How can I find an escort who is okay with pre-op female-to-male transgendered?

[justsomequestions]

I have been interested in talking to an escort for a while now, however I am transgendered, female-to-male--I've had chest surgery, but no bottom surgery. What would be the best way to find an escort who is cool with this? I'm worried that if I contact an escort directly on a website, they might just agree to it and then be weirded out in person. I'm fairly perceptive, and it would be a blow to my self-esteem if I could tell they weren't into it. I'm otherwise a normal, sane, and attractive 23 year old, but I've just never been able to participate in the hook up culture because of this, so I guess I'm just frustrated.

 

Thank you for any suggestions and advice!

[+ dupontversDC]

Call an escort you're interested in and ask. I bet there will be more than a few who are more than happy to help you out.

 

I was chatting with an escort yesterday who has a son and still enjoys occasional sex with women even though he's now married to a man.

[RyanDean]

I don't know where you are JustSomeQuestions, but I would really encourage you to reach out to Israel Oka to see if your paths might cross soon. He travels a lot, and might also have some recs for guys nearer to you. Feel free to PM me, as well, if you like.

[doya66]

Relax a bit

 

I have been interested in talking to an escort for a while now, however I am transgendered, female-to-male--I've had chest surgery, but no bottom surgery. What would be the best way to find an escort who is cool with this? I'm worried that if I contact an escort directly on a website, they might just agree to it and then be weirded out in person. I'm fairly perceptive, and it would be a blow to my self-esteem if I could tell they weren't into it. I'm otherwise a normal, sane, and attractive 23 year old, but I've just never been able to participate in the hook up culture because of this, so I guess I'm just frustrated.

 

Thank you for any suggestions and advice!

 

Man, you worry too much! All of us worry about our bodies and whether we turn our partners on. Granted, you're more special than most, but a good escort has seen it all. Maybe not this specific situation, but close enough. Turning you on is what he does. Choose wisely and he'll be good at it.Mostly, find an experienced guy (escort or no), spell out the situation, and let him know that you are nervous. A good guy can take it from there, put you at ease and have fun. With escorts, if you ask for what you want, reputable guys will be up front about their limits. Everybody deals with the reality that not everybody is into us. You are a fairly specific set of circumstances, but not really that far out. Relax, it's just sex. If it doesn't work out this time, do it again and you'll get better at it. Guys willing to get it on with a normal, sane, attractive 23-year old are not hard to find.

[+ quoththeraven]

There are definitely escorts out there who have trans clients. Some have a no-discrimination policy in their ads or on their websites. The Legendary Dave in DC is one; there are probably others. I wouldn't be too concerned about someone agreeing to see you and then being weirded out about it; longtime escorts have probably seen it all.

 

Also, looking at escorts who are bisexual may either increase your likelihood of success or your comfort level.

[+ purplekow]

I think great advice has been offered. I second both Tyger and Dave, but JSQ, I think you are indeed over thinking this. This is your adventure, you should concentrate on finding the type of person with whom would like to meet and then contact people who fit your criteria. Contact those persons and present the facts of your situation and be clear in what you want. You deserve to be happy in this encounter and should not settle. There are lots of beautiful, kind and thoughtful escorts out there, just be careful to find one. I know of several escorts who have dated transgendered individuals, so don't worry. (be happy)