Best option when there's no chemistry

[Tighty]

Here's the hypothetical situation. The client meets the escort and quickly determines that there's no chemistry. There's no deceptive advertising on the escort's part and the client is willing to pay the agreed amount. Which of the following options is best as far as the escort goes?

 

1. Client politely says sorry this is not going to work, pays and leaves/ask escort to leave.

2. Client goes through with the plan and pretends to have a good time.

3. Clients comes up with some reason say diarrhea and suggests and goes to dinner with the escort instead, for the same duration of scheduled time.

4. Any other options?

 

If I were the client, I like option 1. However somehow I find it insulting to the escort. I know if I were the escort the direct rejection would be ego bruising to me.

[bigvalboy]

Here's the hypothetical situation. The client meets the escort and quickly determines that there's no chemistry. There's no deceptive advertising on the escort's part and the client is willing to pay the agreed amount. Which of the following options is best as far as the escort goes?

 

1. Client politely says sorry this is not going to work, pays and leaves/ask escort to leave.

2. Client goes through with the plan and pretends to have a good time.

3. Clients comes up with some reason say diarrhea and suggests and goes to dinner with the escort instead, for the same duration of scheduled time.

4. Any other options?

 

If I were the client, I like option 1. However somehow I find it insulting to the escort. I know if I were the escort the direct rejection would be ego bruising to me.

 

#1...can't guarantee that I would pay the full amount of the hire, but I would probably pay the escort a substantial sum given the fact that according to your scenario the escort did absolutely nothing wrong. I have always felt that if the problem is with me, then the escort deserve a good portion of his fee if not all of it. I would feel that I had taken up the escorts time, and possibly prevented him from engaging in another hire for the evening.

[rvwnsd]

#1...can't guarantee that I would pay the full amount of the hire, but I would probably pay the escort a substantial sum given the fact that according to your scenario the escort did absolutely nothing wrong. I have always felt that if the problem is with me, then the escort deserve a good portion of his fee if not all of it. I would feel that I had taken up the escorts time, and possibly prevented him from engaging in another hire for the evening.

 

I agree with BVB. I don't like options 2 and 3 and I can't think of any #4s.

 

In fact, I had a situation like this. In addition to having no chemistry, the hotel I was staying at used some pungent cleaner or room deodorizer that triggered my allergies. When the guy asked if I was enjoying myself (it was obvious I wasn't) I told him that I didn't think there was much chemistry between us and asked him what he thought was a fair price for the time he was there. He thought it was fair not to charge me anything, but I suggested $100. He took the money, but when I checked out the next day the desk clerk told me that there was an envelope for me. It contained the $100 I gave the escort the previous night.

[Epigonos]

I really find this thread difficult to address. Over the last eleven years I have hired dozens if not hundreds of guys. Yet in all of those encounters I have NEVER known immediately, upon meeting the guy, that there was a lack of chemistry. I always share either lunch or dinner first with whoever I hire. After finishing the meal we return to either his or my place for a couple of hours of intimate time together. It is at this point that I have discovered, in a number of cases that chemistry was lacking at the physical level. By that time, I believed it was too late to put a halt to the action and thus I finished the appointment. Now to be fair these experiences weren’t awful, they were just NOT very exciting and/or fun. I finished the appointment, paid the escort his fee, thanked him, and made of note not to repeat.

[MiamiLooker]

Here's the hypothetical situation. The client meets the escort and quickly determines that there's no chemistry. There's no deceptive advertising on the escort's part and the client is willing to pay the agreed amount. Which of the following options is best as far as the escort goes?

 

1. Client politely says sorry this is not going to work, pays and leaves/ask escort to leave.

2. Client goes through with the plan and pretends to have a good time.

3. Clients comes up with some reason say diarrhea and suggests and goes to dinner with the escort instead, for the same duration of scheduled time.

4. Any other options?

 

If I were the client, I like option 1. However somehow I find it insulting to the escort. I know if I were the escort the direct rejection would be ego bruising to me.

 

Would you go to dinner with someone experiencing a bout of diarrhea?

[Tighty]

Would you go to dinner with someone experiencing a bout of diarrhea?

 

Okay, how about the reason being hemorrhoid?

[Tighty]

I agree with BVB. I don't like options 2 and 3 and I can't think of any #4s.

 

In fact, I had a situation like this. In addition to having no chemistry, the hotel I was staying at used some pungent cleaner or room deodorizer that triggered my allergies. When the guy asked if I was enjoying myself (it was obvious I wasn't) I told him that I didn't think there was much chemistry between us and asked him what he thought was a fair price for the time he was there. He thought it was fair not to charge me anything, but I suggested $100. He took the money, but when I checked out the next day the desk clerk told me that there was an envelope for me. It contained the $100 I gave the escort the previous night.

 

I feel bad for the escort.

[devonhunter]

Y'all really do go out of your way sometimes to invent shit that I have never even heard of. Just saying: Relax and enjoy yourself. Stop thinking so goddamned much. LOL

[Frequentflier]

Would you go to dinner with someone experiencing a bout of diarrhea?

 

Yes, without him!

[Frequentflier]

Over the last eleven years I have hired dozens if not hundreds of guys.

 

Nice, I never thought at my advanced age I'd get to feel like a virgin again! Many thanks

[instudiocity]

Y'all really do go out of your way sometimes to invent shit that I have never even heard of. Just saying: Relax and enjoy yourself. Stop thinking so goddamned much. LOL

Oh, Gawd, I am SO in LUST for you right now!!!

[instudiocity]

I really find this thread difficult to address. Over the last eleven years I have hired dozens if not hundreds of guys.

Nice, I never thought at my advanced age I'd get to feel like a virgin again! Many thanks

FF, it's just easier to yell 'SLUT' at the top of your lungs, even if BRAGGART might be more appropriate!!!

[actor61]

Y'all really do go out of your way sometimes to invent shit that I have never even heard of. Just saying: Relax and enjoy yourself. Stop thinking so goddamned much. LOL

 

I agree with you 100% - waaaaaaaaaaaay too much over thinking. If the escort is attractive, hasn't lied about his attributes and is friendly, then just do it. There's always SOMEthing fun to do even if the "chemistry" isn't right. You're not interviewing potential life partners - you're getting laid!!

[unsub2O17]

I agree with you 100% - waaaaaaaaaaaay too much over thinking. If the escort is attractive, hasn't lied about his attributes and is friendly, then just do it. There's always SOMEthing fun to do even if the "chemistry" isn't right. You're not interviewing potential life partners - you're getting laid!!

 

+1. And besides, if an "good" escort can find something to like about almost any client, why can't a "good and talented" client do the same with most escorts??

[bigvalboy]

+1. And besides, if an "good" escort can find something to like about almost any client, why can't a "good and talented" client do the same with most escorts??

 

Uuuuhhh, It's complicated.....

[Steven_Draker]

Didn't you retire from hiring, bvb?

[bigvalboy]

Didn't you retire from hiring, bvb?

 

Uuuuhhh, it's complicated...

[Newly]

Got to say I'm feeling bad for the escort too. Maybe I've been extremely lucky, but the ones I've seen have been super nice human beings. I understand it's the nature of the job, and there's no accounting for tastes/attraction, but people here seem to expect escorts to be able to be with anyone (regardless of looks, fitness, weight, age, whatever) and if they don't they say terrible things about them. I realize that it's their job and they're being paid, and I'm not a big believer in telling fibs, but it could really be a blow to an escort's self esteem to tell him that you're not into him. Wouldn't a white lie "sorry...just started taking some new meds and it's not working" be a nicer way of not hurting someone needlessly? As for payment, assuming we're sticking to the original scenario and the escort was in no way at fault and had not lied about appearances, etc. why shouldn't he be paid the full amount? He complied with his end of the deal, I certainly wouldn't make him take a hit because he just didn't turn me on. Anyhow, I wish I knew who had returned the $100. Talk about someone with a sense of ethics and honor.

[Tighty]

Got to say I'm feeling bad for the escort too. Maybe I've been extremely lucky, but the ones I've seen have been super nice human beings. I understand it's the nature of the job, and there's no accounting for tastes/attraction, but people here seem to expect escorts to be able to be with anyone (regardless of looks, fitness, weight, age, whatever) and if they don't they say terrible things about them. I realize that it's their job and they're being paid, and I'm not a big believer in telling fibs, but it could really be a blow to an escort's self esteem to tell him that you're not into him. Wouldn't a white lie "sorry...just started taking some new meds and it's not working" be a nicer way of not hurting someone needlessly? As for payment, assuming we're sticking to the original scenario and the escort was in no way at fault and had not lied about appearances, etc. why shouldn't he be paid the full amount? He complied with his end of the deal, I certainly wouldn't make him take a hit because he just didn't turn me on. Anyhow, I wish I knew who had returned the $100. Talk about someone with a sense of ethics and honor.

 

Yay finally someone on my wavelength! Thank you for option #4, the best so far: Sorry my doctor prescribed me Effexor the other day and it totally killed my boner. Here's the agreed fee. Thank you.

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

+1

 

When the chemistry isn't there, I say "You know, I think I'm getting a cold. We better cut this short". I always pay.

 

But I'm a sucker for mothering... If one of them ever insists on staying to make me a cup of tea, I'm sure I'll make a sudden recovery. (So far, this level of boy friend experience has eluded me.)

[Guy Fawkes]

5. Be honest that your uncomfortable, invite them to dinner, then pay them for their time.

[adriano46]

5. Be honest that your uncomfortable, invite them to dinner, then pay them for their time.

 

I like this solution.

 

As I get older (but sometimes not necessarily wiser in hiring practices) I find that the misses are more than the really memorable hits with many guys. I have hired guys who come highly recommended and when they showed up at the door, I knew right away "This will not work for me.." but soldiered on with the appointment (and have learned now NOT to book 2 hour appointments with a guy I am meeting for the first time.)

 

BUT - recently (mentioned in other threads) met 4 spectacular guys at the same time, each who brought chemistry and more to the encounter. I felt like I won the lottery, and wished I had many more hours (and more $$$) to have kept them for 4 or 5 hours or even an overnight.

 

As for Daddy's advice, I have actually done that twice in the past. The guy came over; I knew it was not going anywhere and suggested - if he wanted - that we finish the appointment over a dinner that covered their time.

[Tighty]

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As for Daddy's advice, I have actually done that twice in the past. The guy came over; I knew it was not going anywhere and suggested - if he wanted - that we finish the appointment over a dinner that covered their time.

 

So did they accept?

[+ poolboy48220]

5. Be honest that your uncomfortable, invite them to dinner, then pay them for their time.

True, but in my case, if I've found that lack of chemistry to the point where I can't follow up through the appointment, then I expect I really would not want to spend another hour with them over dinner. I'd pay him, thank him, and say goodbye.

[Guest boiworship08]

Here's the hypothetical situation. The client meets the escort and quickly determines that there's no chemistry. There's no deceptive advertising on the escort's part and the client is willing to pay the agreed amount. Which of the following options is best as far as the escort goes?

 

1. Client politely says sorry this is not going to work, pays and leaves/ask escort to leave.

2. Client goes through with the plan and pretends to have a good time.

3. Clients comes up with some reason say diarrhea and suggests and goes to dinner with the escort instead, for the same duration of scheduled time.

4. Any other options?

 

If I were the client, I like option 1. However somehow I find it insulting to the escort. I know if I were the escort the direct rejection would be ego bruising to me.

 

As long as they get the fee, which I feel is the best option, their ego won't suffer. They're in it or the money, not their ego gratification.

 

As for number three, I don't think suffering from diarrhea would suggest a dinner is a good idea!