Men that use one word replies when texting potential clients.

[RSully94]

Hey guys. So lately I've noticed this with two potential guys I've been interested in. They are a duo that offer erotic massage, technically, but the ad also said they cater to any needs you have, so I asked about doing something more sexual which they are ok with.

 

Most of the replies have been one-worded like "sweet" "ok" "yes" "sometimes" and so forth, with occasional two or three word phrases. It's been with both guys because both of their numbers were on the ad originally.

 

Is this a red flag? Or is just some guys being lazy texters?

 

It was these guys btw

http://losangeles.backpage.com/MaleEscorts/4-handed-massage/48080325

 

The 424 number is Hansel, the blonde. The brunette guy is Harley, who has a 323 number that was on other ads and can be looked up on GayPhonesearch.

[bostonman]

I can't say it's a red flag for the guys' legitimacy, but I will say for myself, that if I can't establish a decent rapport with an escort online or by txt (assume he's inviting communication that way), I don't pursue a meeting. Some clients may prefer something less personable, more anonymous, etc - but I like escorts who project a friendlier tone and who truly seem interested in their clients.

 

So, had I been in your position here, I would have already given up and moved on. But that's me.

[+ Gar1eth]

S'up with S'up?

 

Gman

[Steven_Draker]

Why would someone waste his time into an endless text banter?

 

If you can't convey your idea into three messages ... move on. I know I do.

 

Most of the guys who engage into endless conversation never hire or ever hired an escort.

[Kevin Slater]

Why would someone waste his time into an endless text banter?

 

If you can't convey your idea into three messages ... move on. I know I do.

 

Most of the guys who engage into endless conversation never hire or ever hired an escort.[/color]

 

+1

 

Experience tells me that the likelihood of him hiring is inversely proportional to the number and length of texts exchanged.

 

Kevin Slater

[BaronArtz]

I can see both sides of the argument, really. I can particularly understand the exasperation of some escorts who receive countless text messages with questions that are already answered in the ad, idle requests for more pictures and superfluous questions that have nothing to do with the escorting experience. I imagine it all gets to be 'much' to deal with.

 

There is a guy (now retired) that I have been seeing since September. His ad was attractive, the reviews were positive, and private messages from board members here were encouraging. When I contacted him initially, he was indeed a bit 'abrupt' and 'curt' in his texts/emails. When I met him, he ended up being a wonderfully engaging and charming person. I still see him regularly, often in fact. Long story short: don't let an 'abrupt' initial communication style stand in the way of a great experience when everything else (ad, reviews, comments) is positive.

[marylander1940]

Step aside and talk for 2 minutes to get a feeling, that's better than endless text messages.

[Bryanforservice]

Lots of good points of view already posted. Please remember that some folks are more hesitant to commit to in writing what will and won't happen in an appointment. If you have specific questions about what is possible during your time with me, I tend to prefer to discuss it in a phone call if I have not met you yet.

 

In the end, good manners and enthusiasm for my work is what I think works best in all communications with my prospective and existing clients.

[AdamSmith]

Step aside and talk for 2 minutes to get a feeling, that's better than endless text messages.

 

If you have specific questions about what is possible during your time with me, I tend to prefer to discuss it in a phone call if I have not met you yet.

 

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[+ dupontversDC]

Lots of good points of view already posted. Please remember that some folks are more hesitant to commit to in writing what will and won't happen in an appointment. If you have specific questions about what is possible during your time with me, I tend to prefer to discuss it in a phone call if I have not met you yet.

 

In the end, good manners and enthusiasm for my work is what I think works best in all communications with my prospective and existing clients.

 

+1

 

A couple minutes on the phone gives me a great indication of personality and if I'm a match with a potential hire. And its just a lot quicker for both of us.

[bostonman]

Lots of good points of view already posted. Please remember that some folks are more hesitant to commit to in writing what will and won't happen in an appointment. If you have specific questions about what is possible during your time with me, I tend to prefer to discuss it in a phone call if I have not met you yet.

 

In the end, good manners and enthusiasm for my work is what I think works best in all communications with my prospective and existing clients.

 

Indeed. My issue isn't so much with the specifics of the activity (though I do like to discuss that too, when possible), just that I can get a sense that the escort is personable. Or, as you said, good manners and enthusiasm.

 

In that sense, it's really like hiring someone for any kind of job. You get a much better sense of professionalism from someone who can talk like a human being, not like a "Magic 8 Ball" lol. (Remember those?)

 

[Guest Starbuck]

... My issue isn't so much with the specifics of the activity (though I do like to discuss that too, when possible), just that I can get a sense that the escort is personable.

 

Agreed. Text messaging isn't the best way to do it, but a phone conversation or (more often in my experience) an exchange of emails helps give me a better sense of a guy I'm interested in. I appreciate good communication skills; someone who has them doesn't have to talk to me for half an hour or send a five-paragraph email, but if he takes enough time to give me a sense that he is articulate, intelligent, enthusiastic, energetic or -- ohhh -- any two out of those four things, I'm on my way.

[rvwnsd]

...Is this a red flag? Or is just some guys being lazy texters?...

 

Given the nature of texting, short test messages do not strike me as red flags. My interpretation of a short text is that someone is busy and rather than give the impression they are ignoring me they send a brief reply. That's why I prefer to begin communication via email, either directly to an email address or via a site's internal email function. Typically, the message looks very much like this:

 

"...Hey, I saw your ad and think we are a match. I really enjoy [fill in what I really enjoy here]. How does this strike you?" I will also include the date/dates on which I am looking to hire or, if I do not have a specific date in mind I will state that timing is flexible or something of that nature.

 

Often, the escort will reply with something like "Sounds hot. When do you want to get together?" To me, that reply is not a red flag. It means he thinks it is hot and wants to know when I want to get together. Sometimes, taking things at face value is the best way to go.

[bostonman]

Given the nature of texting, short test messages do not strike me as red flags. My interpretation of a short text is that someone is busy and rather than give the impression they are ignoring me they send a brief reply. That's why I prefer to begin communication via email, either directly to an email address or via a site's internal email function. Typically, the message looks very much like this:

 

"...Hey, I saw your ad and think we are a match. I really enjoy [fill in what I really enjoy here]. How does this strike you?" I will also include the date/dates on which I am looking to hire or, if I do not have a specific date in mind I will state that timing is flexible or something of that nature.

 

Often, the escort will reply with something like "Sounds hot. When do you want to get together?" To me, that reply is not a red flag. It means he thinks it is hot and wants to know when I want to get together. Sometimes, taking things at face value is the best way to go.

 

Yes - but "Sounds hot. When do you want to get together?" is already miles better than the one-word responses cited earlier.

 

Though it's also fun to get a reply that whets the appetite a bit more - perhaps something as simple as "Sounds hot. I love doing [client's suggestion] and I happen to think I'm really good at that, so we'll have fun. When do you want to get together?"

[MiamiLooker]

Some escorts are more interested in simply closing the sale rather than making an effort to determine if they're a good match for the client.

[bostonman]

Some escorts are more interested in simply closing the sale rather than making an effort to determine if they're a good match for the client.

 

True - and as I said before, if you're that kind of client (you want it NOW, the escort's pics/stats/preferences seem just right, and you really just want sex with none of the trimmings, lol), I think that would work just fine. But for those of us that like a more personable touch, it's not the best fit. I think there's really all there is to it.

[Guest Starbuck]

... and I am the one doing the shopping, after all ...

 

Indeed. In the world beyond this one, a talented SELLER may love the easy sale, but he doesn't walk away from a BUYER who makes him work harder. In time, he also learns to distinguish between a GENUINE PROSPECT who is going to make him earn the sale and a TIME-WASTER who is never going to buy -- those are two completely different people.

[Juan Vancouver]

Why would someone waste his time into an endless text banter?

 

If you can't convey your idea into three messages ... move on. I know I do.

 

Most of the guys who engage into endless conversation never hire or ever hired an escort.[/color]

 

My thoughts exactly.

 

I have no problem answering the first couple text messages but my response is often something like: "Thanks for contacting me, I would love to meet you and I might be available this ____ but I rather not communicate through texts. Please give me a call and let's set it up. Nothing is as sexy as listening to each others voices. Looking forward to hearing from you!"

 

Serious clients always call. Time wasters insist on texting which sooner or later degenerates into sexting. I have absolutely no problem blocking those numbers. I have learned the hard way from spending three or four days texting people who never book.

 

If you are serious and will find time to actually show up to a session, my guess is that you would also be able to find two minutes on your own to call. Also what better way to know whether someone can put together a coherent sentence than to talking to them? How many times have we heard the story of a client and an escort emailing for a month with amazing rapport, to discover when meeting that the escort doesn't speak English and the correspondence was handled by his pimp.

 

Step aside and talk for 2 minutes to get a feeling, that's better than endless text messages.

 

It is possible that there might be super shy people who don't want to call, but often it's those super shy ones the ones that flake in the end because they couldn't muster the nerve to show up. It is possible that I am limiting the amount of clients I meet by refusing to communicate through text messages, but the clients that I end up seeing are always sweet, fun, exciting and understand that this is a two way street kind of relationship.

 

God knows I can do without the entitled "I am the customer, so you have to do it my way."

 

Life is way too short! It's just about finding those with whom you are compatible, and having an amazing time.

[Diverdan]

As always, Juan... you have great responses. I remember the first time we talked on the phone, and I knew immediately that we would have a great time together. I agree with you 100 %... there is nothing like a phone conversation to start things rolling.

DD

[Kevin Slater]

It is possible that there might be super shy people who don't want to call, but often it's those super shy ones the ones that flake in the end because they couldn't muster the nerve to show up.

 

God knows I can do without the entitled "I am the customer, so you have to do it my way."

 

Nailed it.

 

Kevin Slater

[RyanDean]

I much prefer to text, and would agree that a good measure of vibe/personality can be discerned via a brief focused text message exchange. I've as yet encountered no real problem when the preliminaries have been text-only, though I have abandoned some exchanges when the replies were too monosyllabic, abrupt or cruisy (ie "where are you" or "u want 2nt").

 

I do totally welcome it though when the guy reroutes the text/email exchange with a directive like "give me a call the day of" or "call me & we'll confirm the appointment"... (Which, in my limited experience, the more professional and/or experienced guys usually do.) But, yeah -- left to my own devices -- I will likely not phone unless asked or prompted to do so.

[Juan Vancouver]

You definitely do NOT have to do it my way. And likewise, I definitely do NOT have to hire you. You're the service provider and if that business model works for you, then more power to you.

 

Entirely agreed. There's too many people in this beautiful earth, and amongst those seven billion I know there are more than plenty to keep both of us busy, happy and having a wonderful time.

 

Thanks for the power.

 

Big hug! =)

[BaronArtz]

Nailed it.

 

Kevin Slater

 

+1 Very well said!

[Juan Vancouver]

You are one hundred percent right. I dislike blanket statements and generalizations because they are bound to be imprecise. So let me try again:

 

In my experience, most of the clients with whom I end up having fulfilling sessions never hesitate to call to set the session. When I used to accept text message communication, probably 95% of the people who would only text failed to book a session. Even after months of "correspondence". I know there is the 5% of serious and potentially wonderful clients who only text, but sadly for my time and energy management it simply doesn't make sense to engage in texting to spend days on end to reveal who is that 5%.

 

And yes, it's a little sad that we might never meet. But I trust you will be well taken care of by hot, fun guys with possibly more patience than me. =)

[buckguy]

It helps if the guys states his preference upfront. Rentboy's emailing usually works for me but escorts here have implied it often comes in a bolus which is tardy and difficult to sort. Phone calling works for me if its outside of work/commuting hours and sometimes the response doesn't happen at those times. Texts seem to be the typical for follow-up even if something else is preferred for initial contact.