Best option when there's no chemistry

[tom1980]

I use the experiences where I don't initially feel any chemistry to try something different. I figure I've got nothing to lose, so why not try to turn the session into something fun. This usually happens when an escort I haven't met before is really aggressive with trying to get me undressed and into bed. I usually say something like, "Hold on a minute. Let's chat and get to know each other." Then I'll ask a few questions. I try to avoid anything too personal and will instead focus on general things like where the escort lives or travels, what he likes about certain places we have both lived in or traveled to, etc. After a few minutes, I'll turn the conversation to sex and ask about likes/dislikes. Sometimes a fun topic is worst experiences the escort has had with a client and worst experiences I've had with an escort.

 

After several minutes of chatting, usually we both start feeling more comfortable. If the guy displays a sense of humor, then the appointment is almost sure to work out. In fact, I've had some truly memorable experiences that started off poorly. In those cases, the escort has really engaged in conversation, and we've opened up about sexual fantasies and I've decided to try something new or something I don't often do. There's one escort in particular who I meet every time I travel to his city. The first time we met, things started off slow, and I didn't think it would work out. But he opened up and started talking about his sexual fantasies and asked me if I wanted to role play. I said yes because if I didn't enjoy it, it wouldn't be any worse than the awkwardness of the first 10 minutes I was with him and I could stop at any time. Writing this makes me realize it's been too long since I've traveled to see this guy.

 

My strategy doesn't always work. If the escort won't talk, gives one word answers, acts sullen, or otherwise makes me feel like he doesn't care about how I want to spend the time I'm paying for, the escort is no longer blameless in my eyes, and I have no problem telling him it isn't going to work out. When that happens, I offer a discounted fee for the amount of time we have spent together. I've never spent more than 10-15 minutes with a guy before cutting an appointment short, and I generally offer half the one-hour fee.

[adriano46]

So did they accept?

 

Yes - it was in Europe and things were a little more civilized at the time -- one was actually famished and appreciated the meal very much -- at the least I got quite the nice "goodnight kiss".