Escort gives a refund

[unsub2O17]

I see this guy regularly and, yes, we have a great time. Yesterday, I offered him his regular fee plus a generous tip (which I've done before). He took the money, but then refused to take anything but his hourly rate and returned a full 20% to me. We had already made another appointment, and our session was very hot. So, I'm flattered, but I have no idea what to do next time. Has this happened to anyone else, and what did you do?

[MichiganMan]

Oh yes....it my case it was an attempt to "butter" me up for a future attempt to "borrow" money for a business investment of his. I hope I am dead wrong....but expect a "suprise" here in the future. One thing my evil old man did teach me is if you want to figure something out....ALWAYS follow the money trail!! Works EVERY time for me!!

[gallahadesquire]

Oh yes....it my case it was an attempt to "butter" me up for a future attempt to "borrow" money for a business investment of his. I hope I am dead wrong....but expect a "suprise" here in the future. One thing my evil old man did teach me is if you want to figure something out....ALWAYS follow the money trail!! Works EVERY time for me!!

 

I would have called that a "cold hearted" attitude, but I expect MichiganMan is right. I have been in the same situation.

[rvwnsd]

Yes, it has. In my case, I hired a guy whose ad made no mention of a multi-hour discount. We played for two hours and I paid him for twice his hourly rate. He contacted me later, informed me of his actual 2-hour rate and asked me to stop by and pick up the difference. (Note he did not count the money in my presence) I did so and chalked it up to him being an honest businessman. The next time, I paid the correct rate. In your case, I would pay him his stated rate next time. He obviously does not wish to accept a tip, so don't give him one. I don't think you need to over-think this or expect a nefarious surprise in the future. That will only result in your having a bad time in the future as you wait for the other shoe to drop.

[+ purplekow]

You mention that you have been seeing him for awhile. Why did you allow yourself to be duped by this duplicitous lout?

 

Clearly this guy is an underhanded slimeball. Don't ever see him again. My god, doesn't he realize he is just in this for the money and that he should not even attempt to make a gesture of consideration to someone who has been generous to him in the past.

 

I believe the correct response here was again to offer the tip and if he refused again, to go out on a limb and to ask him why. If you appreciate his answer and thinking, use that money wisely, possibly on yourself, or perhaps charitably to an organization you like in his name, or even to buy a gift for him.

[JT Brooklyn]

I see this guy regularly and, yes, we have a great time. Yesterday, I offered him his regular fee plus a generous tip (which I've done before). He took the money, but then refused to take anything but his hourly rate and returned a full 20% to me. We had already made another appointment, and our session was very hot. So, I'm flattered, but I have no idea what to do next time. Has this happened to anyone else, and what did you do?

 

There are those "Working Guys" who feel that the Client can be getting a little to "involved emotionally" and the TIP Situation can make them feel somewhat uneasy as to what the Clients future expectations are! Apparently you have found an Honest Guy who keeps Biz as it should be just Biz! Then again there are those guys that will gladly take a TIP! Over the Year's I have come to believe the TIP is always included in the Rate!

[Scorpio]

Yes. An escort I had hired several times once gave me back 50% of the fee. We always meet for multiple hour appointments that included nice meals. On this particular ocassion we had also gone to the theater. When he handed me back the money, he said he wanted to thank me for a wonderful evening and that in this instance he didn't feel comfortable accepting the entire fee.

 

Next time we met, I paid him the original multi-hour fee as in times past. Unfortunately, soon after that last meeting, he retired. But he still keeps in contact a few times a year via email. He has never asked for anything in return for his gesture.

[gallahadesquire]

Yes. An escort I had hired several times once gave me back 50% of the fee. We always meet for multiple hour appointments that included nice meals. On this particular ocassion we had also gone to the theater. When he handed me back the money, he said he wanted to thank me for a wonderful evening and that in this instance he didn't feel comfortable accepting the entire fee.

 

Next time we met, I paid him the original multi-hour fee as in times past. Unfortunately, soon after that last meeting, he retired. But he still keeps in contact a few times a year via email. He has never asked for anything in return for his gesture.

 

Scorpio makes a good point. The escort does have the right to take certain things "off the clock". It's a reasonable thing to do, but perhaps it should have been negotiated earlier and not as a surprise.

[Guest countryboywny]

Don't over think it. Maybe the escort appreciates your regular visits and this is his way of showing it. Haven't you ever taken a business customer out to lunch?

[Phil_musc]

The optimist in me says not to over-think this and just accept it as a nice gesture. If it happened to me (I'm still waiting for that experience) I would be cool with it and then run through all possible motivations and scenarios after the fact (which would probably diminish my appreciation of his appreciation). Oh well, sometimes it sucks to be me. Seems a nice gesture though to me at this point.

[bigvalboy]

I have had an escort and a masseur refuse a rather generous tip. I had tipped them in the past, probably excessively, and it was their way of saying that it was appreciated but not necessary anymore. I tip bartenders very heavy on a regular basis. Since I have my favorites, most of these guys I see all the time, so usually after the second or third drink they either slid the tip back across the bar to me or just start giving me drinks on the house.

 

I think in this case unsub, how I read this is that he was thanking you for being a regular, and was just indicating to you that there just wasn't a need to tip that much. If someone says to me that the tip is not necessary or they slid the tip back to me, I take them at their word and I just simply pocket the excess money. I always thank them for the gesture, and nothing more needs to be said...

[mmk123]

I agree with countryboywny-do not over think it. You have been seeing this escort for a number of years.

 

There is an escort here that I have been seeing since probably 2006. He does not see anyone anymore except for me and maybe one other person. He used to travel mainly. Well he always charged $200. As teh sessions continued, he told me more about his life and vice versa. I work in retail management and will offer to use my discount to pick stuff up for people. I have picked up this escort some stuff at a discount price, for which he either paid me back or we would deduct it from the session cost. One holiday I proabably bought about $150 of stuff (post discount) for him. He came down to pick them up and we were having a session. He paid me for the stuff and said that this session was on him and did not charge me at all (I think it was because I was able to get everything gift wrapped for him which thrilled him as much as the discount).

 

We would still see each other every few months. Last year he started to charge me only $150 instead of $200 because we had been seeing each other for so long. There is no ulterior motive that I can think of and I figured that since he was the one to offer why should I say no.

[+ Italiano]

Once I hired in NYC (I don't think he lives here anymore) a very hot bodybuilder called Sylvester, whom I guess some of you know.

I went to his place, he looked as hot as in his pics but the experience was quite disappointing, he is definitely a gay for pay kind of escort who basically only allows worship and almost no interaction.

I paid his fee and left, but then I felt like I had to let him know that the experience had been quite deceptive and I did.

He asked me for my address and sent me a refund of the 50% of what I paid!

 

Definitely I would not suggest this man for passionate love making, but I think he is one of the most honest escort on the planet!

[unsub2O17]

Thank you all for your responses. I was so surprised by the gesture that I didn't hear clearly what he said next, but I think that it was something like "now you can afford to do this more often." That's certainly fine by me.