Topher Dimaggio. Does he escort?

[hypothetically]

Aren't you charming...

 

Why, thank you!

[caliguy]

 

I guess if Topher never had the stomach to escort 10 years he won't do it now but if might change. I don't understand guys who do porno but don't escort, specially considering unfortunately their career will in the future stop them from getting other jobs. I guess not everybody is cut off to escort even if he take Viagra! Just guys can't do it!

I always get a kick out of the porn stars that look down on escorts. Umm..ok. You both get paid for sex. Yeah, except one has a camera filming it. I guess you could say the same of trophy wives/husbands too.

 

Honestly it does seem weird but then why should anyone expect a porn star is going to be great in bed with you and not the hottie that he usually gets paid to be with. I think escorting is more the fall back position after the film work dries up.

[caliguy]

Why, thank you!

Anytime

[marylander1940]

I always get a kick out of the porn stars that look down on escorts. Umm..ok. You both get paid for sex. Yeah, except one has a camera filming it. I guess you could say the same of trophy wives/husbands too.

 

Honestly it does seem weird but then why should anyone expect a porn star is going to be great in bed with you and not the hottie that he usually gets paid to be with. I think escorting is the fall back position after the film work dries up.

 

I have noticed that kind of attitude too... Some say they don’t fully take advantage of their fame escorting (not even selectively to big spenders or guys they “prescreened”) because of legal issues...

I don’t buy it!

[caliguy]

I have noticed that kind of attitude too... Some say they don’t fully take advantage of their fame escorting (not even selectively to big spenders or guys they “prescreened”) because of legal issues...

I don’t buy it!

I remember this recent thread. Kurtis was swearing up and down his BFF doesn't escort!! This was only promo. Well, guess he did behind his back. At least he's now saying twice a month for big spenders.

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/pierce-paris-las-vegas-real.153071/#post-1817623

[hypothetically]

I always get a kick out of the porn stars that look down on escorts. Umm..ok. You both get paid for sex. Yeah, except one has a camera filming it. I guess you could say the same of trophy wives/husbands too.

 

Honestly it does seem weird but then why should anyone expect a porn star is going to be great in bed with you and not the hottie that he usually gets paid to be with. I think escorting is more the fall back position after the film work dries up.

 

I’ve pursued working exclusively as an escort and never ventured into porn for the simple fact that I do not require the validation most young men seek from filming. I’ve always felt one pursuing a career as a porn actor wants the accompanying visibility, access, the “fame,” the attention. I feel the escort, who works exclusively as an escort keeps himself at a slight remove from the vortex that is the porn industry. That is not to say that escorting is less treacherous territory by any means, but I certainly do not feel gay men, already susceptible to mental health issues, benefit any from being a porn actor. Consider all of the unfortunate suicides that have occurred in the industry.

 

I do not look down upon porn actors but I do feel those who escort bear an exclusive element that no porn actor can ever obtain once his first film goes live. The world over has digitally fucked you once you’ve had sex on film. Escorts can say, not everyone has access to them, nor has everyone had them (digitally), and they, we, get to choose who has access to us. Our privacy is still very much in our hands. There is still exclusivity, there is mystery, and the only expectation the escort has to live up to is the one a prospective client has created in his mind, not one that is meticulously crafted and that can be streamed on PornHub innumerable times until the allure is gone.

 

Has nothing to do with resting on one’s laurels when the porn runs dry, and while a valid point, everyone’s reasons are individual. I think porn actors look down upon escorts because it requires a skillset they do not have. And if this forum is to be a receipt, reviews of porn actors are usually less than stellar. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.

Edited November 21, 2019 by hypothetically

[Epigonos]

As a longtime observer of both the porn industry and the male escort business I have come to a number of, what I consider, interesting conclusions. The porn world is an extremely dangerous one for participants. If one looks back over the last fifteen or twenty year it is astounding how many porn performers have committed suicide or died of drug overdoses. The porn industry is riddled with drugs and tends to devoir its own. A porn performer it at his peak/most valuable when he makes his first film/DVD – from then on it is, in most cases, a downhill trajectory. Two “stars”/performers come immediately to my mind, Josh Weston and Mathew Rush.

 

Josh Weston first danced at the Nob Hill in San Francisco and began escorting at about the same time. I met him just after his first Falcon DVD was released. He was a very sweet guy who was actually rather shy. He virtually gave up escorting to pursue a career in porn. It was NOT a pleasant experience watching his descent into oblivion. He eventually died young, in his sleep, of a variety of too many drugs.

 

Mathew Rush was a poster boy for the porn performer who was extremely disdainful of guys who escorted. He insisted in numerous interviews that he was an actor not a prostitute. Yet as his porn career waned he ventured into escorting on several occasions but seemed unable to make a success of it. He has also had serious problems with drugs and if I remember correctly has had a couple of run ins with the law.

 

Frankly the real money is in escorting; NOT in porn. However, a number of guy have successfully used porn in order to promote a career in escorting. There are a number of guys, who post on this site, who have had very successful career escorting for five, ten, fifteen or more years. They are intelligent, personable, mostly drug free, damn good businessmen and they invest their earnings in the future. I have great respect for these guy. They have given me an enormous amount pleasure.

Edited November 21, 2019 by Epigonos

[marylander1940]

As a longtime observer of both the porn industry and the male escort business I have come to a number of, what I consider, interesting conclusions. The porn world is an extremely dangerous one for participants. If one looks back over the last fifteen or twenty year it is astounding how many porn performers have committed suicide or died of drug overdoses. The porn industry is riddled with drugs and tends to devoir its own. A porn performer it at his peak/most valuable when he makes his first film/DVD – from then on it is, in most cases, a downhill trajectory. Two “stars”/performers come immediately to my mind, Josh Weston and Mathew Rush.

 

Josh Weston first danced at the Nob Hill in San Francisco and began escorting at about the same time. I met him just after his first Falcon DVD was released. He was a very sweet guy who was actually rather shy. He virtually give up escorting to pursue a career in porn. It was NOT a pleasant experience watching his descent into oblivion. He eventually died young, in his sleep, of a variety of too many drugs.

 

Mathew Rush was a poster boy for the porn perform who was extremely disdainful of guys who escorted. He insisted in numerous interviews that he was an actor not a prostitute. Yet at his porn career waned he ventured into escorting on several occasions but seemed unable to be a success at it. He has also had serious problems with drugs and if I remember correctly has had a couple of run ins with the law.

 

Frankly the real money is in escorting; NOT in porn. However, a number of guy have successfully used porn in order to promote a career in escorting. There are a number of guys, who post on this site, who have had very successful career escorting for five, ten, fifteen or more years. They are intelligent, personable, mostly drug free, damn good businessmen and they invest their earnings in the future. I have great respect for these guy. They have given me an enormous amount pleasure.

 

Casey Jacks

 

Jay Dymel

 

Kyle Dean

 

and that's just this year...

[Beancounter]

As a longtime observer of both the porn industry and the male escort business I have come to a number of, what I consider, interesting conclusions. The porn world is an extremely dangerous one for participants. If one looks back over the last fifteen or twenty year it is astounding how many porn performers have committed suicide or died of drug overdoses. The porn industry is riddled with drugs and tends to devoir its own. A porn performer it at his peak/most valuable when he makes his first film/DVD – from then on it is, in most cases, a downhill trajectory. Two “stars”/performers come immediately to my mind, Josh Weston and Mathew Rush.

 

Josh Weston first danced at the Nob Hill in San Francisco and began escorting at about the same time. I met him just after his first Falcon DVD was released. He was a very sweet guy who was actually rather shy. He virtually give up escorting to pursue a career in porn. It was NOT a pleasant experience watching his descent into oblivion. He eventually died young, in his sleep, of a variety of too many drugs.

 

Mathew Rush was a poster boy for the porn perform who was extremely disdainful of guys who escorted. He insisted in numerous interviews that he was an actor not a prostitute. Yet at his porn career waned he ventured into escorting on several occasions but seemed unable to be a success at it. He has also had serious problems with drugs and if I remember correctly has had a couple of run ins with the law.

 

Frankly the real money is in escorting; NOT in porn. However, a number of guy have successfully used porn in order to promote a career in escorting. There are a number of guys, who post on this site, who have had very successful career escorting for five, ten, fifteen or more years. They are intelligent, personable, mostly drug free, damn good businessmen and they invest their earnings in the future. I have great respect for these guy. They have given me an enormous amount pleasure.

https://str8upgayporn.com/?s=Matthew+rush

 

Matthew Rush is hardly recognizable anymore.

[+ Gar1eth]

 

Honestly it does seem weird but then why should anyone expect a porn star is going to be great in bed with you and not the hottie that he usually gets paid to be with. I think escorting is more the fall back position after the film work dries up.

 

There are some porn guys who never really plan to escort like Colby Keller (sigh). But some use it the opposite way of what you describe. They seem to like escorting and use their porn career to increase their demand and their fees. Look at the retired Andrew Justice. He was escorting even while he continued to do porn. He's just one example. Rafael Alencar is another. He was escorting even when his porn career was hot.

 

Gman

[marylander1940]

There are some porn guys who never really plan to escort like Colby Keller (sigh). But some use it the opposite way of what you describe. They seem to like escorting and use their porn career to increase their demand and their fees. Look at the retired Andrew Justice. He was escorting even while he continued to do porn. He's just one example. Rafael Alencar is another. He was escorting even when his porn career was hot.

 

Gman

 

As you point nobody on here thinks doing one thing excludes doing the other.

 

Colby Keller used to live in Baltimore, I had a friend in common with him and last time I heard from him he was wondering about moving to another city with cheaper rent compared to a city full of vermin.

 

I wonder if it ever crossed his mind pursuing a different way to make money while doing porno even if that meant screening/selecting his clients. Maybe escorting just wasn't his thing...

Edited November 21, 2019 by marylander1940

[tarquinius]

Let me try to be clear. Topher is hot looking, well built and handsome. What has been said about him is not that he's smug, it's that he's self-centered and treats others with disrepect. I've never met him, never will, but I've read enough to form an opinion. Whether it's his alleged cheating on his BFs and lying about it, or the multiple accusations of sexual assault including of rape, a picture of him comes into focus.

 

As for your first point, it says more about you than you might intend. Rape is seriously unreported, especially when the rapist has a high profile and perceived influence over the victim's career. Most of the complaints about Topher are from lesser known/lesser established models/porn actors and the rapes are reported to have occurred when Topher was at his peak. Men especially are reluctant to report having been raped. And there is also the sense among many gay rape victims that their sexual identity will subject them to neglect or worse by law enforcement.

 

Absent reporting to police, there's no prosecution and no potential for conviction and punishment by the law. But we don't need to withhold judgement. We aren't jurors with Topher's freedom in our hands.

 

Finally, Andrew Christian's response to the allegations is telling. Topher was among his most high-profile long-term models. You don't walk away from him if you believe the allegations are utterly without merit.

 

Ok, I'm sorry to be naive, but someone explain to me how a 5'8" gay boy rapes another guy. Did he drug them? It just sounds a little fishy to me. If you said some huge guy had raped some twink, I could imagine it. But Topher is not that physically intimidating. At least not to another man. I don't think the term "rape" should be used when it's some other sexual event because the term is serious and should not be diminished by including other actions. Rape suggests the use of absolute force.

I'm not defending Topher if he did unpleasant things, but I am dubious that it was exactly "rape".

[former lurker]

Ok, I'm sorry to be naive, but someone explain to me how a 5'8" gay boy rapes another guy. Did he drug them? It just sounds a little fishy to me. If you said some huge guy had raped some twink, I could imagine it. But Topher is not that physically intimidating. At least not to another man. I don't think the term "rape" should be used when it's some other sexual event because the term is serious and should not be diminished by including other actions. Rape suggests the use of absolute force.

I'm not defending Topher if he did unpleasant things, but I am dubious that it was exactly "rape".

 

Rapists are not always physically imposing. Rape occurs when the victim did not consent. That can result from brute force but isn't limited to when brute force is used. It can result from the victim's inability to consent due to impairment from alcohol or drugs (whether taken willingly or not) or other conditions. It can also occur where the rapist hold a position of power or influence over the other, which arguably Topher did due to his well-established position in the porn industry and his status as one of the longer term and better known AC models.

 

Attitudes like the one you expressed are part of the problem in that they discourage male victims of rape from reporting. And rape isn't diminished by recognizing it can occur absent the use of brute force or where there's a substantial disparity in size and strength of the rapist and the victim. His conduct was more than "unpleasant".

[hypothetically]

Ok, I'm sorry to be naive, but someone explain to me how a 5'8" gay boy rapes another guy. Did he drug them? It just sounds a little fishy to me. If you said some huge guy had raped some twink, I could imagine it. But Topher is not that physically intimidating. At least not to another man. I don't think the term "rape" should be used when it's some other sexual event because the term is serious and should not be diminished by including other actions. Rape suggests the use of absolute force.

I'm not defending Topher if he did unpleasant things, but I am dubious that it was exactly "rape".

 

Rapist can’t be 5’8” ?

Or a “gay boy” ?

Or not “physically intimidating” ?

 

...I mean you did open with saying you were naive. Yikes.

[Uwsguy8]

Ok so does he escort?

[BabyBoomer]

Ok so does he escort?

 

NO.

 

~Boomer~

[former lurker]

He seems to be laying low since Andrew Christain ditched him in the wake of all the allegations of sexual assault and harassment against him.

[former lurker]

Still? That was several years ago. He seems to be out and about right now … any recent experiences anyone?

 

You may know better than I, but I thought studios were shying away from him after he was such a prolofic performer before the charges surfaced. Maybe he's more open to escorting, though, if he's getting less porn and underwear modeling gigs.

[Jeffster]

He contacted me to hook up a few years back. That was a hard pass. His diva attitude was already well-known.

[LongIslandGuy]

Thank you....this topic was a simple question and it went off on a tangent with no answer to the simple question