tall), I had lots of appointments with lots of escorts - including many three / four ways. I never had an issue with an escort not being able to perform or feel like he wasn't into me. To repeat Killian James' comment - I always am freshly showered for an escort appointment. That has worked for me for more years than I am willing to admit.

[Rudynate]

That's why they are called professional escorts.

 

This job is not for everybody and not everyone can do it.

 

 

Yer preaching to the choir, my friend. I'm very glad that there are as many fine men who can do it as there are.

[BaronArtz]

That's why they are called professional escorts.

 

This job is not for everybody and not everyone can do it.

 

On Sunday, July 12 I was at the clothing optional gay beach at Sandy Hook, New Jersey. There were literally 100s of men prancing around naked. I must say - there were very, very few of them I could possibly think about having sex with. I cannot imagine who must walk through an escort's door at times. The professionals do an AMAZING job. Worth every penny ... and then some.