Why is a big dick ok, but a skinny finger taboo???

[ready182]

I have met alot of bottoms who love a nice dick up the ass, but hate being fingered. Can anyone explain???

 

Still Ready

[Guest icon513]

Because a skinny finger doesn't feel good, but a big dick does?

[bigjake8]

Because people usually dont clip their nails back far enough, and it sucks when you ripped by someones hang nail. Bottoms know to take care of their ass, especially if its what feeds you.

[Rick Munroe]

"Why is a big dick ok, but a skinny finger taboo???"

 

Isn't this one of the 4 questions asked by the youngest member of a gay Passover seder?

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Fingers, Thumbs and More

 

This is a more complicated situation than it might appear at first glance, or shall we say touch?

 

My experience, both with clients and in my personal life, is that men can enjoy an erogenous zone, including men who might identify as predomimantly bisexual or heterosexual or as predominant or total tops.

 

Ass play can feel good. That said, as with anything else, it can depend on the quality of that play. In our culture, it is thought bigger is always better but this is actually not the fact. A man's prostrate is inside the outer sphincter muscle. It can be massage and "pleasured" with just a finger, so obviously anything larger and thicker is simple excess.

 

On the other hand, there is a certain enjoyment that can be experienced by the man on the bottom with a feeling of fullness and of making himself open to someone else.

 

This said, men often comment that well-endowed tops think that there job is simply to get hard, get in and everyone gets off. It is my belief that technique, either in using one or more finger, a thumb or a penis, is what makes the crucial difference between pleasure and pain, or simple discomfort. I have been with clients who have stated to me that they do not enjoy fingers and have learned to trust me and come to feel that, when done right, they can enjoy ass play with fingers.

 

It is also an excellent technique for preparing the man on the bottom for further penetration.

[axebahia]

>Because people usually dont clip their nails back far enough,

>and it sucks when you ripped by someones hang nail. Bottoms

>know to take care of their ass, especially if its what feeds

>you.

 

I think you are right on the initial question. My related question is why do some bottoms who can take a huge dildo, have trouble taking a huge dick?

[Dbltrblescorts]

Hey Guys,

 

As a bottom boi I have been questioned on the fact that I dont like being fingered but it basically is exactly what was talked about in earlier posts. There are alot of guys who dont take care of thier nails or clean them regularly for that matter. I know for a fact alot of germs and bacteria can be housed under the finger nail and easily transferred through the porous skin in the ass. I take care of my ass by protecting it from things like that. There is always the option of putting a condum on the finger though alot of people frown on that from my experience. Has anyone ever had a client get upset because they didnt allow them to finger them? I am just curious as to what others experiences have been.

 

Ciao- Adrian in Orlando

 

http://www.doublethetrouble.com

[Bilbo]

RE: Rubber Gloves!

 

I think this is at least the second time lately that someone has mentioned putting a rubber on a finger. What is wrong with rubber gloves? Yes, the first time you might feel a little like you're playing doctor, but obviously by this thread, there are worse games. And they are readily available. (I'm not talking about the thick rubber that are designed for cleaning the house, I'm talking about thin ones meant for single use then disposal and which are at least as good as condoms at transferring sensations.) I got an inexpensive box of them at the Walgreen's here in the Montrose - admittedly the gayest section of Houston, and I haven't checked the Walgreen's in the suburbs - and that box, even using them two at a time (one on each hand) can last for a couple of months!

[+ deej]

RE: Rubber Gloves!

 

Gloves are a good idea.

 

Or, as you said, there's another thread around here somewhere.

 

http://www.allegromedical.com/images/products/fingercots.jpg

[Bilbo]

RE: Rubber Gloves!

 

Oops. I just said this on the wrong thread. But, anyway .... When I said rubber I really meant latex. My Cub, Maverick, pointed that out to me. And, Deej, that's a picture of what I think is called a finger cot. Which another good idea, just not the same as the one I meant. Only being able to use one finger hampers movement. I meant to use a full glove. In fact, when we were playing with asses at Body Electric camp, we used two gloves, one on each hand, but I thought that in Mr. DiSantis situation two gloves might be a bit excessive and trigger a bit more nervousness in his client. Of course, one glove might, too. But a bit of comromise is called for.

[+ deej]

RE: Rubber Gloves!

 

<<two gloves might be a bit excessive and trigger a bit more nervousness in his client>>

 

The sight of someone snapping on a glove can trigger negative reactions (memories of a rough prostate exam, or a Chris Ward video).

 

There's no really great solution here, and there isn't a "one size fits all" (pardon the pun) answer.

 

It's going to boil down to communication and comfort level, on both sides.

[ready182]

BUZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ - wrong answer

 

Sorry guys, I'm not buying the "fingernail hygiene" explanation; nor the "technique" explanation. Anyone got the right answer???

[CT Dick]

Cots

 

Those are called 'cots' and are available in general pharmacies.

 

They are snugger than a condom and not as intimidating as rubber gloves.

 

Dick

[Bilbo]

RE: Rubber Gloves!

 

So, you were never intimated by condoms themselves? Sometimes it takes a brave man to receive plesure safely.

[Dbltrblescorts]

Hey Guys,

 

<< "BUZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ - wrong answer">>

 

Ok so after reading all these threads with thier different ideas on your question there are alot of valid points IMO. You say we are all giving wrong answers and you dont buy them. It would seem to me that each individual may feel differently on the subject. Some may not like a finger for one reason while others may love it, it all depends on that person. After reading your question again it occured to me it may have a punchline being there is only one right answer, according to you. So what is it? Why is a big dick ok, but a skinny finger taboo?

 

Curious- Adrian in Orlando

[VaHawk]

RE: BUZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ - wrong answer

 

Here's another wrong guess. Are you referring to fingered ala having someone "flip the bird" at you with the middle finger? I don't think anyone likes that.

[Bilbo]

RE: flipping

 

My mentor in junior high taught me that to flip someone the finger is to make a promise which you have to honor should the addressed person take you up on it. Since then, I very, very rarely flip someone the finger in anger.}(