Coming with an escort

[sport989]

I used to find ejaculating was never a problem for me. I could do it 2-3 times a day with no problem, either with my b/f ( I dated the same guy for 8 years) or masturbating.

But lately I have problems sometimes with an escort or a date getting off, though I always get hard. I am now 53 and on heart medication (altace--though that is not an indicated side effect)! It may well be a problem of nervousness or that I need emotional closeness. Recently I had a problem with a muscle escort (who was very attractive), but the next day did fine with a ripped lean guy.

But it is sometimes disappointing and embarassing. Any thoughts?

[+ Lucky]

Any thoughts? Well, yeah. Why are you wanting to tell this to the world? Do you really think folks are gonna sit and ponder your capacity to squirt or not? Just some thoughts...

[Rick Munroe]

>But it is sometimes disappointing and embarassing. Any

>thoughts?

 

It shouldn't be embarrassing at all when you're with a pro escort. For one thing, he's there to make you feel good, and that includes (in most cases) making you feel comfortable and safe, making you feel good about yourself, and, well, making you feel good. I could see you getting embarrassed if you couldn't get it up (although, I still say that you shouldn't, for the reasons I just mentioned). There are many reasons why someone wouldn't be able to get hard or cum on a particular day; we make no judgments there (or, at least I don't). The fact that most escorts have no problem getting hard or shooting is one reason we go into and excel in this business. As for it being disappointing that you can't pump out a load with your escort, well, yeah, that would make sense. But maybe you need to change your priorities and make the act of cumming less important or integral to the sexual experience.

[Rick Munroe]

>Do you really think folks are gonna sit and ponder

>your capacity to squirt or not?

 

I did. My bad?

[+ Lucky]

Of course you did! And there will be others.

[KY_TOP]

If you can stay HARD for a long time without cumming. I'd suggest you be the Top and just pound away. One of you will get tired sooner or later.}(

 

Actually it is not an uncommon "problem" and can be caused by numerous things. It could be any thing from meds to being tired to an almost endless list. If you have a real concern I'd suggest you find a Dr you feel comfortable talking with about the issue.

[Bilbo]

If it is a problem with "nervousness and emotional closeness", perhaps you should look into Body Electric ( http://www.bodyelectric.org ). One of their big things is helping people with achieving intimacy. You can either go to their classes, or hire a masseur who also says that he is a "sacred intimate." This means that they have a very high level of training from the Body Electric school or equivalent training.

 

But another thing you might think about is - Are you trying the right kind of actions? Particularly if you are trying to wind up with the escort masturbating you, it's sometimes very difficult to find the right rhythm to bring someone else off. There's absolutely nothing wrong with playing and playing and then watching each other bring yourselves off.

 

(Just my two pennies worth, maybe not worth as much as a true specialist in Western mental health practices.)

[camshaft9]

It is very likely that your heart medicine is the culprit.

Ask your doctor for advice. Viagra helps, but you need to change

your beta blocker.

[Guest Kenny021]

I had a heart attack 3 years ago and now am on blood pressure medication and beta blockers. I am experiencing similar situations as you and often am embarassed about "not pumping out huge loads". Besides the "medication" issue, age (53) could be contributing to the inability to cum 3 x per day. I've found that when I am turned on and most of the time I am, I have absolutely no problem getting an erection or having an orgasm. The problem is in the volume of the ejaculate. At times, I have found myself explaining to my partner that it was because I had a vasectomy years ago (boy, I always wonder if the bought that). In any case, for whatever reason, I've learned to live with this and since it doesn't change my ability to get erect and feel the sensation of an orgasm, I try to avoid thinking about it. Let's face it, a 55 year old man is not like he was at 25. I believe a man reaches his sexual peak at 18 whereas a woman does so much later in life. Try not to let this bother you but if you really are worried, speak to a physician who can probably give you a reason for this and hopefully, a solution to it.

[sport989]

Thanks guys for all the advice and empathy. I'm actually not on beta blockers which can cause such a problem, only on lipitor and ace-inhibitors (altace) and that is not mentioned as a side effect.

[Rick Munroe]

If you ever find out the cause, let me know. I have a client who gets nauseated by the sight of his own cum. Not to make light of your problem, but he'd probably enjoy the predicament.

[Guest Merlin]

Actually, Viagra may be the problem if you are using it. I have seen a number of guys on the internet say that Viagra makes it more difficult to come.

[VaHawk]

DUH!!! REALLY? Did you see the takeoff on this from the HBO Robin Willians special last summer? Funny as hell.

 

To begin with what kind of doctor would prescribe viagara to someone with a heart condition? Isn't that a prime setup for the "patient" to expire during the act? Oh I bet I know, one of those "doctors" who deal it over internet sites based on a series of questions to cover their asses, without ever knowing the "patient"?

 

Just my opinion, but when it gets to the point that I have to buy viagara to get it up in order to spend money to buy sex, then I will gladly holster the old pistol for good.

[VaHawk]

I agree with you Lucky. I mean who really cares about this guys squirting ability? LOL, some of the things people post on this board that really should stay in their own "personal realm". x(

[Will]

Well, I'm glad I don't have your attitude, or I'd have hung up my pistol and holster a long time ago. Both of these problems -- erection and ejaculation -- can be caused by a combination of age, fatigue, and medication. Just because difficulty in ejaculation isn't listed as a side effect of a particular drug doesn't mean that one man's body responds the same way other men's bodies respond.

 

More to the point, I have consulted my cardiologist and my internist, both of whom have assured me that Viagra is perfectly safe. I have used it without any difficulty at all with my hypertension. As regards the erector-set issue, medications of all kinds can be really pernicious; I have used Viagra to overcome those difficulties, but I don't really like it. Why? Because, for me, it creates a kind of numbness that makes sex less pleasurable. So I use it, if at all, in tiny doses. That's just enough to do the trick, but not so much that I lose sensation (and, consequently, the ability to ejaculate). I have a friend who had exactly the same problem reaching orgasm when he began taking an antidepressant; however, after a couple of weeks his body adjusted and he resumed perfectly normal sexual function.

 

The bottom line? As we get older, everything changes. That's just the way it is. I hate it, you hate it, we all hate it. But there are lots of ways to make up for what is no longer there, and will never be there again. Quite bluntly, I think good escorts are the best "medication" on the market today as antidotes for the effects of aging. By the way, it was an escort who taught me the trick of taking just a grain of Viagra. It seems sad to develop an emotional attitude about the necessity of taking medications so strong that one would actually give up sex. Speaking for myself, I'm not going to let an alpha-inhibitor, a beta-blocker, or a serotonin reuptake inhibitor take the fun out of my sex life, and I'm sorry that there are those who will.

[+ Lucky]

"So I use it, if at all, in tiny doses. That's just enough to do the trick"

 

And of course, the whole purpose in the first place is to do the trick!

[VaHawk]

Well, Will to each his own, and I respect your right to your feelings as to what is best for you and wish you many more happy hours in the saddle.

 

"The bottom line? As we get older, everything changes. That's just the way it is. I hate it, you hate it, we all hate it. But there are lots of ways to make up for what is no longer there, and will never be there again. Quite bluntly, I think good escorts are the best "medication" on the market today as antidotes for the effects of aging"

 

Well, I personally don't hate it. That's just part of getting older and is part of the "nature of the beast". IMO, no amount of plastic surgery or pills is going to change the fact that you are no longer young and/or as vigorous as someone in their 20's or 30's and that doesn't mean that is a bad thing. I could see taking viagara if you have a partner who is still sexually active and for whatever reason, age, medical, whatever, you want to be able to participate. But to take it because of age, just so you can then turn around and spend money to have sex with an escort, that I don't get. How is an escort an antidote to the effects of aging???? Are you saying having sex with an escort is going to reverse the effects of aging? Maybe someone might need it for the pyschological feeling of euphoria of having sex with a young man. If that is the case, then there are many ways to enjoy pleasure and many ways to have a satisfying physical encounter that don't require an erection.

[axebahia]

I have sometimes found that I am more likely to cum with an escort with whom I have not developed emotional ties than with one I have just a casual attraction. It is a curiosity to me also. At the risk of raining down the wrath of Vahawk, I would also add that I have recently found it more difficult to cum with female escorts than male escorts, but I think that has more to do with the time it takes female escorts to put the condom on me.

[Guest Merlin]

If you are taking Viagra, that may be the problem. A number of guys have reported on the internet that Viagra makes it harder for them to come.

[Will]

>whatever, you want to be able to participate. But to take it

>because of age, just so you can then turn around and spend

>money to have sex with an escort, that I don't get. How is an

>escort an antidote to the effects of aging???? Are you saying

>having sex with an escort is going to reverse the effects of

>aging? Maybe someone might need it for the pyschological

>feeling of euphoria of having sex with a young man. If that

>is the case, then there are many ways to enjoy pleasure and

>many ways to have a satisfying physical encounter that don't

>require an erection.

>

What about men who don't have partners, whether they're sexually active or not? What's the difference between paying for sex when your soldier snaps to attention all by himself and paying for sex when he needs a little prod? I don't see why it should make any difference one way or the other.

 

As far as escorts as "medication" are concerned, yes, that's exactly what I mean. At my stage in life, which I assume is a little ahead of yours, physical sensations are not what they used to be. For me, being with an escort spices things up, makes sex fun and exciting, and it makes up in psychological potency for the sensuous potency that my body no longer supplies, gratis.

 

Don't get me wrong: getting older is great. In my particular case, however, my sex life as a younger man was a desert when it wasn't a disaster. Now that I've figured it out, so to speak, I'm not about to call it quits just because I need a little better living through chemistry every now and then. And I never had sex for free that was as good as sex with the escorts I've reviewed on this site.

[scott90746]

>It is very likely that your heart medicine is the culprit.

>Ask your doctor for advice. Viagra helps, but you need to

>change

>your beta blocker.

 

It is a rather common side effect with most BP medications I believe.

[Guest Merlin]

Some people have reported on the internet that Viagra makes it difficult for them to cum.

[sport989]

Just to be clear, I don't use viagra.

[+ Hoover42]

>So I use it, if at all, in tiny doses. [...] By the way,

>it was an escort who taught me the trick of taking

>just a grain of Viagra.

 

Will,

 

I'm curious, when you say "grain" do you mean an actual grain (0.065 gram) or just a small piece, and if so, how small would that be?

 

I've personally had success with doses as small as 1/3 of a normal Viagra pill.

 

Is that the sort of dose you're talking about?

 

Thanks