Seeing escorts in public

[kaboom35]

This question is kind of piggy-backing on the other thread about going up to an escort and asking is he's for hire...

 

I personally would never do that however living in Los Angeles and going to Weho often I have see escorts out around town I have hired and others I haven't but want to.

 

Is there a protocol about either situation of going up to a escort you haven't hired and just saying hello...lol I feel even as I type this I'm answering my own question because what do you say? "Hey there I've seen you on rentboy and have wanted to meet you". I guess that would be weird?

 

And what about escorts you have hired that you see around town? Do you go up and say hello? I know there may be a different answer if the escort is a regular or if you have only been with him once or twice.

 

Just a thought

[+ azdr0710]

once saw an escort I'd met with before at Costco in a nearby checkout line....we each gave subtle nods to the other, then I just went up to say hey and quickly chat as we both were pushing our carts after checking out....he was alone and didn't seem angered that I said "hi".....all very "discreet"!

[+ Robster]

I was at a resort in Palm Springs the other day, and walked by an escort I had met at Oliver's pool party a few weeks earlier. As it happens, I had just texted him a few days earlier to inquire about hiring him. I almost said hi to him, but he was with someone else, and I didn't know if I should. I had no idea what the protocol is in that situation. I didn't know if the other guy was a client, or his boyfriend, etc. I figured it would be better to err on the side of caution.

 

Rob

[Kevin Slater]

Most escorts are reachable via phone, text and email. Perhaps a quick nod followed by one of these more discreet methods if you're looking to hire, or simply an email ("Nodded at you at Costco and just wanted to pass along a compliment") if you're not.

 

Kevin Slater

[TruHart1]

Most escorts are reachable via phone, text and email. Perhaps a quick nod followed by one of these more discreet methods if you're looking to hire, or simply an email ("Nodded at you at Costco and just wanted to pass along a compliment") if you're not.

 

Kevin Slater

 

As a client, I always err on the side of discretion. If I see an escort I've hired and he seems alone, I have given a slight nod and a little wink if he's a regular. If he wants to approach me and say hi, I'll shake his hand and exchange pleasantries. Under no circumstances would I approach him though. I have had experiences where I was with an escort and we've run into a friend or two of his on the street or in the theater. With three in particular, I've been introduced as a friend from out of town. These particular three escorts are extra special guys though.

 

TruHart1

[recency]

Nodding and smiling, yes. Winking and leering, no.

[Guest ChrisW]

At least once or twice a week I run into a client on the street or at a restaurant. I will make eye contact and if they acknowledge me I will go over and give them a hug.

 

As for wanting to hire someone texting or email is best. If you come up to me at a bar and say, "hey I have seen your ad and I would like to hire you" I may be engaged at that moment and may not be able to respond in the same kind of detail that I would if I had free time.

 

Here is what not to do and this happened to me a few months ago

 

I was at Steamworks for a fisting party elbow deep in someone when I heard someone whisper in my ear, "hey I have seen your ad are you available right now?" Well no I am a bit preoccupied ;-)

[Guest countryboywny]

My rule of thumb is if I see an escort that I know in a public place, I NEVER acknowledge them. I don't know if he's with a client, boyfriend or enjoying his private time. If he is inclined to speak to me, he will, but I never make the first move.

[marylander1940]

As a client, I always err on the side of discretion. If I see an escort I've hired and he seems alone, I have given a slight nod and a little wink if he's a regular. If he wants to approach me and say hi, I'll shake his hand and exchange pleasantries. Under no circumstances would I approach him though. I have had experiences where I was with an escort and we've run into a friend or two of his on the street or in the theater. With three in particular, I've been introduced as a friend from out of town. These particular three escorts are extra special guys though.

 

TruHart1

 

Such a gentleman!

 

I would do exactly the same!

[wisconsinguy]

As a client, I always err on the side of discretion. If I see an escort I've hired and he seems alone, I have given a slight nod and a little wink if he's a regular. If he wants to approach me and say hi, I'll shake his hand and exchange pleasantries. Under no circumstances would I approach him though. I have had experiences where I was with an escort and we've run into a friend or two of his on the street or in the theater. With three in particular, I've been introduced as a friend from out of town. These particular three escorts are extra special guys though.

 

TruHart1

As well, when we run into a friend of my friend, I am introduced as a friend from out of town. Thing is, I am!

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

When I run into clients and they're with friends or family, I like talk about how I'm going to meet my friend John.

 

John likes to change his appearance up a lot, so I'm never quite sure what to expect.

[TruHart1]

As well, when we run into a friend of my friend, I am introduced as a friend from out of town. Thing is, I am!

 

Well, WG2, your friend is one of the "extra special guys" I referenced in my post!!! He is truly above and beyond special!

 

TruHart1

[needbodywork]

This happens all the time, I don't say anything unless they say something first, which is usually a nod or a quick hello. Even then I reciprocate to the minimum. I respect their privacy. If some young man is out with his other 20 or 30 something friends enjoying a Saturday night, I don't think it is right for me, considerably older, to barge in and start a conversation. It could raise uncomfortable questions. I have seen older clients out at the bars, maybe bored and lonely, approach younger guys they have hired who are hanging out with friends. Sometimes it is received well, particularly if the young man is open about his line of work and drinks are bought. But sometimes it is not and a major fear of a young escort. Therefore I've learned to keep to myself unless otherwise noted.

 

One memorable moment was a mundane weekday morning in the gayborhood. I crossed an intersection near a bunch of the gay bars, and I saw four guys I had hired crossing the street at the same light. Two of them were hanging out, the other two were completely on their own. Certainly escorts and masseurs love hanging out in the gayborhood.

[thickornotatall]

walking around NYC...whether in The Village...Chelsea...HK...when I see someone I know..I always say hello...I have never done anything I'm ashamed of..so out and about..why not?...rude to ignore someone....I see my dentist....doctor...lawyer....being friendly and acknowledging someone I may have had sex with is no different...but hopefully a better experience than with the dentist....not like seeing a covert agent or undercover spy...or is it?

[wisconsinguy]

Well, WG2, your friend is one of the "extra special guys" I referenced in my post!!! He is truly above and beyond special!

 

TruHart1

Thought so!

[marylander1940]

 

Here is what not to do and this happened to me a few months ago

 

I was at Steamworks for a fisting party elbow deep in someone when I heard someone whisper in my ear, "hey I have seen your ad are you available right now?" Well no I am a bit preoccupied ;-)

 

He couldn't just sit, watch and ask you later after your elbow was ungreased?

 

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http://imlikesoblonde.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/awkward-.gif

[jimboivyo]

This question is kind of piggy-backing on the other thread about going up to an escort and asking is he's for hire...

 

I personally would never do that however living in Los Angeles and going to Weho often I have see escorts out around town I have hired and others I haven't but want to.

 

Is there a protocol about either situation of going up to a escort you haven't hired and just saying hello...lol I feel even as I type this I'm answering my own question because what do you say? "Hey there I've seen you on rentboy and have wanted to meet you". I guess that would be weird?

 

And what about escorts you have hired that you see around town? Do you go up and say hello? I know there may be a different answer if the escort is a regular or if you have only been with him once or twice.

 

Just a thought

 

unless you are their personal friend or have permission, stay clear of a stranger and possibly making an ass of yourself

[Juan Vancouver]

Is there a protocol about either situation of going up to a escort you haven't hired and just saying hello...lol I feel even as I type this I'm answering my own question because what do you say? "Hey there I've seen you on rentboy and have wanted to meet you". I guess that would be weird?

 

Yes, that would absolutely be weird. And intrusive.

 

Have you seen his ad? Have a serious enquire about his services with the intention of hiring him?

 

Call him.

 

Text him.

 

Email him.

 

Use the pertinent avenues for this kind of enquiry.

 

Unless he is at a brothel in his g-string or swinging off a stripper pole trying to get your attention so that you hire him, approaching him directly is just not cool. These are people with private lives, who on top of that could be currently engaged. Just because you think he is alone doesn't mean he is. Just because he placed an ad doesn't mean it's open season and you can engage him like a cab wherever you see him.

 

There's a place and time, and the correct avenue to do everything.

[+ poolboy48220]

I'll acknowledge that I know them with a nod or a wave and let them take the lead from there.

 

At a party, I ran into an escort I'd hired with a few times, he was with his boyfriend. I acted as if it were the first time we'd met, since I didn't know if the name I knew him under was his real name. We didn't interact much after that at the party. I've seen him at the bar a few times after that and chatted like I would with anyone else I saw at the bar.

 

I was doing an incall with a couple local guys, and when I got there they said a friend who was supposed to have stopped by and left already was running late, and on his way - so I was their "uncle from out of town" while their friend was there. The whole time they were trying to rush him out.

 

Finally, I saw a dancer from the bar in the locker room at the gym. Same acknowledgement with no indication of where we'd met, but he said kind of sheepishly "My worlds are colliding".

 

None of these involved any undue drama.

[+ honcho]

Slightly off-topic about worlds colliding . . .

 

A while ago , one of the "Ann Landers" columns considered a question submitted by a reader (and I apologize

for not keeping the actual clipping and consequently may not be giving a totally precise quote)

 

Dear Ann Landers,

What does one say or do if one is at a (respectable) social gathering and the host presents

somebody to you with whom you've had anonymous man-on-man sex with recently?

 

Dear Reader,

 

You can modestly smile and respond "I don't believe we've been introduced".

 

 

A number of years later, I found myself in a situation where this *was* the perfect response. I had been

invited to play a 3-oboe concerto with a mutual physician friend and a friend of his, showed up at the

physicians home for a rehearsal, with the other musician being present and my friend said

 

"(Honcho) do you know N...? N. this is (Honcho)".

 

In fact, I had seen N... several times on cam4 and exchanged one or two polite pleasantries even though

the afformentioned N... clearly had no interest in me and had even been reviewed here before my having attended

this rehearsal. (N... has subsequently retired).

 

Since the physician had spoken to me of this fellow I smiled and replied with the above (with a preamble

of "Although I've certainly head of N...")

[Steven_Draker]

I would just smile and continue with my day.

[RockyHardon]

As a client I have often run into providers that I have hired, and because I usually have regular providers and not a lot of one offs, I have found that if we make eye contact, they indicate whether it is safe to say "hi" and we have a brief conversation about the moment, then part ways. Because i was close in age with most of my providers, and generally we would see each other in contexts appropriate for light banter (gay pride festival/ bar/ sex party), this simple acknowlegement of "I know you from the neighborhood" has been easy.

[+ WmClarke]

This just happened to me last night.

 

After a great three way, I went to a nearby restaurant to eat. Seated by a window, about 15 minutes later the two escorts walked by. We all smiled and waved at each other.

 

When they came inside, one came over to say hi and almost kissed me. He abruptly changed direction and hugged me instead.

[gallahadesquire]

While on vacation on Martha's Vineyard, I was "clued in" as to why celebrities like to go there: They get "ignored", or more precisely, left alone.

 

If one doesn't know Ms. Simon, one merely nods, or perhaps says "Hello, Ms. Simon." Never "Carly", unless you know her well enough.

 

The one kick-in-the-butt that I had was meeting Mrs. Hirshhorn, of the Hirshhorn Gallery at the Smithsonian. She's well into her nineties, and a lovely elderly lady. Completely unassuming.

 

Also, I went to the beach once, as Hurricane Bob was slowly making its way towards the Vineyard. I was coming up from the Beach, and met a mustachioed, relatively slender man.

"Oh, Hi, Rick," my hostess said to this person. "Richard, do you know Rick?" "No, I don't think we've met." "Hi, I'm Rick Stosel". "Richard. Pleased to meet you."

"Do you know who that is?" said my Hostess. "No," I said. "That was John Stosel, the Investigative Reporter." I'd never watched his show. He was smaller than I'd imagined.

[oops. Real name. Well, I hope it's okay.]

 

Also, meeting Mrs. Gillette was interesting. She learned I was a physician. "Oh, really? What specialty?" "Anesthesiology." "Oh ..." and she wandered off.

Obviously, I was just a tradesman.

 

And finally: Treating Peter Wolf, of the J. Giel's Band. I was clueless as to who he was, although I was impressed that he was married to Faye Dunaway.

I'm just really, really glad I didn't put a breathing tube in, and screw up his vocal cords.

[+ dutchmuch]

While on vacation on Martha's Vineyard, I was "clued in" as to why celebrities like to go there: They get "ignored", or more precisely, left alone.

 

One of the reasons some celebs like living in SF, they are left alone.

 

TMZ would be thrown out of City By The Bay.