Censoring Fake Reviews

[Newly]

killian, don't worry about it. I am hardly an expert and when I started reading that review I could tell that it was fake, there were so many things off about it. I don't think a strange review like that is going to influence anyone who would actually be considering hiring you. That being said, I don't see how this type of rare occurrence could be prevented if someone is twisted enough to write "positive" fake reviews. Daddy will fix it, heck, it's incredible how very few fakes get through. By the way, sorry I didn't get to meet you in DC, but having seen you now I don't think that a whacked review is going to hurt your business in any way - heck, you could probably do fine with a ton of bad reviews!

[Guest Starbuck]

But since you claim to know exactly how reviews are handled, why not spell out the entire process? It's some of the best entertainment Daddy gets. A good rule for life: you may hurt yourself if you run with scissors. A better rule for life: pissing off Daddy may bite you in the ass.

 

deej, a little harsh, no? After all, the guy has just been the victim of "a very very very fake review... absolutely none of it was true." And in case any of us thought that meant a bogus assessment by a disgruntled client, Killian has since posted that the reviewer is some guy he never even met. Under the circumstances, I'm impressed that he seems to have kept his wits and sense of humor ... and I sure as hell think he's entitled to express a concern about the screening process for reviews. Whatever the current rules, allowing him a belated response to the review seems like a less appropriate "fix" than removing it altogether; letting it stand (even with a response) is an open invitation to others with a malicious intent.

[Steven_Draker]

I'm still wondering why someone would go the extra mile to create and post a very very very fake review for someone he never met?

 

Whatever the current rules, allowing him a belated response to the review seems like a less appropriate "fix" than removing it altogether.

 

Let's face it: usually telling Daddy what he SHOULD do, won't "fix" anything at all.

 

Deej's suggestion was quite wise, even if it came through as slightly "harsh".

[killianjamesnyc]

I'm still wondering why someone would go the extra mile to create and post a very very very fake review for someone he never met?[/color]

 

 

 

Let's face it: usually telling Daddy what he SHOULD do, won't "fix" anything at all.

 

Deej's suggestion was quite wise, even if it came through as slightly "harsh".

 

Steven, why not? I'm sure there are people out there who would absolutely do that. It's actually very common practice for people to post all sorts of things on review boards to hurt people, products and services. It takes the attention off of me, to be possibly put on someone else. If you read the review once again, it is clearly bogus. Have you ever been to a Family Friendly Daddy's Review event IN THE BRONX?

[killianjamesnyc]

deej, a little harsh, no? After all, the guy has just been the victim of "a very very very fake review... absolutely none of it was true." And in case any of us thought that meant a bogus assessment by a disgruntled client, Killian has since posted that the reviewer is some guy he never even met. Under the circumstances, I'm impressed that he seems to have kept his wits and sense of humor ... and I sure as hell think he's entitled to express a concern about the screening process for reviews. Whatever the current rules, allowing him a belated response to the review seems like a less appropriate "fix" than removing it altogether; letting it stand (even with a response) is an open invitation to others with a malicious intent.

 

 

Starbuck, thank you for the support. I really hope this doesn't give the green light for people to maliciously spread false and fake reviews about others.

[killianjamesnyc]

Oh and also, I just saw your icon pic! I love that it is hands

[Steven_Draker]

I think all of you will get a chuckle out of the response I am sending daddy on this recent fake review. I will have the final word.

 

The escort has the final word, that's a given.

 

However, it's pity that RockHard is not here to tell you it's all about PERCEPTION. I hope that you are carefully considering your response.

[Becket]

All of us who have had a boss or worked for someone else has gotten "reviews." Regular job performance meetings are common in any industry or occupation. One of the things it took me the longest to learn was how to respond appropriately to the times when my performance was criticized. It was always difficult when the criticism seemed unjustified or unnecessarily personal. I finally got comfortable with job performance reviews when I acknowledged the following.

 

1. I did the best I could.

2. I'm not perfect, and the reviewer may have a point. Perhaps I could improve in "whatever" area.

3. Sometimes I just didn't meet expectations. I'll learn what I can from the experience and move on.

 

In this particular arena, I have learned more about the escort from the way he responds to a negative review than I have EVER learned from the review itself. (Sometimes humility and not taking ones self too seriously are big turn on's for me.)

 

And the escort may have the "final word." But we all know the conversation is just beginning. Cheers.

[killianjamesnyc]

The escort has the final word, that's a given.

 

However, it's pity that RockHard is not here to tell you it's all about PERCEPTION. I hope that you are carefully considering your response.[/color]

 

Yes, I have spent many hours writing and re-writing my response and have even ran it by a very well known and respected member of the daddy's community. It should be up very soon, I will even post it here on the forum.

 

I have also gotten very mixed messages on how it should be framed. I've gotten everything from making it funny and light hearted, to being blunt that it is 100% fake and that person never met me. I chose to go the route of being a bit humorous but still clear that it's 100% fake, and the readers will see this.

[killianjamesnyc]

All of us who have had a boss or worked for someone else has gotten "reviews." Regular job performance meetings are common in any industry or occupation. One of the things it took me the longest to learn was how to respond appropriately to the times when my performance was criticized. It was always difficult when the criticism seemed unjustified or unnecessarily personal. I finally got comfortable with job performance reviews when I acknowledged the following.

 

1. I did the best I could.

2. I'm not perfect, and the reviewer may have a point. Perhaps I could improve in "whatever" area.

3. Sometimes I just didn't meet expectations. I'll learn what I can from the experience and move on.

 

In this particular arena, I have learned more about the escort from the way he responds to a negative review than I have EVER learned from the review itself. (Sometimes humility and not taking ones self too seriously are big turn on's for me.)

 

And the escort may have the "final word." But we all know the conversation is just beginning. Cheers.

 

Becket, I understand what you are saying, if I actually met this client. However, in no way can I accept a review from someone who has never actually experienced me in any way. Please be on the lookout for my rebuttal, hopefully up within the next couple of days.

[bigvalboy]

Well Killian, I might be a little late to the party, since you might have already sent your response, but I side with those that think a "professional" response is best. Sarcasm and vindictive rhetoric rarely plays well. Personally I am in your corner, and can understand how angry you are, but crawling into the gutter with those that started this hateful attack on you, in my opinion, is not the answer. Whatever you ultimately decide to do, many of us here will understand. I wish you only the best....Cheers,

 

BVB

[Scorpio]

It should be up very soon, I will even post it here on the forum.

 

 

Before you get yourself in trouble....take a look at the topic pinned to the top of The Deli. Reviews are not allowed on forum. I would imagine rebuttals aren't allowed either.

[killianjamesnyc]

Well Killian, I might be a little late to the party, since you might have already sent your response, but I side with those that think a "professional" response is best. Sarcasm and vindictive rhetoric rarely plays well. Personally I am in your corner, and can understand how angry you are, but crawling into the gutter with those that started this hateful attack on you, in my opinion, is not the answer. Whatever you ultimately decide to do, many of us here will understand. I wish you only the best....Cheers,

 

BVB

 

In no way is the response vindictive or sarcastic. I think it's quite witty and cute. I'm eager to share.

[bigvalboy]

In no way is the response vindictive or sarcastic. I think it's quite witty and cute. I'm eager to share.

 

Well we are in your corner against these A-holes regardless....I anxiously await to see what you wrote...

[killianjamesnyc]

Before you get yourself in trouble....take a look at the topic pinned to the top of The Deli. Reviews are not allowed on forum. I would imagine rebuttals aren't allowed either.

 

omg lol SO MANY RULES!

[killianjamesnyc]

I'll get it down

[Cooper]

omg lol SO MANY RULES!

 

Killian James, As I read through this thread, I couldn't help but notice that you've received some excellent advice on how to handle this situation. The members here have been most helpful and supportive. When you registered on daddy's you were asked to read the message center rules prior to joining. Here's a link to the TOS... Good luck to you, Coop

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/tos.html

[tom1980]

Although a bit late to the party, my 2 cents . . . I think a response can be professional while also showing some humor and personality. If an escort can do all of those things, it demonstrates a level of intelligence, charm, and grace that will make him desirable in almost everyone's eyes. Unfortunately, very few can achieve it. Because humor in written form lacks the nuance that can be supplied by tone of voice, a dramatic pause, or a raised eyebrow, it often goes awry and comes across as bitter sarcasm.

 

KJ -- I hope your response is interpreted by readers in the spirit that you intended. When I read the review, I kept thinking it sounded like someone lacking creativity filled out an x-rated madlib: "He took out his nice thin cock . . . it had a smell that was musky and sensual." I kind of hope your response takes that same format because it would be hilarious (I'm sure you'd be much more creative filling in the blanks), although that almost certainly would not serve you well with most readers of the reviews. Good luck, and I'm sorry you've had to deal with this unfortunate experience.

[+ Funguy]

"omg lol SO MANY RULES!"

 

I know that was "tongue in cheek" (oh god!) but really, if we didn't have the rules, anarchy would reign and we truly would not have the wonderful world of the forum that so many of us use, enjoy, and benefit from.

 

As far as the rebuttal, the more professional the better to put the guy in his place. I'm not sure the "witty and cute" should be in the actual rebuttal but could be here to share with us.

 

Always,

Funguy

[killianjamesnyc]

Although a bit late to the party, my 2 cents . . . I think a response can be professional while also showing some humor and personality. If an escort can do all of those things, it demonstrates a level of intelligence, charm, and grace that will make him desirable in almost everyone's eyes. Unfortunately, very few can achieve it. Because humor in written form lacks the nuance that can be supplied by tone of voice, a dramatic pause, or a raised eyebrow, it often goes awry and comes across as bitter sarcasm.

 

KJ -- I hope your response is interpreted by readers in the spirit that you intended. When I read the review, I kept thinking it sounded like someone lacking creativity filled out an x-rated madlib: "He took out his nice thin cock . . . it had a smell that was musky and sensual." I kind of hope your response takes that same format because it would be hilarious (I'm sure you'd be much more creative filling in the blanks), although that almost certainly would not serve you well with most readers of the reviews. Good luck, and I'm sorry you've had to deal with this unfortunate experience.

 

Tom,

 

No worries, it most certainly IS professional and plays on a lot of what was written, in a playful way. I am eager for you all to see it. I even ran it by a very well known forum member to ensure that it would be seen in the best light possible.

[killianjamesnyc]

"omg lol SO MANY RULES!"

 

I know that was "tongue in cheek" (oh god!) but really, if we didn't have the rules, anarchy would reign and we truly would not have the wonderful world of the forum that so many of us use, enjoy, and benefit from.

 

As far as the rebuttal, the more professional the better to put the guy in his place. I'm not sure the "witty and cute" should be in the actual rebuttal but could be here to share with us.

 

Always,

Funguy

 

Yes, rules are always a great thing. I'm doing my best to read them before continuing to post in any new forums.

 

Xo,

 

KJ

[BSR]

the review site's FAQ[/url]. (Particularly the "I'm and escort..." section.) If you're going to publicly diss the owner, it helps to know what you're talking about.

 

But since you claim to know exactly how reviews are handled, why not spell out the entire process? It's some of the best entertainment Daddy gets.

 

A good rule for life: you may hurt yourself if you run with scissors.

A better rule for life: pissing off Daddy may bite you in the ass.

Deej's posts are brimming with anger and bitterness, in the form of what I call unnecessary nastiness. Anyone who participates in this forum has to deal with all his misdirected anger. Whatever deej is so angry about, I wish he would figure it out on his own instead of taking it out on innocent bystanders. But then again, his unnecessary nastiness is something I've learned to take in stride. And nobody's forcing me to interact on this message board.

[rocky]

I agree with Gman and sometimes we don't agree. If you come across too defensive for others who have not met you or do not know your history, it becomes one of "he's mad because it's the truth." And I'm not saying that, I'm saying because I'm a person in a position of authority where I see this all the time. And your first angry response should be put on hold.

[+ buddy12]

+1 to BSR's reply

[+ WilliamM]

Deej's posts are brimming with anger and bitterness' date=' in the form of what I call unnecessary nastiness. Anyone who participates in this forum has to deal with all his misdirected anger. Whatever deej is so angry about, I wish he would figure it out on his own instead of taking it out on innocent bystanders. But then again, his unnecessary nastiness is something I've learned to take in stride. And nobody's forcing me to interact on this message board.[/quote']

 

I certainly do not always agree with Daddy or deej, but I believe deej is right on this issue. In five pages, the review has gone from weird and unusual to a huge danger to the escort's earning power. I do understand why the escort is upset. Not so sure about everyone else. I believe Daddy does not comment publicly on whatever interaction he may, or may not have had, with

reviewers. I have been posting here a long time. There have been far worse reviews here over the years.