I Know It Shouldn't Matter...

[ErieBear]

I'm currently processing something, and I'd love to hear your thoughts on it.

 

I was considering hiring an escort and someone mentioned to me that he had retired from the business and came out of retirement and is now escorting again.

 

Part of me said, "He probably tried to find a job in another field and couldn't. Or he had a boyfriend who didn't want him escorting, and now they broke up. Whatever, it's no big deal."

 

Then, another part of me said, "He didn't like escorting and he gave it up. Couldn't find another job and is now in it for the money. It won't be a good time because he won't be into it."

 

A large part of me says, "Who the hell cares and why are you thinking about it?"

 

 

Have you ever had thoughts like this? Would you ever not hire an escort simply because he had retired and come out of retirement? (And please don't yell at me for asking this question, lol).

 

Thanks!

 

EB

[jjkrkwood]

I'm currently processing something, and I'd love to hear your thoughts on it.

 

I was considering hiring an escort and someone mentioned to me that he had retired from the business and came out of retirement and is now escorting again.

 

Part of me said, "He probably tried to find a job in another field and couldn't. Or he had a boyfriend who didn't want him escorting, and now they broke up. Whatever, it's no big deal."

 

Then, another part of me said, "He didn't like escorting and he gave it up. Couldn't find another job and is now in it for the money. It won't be a good time because he won't be into it."

 

A large part of me says, "Who the hell cares and why are you thinking about it?"

 

 

Have you ever had thoughts like this? Would you ever not hire an escort simply because he had retired and come out of retirement? (And please don't yell at me for asking this question, lol).

 

Thanks!

 

EB

 

I go with door #4 - the who the hell cares option.

 

If you are attracted to the guy, and he meets your needs and price range, nothing BAD has been written about him AND he is back in the biz and is safe, sound and available to you, I say WTF... People tend to OVERTHINK hires. YES, it does require "some thought" but dont beat yourself up until you kill your boner...

[+ Travis69]

Maybe he's such a horny guy he missed the constant playmates. Who knows. I wouldn't ask him or would I care. Go and have a good time before he retires again.

[leigh.bess.toad]

I'm with JJ and Travis. Door #4. Who cares why? If he is a well reviewed guy, the fact he has come back should have no impact on what he does at all.

 

Go and enjoy EB.

[rguer]

In a recent thread, someone said that Zachary Anders in Seattle had retired and come back later under a different name.

 

He gets great reviews, so he's a counterexample to your theory. If the circumstances arose, I'd hire him with no worries about his ability to do a good job.

 

A good escort would have the skills needed to succeed in a number of other jobs. Perhaps the one you're thinking about just prefers escorting.

[+ azdr0710]

go for it, before either of you changes your minds...again....!!!

[bigvalboy]

Hey ErieBear, I'm with azdr on this one.....jump in with both feet. BTW you still coming to LA? LMK

[seeker630]

I go with door #4 - the who the hell cares option.

 

If you are attracted to the guy, and he meets your needs and price range, nothing BAD has been written about him AND he is back in the biz and is safe, sound and available to you, I say WTF... People tend to OVERTHINK hires. YES, it does require "some thought" but dont beat yourself up until you kill your boner...

 

I agree. Since you don't know circumstances, it's worse than useless to speculate.

[+ nycman]

I don’t care why my gardener comes to work in the morning.

 

I just care that the lawn gets mowed and the hedges get trimmed.

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey ErieBear,

 

I have to say that I understand too well the reason for your question. I am not a client; well, not too often, anyway, but I do know that there is nothing sadder and more difficult for me to stomach than an escort who is hating what he is doing. I find that an experience that should be fulfilling, fun, exciting, sexy, becomes a de-humanizing, humiliating, soul-killing encounter for all participants. Personally there is no amount of money, pleasure or muscles that justify being willing part of something like this.

 

Whenever I can stay away from escorts who hate their work, I do. Sometimes I don't realize that I am with an escort who hates his work until we are in the middle of the session, but when that happens, no matter how hot the situation can look like, I will do my best to disengage from it. I don't blame you for not wanting to be part of this.

 

In this case, however, it would be very difficult to tell for sure whether he hates escorting and thinks that he "needs" to do it, or if he really missed it and had to stop for whatever reason. If I were you I would carefully read his reviews, trying to read between the lines, and if I thought that he used to like his work, then I would contact him and pay close attention to the way he reacts, the way he deals with me. I would pay a lot of attention to my gut reaction and then I would follow my instincts, not my libido. Chances are you may have a wonderful experience with a seasoned escort who knows his way around you, but it is also possible that you may find one of those distant, robotic lovers that some clients love to hire. There really is no telling in advance.

 

You say in your post that a large part of yourself wonders why you even care about his reasons, but I think I suspect why you care. Personally I think there is nothing worse for one's self esteem than to be with someone we consider super hot who is tolerating our touch, who is actually disgusted with who we are but is putting up with it because we are giving him money. Encounters like this could leave you feeling terrible about yourself, feeling ugly, fat, disgusting, old, desperate. I believe that an encounter with a good escort should make you feel proud of who you are, seen, accepted, wanted, enjoyed, and I see no reason for which anyone should ever pay to be made feel bad about himself.

 

I would say honour this instinct. Pay attention to that little part of you, and while the bigger part of you (your libido, your desire, your need) may be pushing for you to meet a man that you have desired for a long time, always check with that little voice of sanity to make sure that this encounter will be good for you.

 

I hope this helps.

[ErieBear]

Thanks all. I guess, this question wasn't about this particular escort (even though there was one that initiated the question). Just a general thought. I tend to overanalyze things and I'm sure that's what I was doing in this case. I guess I just wondered if those thoughts ever crossed the minds of anyone else.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I say go with option #4.

 

That said and being a glass half full guy, mI see any other reasons why someone would step away from a career he likes only to return to it later:

 

(1) Getting called up to active duty military.

(2) Going on a mission trip to Africa.

(3) Taking care of a sick friend or relative. (Ok, that one's not a half-full reason)

(4) Going to school full time.

(5) Opportunity to spend a year as a dancer on Kylie's concert.

[Guest]

I'm currently processing something, and I'd love to hear your thoughts on it.

 

I was considering hiring an escort and someone mentioned to me that he had retired from the business and came out of retirement and is now escorting again.

 

EB

 

There have been some good escorts that I've missed the boat on because they retired. If they came back out of retirement, I'd say "Thank God!".

[down_to_business]

I think it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks about it, if it's important to you that is all that matters!

 

Personally, I don't think that someone who retired and returned to the business is any more or less likely to hate what they are doing than someone else who stays in the business. I think the best escorts out there will be able to make you feel like they don't hate what they are doing (whether they personally do or don't). In my professional opinion, I think you are more likely to have a good experience if you avoid guys in the following 3 situations. 1) Guys who won't kiss 2) Guys who insist on pictures for meeting or who are obsessed with your stats and what you look like and 3) Guys who identify as straight only. There could be exceptions and there are no guarantees, but it would be hard for me to believe escorts with any one of the three rules above (let alone 2 or more) truly enjoy what they are doing.

[jgoo]

I think it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks about it, if it's important to you that is all that matters!

 

Absolutely agree. I share ErieBear's concerns/thoughts and while I don't dwell on it or give it a great deal of weight to its importance, it is something I do consider. It is one of many pieces of data/info that I input into my univac to come up with the solution (to hire or not).

[Michael Wayne]

one suggestion: be sure his PICS are new or at least recent. I have RETIRED three times for various reasons. The one thing I always do is be sure I post NEW pics so there is no question that the product the client contracts for is the product that will show up. Also, does he have RECENT reviews? If a guys last review is december of 2006 then you have no way of guaranteeing he will be into it. There is an escort with a HUGE following (no name, no location i will mention) who has been running THE EXACT SAME PICS for at least 5 years. Very very very few guys look the same now as they did in 2007. Sometimes guys look BETTER (added muscle, filled out frame). This often occurs after a retirement. When I was 25 years old I weighed 153# and , at 5'10", was considered by alot of my clients as buff and beefcake. Really, looking back, it was before I committed myself to the gym. All I was was a twink with a big dick that looked even bigger in pics and on film cause I was skinny. lol! In one of my retirements I dated a guy who was a competitive usa olympic gymnast. I learned how to train and to eat properly. When I came back at 185 and ripped it opened up a whole new dimension to my escorting business. Had I then ran my 153# pics it would have been misleading. Same is true now: I am at 175# and I train twice a week instead of 4 times so I run pics of me at 175. this is just a part of being honest and not trying to live on reputation but living on your present look. http://www.rentmen.com/mikeyusatop or http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1

[jawjateck]

There have been some good escorts that I've missed the boat on because they retired. If they came back out of retirement, I'd say "Thank God!".

 

Absolutely! One guy immediately comes to mind.....Ethan/Nashville. Years ago, this hottie had great reviews, retired, and I had missed my chance. He then returned, and I hopped a plane to meet him. Wowsers, what a fun fun time with a hot hot hot guy! To this day, he is one of my all-time greatest hires.

 

So EB, don't over think it and miss out on great guy.

[NYTomcat]

I think juan hit the nail on the head. Its really about how you are going to feel. If his retirement worries you then you may perceive his attitude even if not real or actually there. The best thing about escorting is how they make u feel. So if you worry he will make you feel less attractive and desired. Thpick another guy. There are lots of good ones. Its all about chemistry and if his history bothers you it may carry into the encounter