I feel kind of stupid asking this ...

[gallahadesquire]

I feel kind of stupid asking this, but what exactly is the "boyfriend experience [bFE]?"

[Diverdan]

It depends on what the escort who is providing the BFE wants to do, IMHO... so what you want to happen probably needs to be negotiated clearly up front !!

[TruHart1]

I feel kind of stupid asking this, but what exactly is the "boyfriend experience [bFE]?"

 

To me the "boyfriend experience [bFE]" is simply a session between an escort and a client where the escort makes the client feel as if they have been very intimate friends for a while, even if it is their very first meeting. That is, the client is made to feel completely comfortable and involved in their interaction, both physically in bed and psychologically in their communications. In my humble opinion, it’s the opposite of the “wham, bam, thank you man” experience, or even worse, the “thank you for the money, gotta run!” type of escort. Of course, an emotional connection definitely must be present for the BFE to happen.

 

TruHart1

[adriano46]

To me the "boyfriend experience [bFE]" is simply a session between an escort and a client where the escort makes the client feel as if they have been very intimate friends for a while, even if it is their very first meeting. That is, the client is made to feel completely comfortable and involved in their interaction, both physically in bed and psychologically in their communications. In my humble opinion, it’s the opposite of the “wham, bam, thank you man” experience, or even worse, the “thank you for the money, gotta run!” type of escort. Of course, an emotional connection definitely must be present for the BFE to happen.

 

TruHart1

 

TruHart1 gives a great definition = +1!

[JoeyBryant]

I feel kind of stupid asking this, but what exactly is the "boyfriend experience [bFE]?"

 

Don't feel stupid...

 

I have come to realize there's many guys out there that although they are willing to be an escort, there are some who don't makeout, or do any kind of intimate stuff. So, if you end up with someone who just wants to bend you over, or let you give them a bj, they aren't offering the BF experience.

 

Now, there may be a such thing as the 'husband' experience...but similar to the Jetsons, that's where you just hand him the money and he jets.

[instudiocity]

Now, there may be a such thing as the 'husband' experience...but similar to the Jetsons, that's where you just hand him the money and he jets.

HA-HA, now that's funny. I don't care who you are that's FUNNY!

[Steven_Draker]

Since there's no definition for BFE in Wikipedia nor in the Urban dictionary, check out the definition for girlfriend experience and replace 'girl' by 'boy':

 

 

The "girlfriend experience" generally involves more personal interaction than a traditional call girl or escort offers; it varies widely from person to person, however. There is a focus on not just having sex, but also having more of a comprehensive experience.

 

Often sessions last longer and are "no rush," which means the call girl spends the full advertised time rather than rushing out after the sex is over. Common activities usually offered by GFE escorts include kissing and/or french kissing, cuddling and foreplay.

 

A call girl advertising the provision of a "girlfriend experience" is implying that she provides deep french kissing (DFK), "full service" (intercourse) usually with protection, and fellatio and cunnilingus, both with or without protection. Advertising a "girlfriend experience" is sometimes used by call girls to promote business.

 

source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Girlfriend_experience

 

 

When an escort offers a service more akin to a 'real' relationship rather than just sex. The escort may go with the payer to dinner / the movies etc and engage in conversation, kissing and so forth, before retiring for sex (as what might occur when dating). Men who indulge in such Girlfriend Experiences with escorts are said to be enjoying The Hobby.

 

source: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Girlfriend+Experience

[gallahadesquire]

Thanks, Steven.

[+ poolboy48220]

Since there's no definition for BFE in Wikipedia nor in the Urban dictionary, check out the definition for girlfriend experience and replace 'girl' by 'boy':[/color]

 

 

The "girlfriend experience" generally involves more personal interaction than a traditional call girl or escort offers; it varies widely from person to person, however. There is a focus on not just having sex, but also having more of a comprehensive experience.

 

Often sessions last longer and are "no rush," which means the call girl spends the full advertised time rather than rushing out after the sex is over. Common activities usually offered by GFE escorts include kissing and/or french kissing, cuddling and foreplay.

 

A call girl advertising the provision of a "girlfriend experience" is implying that she provides deep french kissing (DFK), "full service" (intercourse) usually with protection, and fellatio and cunnilingus, both with or without protection. Advertising a "girlfriend experience" is sometimes used by call girls to promote business.

 

source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Girlfriend_experience

 

 

When an escort offers a service more akin to a 'real' relationship rather than just sex. The escort may go with the payer to dinner / the movies etc and engage in conversation, kissing and so forth, before retiring for sex (as what might occur when dating). Men who indulge in such Girlfriend Experiences with escorts are said to be enjoying The Hobby.

 

source: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Girlfriend+Experience

That reminds me of the Big Bang Theory episode where the guys get a hooker in Vegas to try to console Howard over his breakup. They don't want him to know she's a hooker, and she asks "Oh, so you're looking for the girlfriend experience?", and Raj says "Actually, would you be able to provide the Jewish Girlfriend experience?"

 

She first meets Howard by walking up to the buffet and exclaims "Oy Vey, it would have killed them to put out a nice brisket here?"

[TruHart1]

...When an escort offers a service more akin to a 'real' relationship rather than just sex. The escort may go with the payer to dinner / the movies etc and engage in conversation, kissing and so forth, before retiring for sex (as what might occur when dating). Men who indulge in such [boyfriend] Experiences with escorts are said to be enjoying The Hobby.

 

 

I am certainly enjoying The Hobby!!!

 

TruHart1

[+ purplekow]

There is also enjoying the Hobby Horse. Boyfriend with a big cock giving you the boyfriend experience.

Or the Hobby Lobby experience. They leave you waiting outside and then when they let you in, you get no benefits.

[tyro]

That is a FANTASTIC episode!

T

That reminds me of the Big Bang Theory episode where the guys get a hooker in Vegas to try to console Howard over his breakup. They don't want him to know she's a hooker, and she asks "Oh, so you're looking for the girlfriend experience?", and Raj says "Actually, would you be able to provide the Jewish Girlfriend experience?"

 

She first meets Howard by walking up to the buffet and exclaims "Oy Vey, it would have killed them to put out a nice brisket here?"

[Frankly Rich]

Kristian Elix, Jason Carter, the original Danny Cruz...these guys all know how to give a great BFE!

[gallahadesquire]

Thanks to you all! I was thinking of a particular fellow in Boston [Why is Massachusetts so provincial?], but I have already been apprised of his graces.

 

Just as an aside: I "chatted" on AOL with someone for like 6 years before we met. Had a four year fling that eventually ended,

but he was great as the BFE.

 

Any suggestions as how to ask for this? The quarry in question has a rather sizable endowment, which is kind of germane to this discussion.

I'd rather kiss / cuddle / and other things, as opposed to what goes into the back door, other than The Cat.

[+ poolboy48220]

I'd just ask. "Do you provide a boyfriend experience?" If he's been in the business for a while he should know what you mean, and if not, just tell him what's been said in this post.

[Okliehomo]

In my experience, the BFE means a lot of drama and a lot less money.

[tyro]

Okie, was that a "real" BFE or one provided by one of our top guys? If it was a "real" one...yeah. I agree.

T

 

In my experience, the BFE means a lot of drama and a lot less money.

[Okliehomo]

A real one.

 

What I have today is no drama and more money.

 

And Boysobey, Mormanboyz, Wellcoached, Daddyincharge and Collegespank...etc. etc...

[bigvalboy]

Okie, was that a "real" BFE or one provided by one of our top guys? If it was a "real" one...yeah. I agree.

T

 

lol..."T". I agree, no thank you on the real one, I'm with you on that one, but paying for the BFE is, and can be so rewarding. The real pros out there will provide that without even realizing it.

[TruHart1]

lol..."T". I agree, no thank you on the real one, I'm with you on that one, but paying for the BFE is, and can be so rewarding. The real pros out there will provide that without even realizing it.

 

I agree completely BVB, the great ones just naturally furnish the BFE. That's why I keep returning to hire the best pros!

 

TruHart1

[SteveEscort]

I am an escort and I believe you can't offer a boyfriend experience until you've met a client a few times.

 

Regular clients naturally get the boyfriend experience without asking because you know something about them. You talk like you've known each other for years and follow up on stories he's told you in the past and vice versa, you know what sort of sex each other likes and you leave as friends but wanting more and anticipate your next encounter.

 

For me that's the boyfriend experience.

[jawjateck]

I feel kind of stupid asking this, but what exactly is the "boyfriend experience [bFE]?"

 

My last Saturday night hire in Atlanta....hot damn, he was good.

[tyro]

Rub it in, why don't ya?

Seriously, though, it's good to see your posts again.

T

[+ Axiom2001]

Don't feel stupid...

 

I have come to realize there's many guys out there that although they are willing to be an escort, there are some who don't makeout, or do any kind of intimate stuff. So, if you end up with someone who just wants to bend you over, or let you give them a bj, they aren't offering the BF experience.

 

Now, there may be a such thing as the 'husband' experience...but similar to the Jetsons, that's where you just hand him the money and he jets.

 

Joey, what you wrote is [for the most part] what I experienced when I was with an escort [our first and last time together] a few weeks ago! His ad was deceptive; he asked for fee up front, did absolutely to and for me sexually except receive a bj from me, and left me completely empty. A review was written and should be up once "daddy" returns to his website and posts reviews!!!!!

[BryanKnight]

This is a generic marketing ploy to stimulate romantic feelings in buyer. (Marketing psychology 101)

 

The actual definition can vary from professional to professional.

 

Based on my experiences and those of my coworkers I've talked to about this, the boyfriend experience is giving you someone who makes you feel loved, special, wanted and appreciated IN ADDITION to physical gratification.

Making someone feel loved and cared for is a special skill set on its own.