Saying thank you

[cany10011]

I saw an "escort" this weekend. I use the word in quotation because it was an nyu student i had met up on craigslist that has been only doing this ocassionally. Well, he's a hot, blonde, frat boy german student that commanded top dollar.. think hugo boss model. We've been emailing back and forth as he's been hot to trot to meet up and establish something regular (i mentioned, i was interested in possibly something more ongoing to him). Anyhow, we meet up and have a great time, not a 10 but perhaps an 8.5 out of 10 experience for me. He expresses how much fun he's had and wants to do it again.

 

I've sent an email to him thanking him for his time and expressed how much fun it was. I haven't heard anything from him. Does this mean he's not interested in meeting up or was the thank you note, something perfunctory that he expected and did not feel like responding to?

 

I'm just asking this to members on this board who have a lot more experience than I and would like to know if it were you, would you take his silence as disinterest? I know that only way to know what he is feeling is to email him for a repeat... but i'm a little taken aback that he wouldn't even respond.... plus he charged way too much (but i was horny and caved in!)

[MiamiLooker]

I saw an "escort" this weekend. I use the word in quotation because it was an nyu student i had met up on craigslist that has been only doing this ocassionally. Well, he's a hot, blonde, frat boy german student that commanded top dollar.. think hugo boss model. We've been emailing back and forth as he's been hot to trot to meet up and establish something regular (i mentioned, i was interested in possibly something more ongoing to him). Anyhow, we meet up and have a great time, not a 10 but perhaps an 8.5 out of 10 experience for me. He expresses how much fun he's had and wants to do it again.

 

I've sent an email to him thanking him for his time and expressed how much fun it was. I haven't heard anything from him. Does this mean he's not interested in meeting up or was the thank you note, something perfunctory that he expected and did not feel like responding to?

 

I'm just asking this to members on this board who have a lot more experience than I and would like to know if it were you, would you take his silence as disinterest? I know that only way to know what he is feeling is to email him for a repeat... but i'm a little taken aback that he wouldn't even respond.... plus he charged way too much (but i was horny and caved in!)

 

 

Do you think you should give him more than 2 days to respond?

[robberbaron4u]

Escorting is a business. Do you send a thank you note to your physician or attorney or banker for professional services rendered? Money talks, and, doubtlessly, the promise of a monetary "reward" will ensure a prompt reply from your Nordic God.

[seeker630]

I saw an "escort" this weekend. I use the word in quotation because it was an nyu student i had met up on craigslist that has been only doing this ocassionally. Well, he's a hot, blonde, frat boy german student that commanded top dollar.. think hugo boss model. We've been emailing back and forth as he's been hot to trot to meet up and establish something regular (i mentioned, i was interested in possibly something more ongoing to him). Anyhow, we meet up and have a great time, not a 10 but perhaps an 8.5 out of 10 experience for me. He expresses how much fun he's had and wants to do it again.

 

I've sent an email to him thanking him for his time and expressed how much fun it was. I haven't heard anything from him. Does this mean he's not interested in meeting up or was the thank you note, something perfunctory that he expected and did not feel like responding to?

 

I'm just asking this to members on this board who have a lot more experience than I and would like to know if it were you, would you take his silence as disinterest? I know that only way to know what he is feeling is to email him for a repeat... but i'm a little taken aback that he wouldn't even respond.... plus he charged way too much (but i was horny and caved in!)

 

If your note only expressed gratitude/enjoyment with no specific plans for future hirings, he may not feel that a reply is called for.

 

Also , as MiamiLooker has mentioned, perhaps you should give him a few more days before reaching a conclusion. Many escorts are slow to answer emails - particularly if they have a sepaare address for 'busienss' which they may not check frequently (particularly if they aren't 'pro's'.)

[+ sf westcoaster]

A thank you note does not require a response. If you want a response, ask a direct question.

[jjkrkwood]

He's a businessman, and probably busy with current clients. You are only a priority when its your time, and after you pay up, you arent a priority again until your next booking. I am sure he will get around to replying, especially if he finds himself in need of a few extra dollars... Dont sweat it. Its just the nature of the game.

[bigvalboy]

I agree with several posters here. I think you might be a little overly sensitive and anxious, when in fact he might be feeling that a response is not warranted. The same has happened to me, in that in the moment, we often think that the whole world is about us in this situation. As one poster mentioned, if you want a response, ask a specific question, that might help. It does sound like from your post that he did have a nice time and was willing to see you again. I would send another email and ask something specific. Good luck!!

[EXPAT]

you might consider texting him instead of emailing him. So many younger guys hate email but they love texting. I'm sure you'll get an immediate response.

[rvwnsd]

I don't typically respond to "thank you" notes sent by friends, family, and colleagues, nor do I expect a reply to one that I have sent. If he does not reply to a future email regarding a future appointment you might have a reason to be put off. Then again, if he does not reply to a request for a future playdate within a reasonable timeframe it is time to move on.

[robberbaron4u]

The escort should send YOU a thank you note. Sweet potato pie and hush my mouth. . .

[jjkrkwood]

The escort should send YOU a thank you note. Sweet potato pie and hush my mouth. . .

 

Shoulda, woulda, coulda !!!

[+ Travis69]

The escort should send YOU a thank you note. Sweet potato pie and hush my mouth. . .

 

Perhaps he is a proper young lad and has taken pen to engraved stationary and it is in the mailman's bag for delivery today.

[Edward]

I always send a thank you to my boys when I have enjoyed the meeting. Their service is a little more personal than a physician or attorney. I usually get a response....sometimes it may be a day or two. They usually let you know they are available for a repeat meeting.

[jjkrkwood]

I always send a thank you to my boys when I have enjoyed the meeting. Their service is a little more personal than a physician or attorney. I usually get a response....sometimes it may be a day or two. They usually let you know they are available for a repeat meeting.

 

And hence the TRUE purpose. Money is a powerful aphrodiesiac. Lets not kid ourselves.

[Bart]

I always send a thank you when I have had a good meeting and every single one has responded, usually within the hour.

I find the Dr/Lawyer comment completely irrelevant in this discussion when have they ever give damn whether you come back again or not.

Given you had already discussed an on-going thing it is a tad surprising but I would not be put off by it.

Assuming you read him correctly about wanting something on an ongoing basis it is more surprising he did not send you a thank you first.

That said youth is probably more the issue and a lack of maturity in this business. I would not give up on the lad, but sounds like he has drawn a line in the sand for you, touchy-feely not allowed outside of working hours.

[cany10011]

Thanks for the comments. I just find that it doesn't take too much effort to hit respond and say, "thanks, had a great time too, see you again" or something like that.

 

I usually send a thank you, nice to meet you email/text for new guys I meet. I know it's not expected but just something i don't see any problem in doing. You're right most guys do reply relatively quickly and express some feel good sentiments in hopes of securing a subsequent appointment. Anyhow, at 450$ i paid him for an hours' worth of fairly decent and hot play, i guess he doesn't feel the need to be responsive until he needs something.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I always send a thank you when I have had a good meeting and every single one has responded, usually within the hour.

I find the Dr/Lawyer comment completely irrelevant in this discussion when have they ever give damn whether you come back again or not.

Given you had already discussed an on-going thing it is a tad surprising but I would not be put off by it.

Assuming you read him correctly about wanting something on an ongoing basis it is more surprising he did not send you a thank you first.

That said youth is probably more the issue and a lack of maturity in this business. I would not give up on the lad, but sounds like he has drawn a line in the sand for you, touchy-feely not allowed outside of working hours.

[tyro]

$450 an HOUR!!

Shit...f-er should write you a TOME!!

I wouldn't hurry to contact him again.

T

[cany10011]

yeah, i should have bought a nice pair of ferragamos... at least i would have something to show for it....alas, i was thinking with the other head.....

 

$450 an HOUR!!

Shit...f-er should write you a TOME!!

I wouldn't hurry to contact him again.

T

[diggme23]

Let me guess, It had to be that rate because he needed the new I phone? I had someone use that line on me too. The best guys out there will send you a thank you note afterwards. Those are the ones I always go back to, not the ones who charge too much and expect you to come back begging for more. I would say, find someone better, and cheaper. I'm not cheap, but $450 is pretty outrageous considering the quality guys you can get for cheaper, and who will be grateful to you for the business.

[AdamSmith]

As noted above -- $450 for an hour?!?!?!

 

Jesus, Mary and Joseph. One has offed one or another of the boys from the Club That Must Not Be Named (because management gets on the boys whenever we write about it here, but you referred to it just recently in private) for close to a WEEK for that rate! Plus only meals and Long Island iced teas, and one's comparatively clean sheets.

 

Lose this guy. He is taking you. And taking you for granted, which is even worse.

[jimboivyo]

450 is 450. those who can do, those who can't don't. Don't see any point in bitching about what he agreed to pay.

[Lohengrin1979]

450 is 450. those who can do, those who can't don't. Don't see any point in bitching about what he agreed to pay.

 

I'm sorry, but even those who CAN should expect a like return on their investment. Any escort who goes for that much should be a good businessman and practice common courtesy.

[Phil_musc]

Oh gosh here we go again. $450 is nothing really. When I was quoted that price, I said, "tut tut, you, young man, are selling yourself short! You and your services are clearly worth twice that much. But anyway, here's $600 (I appreciate a bargain, after all) plus tip. I'll pay for the valet too - seems a small thing after all is said and done. And after all, you'll want to send me an engraved thank you note (and god knows, that kind of stationery ain't cheap) because I was just so fabulous and our time just flew by for you too. Then too there's that I-phone thing that you'll be needing in order to conduct business in a more, well, business-like fashion (smoke signals are so passé - that went out when I was selling my services to Hop-a-long Cassady (now that boy knew how to f--k - I should have paid him - he WAS so fabulous I would have massaged him for free and invited him back for seconds). But bless me, I feel my heart fibrillating at all these thoughts and memories; I better take my meds before the Republicans win the election and skunk me out of my medicate benefits.

[Edward]

Many of the younger guys were raised with a different set of social graces than my generation. Dont take it personal. What do you want from him? You have done your part by thanking him for what I am taking was a job well done. If you are interested in seeing him again. Ask him if he is available. He is not your best friend. He was a service provider. And hopefully a good one.

[cany10011]

You're quite right. I shouldnt really have such expectations. It was only an hours' commercial interaction; I was satisfied and hope he was. If I want to see him again, I have his number and know what his expectations will be. He also offered to bring another hot friend next time...which I may be tempted to do.hmmm.

 

 

Many of the younger guys were raised with a different set of social graces than my generation. Dont take it personal. What do you want from him? You have done your part by thanking him for what I am taking was a job well done. If you are interested in seeing him again. Ask him if he is available. He is not your best friend. He was a service provider. And hopefully a good one.