Nevrous first timer needs advice

[Guest niceguy]

I am a 45 man who never had sex with a guy. I really want to hire an escort in New York City - so many of them turn me on - but my hestiation is simple - I am really nevrous. This might sound silly but I can't seem to get the courage to make the call and enjoy myself. I am a really nice guy, very professional, friendly, great sense of humor, well off and generous. I am your average 45 executive type - just a little overweight. I imagine I would have a great time and treat any escort very like gold. I booked an appointment once and canceled it at the last minute. I contacted the guy, apologized and at my insistance sent him $500 in the mail. Needless to say the escort was impressed and called me a "gentleman" which I pride myself in being. I am sure I am not the first guy to hesitate like this. Any advice? Any escorts that would be better to handle my situation? Thanks to anyone who has a kind word or two. (I even nervous about writing this!)

[tedbear]

I strongly reccomment Rick Munroe. Ric h was my first escort after years of abstainance. He certainly showed me how to have a good time again! Look his reviews up on this site and you'll find lots of great reviews. Rick will know just how to relax you!

 

Go for it and have a great time.

[VaHawk]

WOW!!!! I guess he was impressed to get $500 for doing nothing! The next time, tell the escort up front that you are nervous as this is your first experience with male on male sex, and the really good ones will show up and put you at ease and actually earn your payment. :-)

[Cooper]

If you tell us what you are looking for in an escort, ex. age, top, bottom, body-builder, hairy, etc. perhaps it will be easier for us to help. Being nervous with your first experience is natural, after being with a few escorts you'll be a pro. :+ Good luck!

[Huey]

Niceguy your post seems just a little too nice - my red flag alert went up as soon as I clicked it open .

[Guest niceguy]

Hey friends - thanks for responding so quickly. The kind of escort that I would be interested in would be a straight-acting, very built, smooth, top. It would be cool if the escort took the lead and was verbal during sex. I like successful people who are down to earth and easy to be with.

 

Huey - thanks for your compliment (I think) that my note seemed "too nice" - no red flag needed; I am what I said, a successful businessman, who is fair, generous, friendly and just a little to nevrous. If you have any words of advice/encouragement I would appreciate them. By the way, I am 100% with you - Give peace a chance!

[Guest niceguy]

Hey friends - thanks for responding so quickly. The kind of escort that I would be interested in would be a straight-acting, very built, smooth, top. It would be cool if the escort took the lead and was verbal during sex. I like successful people who are down to earth and easy to be with.

 

Huey - thanks for your compliment (I think) that my note seemed "too nice" - no red flag needed; I am what I said, a successful businessman, who is fair, generous, friendly and just a little to nevrous. If you have any words of advice/encouragement I would appreciate them. By the way, I am 100% with you - Give peace a chance!

[Will]

You may feel like the only nervous first-timer who's ever lived, but you aren't. Many, many of us here have been in your shoes. I, for example. I was older than you the first time I hired an escort; although it was an OK experience, I didn't know about this site. Now I do, and M4M makes it as easy for a first-timer as it can be.

 

Here's what I would do, now that I know:

 

1. Review the reviews of the New York escorts. There are lots of them, but take your time. After all, it's not only your money but your feelings at stake here.

 

2. Pay special attention to what the reviewers say about themselves. In my experience, that tells me a great deal more about the escort than the client's description of the escort. After all, if the client is a rich, good-looking, in-shape, 32-year-old muscle hunk with teeth that would blind you, it's almost certain that he will think the escort was great. If, on the other hand, the reviewer (like most reviewers) will never see forty again, is a little paunchy, insecure about himself, and so forth, AND he gives a great review, that tells you that the escort in question could handle the likes of you.

 

3. Narrow your choices to, say, three. Then write each of the three a short e-mail note, and make it clear that this is your first time. Tell him a little bit about yourself -- not too much -- and the kind of experience you have in mind. You'll probably be able to tell by the replies which of those escorts seems to be right for you for this experience.

 

4. Finally, be sure to schedule two hours; one hour isn't enough, particularly if you're nervous. You might want to take Viagra, just to make sure that you don't "embarrass" yourself (the escort won't be in the least bit embarrassed). If you haven't used it before, I'd suggest you take only about half. That's enough to get you going, and going is all you have to be. The escort will do the driving.

 

By the way, the price for all this advice is your actually doing the foot-work, making the call, having the date, and then telling us all how it went!

 

Good luck. The escort business is lots of fun for all concerned, if you just use good sense and stay as you are: a gentleman.

[Guest niceguy]

Hey Will - thanks man - you deserve the gentleman title. I really appreciate you advice and kind words. It makes me feel better. Is is appropriate for me to ask for specific escorts (from NYC)? I am new to this message format.

 

But thanks again - you are a very cool person. PS: are you available to chaparone and break the ice?

[marc anthony]

You will get a lot of people disagreeing with me, but I think that if you are that nervous, for your first experience, you whould go with an agency. Explain your situation to the person who is taking the calls, and tell him what boys on their list turn you on, and let him tell you who would be the best to "walk you through it."

 

You need not worry about the preliminary "courting" if you go through an agency... it is all done for you. After you have a couple under your belt, it is MUCH easier to chat with independents before you go through it.

 

For what you are looking for (smooth, built, top), both Chelsea guys and A-list in NYC have quite a few.... http://www.chelseaguys.com and http://www.showitnow.com/alist.html

 

I would also point out that Campus Escorts is best known for its selection of twinks... but they do have some built smooth guys in the varsity section... and the management there is extremely helpful and customer oriented. They have never steered me wrong in all the years I have dealt with them. Their website is http://www.campusescorts.com

 

Hope this helps. I now hire independents primarily, but if not for agencies, I don't know if I would have ever started doing this. You pay more money, but they sure make everything easier (the good ones do, anyway).

[Guest woodli]

RE: Nervous first timer needs advice

 

Will has given you a wonderful plan to follow, and just going step by step through each of his points will help take away some of the nerves. Believe me, most of us have been there, and you will have a better first experience than many because of this board and the advice you are getting.

 

Given the description you have given of your fantasy ideal, may I recommend Danny Cruz? While gay himself (he just participated in the Gay Games in Australia) he is straight-acting, great smooth bod (not real tall), and will give you all the time and relaxing you need. He is very easy to talk to, just graduated from college, and will work with you to determine the kind of experience you want-- it will be all about you, not all about him (like some not-so-wonderful experiences I have had). You can e-mail him at

 

filipinohottienyc@yahoo.com

 

or telephone him at 917-715-1155.

 

He has new pics with accurate, up-to-date stats, at the meetlocalmen site

 

http://www.meetlocalmen.com

 

(And for those of you who watch out for such things-- I have taken great care to post no personal information that Danny himself has not posted publicly.)

 

Good luck to you, and we hope to get a positive report back-- we're all behind you (well not literally).

 

Hugs,

woodli

[Guest woodli]

RE: Nervous first timer needs advice

 

Now able to add the direct link to Danny's web page:

 

http://www.meetlocalmen.com/mlm/filipinohottienyc.html

 

This page has his phone number and a direct link to his e-mail.

 

woodli

[Rick Munroe]

>I strongly recommend Rick Munroe. Rick was my first escort

>after years of abstinence. He certainly showed me how to have

>a good time again!

 

Thanks, tedbear. That was very exciting for me, too. :9

[+ Lucky]

RE: Nevrous first timer vote

 

We have two nevrous first timer threads going. Which one do you think is the most interesting?

[Rick Munroe]

RE: Nevrous first timer vote

 

>We have two nevrous first timer threads going. Which one do

>you think is the most interesting?

 

That's a tough one. Really nev-wracking.

[Guest ezray]

Hi NiceGuy

 

Two years ago I started to use escorts as means of experimenting with my (homo)sexuality. After spending half-a-year (!) reading everything on the web I decided to go to Gino Mancuso (http://www.ginomancuso.com/) in order to take the plunge and loose by (bottom) virginity. Our session was six hours where we talked for a long time before we got to the carnal part. I still look back upon that time as being very important in my coming out (which I did last year). Why? because spending time with Gino showed me that there are gay guys out there who are sexy, charming, handsome, wise, compasionate and downtoearth. The experience was exactly what I was looking for on a mind-body-sould level.

Take your time and read his reveiws. If you have any questions drop me a message. Best of luck to you.

 

Ray