Yikes! I'm about to see my escort and I look like shit!

[JB85]

You take your shower, scrub every inch of your body, including up your bum, wash your hair, get out of the shower and look in the mirror... and scream. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!! You are about to see an escort that you're excited to meet but instead of looking you're best, you look TER-RIB-LE. Now, you've never had very good self-esteem to begin with and Mother Nature has not been kind to you anyway. You're completely out of shape, your hairline's receding, you could really use a tan, your face looks a gajillion years old...

 

You can't cancel, and don't really want to anyway. You've been looking forward to this for months.

 

So... what do you do? You hope that your escort likes Personality... because your looks are G-O-N-E.

 

Anyone ever feel like this before seeing an escort? I'm seeing mine today and boy do I look awful.

[fedssocr1]

uh, you're paying them. While you want to be presentable in general, it's their JOB to deal with it. I'm sure they've seen worse. I would guess that as long as you are respectful and pleasant of demeanor that those are the most important things.

 

Go to Thailand and see what those gogo boys and "masseurs" have to deal with!

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

You just stepped out of the shower. Make sure you have fresh breath and you are set.

 

Based on my experiences, escorts are more concerned about having clean clients that having underwear models as clients.

[+ azdr0710]

JB!!....you did all that cleaning up and you still "look awful"?.....sounds, instead, like a horrible case of low self esteem (which you suggested is the problem)....man up and don't worry, bud.....yes, cleanliness is more important to an escort, as Sam says.....smile, relax, talk slowly, have fun, don't rush, act confident, and DON'T be ashamed.....

[Kevin Slater]

You just stepped out of the shower. Make sure you have fresh breath and you are set.

 

Based on my experiences, escorts are more concerned about having clean clients that having underwear models as clients.

 

+1

 

Kevin Slater

[Lookin]

So... what do you do?

 

 

I find draping a towel over the mirror does the trick.

 

http://www.ala-parisienne.com/gmkbpn/-0xjF1Zq9KSY/TxXm-VbOp9I/AAAAAAAADNY/yMBKjM2gsmU/s1600/2061%2Bbehind%2Bthe%2Bdoor%2B%25C3%25A0%2Bla%2Bparisienne.jpg

 

I also never put in my contacts till I'm safely out the door. http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

[seeker630]

You just stepped out of the shower. Make sure you have fresh breath and you are set.

 

Based on my experiences, escorts are more concerned about having clean clients that having underwear models as clients.

 

+2

[adriano46]

You just stepped out of the shower. Make sure you have fresh breath and you are set.

 

Based on my experiences, escorts are more concerned about having clean clients that having underwear models as clients.

 

I second that - and be a client who treats the escort with respect.

[Epigonos]

At, about to be, 73 and with eleven years of escort hiring experience I have come to a number of conclusions regarding myself and my relationship with escorts: 1.) If an escort has been in this business for more than a year or two there is virtually nothing he hasn’t heard or seen. 2.) If I am clean and have nice breath I am doing just fine and am ahead of the game. 3.) If I am pleasant and considerate the escort will be the same. I just need to be nice! 4.) If I am dealing with an outstanding escort things like my age, my size, and my physical conditions won’t be an issue.

I have learned to keep in mind that I am NOT appearing in a porn film with the escort. We are getting together in private and the escorts will invariable follow my lead -- after all that is what he is being paid to do. I have learned to relax and enjoy the experience.

[leigh.bess.toad]

At, about to be, 73 and with eleven years of escort hiring experience I have come to a number of conclusions regarding myself and my relationship with escorts: 1.) If an escort has been in this business for more than a year or two there is virtually nothing he hasn’t heard or seen. 2.) If I am clean and have nice breath I am doing just fine and am ahead of the game. 3.) If I am pleasant and considerate the escort will be the same. I just need to be nice! 4.) If I am dealing with an outstanding escort things like my age, my size, and my physical conditions won’t be an issue.

I have learned to keep in mind that I am NOT appearing in a porn film with the escort. We are getting together in private and the escorts will invariable follow my lead -- after all that is what he is being paid to do. I have learned to relax and enjoy the experience.

You just stepped out of the shower. Make sure you have fresh breath and you are set.

Based on my experiences, escorts are more concerned about having clean clients that having underwear models as clients.

JB!!....you did all that cleaning up and you still "look awful"?.....sounds, instead, like a horrible case of low self esteem (which you suggested is the problem)....man up and don't worry, bud.....yes, cleanliness is more important to an escort, as Sam says.....smile, relax, talk slowly, have fun, don't rush, act confident, and DON'T be ashamed.....

 

+1, +2, and +3. All 3 are home runs and all three are dead on the money. Relax, enjoy. Treat them with respect and decency and you are already better than most of the guys they see (at least from what they tell me).

[corndog]

Being an escort -- a good, professional escort -- requires a special set of skills. I know that even if I had the look to do it, I couldn't. I'm too obsessed with the initial, superficial impression of a person, and I could never perform with someone that doesn't physically turn me on.

 

One of the most important values of a site like daddyreviews.com is that it helps us weed out the guys who are looking to make a quick buck and don't understand the real skills they'll need. I have no doubt that the real professionals here -- and they know who they are -- have a special kind of compassion that allows them to quickly find the beauty in nearly any client. I choose to believe that the true professionals aren't putting on an act, but genuinely find an attraction that we ourselves don't see when we look in the mirror. That is a special gift.

 

I salute them.

 

And, to the original poster, JB85, I think you've chosen wisely. We're all looking forward to hearing how the experience worked out for you.

[tyro]

Deep breath. Enjoy him and let him enjoy you.

Good luck!!

T

[Newly]

Hi JB85, I hope you don't take this the wrong way, and I'm sure the escorts you are seeing are top notch, but if you're the young gentleman who previously posted about having really low self esteem don't expect a visit to an escort to solve the problem. Low self esteem is a fairly complex issue that has to be worked through with a mental health professional. Simply paying someone to be with you isn't going to solve the issue because no matter how nice the escort is you know that at the end of the day it's a business transaction. I've been fortunate enough to meet some incredible men in this business, but as someone who also has self esteem issues I'm not expecting them to help me in that area. Sorry if this sounds like a downer, but my concern would be that if this doesn't help your self esteem you'll feel even worse about yourself, and that would be a pity. Hopefully I'm totally wrong and this will turn out to be a fantastic experience for you.

[instudiocity]

YIKES!!!

 

If you've hired the right escort and you're clean inside and out, why do you care???

 

The right escort is expecting you to be YOU! If the escort had your body image issues, HE WOULD NOT BE ATTEMPTING TO EARN A LIVING ESCORTING!!!

 

Why do you suddenly want to be someone else? All your objections require is proper diet, exercise, hair plugs and maybe a little plastic surgery. But you can rest assured, that he's encountered someone less desirable than your freshly washed, coiffed and brushed self.

[+ azdr0710]

based on his other thread, JB is meeting with Ross and Munroe tonight....I'm sure the duo will quickly pick up on any esteem issues and help JB to have fun

[Michael Wayne]

It is OUR job to look hot...not yours! One thing that has served me well in my many years in this biz is NOT being judgemental when it comes to a clients' looks or conditioning. Guys of ALL shapes and sizes and ages can come to me and feel not only welcome but actually good about themselves because I respond to them. Part of being a good pro and really what seperates the top tier long term guys from the ones who wash out in 6 months or a year. http://www.rentboy.com/magicmikey

[Guest Starbuck]

A big part of what I appreciate about this site is more experienced guys who have "been there, done that" reassuring the rest of us that we can do this too. Still, I'm not sure I would have entirely believed it (given my own insecurities) if I hadn't chosen, as my first hire, a man who made me totally comfortable. Reading his reviews on this site helped me pick him. I admitted to my hang-ups before we met so that I wouldn't feel the urge to say something feeble like -- "hey, did you notice I'm neither young nor thin?" -- during our time together. I completely understood that cleanliness, fresh breath and respect were attributes I could bring to that first appointment. (I was very well-scrubbed; I complimented many things about my easy-to-praise escort. My respect for him was--and is--sincere.) He reciprocated my compliments by telling me I was a good kisser and, later, a good cocksucker. I loved hearing it. I hope JB85 has had a similarly excellent experience. I know it will open the door to more good times.

 

This is a chance to say to all of you more experienced guys, thanks for the encouragement and reassurance you give to the rest of us. And to the escorts--Kevin and Mikey--who responded to this thread and echoed that encouragement, thanks to you too.

[edjames]

Not looking your best? LOWER THE DAMN LIGHTS!!!!

Seriously, a seductive atmosphere might help. Candles, romantic music or throwing a scarf over a bright lamp might help the mood, and when all else fails, BOOZE!!!

But as others have pointed out you are the employer/customer in this situation, so if you've chosen a good escort, it's up to him to make you feel special and help you enjoy the total experience.

[bigvalboy]

Not looking your best? LOWER THE DAMN LIGHTS!!!!Seriously, a seductive atmosphere might help. Candles, romantic music or throwing a scarf over a bright lamp might help the mood, and when all else fails, BOOZE!!!

But as others have pointed out you are the employer/customer in this situation, so if you've chosen a good escort, it's up to him to make you feel special and help you enjoy the total experience.

 

lol.... AND as Mikey9nola says, it's the escorts responsibility to look good and to make the client feel special, which unfortunately does not always happen with escorts. I am always squeaky clean, but realize that if I was all that hot, I wouldn't be hiring in the first place, and I doubt most escorts I have hired would have dated me if money wasn't involved. No situation is perfect, and I have to realize that I am who I am, so it is best to just relax and to try and enjoy the moment. The good escorts will make you feel like the whole experience was worth it.

[+ friendofsheila]

You can't cancel, and don't really want to anyway. You've been looking forward to this for months.

 

So... what do you do?

 

Offer the escort his money back.

[+ friendofsheila]

Offer the escort his money back.

 

Seriously, I agree with those folks who want you to be a clean, well-groomed, respectful client.

[Steven_Draker]

I have no doubt that the real professionals here -- and they know who they are -- have a special kind of compassion that allows them to quickly find the beauty in nearly any client. I choose to believe that the true professionals aren't putting on an act, but genuinely find an attraction that we ourselves don't see when we look in the mirror. That is a special gift.

 

There's so much truth in what you wrote. I couldn't have said it better myself.

[Professor Mitch]

And that is also why those "true professional" have multiple repeat clients, great reputations, and a loyal following here...

[JT Brooklyn]

You take your shower, scrub every inch of your body, including up your bum, wash your hair, get out of the shower and look in the mirror... and scream. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!! You are about to see an escort that you're excited to meet but instead of looking you're best, you look TER-RIB-LE. Now, you've never had very good self-esteem to begin with and Mother Nature has not been kind to you anyway. You're completely out of shape, your hairline's receding, you could really use a tan, your face looks a gajillion years old...

 

You can't cancel, and don't really want to anyway. You've been looking forward to this for months.

 

So... what do you do? You hope that your escort likes Personality... because your looks are G-O-N-E.

 

Anyone ever feel like this before seeing an escort? I'm seeing mine today and boy do I look awful.

 

A real "Pro Working Guy" learns to deal with whatever is on the other side of the door! Good/Bad/Ugly

 

As long as he doesn't look the opposite of his AD your ahead of this Game!

[+ purplekow]

One thing that the escort does expect though is to leave the session with his earnings. One needs to be adept at paying for the services. Bad things may happen if the payment portion of your encounter is not handled properly. If the escorts left you with a smile on your face, you should do the same for them.