Do you treat 'regulars' differently?

[+ dutchmuch]

And if so, how?

My questions stems from the post made about Sboy cancelling an appointment in order to accommodate a 'regular' on his block. http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/sboy-in-la-review.103652/

Do you cancel for a regular, give extra time?

Thanks.

[wisconsinguy]

I am not escort. I would never ask my person of choice to adjust his timing to accommodate my ad lib desires. Even if we r regulars, I appreciate his life. I would not him to cancel an appt because I just called to meet him

[+ quoththeraven]

I agree with wisconsinguy. That would be a crappy thing to do.

 

Some escorts, however, reportedly will cancel existing appointments if they have a chance at a more lucrative one (i.e., an overnight vs. a one hour appt.). I also think that is the wrong thing to do. It might be okay if the escort can work out an acceptable backup for the client being dislodged, but the idea of putting another client -- no matter the status -- ahead of someone who's already booked is distasteful to me. Wouldn't the client being dislodged always feel like a second-class citizen thereafter?

[Juan Vancouver]

No.

 

Under any circumstance.

 

To me, every session that I have is special and deserves my entire focus and professionalism. After a careful screening process, when I am convinced that the prospective client and I are a good match and I decide to go ahead and book the session, I treat every single client as a special, unique, relevant human being with whom I want to spend time and want to get to know better. The first time guy who books a one hour session will be treated with the same respect and consideration than the client with whom I travel all over the world for long holidays.

 

A lot of people ask what is the point of being a regular, and to me it's very simple: there is a very special kind of closeness, intimacy and knowing one another that only can happen after a few sessions together and that keeps strengthening over time. There's this degree of comfort, this easy being with one another, knowing each other's rhythms, each other's bodies, each other's preferences that makes it super fun. I always take great care in keeping the relationship within the healthy boundaries that are appropriate to the relationship. Even if there are a few escorts who gladly act as pretend boyfriends or friends, that doesn't work for me. It is always important to remember that I am providing a professional service, but when you spend time with someone and get to know him better there is the inevitable rapport and friendship that grows and is very real and important.

 

Whenever I hear from or think about most of my regulars I feel a special warmth in my heart and I am always excited and happy to see them. To me it is a huge honour to be able to provide fun, companionship and intimacy for people that I know, love and respect.

 

I don't treat my regulars different. The relationship develops into a different kind of relationship. But when it comes to honouring scheduling commitments or when it comes to bringing my all, I do that for every single person I choose to meet. It feels better for me to do so. Also it is good to remember that all my regulars were once a first time meet. I want to strive to have nothing but great memories from the get go.

[wisconsinguy]

No.

 

Under any circumstance.

 

To me, every session that I have is special and deserves my entire focus and professionalism. After a careful screening process, when I am convinced that the prospective client and I are a good match and I decide to go ahead and book the session, I treat every single client as a special, unique, relevant human being with whom I want to spend time and want to get to know better. The first time guy who books a one hour session will be treated with the same respect and consideration than the client with whom I travel all over the world for long holidays.

 

A lot of people ask what is the point of being a regular, and to me it's very simple: there is a very special kind of closeness, intimacy and knowing one another that only can happen after a few sessions together and that keeps strengthening over time. There's this degree of comfort, this easy being with one another, knowing each other's rhythms, each other's bodies, each other's preferences that makes it super fun. I always take great care in keeping the relationship within the healthy boundaries that are appropriate to the relationship. Even if there are a few escorts who gladly act as pretend boyfriends or friends, that doesn't work for me. It is always important to remember that I am providing a professional service, but when you spend time with someone and get to know him better there is the inevitable rapport and friendship that grows and is very real and important.

 

Whenever I hear from or think about most of my regulars I feel a special warmth in my heart and I am always excited and happy to see them. To me it is a huge honour to be able to provide fun, companionship and intimacy for people that I know, love and respect.

 

I don't treat my regulars different. The relationship develops into a different kind of relationship. But when it comes to honouring scheduling commitments or when it comes to bringing my all, I do that for every single person I choose to meet. It feels better for me to do so. Also it is good to remember that all my regulars were once a first time meet. I want to strive to have nothing but great memories from the get go.

Juan, what a beautiful way to bring it together! You should write for Hallmark! I love to support this profession in anyway I can. If I were to "stray" from my person, and...you were a bit closer, you would be a top person. Not because of your physically characteristics, but the person. If ur a fathful person, have a great weekend. For me, it means welcoming in summer.

[TruHart1]

Juan, what a beautiful way to bring it together! You should write for Hallmark! I love to support this profession in anyway I can. If I were to "stray" from my person, and...you were a bit closer, you would be a top person. Not because of your physically characteristics, but the person. If ur a fathful person, have a great weekend. For me, it means welcoming in summer.

 

I agree wholeheartedly WG2.

 

+1

 

TruHart1

[+ quoththeraven]

If I were a different sex/gender and lived closer to Vancouver, Juan would be at the top of my list for the reasons Wisconsinguy gives. It'd almost be worth it to go to Toronto while he's there on business just to take him (and Thor, if he wants to come along) out to lunch or for drinks. Definitely my favorite poster to this forum, hands down, of either clients or escorts.

 

He also has more patience than I do and is more gracious under fire.

[Juan Vancouver]

Thank you so much for your sweet words. I really appreciate them.

It is really fun and fulfilling to come here and freely and politely share different points of view.

I send you guys a tight hug and my sincere wishes we will all have an amazing start of the Summer!

Let's celebrate!

[+ purplekow]

Definitely my favorite poster to this forum, hands down, of either clients or escorts.

 

Okay, so who is second?

[wisconsinguy]

Juan, I think ur a bit of a tease! I am a short distance to Canada. So the milage is close. Anyhoo as I say, you are a great, smart, and intuitive person, it would just be great to cross paths some day. If that be just lunch or dinner. R

[bigvalboy]

Hmmm...just remembered, doing a quicky stop in Vancouver come this fall....will talk.

[loverboy95]

I agree with what Juan has said. For an escort to push me aside because I am not a regular would mean that he could treat me as a legitimate client and I could never be with someone who thinks of me that way.

[+ quoththeraven]

Okay, so who is second?

 

There is no second. More precisely, there are a bunch of posters whose posts I appreciate, but I can't say with certainty I appreciate all of their posts like I do Juan's or get as much out of them. Then factor in PMs, where some let their hair down more. Should they count for this purpose?

 

Many do not post as often, either, which is an impediment to my remembering who said what to whom.

[recency]

I am not an escort, so maybe I shouldn't weigh in on this, but I do have experience with repeat hiring and it is this: escorts have treated me differently, but the differences are usually subtle. Best example I can think of is one of my favorite escorts who looked at me during a session with a wry knowing smile and said "You like that, don't you?" I smiled back, and enjoyed his remark. That's the kind of difference I'm talking about. Escorts get to know you. Only once did an escort think that because I was a "regular" he could take me for granted. I did not arrange for any of his time again. All other repeat experiences were positive, with subtle changes to the good. Hope this helps. Sorry for posting on an "ask the escort" post, but I couldn't resist.

[body2body]

I have twice had masseurs cancel appointments because they had a "regular" they needed to see. In one case I had seen the guy once before, and the second I had seen about 5 times over two years. I ran into the second guy at the gym and he asked why I hadn't called. I laughed and reminded him that he had canceled our last appointment because he had someone more important to see. I explained politely that I found that rather insulting, and that Hell would freeze over before he would I would ever book him again. Hell hath no fury like a client scorned.

[BaronArtz]

I have twice had masseurs cancel appointments because they had a "regular" they needed to see. In one case I had seen the guy once before, and the second I had seen about 5 times over two years. I ran into the second guy at the gym and he asked why I hadn't called. I laughed and reminded him that he had canceled our last appointment because he had someone more important to see. I explained politely that I found that rather insulting, and that Hell would freeze over before he would I would ever book him again. Hell hath no fury like a client scorned.

 

Well .. I totally understand it if they give priority to regulars. It is the regulars that pay most of their bills (the 20/80 principle). That doesn't mean the second guy had tell YOU that was the reason he cancelled. It would have been smarter to just cancel for a bogus reason and reschedule your appointment, so you would not have been offended.

[bobnyc]

One of the escorts I saw in LA once told me that in NYC he cancelled on someone because another client offered him double to cancel the previous appointment. It didn't make me think very highly of him but it seemed to make sense to me monetarily at least. Never hired the guy again partly because of that.

[gallahadesquire]

One of the escorts I saw in LA once told me that in NYC he cancelled on someone because another client offered him double to cancel the previous appointment. It didn't make me think very highly of him but it seemed to make sense to me monetarily at least. Never hired the guy again partly because of that.

 

Good sense in the short run, but in the long run? Maybe not so much.

[gallahadesquire]

Frankly, I'd be very mad, and would rant. Not a pretty sight.