What Would You Do in my Case???

[down_to_business]

Hell yes I would hire him again, but what the fuck do I know... I'm the guy that gave the thief a second chance.

 

In all seriousness, I would much rather rehire someone awesome in the sack for this sort of thing than someone who wasn't but was simply a nice guy. With this stud you apparently won't need to worry about blurring the lines of client/escort and friend.

[recency]

I once hired an escort who was VERY chilly on the phone but I was obsessed and arranged for some time anyway. He coldly turned his back on me when I arrived, went over to the TV and turned it off and said tersely "Close the door. Come in." I swear, when I closed the door he turned and there was a wicked smile on his face and a deep chuckle. From that point until my time with him was ended, it was paradise. Then, the "overhead door" came down, the chill came back, and I left. Some escorts just want there to be a line, I guess. I'm fine with it. I look at it from what might be their viewpoint: business is business, personal is personal.

[loverboy95]

I'd hire that escort again just for the sex. I'd remember that not everyone has the same personality.

[+ Axiom2001]

Thanks men for your salient advice; I'll give it more thought before contacting him!

[Edward]

You are over reacting to his lack of showing "friendship". Some guys are just not made that way. He probably looks at it as a business proposition. You got sex and you enjoyed it. He got his money. He is just not touchy feely to clients. If you enjoyed it the first time, you probably will enjoy it the second time. You are taking this to personal.

[+ sf westcoaster]

Axiom, now that you have all of these opinions ans suggested actions, what have you decided to do?

[+ dutchmuch]

You are over reacting to his lack of showing "friendship". Some guys are just not made that way. He probably looks at it as a business proposition. You got sex and you enjoyed it. He got his money. He is just not touchy feely to clients. If you enjoyed it the first time, you probably will enjoy it the second time. You are taking this to personal.

 

Well, I spent a lifetime lookin' for you

Single bars and good time lovers were never true

Playin' a fools game, hopin' to win

Tellin' those sweet lies and losin' again

 

I was lookin' for love in all the wrong places

Lookin' for love in too many faces

Searchin' their eyes, lookin' for traces

Of what I'm dreamin' of

Hopin' to find a friend and a lover

I'll bless the day I discover

Another heart lookin' for love

[+ WilliamM]

I'd hire that escort again just for the sex. I'd remember that not everyone has the same personality.

 

Clients do not have the same personality either. I may not need to know what the escort thinks of our meeting, as Ax did. But, I would be put off as well by the guy's apparent lack of personality skills. I hired a guy once on a Saturdat night who was on his way to a social event. He arrived with bags of gifts for his friends. While the session was ok in bed, it was clear that his mind was on the events later in the evening, not me.

 

Not exactly the same situation as AX faced, but it's the only time I ever replayed the events of the night before in such an increasingly negative way.

[+ Axiom2001]

Axiom, now that you have all of these opinions ans suggested actions, what have you decided to do?

 

I have not decided if I will engage this man's services for a "second round." I'm awaiting for his return from his month's trip abroad. I did read all posts here from you men and appreciate their "take" and suggestions/advice!

[rvwnsd]

Clients do not have the same personality either. I may not need to know what the escort thinks of our meeting, as Ax did. But, I would be put off as well by the guy's apparent lack of personality skills. I hired a guy once on a Saturdat night who was on his way to a social event. He arrived with bags of gifts for his friends. While the session was ok in bed, it was clear that his mind was on the events later in the evening, not me.

 

Not exactly the same situation as AX faced, but it's the only time I ever replayed the events of the night before in such an increasingly negative way.

 

Just out of curiosity, did you know before he showed up that he was on his way to a social event?

[robberbaron4u]

A few weeks back, I spent a very hot hour with a San Francisco escort, a man who I had been wanting to see for a long, long time. I desire to see him for seconds once he returns from a month's holiday in some European cities, but this is where my dilemma begins.

 

When I went to his place, he opened the door but did not shake hands or embrace or kiss. He offered me his sofa then went off and showered. After returning to where I was, the play began and was magnificent. Upon my leaving he opened the door, did not say that he'd like to see me again or that he, too, had enjoyed himself, and that was that. After basking in the after glow for a day or so, I emailed him and expressed an interest in seeing him again; I also asked him to relay his take on our session. Did he do it? No! I thought the reason being his making and finalizing arrangements for his month's sojourn. But, perhaps he chose not to respond because he, himself really did not view our time together as I had.

 

I did not write a review because I did not want to give anyone the wrong impression of him based on the hour which I had spent with him, but the more that I thought about this hour's meeting and the way in which I was greeted, perhaps that, in itself, told me the tale: gave me the answer that I sought!

 

When he returns and resettles, I am highly tempted in trying to make the "second round."

If you were in my shoes, would you attempt to reconnect, or would you forget about this one and move on? I'd appreciate your advice!

[+ WilliamM]

Just out of curiosity, did you know before he showed up that he was on his way to a social event?

 

No. It was a total surprise.

 

The story does have a somewhat happy ending. A friend recommended him. When I told my friend what happened, he

bought me dinner at a good restaurant. So back in 2000, the dinner was about one-third of what I paid for the hour session in NYC.

[rvwnsd]

No. It was a total surprise.

 

The story does have a somewhat happy ending. A friend recommended him. When I told my friend what happened, he

bought me dinner at a good restaurant. So back in 2000, the dinner was about one-third of what I paid for the hour session in NYC.

 

Ahh, OK. He really should have said something when you talked to him so you could decide whether or not to hire hime. No wonder you were not pleased.

[+ poolboy48220]

I've hired a couple of travelling guys who were in town for events (photo shoots, guest spot at a bar). I was lucky enough that they were focused on me the entire session, we had a great time, but I knew it definitely wasn't going to go over our hour.

[+ Axiom2001]

OK, guys! I'd appreciate your getting back to my query, por favor!

[rvwnsd]

Axiom, after thinking some more about your dilemma and reading some of these posts, I have another suggestion for you. Mr. "Hot Sex/Cold Personality" (maybe "cold" is extreme, but it is snappy and works here) is out of the country, so you have some time to think. Here are some things to ask yourself:

 

1. What are all the different kinds of sessions I want with an escort?
   
2. How would I rank them, with "1" being my favorite?
   
3. Do I always want to have the same kind of session every time or do I want to mix up the kinds of sessions I have?
   
4. Who are the escorts that I find physically attractive, including this one?
   
5. Of the escorts identified above, whose ads lead me to believe I would enjoy my time with them
   

Then, start contacting the escorts you identified in step 5 and explain your dilemma: you hired a guy who is almost "all that," but he doesn't have the cherry on top because the affection and friendliness just wasn't there, and you are looking for a boyfriend experience that includes a hello kiss, hot sex, and post-sex affection and warmth.

 

Lastly, keep in mind this is a boyfriend experience, not a boyfriend. He is your boyfriend when you are in his presence and he stops being that boyfriend when you part company.

 

I hope this helps.

[Man Crush Morris]

If the guy did a very good job and pleased you, then book again. I don't know why you were interested in his feedback. If for some reason he declined to see you again, fine. But asking him about it is misplaced.

 

It's not a date, it's a service. You used the word magnificent. If true,book him again.

 

I don't know what you wanted from him..