Overnight vs Extended Hire

[curiousnomore]

I've had several overnight hires, ranging from good to amazing. How do I go from overnights to an extended hire? Solo travel is new to me and I'm not a "tourist". What can I do, as the client, to ensure a fun, positive vacation for both me and my favorite companion?

[+ peterhung85]

I've had several overnight hires, ranging from good to amazing. How do I go from overnights to an extended hire? Solo travel is new to me and I'm not a "tourist". What can I do, as the client, to ensure a fun, positive vacation for both me and my favorite companion?

 

As someone who is "known to be a travel companion" I think the most important thing (after doing your research) is communication. Tell the chosen guy what you have in mind or even better; plan the trip together. It is always fun when both of you have fun so if you want to be considerate (which sounds like you are) then work something out with the escort that will benefit the both of you.

[bigvalboy]

I've had several overnight hires, ranging from good to amazing. How do I go from overnights to an extended hire? Solo travel is new to me and I'm not a "tourist". What can I do, as the client, to ensure a fun, positive vacation for both me and my favorite companion?

 

PH is correct here, and in my opinion it is absolutely imperative, depending on the length of travel, that you allow your young man some alone time, whatever you and he decide that might entail.

[wisconsinguy]

I started out with my chosen guy with an extended weekend. Friday to Sunday. It's remains that way today. What I like to do is say, " OK, today is mine, tomorrow is yours." We usually like what each other has in mind Simple matter of give and take. It is a matter of communication, tolerance, and a little research from both parties. I would give your guy some time to catch up on calls, emails. You might want to discuss what each of you are looking to see! Oh, and don't forget to work "playtime" into the equation!!! Have fun.

[+ pdxleo]

Plus 1 to everything said so far. Communication is the key, My favorite escort and I are off on a four day weekend the end of the month, and by keeping the lines of communication open, we are avoiding a couple of misunderstandings that could have been messy. I let him pick the place ( not a resort I would have chosen, but it's his birthday and he's helping me be more adventurous anyway), and I made the travel arrangements, worked well for both of us. When I found out my son and daughter-in-law expected a visit while close by, I worried about what he would think, but we talked and he said, to have a good visit, and he would keep himself occupied at the clothing-optional resort while I was up the coast. We have some "research " excursions planned, looking forward to having a blast!

[curiousnomore]

Thanks Guys! I appreciate the advice. I've reached out to my guy and he's interested in a longer visit. Now the planning begins, for both of us.

[curiousnomore]

Update: Dates and Destination are confirmed. An upcoming overnight in a few weeks to go over the details and we will be good go. I am feeling SO lucky about now.

[+ stevenkesslar]

Just to offer a slightly contrarian opinion, it can be nice to let the client do all the planning. My first client I traveled with had exquisite taste in restaurants and hotels so I was fortunate to learn early on that being the "social bottom" can be fun. I learned a lot from him, about restaurants, wines, foreign places, all kinds of things.

 

Depending on who I am traveling with planning specific things, like what sights we see, or big parts of the whole trip, can work either way. It all falls under the category of getting to know, appreciate, and enjoy the person you are traveling with, and that is definitely mutual. What I mostly enjoy about traveling with clients is the same things I enjoy about traveling with friends of family - discovering new places and things with someone you just enjoy being with.

 

Overnights are of course a great way to discover whether that kind of chemistry is really there.

[ZhenXBear]

Just to offer a slightly contrarian opinion, it can be nice to let the client do all the planning. My first client I traveled with had exquisite taste in restaurants and hotels so I was fortunate to learn early on that being the "social bottom" can be fun. I learned a lot from him, about restaurants, wines, foreign places, all kinds of things.

 

Depending on who I am traveling with planning specific things, like what sights we see, or big parts of the whole trip, can work either way. It all falls under the category of getting to know, appreciate, and enjoy the person you are traveling with, and that is definitely mutual. What I mostly enjoy about traveling with clients is the same things I enjoy about traveling with friends of family - discovering new places and things with someone you just enjoy being with.

 

Overnights are of course a great way to discover whether that kind of chemistry is really there.

 

Great insight, Steven, about spending more time together to determine if travel chemistry works. My chosen companion and I have gone from a beautiful afternoon, to a fantastic 24 hour visit, and now an upcoming weekend together. I'm very much looking forward to charting some travel plans with him, as it's a great opportunity to discover more about a destination and the beautiful person you've welcomed into your life.

[JDXXX]

Just to offer a slightly contrarian opinion, it can be nice to let the client do all the planning. My first client I traveled with had exquisite taste in restaurants and hotels so I was fortunate to learn early on that being the "social bottom" can be fun. I learned a lot from him, about restaurants, wines, foreign places, all kinds of things.

 

Depending on who I am traveling with planning specific things, like what sights we see, or big parts of the whole trip, can work either way. It all falls under the category of getting to know, appreciate, and enjoy the person you are traveling with, and that is definitely mutual. What I mostly enjoy about traveling with clients is the same things I enjoy about traveling with friends of family - discovering new places and things with someone you just enjoy being with.

 

Overnights are of course a great way to discover whether that kind of chemistry is really there.

 

As you know, sweetie, I can totally relate to what your saying 100 percent. As you know I just had an overnighter with a client last night who I met for the first time, and our time together was amazing to where we've established now a closer bond for more overnights to occur - possibly more into a weekend trip. Never know. The client at first was NOT going to do an overnight, but did encourage him seeing he wanted to experience me for more then just 4 hours, I offered an overnight plan for which I felt suited his needs a lot better to what he was looking for, and til this day he's so glad he did as it was one of the BEST experiences with an escort he has ever had in years. A review on his overnight experience (BTW) is to follow. He also has posted here on the forum of a short summary of the overall experience.

 

Steven is right as well as many others who have commented on this topic. In order to determine if both parties are compatible to go further for other possibilities to be together for a much longer duration will be for the client, and companion(escort) to know each other first hand for an overnight to see if a possible weekend or week trip would be a suitable fit later on in the future.

 

You nailed it right on the nose, baby, as I totally agree that an overnight session (logically) is the right thing to do so neither you or the client don't waste each others time if both parties are NOT a match for that kind of interaction for a long period of time.

 

Weekend, and overnight trips are expensive for the client to enjoy, and can understand if the client has to be picky, and careful of who he choose to hire that'll best suit his needs for the entire duration. Not just sexually, but socially compatible as the escort/companion needs to have both of those qualities in order to have a create further a great bonding experience as well as relationship/friendship interaction with the client on so many levels outside of it at times being just a BFE situation.

[curiousnomore]

Steven and JD, you are both right on the money. Our destination turned out to be a place I have been many times and know very well. I enjoy just going there, forget doing stuff. My companion has only been there once, many years ago. He's excited about the trip, and I'm excited about the opportunity to show him around, especially all the lesser known aspects of our destination.

 

Our overnight planning session is an excuse to see him again. Plus, I want him to have a great vacation too. Just being at my favorite vacation spot, with him, is enough to make me happy. Ensuring he has a good time is my top priority, and a task that will keep me engaged and motivated. And extremely happy!

[+ stevenkesslar]

Weekend, and overnight trips are expensive for the client to endure as it is

 

Oops. Typo, JD. You meant to say that weekends and overnights with you are something clients can ENJOY. I can vouch for that. Can't get enough of being with a sweet, intelligent guy like you.

 

As far as how much a client can ENDURE, you were probably thinking about that thing between your legs. As it regards that, can't say much. I'm a virgin.

[+ stevenkesslar]

And in case you missed it on Purple Kow's thread, don't forget Rule Number 15(a) from the Epigonos Rules of Escort Etiquette:

 

I travel and do overnights with only one escort. That escort is most definitely NOT a morning person. He needs three or four cups of coffee before he even begins to be coherent. When we travel I set up the coffee in the evening before we go to bed. I, on the other hand, am most definitely a morning person - I normally get up at 4:30 but on vacation I go to bed later and therefore don't get up until some time between 7:30 and 8:00. I tip toe out of the bedroom, turn the coffee on, and read until he blindly walk out of the bedroom looking for his coffee. After about fifteen minutes and several cups of coffee he becomes his normal, fun, "charming" self.

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/an-alarming-situation.105164/#post-970775

 

http://kylenaylor.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/need-coffee.jpg

 

Frankly, I have no idea who Epigonos is talking about. It's 8:46 am in Palm Springs, and I spent all day yesterday flying, got home at 1 AM, and woke at 7 AM, and I've had only one cup of coffee so far this morning, and my mind seems to be working just fine. So whoever this guy Epigonos is describing is obviously a loser. But it's something to keep in mind, I guess. Some escorts .... well, they're just really thick-headed when they wake up in the morning.

[curiousnomore]

JD, Steven's post hit on something I missed in my quick first read. An overnight or weekend with you, or one of your colleagues, isn't something either one of us should "endure". I'm sure Steven was right to substitute " enjoy ". And, I'm going to" Enjoy " meeting you, whenever that works out to be.

[JDXXX]

JD, Steven's post hit on something I missed in my quick first read. An overnight or weekend with you, or one of your colleagues, isn't something either one of us should "endure". I'm sure Steven was right to substitute " enjoy ". And, I'm going to" Enjoy " meeting you, whenever that works out to be.

 

I'm so sorry about the mistake, guys as that was a typo as I did the post on my cell phone, and it didn't catch the mistake like it usually do. My phone don't have great spell checking skills apparently.

 

Thanks for the correction, Steven Darling. I know you were looking out for my best interest, and know for a fact you knew what I meant to say which you hit right on the nose again.

 

Looking forward to meeting you, Curious as I've been meaning to meet you for months, but the opportunity just never presented itself for which it will soon enough I'm sure. .

[JDXXX]

Oops. Typo, JD. You meant to say that weekends and overnights with you are something clients can ENJOY. I can vouch for that. Can't get enough of being with a sweet, intelligent guy like you.

 

As far as how much a client can ENDURE, you were probably thinking about that thing between your legs. As it regards that, can't say much. I'm a virgin.

 

Thanks for clearing up the mistake, baby. Learned a might BIG lesson out of all this, and that is: to never write a post when you're tired. Haha.

 

What you said about what a client can "endure" what's between my legs is correct due to what I've been told, but in a good way. .

 

Think you wanna next, babe?? .

[+ stevenkesslar]

Think you wanna next, babe?? .

 

Well, seeing as how I'm just a broken down old whore, I'm not big on the endurance scale.

 

Having said that, I'm pretty sure that I'd deeply enjoy anything a hot young man like you wants to share with me. Even if it involved taking off your coat and tie and staying a while.

[rguer]

My phone don't have great spell checking skills apparently.

 

http://www.autocorrectfail.org/sites/autocorrectfail.org/files/a_blunt_tip.jpg?1375113005

 

http://www.autocorrectfail.org/1816/blunt-tip

[curiousnomore]

Quick update, guys. I just got home from an amazing trip and I want to say thanks to, in order of appearance:

1: Everyone on this thread. Your advice was really helpful.

2: Sam Cody: You made the trip worthwhile.

3: Jake Crawford: We loved meeting you and will definitely try to get together again.

4: JD Daniels: Thanks for keeping me company on my way home.

You all combined to make it my best vacation ever.

[jackjackjack]

I've done 7 overnights. 5 of them I had hired for an hour to see if we were compatible. At least for me, a short hire before, is best.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

I would say it's always best to start with an overnight before committing to a weekend or longer with someone, unless you can tell from profile and reviews that you are certain this is the person you can spend an extended amount of time with. A had a 4 day session with a client at his home last year and it couldn't have been more perfect or amazing. I did like what one of you said about giving the guy some time to himself. I give so much, energetically when I am with someone and it always helps me to recoup that energy by having time to myself, either to walk around, go to the gym, meditate or whatever.

 

As far as making the arrangements for flight or hotel, that can go either way. If I've never seen a client before I prefer to get a deposit, with which I can buy my own plane ticket and I usually leave it up to them to arrange hotels. If I do already have a relationship with a client, I'm ok with them reimbursing my flight when I see them. I am a good travel planner so I'm always open to searching for the best hotel, flight and restaurant options to help save the client time and aggravation.

[+ BigRic]

As far as making the arrangements for flight or hotel, that can go either way. If I've never seen a client before I prefer to get a deposit, with which I can buy my own plane ticket and I usually leave it up to them to arrange hotels. If I do already have a relationship with a client, I'm ok with them reimbursing my flight when I see them. I am a good travel planner so I'm always open to searching for the best hotel, flight and restaurant options to help save the client time and aggravation.

 

Thanks for this. Depending upon responses to my post here and what I find searching the forum, I was going to start a thread about travel booking etiquette. I'm looking for both best practices from other escorts and input from clients about their experiences, peeves and preferences.

 

Do escorts generally book their own travel (and thereby avoid giving their real name to clients) and get reimbursed upon meeting (or get a PayPal payment in advance)? Are most (experienced) clients okay with being asked to pay for travel in advance, going on faith that the cost they're being told is accurate? Do escorts often send a (redacted) copy of their itinerary to clients to confirm that cost?

[geminibear]

Thanks for this. Depending upon responses to my post here and what I find searching the forum, I was going to start a thread about travel booking etiquette. I'm looking for both best practices from other escorts and input from clients about their experiences, peeves and preferences.

 

Do escorts generally book their own travel (and thereby avoid giving their real name to clients) and get reimbursed upon meeting (or get a PayPal payment in advance)? Are most (experienced) clients okay with being asked to pay for travel in advance, going on faith that the cost they're being told is accurate? Do escorts often send a (redacted) copy of their itinerary to clients to confirm that cost?

Sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith Ric.

 

I know several guys real names and birth dates because of travel and they know mine. These are guys I have met before, I know are true professionals, and I truly enjoy spending extended periods of time with.

[big-n-tall]

Thanks for this. Depending upon responses to my post here and what I find searching the forum, I was going to start a thread about travel booking etiquette. I'm looking for both best practices from other escorts and input from clients about their experiences, peeves and preferences.

 

Do escorts generally book their own travel (and thereby avoid giving their real name to clients) and get reimbursed upon meeting (or get a PayPal payment in advance)? Are most (experienced) clients okay with being asked to pay for travel in advance, going on faith that the cost they're being told is accurate? Do escorts often send a (redacted) copy of their itinerary to clients to confirm that cost?

 

Most escorts who come to see me by car, I paid and booked the hotel. Early on, I usually didn't pay for travel expenses (gas costs, at least if it was a long drive). Etiquette wise I probably should have, but I was new to the game then. Now I do.

 

Most who came to me by train, I mostly reimburse them once they get here. I think only once did I buy an Amtrak ticket in advance.

 

For those who come to me by plane... it has varied. Some have asked to have the ticket purchased for them in advance. Mostly, this has been ok. I was burned by one well known escort doing this and lost the cost of a plane ticket and hotel. Which is why I'm reluctant to meet new guys (brought in by plane) from at least a few states away. I also paid for lodging and reimbursed (plus their overnight fee) guys once they got here. On one occasion, a working guy, refused reimbursement for his plane ticket. He originally planned to just see me, but extended his stay to see other people. He said he'd make the cost up of the ticket staying a number of days after our weekend together.

 

Basically, anyone I've met before, tend to want reimbursement added to their fee. Sometimes new guys want me to get the ticket ahead of time or want reimbursement after. In general, most of the guys I've seen for an overnight have already been in my area. Eliminating hotel and travel costs on my end.

[big-n-tall]

Oh and I forgot to add, one working guy discounts his hourly rate since I have to make a long drive and book a hotel to see him. And another only charges the cost of the hotel plus a little extra (for 2 hours) also because I have to drive a long way to see him as well. The difference in that case is I think he really really really enjoys our time together.