Sucking with condum

[Guest bjohn100]

I don't know if this is the right place for this--maybe asking an escort would be better. But, I have this wonderful escort who insists on using a condum to suck me. To me, that's worse than no sucking; I don't feel anything through the rubber and looking down, all I see is this ugly white glove. He's willing to lick my balls, the area behind my balls, and the rest of my bod without "protection." I'm not interesting in ass play or rimming. Is there any hope of persuading him that I'm negative and safe and that sucking is pretty safe anyway, or should I just give up?

 

Thanks.

 

Bill

[LovesYng]

One question here, do you suck him without a condom. Either way I would find a new escort, thats the best part I enjoy. Condom on the back door YES, Condom on the rod NO WAY but that's just me.

 

 

When in doubt I whip it out:+

[greatservice4u]

Hi

 

Read your thread and have to agree with your escort. I always use a condom to blow guys...not worried about HIV but lots of other stuff and I want to protect my clients...not liking the idea of calling them, and telling them to go get tested for syph.

 

I let guys suck me without.

 

I would talk to him and see what his rationale is. If he is going to trust you then you have to have good communications.

 

just my thoughts

 

cj

 

[http://www.gaydar.co.uk/yummmeeeone]

 

P.S. Have a great weekend <big smile>

[Guest houseboy]

My guess if he does not want to give head without a condom, then there will be no way short of forceful coercion to make him do it. I'd say drop the guy and find someone who loves giving head without having a piece of rubber in his mouth. I can't imagine there are a lot of people out there who would enjoy that anyway.

 

You could, of course, launch a little educational campaing, forwarding him articles on the latest research on the miniscule risk of HIV transmission through giving blow-jobs, or bringing a couple of medical pamphlets with you next time you see him. But really - if the guy doesn't give you the service you want / need and shows now signs of trying to accommodate you, there are plenty of very good escorts out there who - while still remaining health and / or disease conscious - will gladly take your cock 'au naturel'

 

Sean Lespagnol

Chicago, IL

http://www.geocities.com/the_houseboy/

[Guest Hijnx]

Everyone, escorts included, has a right and responsibility to determine their own levels of risk with various behaviors. I personally enjoy condomless sucking, both giving and receiving. And there are other things I enjoy doing that perhaps others would not risk doing. Rather than attempt to convince the escort to change his behaviors and suck you without a condom, I would respect his limits and find someone who was more in line with my own thinking. Coersion isn't much of an aphrodisiac for me.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

I agree with jinx on everything.

 

Bjohn100, it's time to move on and let the escort know why.

[Guest Hungman9]

Do you live in a remote place where he's the only escort available? If not, find someone else. I never had an escort ask me to rubber up for oral. Fucking is another story.

[Traveler North]

Agree fully with CJ whom I have seen many times. The use of condom in sucking does not diminish my pleasure of being sucked. He had scare a while back and was decent enough to call clients he had been with recently to ask them to be tested. I know how hard that was for him, and luckily there was no real problem. He is a great guy who really cares about his clients. :7

[foxy]

I've been sucked a few times wearing a condom. There is definitely a decrease in sensation but it still felt good to me. It made the blow job last longer and I came in the escorts mouth. I'm not sure how many escorts would allow you to do that if you weren't wearing a condom. I don't think you should try to change this guy's mind. Just respect his limits and find another guy.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

That Sucks!

 

>I agree with jinx on everything.

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Agreed. However, you should emphasize to the escort, in such a way as it does not come across as one last attempt to change his feelings on the subject, that you otherwise thing he is a great guy (as you indicated above) and move on to what you do want, respecting the limits each one may have (as they should respect yours and those of any person, client or otherwise, who comes to them.

 

Good luck to you!

[VaHawk]

I'm having a hard time following your logic. You say that it is worse than no sucking at all and that he is a wonderful escort, but if you feel that way about getting oral with a condom, then why do you feel he is a wonderful escort? I don't get it. Now if he's good at other things that you consider makes him wonderful, then I can understand what you mean, but you don't state that, so I will assume that is the case.

 

If you want to continue to see this escort, because you find him wonderful in all other ways, then I think you just have to accept this about him, as he has a right to insist on what he will do or not do. If this one aspect is starting to negate what else you feel about him then perhaps you should look elsewhere. I know of no way to convince him that it is safe to blow you without a condom, as he obviously feels even the most minimal risk is something he doesn't want to take.

 

What is with the ugly white glove reference? Have you asked and/or tried to use one of the thinner sheerer types of condoms? I believe that would help.

[VaHawk]

I agree with all these points. However, I do draw the line at sucking a condom covered cock! I might as well suck a rubber dildo. Even the flavored ones taste nasty. YUCK!!!

[+ Charlie]

If he is really nervous about baremouthing, then even if you persuaded him to do it, he would probably be too tense for a comfortable sexual experience for either of you. I'd say it's time to find someone else, and ask about his preferences in advance.

[Guest bjohn100]

Thanks guys for all your advice.

 

We talked it over as you suggested. He said that he was in a long-term relationship and that this was a agreement between him and his bf. He ended up just licking my balls and the area behind them and using his tongue, lips, and hand on my shaft (almost all the way to the top), but no insertion. And his hand! I’d read once that after the brain, the hand is the most useful appendage for sex, and he proved it. He had me ready to cum in seconds!

 

Bill

[Guest Throat Poker]

Just another suggestion (though you seem to have arrived at a solution you are satisfied with)...if you fancy everything else about him apart from the fact that he would take your dick unsheathed into his mouth, then why not hire him WITH someone who will do the sucking...you can then kiss, gaze into his eyes, finger his ass or whatever else it is that you like about him, and have someone else suck your dick...OK, a bit of a clinical solution, but a very pragmatic one! (In my view, you should NEVER let anything stand in the way of a good blowjob :+ )

[Guest Throat Poker]

>apart from the fact that he would take your

>dick unsheathed into his mouth

 

Of course, I mean't "won't" not "would" ... really must stop sniffing this nail polish.