how to handle stood up?

[discreet]

So I recently booked a relatively well-known escort. He was really nice when we texted so I was just expecting a really good time. But he didn't show up! I am really mad now and I just don't understand why escorts would do that...Any tips on how to handle the situation? It ruins everything, it wastes my time and I could have helped someone else if he was not showing up...

[Guest countryboywny]

The first thing would be to check with the escort and find out what happened. He could have a very legitimate reason for missing you. Pending the outcome of the first thing, you should submit a "no-show" review to Daddy.

[down_to_business]

It really sucks when an escort doesn't show up. It happens a whole lot more than one would think. There is no excuse to no call no show on someone (be it client or escort). Even if you are able to get an "answer" from this escort, there will always be some part of you deep down that won't believe the excuse.

 

In my opinion, the best course of action is to simply let it go and move on. If you were not swindled (i.e. through prepayment or deposit etc-- and I hope you weren't) then there is nothing to review. Personally, the reason anyone shows such indifference to your time, is reason enough not to give them another chance. Someone can always call or text you if they do have an emergency. More than likely they forgot, had a scheduling conflict, just didn't feel like it, or had a better offer.

[bigvalboy]

I agree with D2B. I can't think of an excuse for a no show, since a quick text or phone call would have sufficed. Since he doesn't respect your time, I would be hard pressed to give him another chance.

 

If it was me, I would probably send a quick text mentioning the missed appointment. That way you are giving him the benefit of the doubt, sometimes things do happen, but anything short of a slam dunk excuse, as D2B says, while it might irritate the hell out of you, it is best to just move one.

[maninsoma]

It's happened to me a few times over a years. I don't mind so much when things are still in the planning phase and they fall apart (though it is a little strange when someone gets to the point of confirming a specific time and they drops out of communication), but when there's a specific day/time selected and they don't show up or call it really annoys me. If they were guys who only ran ads on Backpage or Craigslist, I might conclude that they're just game players. But this has happened with a couple of guys reviewed here who have ongoing ads on Rentboy and the like. It just seems like a very strange way to run one's business to schedule appointments and they not only not keep them, but not even cancel them.

 

I agree that it's best just to move on. There's no way I'd want to give someone a second chance under those circumstances.

[+ sf westcoaster]

I have only had one no-show in all my hiring years and I simply moved on. I don't think there is any value in pursuing the reason.

[+ azdr0710]

you're angry now because you were psyched to meet the guy, have some fun, check him out in person, the whole bit....and he didn't show....a real punch in the stomach.....as suggested, if you haven't already, call or text him and ask what happened, is everything alright, etc....if he even replies, it'll be some lame excuse, probably.....or, gee, he may offer a make-up at no charge!

 

ultimately, this is an unimportant thing to let bother you....you now know his style of operation and can advise others if an inquiry is made about him....would've been nice to see him in person, but.....

[Frequentflier]

Are no show reviews possible? If not, how can the rest of us find out about the guys that "no show" so we can avoid the same experience as the OP?

[discreet]

Thanks for the comments. I agree, I have to move on but it just sucks so bad when you think that the escort values his time at 250-300USD rates but still shows no respect to someone who is willing to pay that amount. Logically (again, this is an average, I am not saying this should apply to everyone), most of the clients value their time more than that rate, that is why they are willing to pay that rate for the time. Then how about the lost value when clients spent on this game...

 

Anyhow, I think the policy is that no reviews are accepted for no show-up. I couldn't think of a better way to avoid no showups except hiring someone reputable.

[Michael Wayne]

Sorry that happened. Things do come up. It has happened to me only two or three times in my career that i could not call.......acccident....family emergency....boyfriend going into a jealous rage...lol but what is far more common is a client no showing and not calling me. That is VERY common and we escorts have to learn to gracefully deal with it. I learned early on that to bitch, gripe and complain on this forum or anywhere is bad biz! So I just move on....

[sdvjm]

While things do come up in life, there really isn't any reason why one can't make a courtesy call, or send a courtesy text/email I'd they aren't going to make a prior confirmed appointment. I find it highly disrespectful if anyone, client or escort, no call/no shows.

[maninsoma]

The only valid excuse, from my perspective, is incapacitation. If I learned someone had a horrible accident or was assaulted or some such thing, of course I would understand him not contacting me. If someone is incapacitated due to drug use, I wouldn't excuse it but I would be happy that I dodged the bullet of hiring someone whose life is that out of control. Anything else really falls under either the category "I had a change of plans" or "I changed my mind," both of which necessitate, at a minimum, a call in advance to indicate that.

 

While things do come up in life, there really isn't any reason why one can't make a courtesy call, or send a courtesy text/email I'd they aren't going to make a prior confirmed appointment. I find it highly disrespectful if anyone, client or escort, no call/no shows.