Sean Caden

[robberbaron4u]

Love is a many splendored thing; and, too, it can be a short-term proposition. Perhaps, the lad wants to keep his "options' open should the thing "go South".

[citylaw1]

Love is a many splendored thing; and, too, it can be a short-term proposition. Perhaps, the lad wants to keep his "options' open should the thing "go South".

 

Perhaps, however, in 10 plus years of hiring this is a first, at least in the way it was handled. A simple "I'm not interested/available" would be more than understandable. The "how much $" followed by "I'm seeing someone" is the issue here. When I am retained I don't ask "how much are you offering?"

[citylaw1]

its a situation thats over and should have been immediatley forgotten.

 

This is a review site.

[jjkrkwood]

This is a review site.

 

Yup it is a review site, but you never had a session with him. Clearly city, the issue is YOURS, because you are choosing to make it such. The guy did nothing wrong. He shouldnt be badmouthed for that. He never made any contract with you, nor renegged on any promise. You lost nothing but some texting time. He simply turned you down. Surely your ego aint THAT fragile.? You are a lawyer for Gods sake !

[citylaw1]

The policy for this site has historically been not to publish 'no show' reviews, and in this case, no appointment was ever made, so I'm guessing that nothing will be published on the review site.

 

You may very well be correct. In this instance, I feel like my experience could definitely help someone here looking to hire Sean. Many here book well in advance, save up for quite a bit, and put a lot of thought towards the planning of their escort evenings. I think someone that booked a flight to San Diego looking forward to an encounter with Mr. Caden, could very well be disappointed, especially since he is prone to falling into committed relationships while he continues to advertise as a Rentboy.

[citylaw1]

But clearly city, the issue is YOURS, because you are choosing to make it such. The guy did nothing wrong. He simply turned you down. Surely your ego aint THAT fragile. you are a lawyer for Gods sake !

 

My ego isn't that fragile. I am attempting to relate my experience, as it pertains to the professionalism, reliability and flakiness of this escort. Do you not think that his behavior here warrants a review? Suppose you fly to see him and he pulls this nonsense? Clearly he falls into committed relationships, declines appointments due to the aforementioned reason, and continues to advertise on Rentboy at the same time.

[seeker630]

You may very well be correct. In this instance, I feel like my experience could definitely help someone here looking to hire Sean. Many here book well in advance, save up for quite a bit, and put a lot of thought towards the planning of their escort evenings. I think someone that booked a flight to San Diego looking forward to an encounter with Mr. Caden, could very well be disappointed, especially since he is prone to falling into committed relationships while he continues to advertise as a Rentboy.

 

I don't disagree that your experience is worth sharing here - especially when all the details are presented and everyone is free to draw their own conclusions. The rules for the Message Forum are different from those of the Review site.

[+ overeasy]

I have to agree with city that the response was far from the usual when inquiring about a travel hire. And I, if interested in a potential hire of the gentleman, would be glad to have this little bit of background info before making that contact. JJ, I'm not so sure but what the line of reasoning fell off the tracks somewhere here....I never got the impression that city was trying to express anger and hurt ego quite as much as he was attempting to inform the forum of something that might not make it to a published review.

[citylaw1]

To me, the fact that you (a stranger) were asking him to travel and for 2 nights (not sure if that would be 2 appointments or 2 overnights) is a bit different than him declining a single, local appointment.

 

I agree that his response was a bit blunt, and he could have been more polite, but otherwise I don't really fault him in these circumstances.

 

I don't fault him for not wanting to travel to a stranger at all, however, he does agree to travel in his advert. I do fault his "how much $" follow by an "I'm dating someone" responses. A simple "I'm not willing to travel to someone I haven't previously met with" would be completely understood. He did not mention any of that. He went bi-polar all in a 3 text 4 minute period. His unwillingness to travel was never at issue here.

[citylaw1]

I have to agree with city that the response was far from the usual when inquiring about a travel hire. And I, if interested in a potential hire of the gentleman, would be glad to have this little bit of background info before making that contact. JJ, I'm not so sure but what the line of reasoning fell off the tracks somewhere here....I never got the impression that city was trying to express anger and hurt ego quite as much as he was attempting to inform the forum of something that might not make it to a published review.

 

Exactly. The point here is that many might be disappointed in their decision to hire this young gentleman. Clearly there is a chance of the appointment never happening, as well as a potential loss of money when a client spends money to travel to Sean.

[seeker630]

I don't fault him for not wanting to travel to a stranger at all, however, he does agree to travel in his advert. I do fault his "how much $" follow by an "I'm dating someone" responses. A simple "I'm not willing to travel to someone I haven't previously met with" would be completely understood. He did not mention any of that. He went bi-polar all in a 3 text 4 minute period. His unwillingness to travel was never at issue here.

 

Perhaps he was considering the offer, and if you had named a large fee, he would have accepted. Or maybe he was just curious about how much you might offer (that's my guess) . I think calling it 'bi-polar' is a bit over top. The exhange is so brief, I don't think you can reliably determine his tone or his thought processes.

[citylaw1]

I don't disagree that your experience is worth sharing here - especially when all the details are presented and everyone is free to draw their own conclusions. The rules for the Message Forum are different from those of the Review site.

 

It should be noted that I have never published a negative review here. I assure everyone that I have presented the entirety of our communications. I do, however, strongly believe that my experience with Sean is review worthy. To travel to this young man, or plan a special evening for which you have saved and looked forward to, might very well prove a disappointment. If I read this review, it would most certainly influence my hiring of Sean. If I was in my hotel and wanted to fuck, sure I'd call him. What do I have to lose? At worst, according to all of the reviews, he'd flake. If I were looking for companionship for travel or an important engagement, I would look at a review like mine twice.

[citylaw1]

Perhaps he was considering the offer, and if you had named a large fee, he would have accepted. Or maybe he was just curious about how much you might offer (that's my guess) . I think calling it 'bi-polar' is a bit over top. The exhange is so brief, I don't think you can reliably determine his tone or his thought processes.

 

Perhaps. Again, why advertise that you travel, list a fee of 2000 per overnight, and then initiate a bartering session? His ad says "ask" for weekend rates. I asked .. WTF? It is very unprofessional. Either say you are willing to travel at ___ rate, or decline. He went from details, to price, to relationship in minutes. That's a bit bi-polar, no?

[+ overeasy]

Seeker -- even that consideration just seems wrong. Sean new where and when from the text. He's a pro (?), and should be ready to provide his required rate to be there for that period and location. His ad requests the respondent to "ask" for his weekend rate. When asked, he didn't provide one. If it was going into a "bidding" situation, that says something as well...

[citylaw1]

Seeker -- even that consideration just seems wrong. Sean new where and when from the text. He's a pro (?), and should be ready to provide his required rate to be there for that period and location. His ad requests the respondent to "ask" for his weekend rate. When asked, he didn't provide one. If it was going into a "bidding" situation, that says something as well...

 

Exactly. A bidding session tells you even more. I would consider that, in a review, to be a deterrent.

[Jaker27]

My ego isn't that fragile. I am attempting to relate my experience, as it pertains to the professionalism, reliability and flakiness of this escort. Do you not think that his behavior here warrants a review? Suppose you fly to see him and he pulls this nonsense? Clearly he falls into committed relationships, declines appointments due to the aforementioned reason, and continues to advertise on Rentboy at the same time.

That and some unrequented lust.

[citylaw1]

That and some unrequented lust.

 

You mean Unrequited? I don't lust after him. Are you suggesting that?

[seeker630]

Seeker -- even that consideration just seems wrong. Sean new where and when from the text. He's a pro (?), and should be ready to provide his required rate to be there for that period and location. His ad requests the respondent to "ask" for his weekend rate. When asked, he didn't provide one. If it was going into a "bidding" situation, that says something as well...

 

I agree that he SHOULD have given a rate IF he was seriously considering it, and if he isn't willing to travel generally, he should change his ad.. I think we disagree on the seriousness of all this and what conclusions should be drawn from the exchange. He DIDN'T accept an appointment and not show up - he declined this client. Whether he was truthful in his stated reason is unknown To assume he might accept and then not follow through in the future with others is, to me, a bit of a reach

 

Citylaw has shared his experience here. The 'no show, no review' policy for the review site, if it is indeed still in effect, is the dictate of the owner of the review site.

[citylaw1]

I agree that he SHOULD have given a rate IF he was seriously considering it, and if he isn't willing to travel generally, he should change his ad.. I think we disagree on the seriousness of all this and what conclusions should be drawn from the exchange. He DIDN'T accept an appointment and not show up - he declined this client. Whether he was truthful in his stated reason is unknown To assume he might accept and then not follow through in the future with others is, to me, a bit of a reach

 

Citylaw has shared his experience here. The 'no show, no review' policy for the review site, if it is indeed still in effect, is the dictate of the owner of the review site.

 

To assume that he is flaky is not a reach. Declined me based on what, my text font? I think that this review can certainly shed some light on professionalism, follow through and general demeanor. For some this might be very important. Jesus, there are threads here where guys prepare their ass for days for an encounter; to prep your ass for hours, spend hours in the forum debating and questioning the procedures, and then have Sean fall into a relationship during your 15th flush would suck, no?

[bostonman]

That and some unrequented lust.

 

You mean Unrequited? I don't lust after him. Are you suggesting that?

 

Ha - I like "unrequented" better. Let's make it an official word. ;-)

[seeker630]

To assume that he is flaky is not a reach. Declined me based on what, my text font? I think that this review can certainly shed some light on professionalism, follow through and general demeanor. For some this might be very important. Jesus, there are threads here where guys prepare their ass for days for an encounter; to prep your ass for hours, spend hours in the forum debating and questioning the procedures, and then have Sean fall into a relationship during your 15th flush would suck, no?

 

Looking at your exchange, it seems likely he was never very interested - I see that his initial response was 'maybe..' and then he stopped communicating until you followed up a day later. Again, we don't know why - but does it matter? He declined, and you're suggesting that he MIGHT accept someone and then no-show.

 

I still say, 'no harm, no foul'. But we're never going to agree here. I hope you find someone else for a fulfilling experience.

[citylaw1]

Looking at your exchange, it seems likely he was never very interested - I see that his initial response was 'maybe..' and then he stopped communicating until you followed up a day later. Again, we don't know why - but does it matter? He declined, and you're suggesting that he MIGHT accept someone and then no-show.

 

I still say, 'no harm, no foul'. But we're never going to agree here. I hope you find someone else for a fulfilling experience.

 

I am suggesting that you might make an appointment in advance and that, based on my exchanges, he could have a change of heart. He is stating that he is "seeing someone" yet he continues to advertise. What does that tell potential clients? I am basing everything off of facts. Would I fuck him? Yes. Would I plan to fly to San Diego to fuck him? No. Would I plan a trip with him? No. This speaks to maturity, not fuckability. This is very important to some.

[jjkrkwood]

It should be noted that I have never published a negative review here. I assure everyone that I have presented the entirety of our communications. I do, however, strongly believe that my experience with Sean is review worthy. To travel to this young man, or plan a special evening for which you have saved and looked forward to, might very well prove a disappointment. If I read this review, it would most certainly influence my hiring of Sean. If I was in my hotel and wanted to fuck, sure I'd call him. What do I have to lose? At worst, according to all of the reviews, he'd flake. If I were looking for companionship for travel or an important engagement, I would look at a review like mine twice.

 

OK, ill give in to agreeing you should share your experience with the board, however I take issue with you implying that his behavior is "off" or "flakey" simply because he may have had a change of heart and turned down your advances. You are doing the boy a disservice in your implications and followup comments about his demeanor and attitude. You may have just simply related your experience factually, and then let the others members decide for themselves whether he is "Hire-worthy"... All the embroidery only served to skew the opinion in YOUR direction. If you cant see that the "boyfriend" line was merely him pulling an excuse out of a hat, I'd love to sell you some swamp land in Bayonne.

[jjkrkwood]

To assume that he is flaky is not a reach. Declined me based on what, my text font? I think that this review can certainly shed some light on professionalism, follow through and general demeanor. For some this might be very important. Jesus, there are threads here where guys prepare their ass for days for an encounter; to prep your ass for hours, spend hours in the forum debating and questioning the procedures, and then have Sean fall into a relationship during your 15th flush would suck, no?

 

For me, the above highligthed line speaks volumes. It clearly shows your frame of mind, and that you dont take rejection well. Most of us dont.. but many of us will just move on to another boy. Me thinks there is something about this boy that has you smitten ? For the umpteenth time, I doubt this boy was in any sort of relationship. He was blowing you off "tactfully"... I mean really, what can you say to a guy in a relationship ?

[citylaw1]

OK, ill give in to agreeing you should share your experience with the board, however I take issue with you implying that his behavior is "off" or "flakey" simply because he may have had a change of heart and turned down your advances. You are doing the boy a disservice in your implications and followup comments about his demeanor and attitude. You may have just simply related your experience factually, and then let the others members decide for themselves whether he is "Hire-worthy"... All the embroidery only served to skew the opinion in YOUR direction. If you cant see that the "boyfriend" line was merely him pulling an excuse out of a hat, I'd love to sell you some swamp land in Bayonne.

 

I have laid out all of the facts. There was no need to "pull an excuse out of his hat." A simple no would suffice. His professionalism is reflected in his actions, and actions are important and telling.