Help Fluffy Suck Cock without Gagging!

[+ FreshFluff]

So many guys here talk about how much they love sucking cock. Can you help me do it?

 

I'm NOT talking about deep throating or taking 8 inchers here. I'm talking about taking a 6" cock 4 inches into my mouth.

 

I have a small mouth that doesn't open wide, and my gag reflex is shallow. I bought a 7" long, 5" circumference dildo and tried sucking that. I barely had the head in before my gag reflex went off.

 

Throat sprays: I heard these can help. Also, I've heard the regular kind you buy at the drugstore is better than the kind made for oral sex. Has anyone tried these? How can you keep the guy's dick from getting numb too.

 

Or are there other tips that could help me?

 

Also: Supposedly, you can get a guy off by just flicking your tongue on the frenulum for a while. Does that really work or does it become densitized as you keep touching/licking it?

[+ honcho]

I was told that taking a really deep breath helps suppress the reflect and that did seem consonant with my experience

thereafter ...

 

Thinking of vowels like "Oh" instead of "Ah" instead of "Eee" will tend to drop the back of your tongue.

 

(Being a woodwind player also helps open up your throat ... Maybe Mr. Bess Toad can comment on whether singing does?)

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

So many guys here talk about how much they love sucking cock. Can you help me do it?

 

I'm NOT talking about deep throating or taking 8 inchers here. I'm talking about taking a 6" cock 4 inches into my mouth.

 

I have a small mouth that doesn't open wide, and my gag reflex is shallow. I bought a 7" long, 5" circumference dildo and tried sucking that. I barely had the head in before my gag reflex went off.

 

Throat sprays: I heard these can help. Also, I've heard the regular kind you buy at the drugstore is better than the kind made for oral sex. Has anyone tried these? How can you keep the guy's dick from getting numb too.

 

Or are there other tips that could help me?

 

Also: Supposedly, you can get a guy off by just flicking your tongue on the frenulum for a while. Does that really work or does it become densitized as you keep touching/licking it?

 

F...

 

A girl's best friend is learning how to use her hand and mouth at the same time. You can essentially extend the feeling of him being in your mouth by having your hand at your lips. Put your fist up to your mouth now as though you're holding a mic and you'll understand the length you'll add. A blow/handjob feels incredible when done correctly and passionately (which is a key thing here as well, since many guys actually want their partner to enjoy oral sex and not act like Shelley Winters coming up for air, and if you're with someone who DOESN'T, consider looking elsewhere).

 

Play with his nipples, suck his balls and even lick his ass while you're paying attention to his cock. It's not all about how much fits in your mouth... it's about how well you use it and what else you are doing. Practice on your fingers or a soft object. Don't use anything hard like rubber or silicone, which doesn't help your brain equate "this object being inserted = pleasure."

 

As far as the frenulum thing, it will get old. Unless he's über-sensitive, he's not going to come that way. In fact, you may overstimulate him where it takes longer for him to get off. Use a regular amount of pressure and medium speed. He can tell you to go slower/faster or loosen/tighten your grip. Medium is close to what's going to feel right for him and you can add or subtract small increments. Gimmicky "Cosmo"-type things don't typically work when you're sucking cock. You can hum all you want or any of the other 99 Things They Say Will Orally Please Your Man, and all it's going to do is make him try to come so you'll stop humming. Seriously, learn to use your hands.

 

Most importantly, give him time to adjust to what you're doing. Approaching orgasm is like climbing a muddy hill sometimes. If you suddenly switch gears, you're going to slide backwards. If you give him some time to get worked up, you're going to win the prize (or have a messy blouse). And if he says: "oh my God, that feels so good," do not suddenly change what you're doing.

 

Oh, and one other thing... make things slick. Do not try to get him off with dry mouth or a minimum amount of saliva. Get used to the taste of lube, particularly silicone, which will help you immeasurably.

 

Now go take some pictures and show us what you've learned.

[+ FreshFluff]

Thanks, Chris.

 

I'm reasonably ok at hand jobs, so I know what you mean about climbing a muddy hill. But since guys don't consider hand jobs "real sex" and I'm not ready for intercourse, I need to learn to do oral. But yeah, the guys all want me to enjoy it.

 

I know exactly what you mean about a muddy hill. I've never had an issue with guys coming too fast, but that may be because the guys I date are all older.

 

Oh, and one other thing... make things slick. Do not try to get him off with dry mouth or a minimum amount of saliva. Get used to the taste of lube, particularly silicone, which will help you immeasurably.

 

OK, this is important. I've used lube or hand cream for hand jobs many times but haven't heard of using it for oral. I have a dry mouth so that may be part of the issue. I thought that it was just to make the dick taste better or left over from other activities. Do you put it on while doing a hand job and then start oral afterwards?

[+ FreshFluff]

Thinking of vowels like "Oh" instead of "Ah" instead of "Eee" will tend to drop the back of your tongue.

 

Thanks, honcho! I'd think that "ah" was the best since that's what doctors use when they put that stick down your throat?

 

As for music, I have no talent there.

[tyro]

Fresh,

Stop analyzing. You're just touching him, that's all. Granted, it's not your normal, everyday touch (well, not YET...) but please don't worry yourself. Chris has a LOT of good suggestions here. I know MANY of our boyzes will chime in shortly. Just pay attention to HIM in those moments because what works for 8,000 others may not for him.

T

[+ FreshFluff]

Fresh,

Stop analyzing. You're just touching him, that's all. Granted, it's not your normal, everyday touch (well, not YET...) but please don't worry yourself. Chris has a LOT of good suggestions here. I know MANY of our boyzes will chime in shortly.

 

Tyro, I see what you're saying, but I can't remember ever making a guy cum through oral sex--and I'd really like to. Hand jobs are fun but just don't feel as intimate.

 

Just pay attention to HIM in those moments because what works for 8,000 others may not for him.

T

 

True, but a few tips can't hurt!

[bigvalboy]

F...

 

A girl's best friend is learning how to use her hand and mouth at the same time. You can essentially extend the feeling of him being in your mouth by having your hand at your lips. Put your fist up to your mouth now as though you're holding a mic and you'll understand the length you'll add. A blow/handjob feels incredible when done correctly and passionately (which is a key thing here as well, since many guys actually want their partner to enjoy oral sex and not act like Shelley Winters coming up for air, and if you're with someone who DOESN'T, consider looking elsewhere).

 

Play with his nipples, suck his balls and even lick his ass while you're paying attention to his cock. It's not all about how much fits in your mouth... it's about how well you use it and what else you are doing. Practice on your fingers or a soft object. Don't use anything hard like rubber or silicone, which doesn't help your brain equate "this object being inserted = pleasure."

 

As far as the frenulum thing, it will get old. Unless he's über-sensitive, he's not going to come that way. In fact, you may overstimulate him where it takes longer for him to get off. Use a regular amount of pressure and medium speed. He can tell you to go slower/faster or loosen/tighten your grip. Medium is close to what's going to feel right for him and you can add or subtract small increments. Gimmicky "Cosmo"-type things don't typically work when you're sucking cock. You can hum all you want or any of the other 99 Things They Say Will Orally Please Your Man, and all it's going to do is make him try to come so you'll stop humming. Seriously, learn to use your hands.

 

Most importantly, give him time to adjust to what you're doing. Approaching orgasm is like climbing a muddy hill sometimes. If you suddenly switch gears, you're going to slide backwards. If you give him some time to get worked up, you're going to win the prize (or have a messy blouse). And if he says: "oh my God, that feels so good," do not suddenly change what you're doing.

 

Oh, and one other thing... make things slick. Do not try to get him off with dry mouth or a minimum amount of saliva. Get used to the taste of lube, particularly silicone, which will help you immeasurably.

 

Now go take some pictures and show us what you've learned.

 

I am literally sitting here saying to myself...those are perfect instructions. FF you follow what Chris is telling you, and you will be putting this all on "youtube"....BTW, have you heard about my pool party?

[Diverdan]

I/we haven't heard about your pool party !!! Please share,... it will probably be worth a flight to FLL

[+ FreshFluff]

I am literally sitting here saying to myself...those are perfect instructions. FF you follow what Chris is telling you, and you will be putting this all on "youtube"....BTW, have you heard about my pool party?

 

I will! Pool party? Tell Fluffy all about it!

[tom1980]

My additional tip is to move your tongue around. If you can learn to stroke with your tongue as your mouth moves up and down, it helps you generate more saliva and the tongue movement feels really good. Also, medium pressure is definitely the way to go unless the guy tells you different. Sucking too hard or trying to push your lips together too tightly often causes teeth to get in the way, which can cause the guy to fall almost all the way back to the bottom of that muddy hill. Consistent pressure and strokes (both with lips and tongue) allow the guy to focus on what is feeling good and steadily climb toward orgasm.

 

One more thing, for me oral sex isn't all about moving toward the conclusion. Some teasing (e.g., just licking certain areas like the frenulum or really soft kisses while using your hand in other ways) can generate more excitement and anticipation and make the climb up the hill easier when you switch gears to move toward the finish.

[bigvalboy]

I/we haven't heard about your pool party !!! Please share,... it will probably be worth a flight to FLL

 

Sorry DD and FF, it was sort of an inside joke that went bad. The pool party was in reference to a thread that Chris started (at my suggestion mind you) entitled "List ten escorts you would like to spend the last weekend of your life with" and everyone just began talking about it as if it were a pool party. SO no I am not really having a pool party, though not a bad idea, and yes I failed at being funny....again.

[biguy]

how about a virtual pool party?

[+ FreshFluff]

Question for everyone: Do you always have your lips in that "toothless person with dentures out" position to cover the teeth? That limits what you can do, so I'm wondering if there is another possible way that doesn't cause biting.

 

Great ideas, Tom--the tongue thing especially. I just tried it on my finger.

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

Question for everyone: Do you always have your lips in that "toothless person with dentures out" position to cover the teeth? That limits what you can do, so I'm wondering if there is another possible way that doesn't cause biting.

 

Great ideas, Tom--the tongue thing especially. I just tried it on my finger.

 

Form an O with your mouth. Keep your jaw relaxed. What you should do is hire someone for an hour and watch how they give head in person on a friend.

[tom1980]

The deeper and faster you go, the harder it is to keep your teeth out of the way. With a little practice, you can learn to keep a steady rhythm going as far down as you feel comfortable without your teeth getting in the way. I have a feeling some lucky guy is going to be thrilled when you ask to practice your technique.

[Quest]

F...

 

A girl's best friend is learning how to use her hand and mouth at the same time. You can essentially extend the feeling of him being in your mouth by having your hand at your lips. Put your fist up to your mouth now as though you're holding a mic and you'll understand the length you'll add. A blow/handjob feels incredible when done correctly and passionately (which is a key thing here as well, since many guys actually want their partner to enjoy oral sex and not act like Shelley Winters coming up for air, and if you're with someone who DOESN'T, consider looking elsewhere).

 

Play with his nipples, suck his balls and even lick his ass while you're paying attention to his cock. It's not all about how much fits in your mouth... it's about how well you use it and what else you are doing. Practice on your fingers or a soft object. Don't use anything hard like rubber or silicone, which doesn't help your brain equate "this object being inserted = pleasure."

 

As far as the frenulum thing, it will get old. Unless he's über-sensitive, he's not going to come that way. In fact, you may overstimulate him where it takes longer for him to get off. Use a regular amount of pressure and medium speed. He can tell you to go slower/faster or loosen/tighten your grip. Medium is close to what's going to feel right for him and you can add or subtract small increments. Gimmicky "Cosmo"-type things don't typically work when you're sucking cock. You can hum all you want or any of the other 99 Things They Say Will Orally Please Your Man, and all it's going to do is make him try to come so you'll stop humming. Seriously, learn to use your hands.

 

Most importantly, give him time to adjust to what you're doing. Approaching orgasm is like climbing a muddy hill sometimes. If you suddenly switch gears, you're going to slide backwards. If you give him some time to get worked up, you're going to win the prize (or have a messy blouse). And if he says: "oh my God, that feels so good," do not suddenly change what you're doing.

 

Oh, and one other thing... make things slick. Do not try to get him off with dry mouth or a minimum amount of saliva. Get used to the taste of lube, particularly silicone, which will help you immeasurably.

 

Now go take some pictures and show us what you've learned.

 

nice.........chris are you busy later tonight can you like show me what you mean

[Decatur Guy]

All good advice, and I'll throw in mine: Don't worry about the gagging too much. I'd even so far as to say a little or moderate amount of gagging can have positive benefits:

 

1. It kicks up a lot of extra saliva.

 

2. For some guys, it's a turn-on to know you just made the person sucking your cock gag.

 

Now, I'm not talking about wretching/about to throw up/massive coughing. I'm talking about quick brief gag.

 

Next time you're sucking and it happens, I suggest pulling completely off the cock, swallow, take a few gulps of air and get your composure back and then immediately go back down on the cock, medium speed, up and down edging a little further down until you reach the point where you gagged. See if you can attain the same place without gagging.

 

It might take a few tries, but I bet you'll reach the point where you can comfortably and reliable reach the point on the dick that made you initially gag without doing so. When you finally do that, try going down a little more. If you gag, just pull back up and start again.

 

Finally, try different angles. Sometimes I can deep throat a cock in one position but not in another.