How to tell your first car it got traded in on a Premium Brand?

[ZhenXBear]

I recently wrote a of fantastic experience that I had in San Francisco with a luxury brand of personal companion. (http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/after-this-weekend-i-feel-i-need-to-recalibrate-my-standards-now.104371/)

 

I shall continue to remain on team "PH" as this vehicle most assuredly puts a big grin on my face (and I do very much enjoy smiling) so much so that I have scheduled a road trip for a more leisurely drive, so that I might familiarize myself with more of this luxury car's features

 

That being said, my first car has been reaching out to me, text me, honking, flashing its lights etc. and wondering why I have...um...not reached out to go for a drive. What's the politest way to tell my first car that it's been traded in on a premium brand?

 

I'm sensitive to this, because although I was unsuccessful with ever having a "boyfriend experience" with him, he's still a good guy. I was shocked when he told me, I was the only person that wanted to take the effort to get to know him (e.g. took him to lunch, talked to him). I'm going to try to position him with some contacts I have professionally to try to get him a job in a different field so that he will likely be able to double his salary, putting him on a more professional career track. I want him to have a successful life.

 

I also do not want to explain the "why's" of my choices because the answers are both private and complex. The "who?" is 110% off the table for discussion with him. Thoughts, gentlemen?

[sincitymix]

turn it into a competition? Your PRI (performance rating index) has fallen. Naked and afraid you must.. oh wait.. uhmm sorry watching to much reality tv lol..

wish I could give a good answer for you, but I am very submissive and hate confrontation. I would be in the same quandary as you.

[whipped guy]

Well it was not my "first car" that I did not want to take for a spin any more, but there was one guy who I really did not want to see for a variety of reasons... When simply ignoring his emails failed to get him to stop badgering me, I told him that I had moved out of the area (actually a thousand miles way) and it would not be feasible to hook up. (Not sure if that excuse would work for you... )

 

I wanted to end the relationship on a positive note and telling him that he did not do it for me any more is not exactly my style. Heck, if our paths ever crossed again and he was the only possibility he might suddenly look a lot better... Plus, I knew he had been trying hard and was sincere... So why deflate the guy for no good reason...

 

So everyone was happy... I know that he would be glad to see me as I was the one who got him interested in the world of S&M... it's just that I did not care for his style as it evolved... and if I ever bumped into him at a club in a non hire situation it would not be an uncomfortable situation... It's best to keep things positive in my book.

 

Now if the guy had done you wrong or some other such thing another approach might be warranted... However, in matters of chemistry it's a different matter.

[ZhenXBear]

turn it into a competition? Your PRI (performance rating index) has fallen. Naked and afraid you must.. oh wait.. uhmm sorry watching to much reality tv lol..

wish I could give a good answer for you, but I am very submissive and hate confrontation. I would be in the same quandary as you.

 

lol, just caught a glimpse of that TV show for the first time this week. No competition required though, I'm old enough to know exactly what I like.

[+ sync]

That being said, my first car has been reaching out to me, text me, honking, flashing its lights etc. and wondering why I have...um...not reached out to go for a drive. What's the politest way to tell my first car that it's been traded in on a premium brand?

 

I'm much like Sincitymix, I "hate confrontration." In this situation I might tell the "first car" that someone special has just come into my life and that my hiring has been put on hold for the present. Oh, God, I hate myself (voice of Paul Lynde)

[ZhenXBear]

I'm much like Sincitymix, I "hate confrontration." In this situation I might tell the "first car" that someone special has just come into my life and that my hiring has been put on hold for the present. Oh, God, I hate myself (voice of Paul Lynde)

 

This wouldn't necessarily be untrue if I changed it to "someone special has just come into my life, who I want to get to know better and therefore won't be able to hire you in the foreseeable future." . Then the statement is virtuous and doesn't infer that I won't be hiring anyone.

[sincitymix]

This wouldn't necessarily be untrue if I changed it to "someone special has just come into my life, who I want to get to know better and therefore won't be able to hire you in the foreseeable future." . Then the statement is virtuous and doesn't infer that I won't be hiring anyone.

very true, and you aren't lying either..

[rvwnsd]

I recently wrote a of fantastic experience that I had in San Francisco with a luxury brand of personal companion. (http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/after-this-weekend-i-feel-i-need-to-recalibrate-my-standards-now.104371/)

 

I shall continue to remain on team "PH" as this vehicle most assuredly puts a big grin on my face (and I do very much enjoy smiling) so much so that I have scheduled a road trip for a more leisurely drive, so that I might familiarize myself with more of this luxury car's features

 

That being said, my first car has been reaching out to me, text me, honking, flashing its lights etc. and wondering why I have...um...not reached out to go for a drive. What's the politest way to tell my first car that it's been traded in on a premium brand?

 

I'm sensitive to this, because although I was unsuccessful with ever having a "boyfriend experience" with him, he's still a good guy. I was shocked when he told me, I was the only person that wanted to take the effort to get to know him (e.g. took him to lunch, talked to him). I'm going to try to position him with some contacts I have professionally to try to get him a job in a different field so that he will likely be able to double his salary, putting him on a more professional career track. I want him to have a successful life.

 

I also do not want to explain the "why's" of my choices because the answers are both private and complex. The "who?" is 110% off the table for discussion with him. Thoughts, gentlemen?

 

I hired a guy a few times and decided I did not want to hire him again. Despite me ignoring him (which, in retrospect, was rude) and making excuses he still texted and messaged me. The last time he messaged me I replied as follows:

 

"Hey, thanks for keeping in touch. I'm not interested in hiring right now, but if and when that changes I will let you know."

 

He got the message.

 

I see no need to explain to your first escort why you don't wish to hire him. However, if you do, I would stay away from the reverse anthropomorphisms. These are people, not things. Would you like your "premium brand" to tell you that a better-stocked ATM replaced you? I am guessing not.

[ZhenXBear]

I hired a guy a few times and decided I did not want to hire him again. Despite me ignoring him (which, in retrospect, was rude) and making excuses he still texted and messaged me. The last time he messaged me I replied as follows:

 

"Hey, thanks for keeping in touch. I'm not interested in hiring right now, but if and when that changes I will let you know."

 

He got the message.

 

I see no need to explain to your first escort why you don't wish to hire him. However, if you do, I would stay away from the reverse anthropomorphisms. These are people, not things. Would you like your "premium brand" to tell you that a better-stocked ATM replaced you? I am guessing not.

 

I do believe my moral compass is such that I would never view any human being as an object, nor would I ever consider allegorical responses in an actual conversation. I think I'm good, here.

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

What's the politest way to tell my first car that it's been traded in on a premium brand?

 

Simple—there isn't one. At all.

[gallahadesquire]

I recently wrote a of fantastic experience that I had in San Francisco with a luxury brand of personal companion. (http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/after-this-weekend-i-feel-i-need-to-recalibrate-my-standards-now.104371/)

 

I shall continue to remain on team "PH" as this vehicle most assuredly puts a big grin on my face (and I do very much enjoy smiling) so much so that I have scheduled a road trip for a more leisurely drive, so that I might familiarize myself with more of this luxury car's features

 

That being said, my first car has been reaching out to me, text me, honking, flashing its lights etc. and wondering why I have...um...not reached out to go for a drive. What's the politest way to tell my first car that it's been traded in on a premium brand?

 

I'm sensitive to this, because although I was unsuccessful with ever having a "boyfriend experience" with him, he's still a good guy. I was shocked when he told me, I was the only person that wanted to take the effort to get to know him (e.g. took him to lunch, talked to him). I'm going to try to position him with some contacts I have professionally to try to get him a job in a different field so that he will likely be able to double his salary, putting him on a more professional career track. I want him to have a successful life.

 

I also do not want to explain the "why's" of my choices because the answers are both private and complex. The "who?" is 110% off the table for discussion with him. Thoughts, gentlemen?

 

I have to say, just for the record: Despite my thinking outside the box, this entire metaphor has me confused. And my 4Runner did not like being replaced by a Lexus Hybrid.

[ZhenXBear]

I have to say, just for the record: Despite my thinking outside the box, this entire metaphor has me confused. And my 4Runner did not like being replaced by a Lexus Hybrid.

 

You had to be there.

[ZhenXBear]

Simple—there isn't one. At all.

 

Perhaps polite silence or deflection is indeed the best course then.

[sincitymix]

I do believe my moral compass is such that I would never view any human being as an object, nor would I ever consider allegorical responses in an actual conversation. I think I'm good, here.

 

I dunno, sometimes you want someone to treat you like an object *gets a dreamy far away look* oh the things one can imagine

[ZhenXBear]

I dunno, sometimes you want someone to treat you like an object *gets a dreamy far away look* oh the things one can imagine

 

Hehe, I've noticed that some people have a penchant for that, but I'm not sure I could deliver. Darn Midwestern upbringing makes me to polite and respectful

[+ kontor1]

Sync and rvwnsd summed it up perfectly. That's probably the politest way to do it...

[+ purplekow]

I usually say: We will always have Paris. We didn't. We had lost it. but we got it back last night. Then I push them on a plane with a man he does not love and walk away with copy with a sexy accent.

Or if to use your analogy. tell him that his warranty has expired and he is being traded in for a new model.

[ZhenXBear]

:)

I usually say: We will always have Paris. We didn't. We had lost it. but we got it back last night. Then I push them on a plane with a man he does not love and walk away with copy with a sexy accent.

Or if to use your analogy. tell him that his warranty has expired and he is being traded in for a new model.

 

Hehe, I think I'll stick to the most tactful diplomatic route possible. I know I was somewhat cavalier in my OP and the allegory from the original thread didn't carry forward. Some people got the wrong impression.

 

I'd never consider being confrontational or mean spirited, so I'll avoid the real reasons since it'll not really serve any purpose

[+ purplekow]

:)

 

Hehe, I think I'll stick to the most tactful diplomatic route possible. I know I was somewhat cavalier in my OP and the allegory from the original thread didn't carry forward. Some people got the wrong impression.

 

I'd never consider being confrontational or mean spirited, so I'll avoid the real reasons since it'll not really serve any purpose

Yes a tactful, graceful exit seems prudent.

[rvwnsd]

:)

 

Hehe, I think I'll stick to the most tactful diplomatic route possible. I know I was somewhat cavalier in my OP and the allegory from the original thread didn't carry forward. Some people got the wrong impression.

 

I'd never consider being confrontational or mean spirited, so I'll avoid the real reasons since it'll not really serve any purpose

 

After you described your experience with Escort #1, I retract my statement. However, I would suggest a different allegory. He isn't your first car, he is a can you tried turning into a car. Kick him to the curb. Preferably, someone else's. You don't want to make your driveway look all messy.