"Newbie" needs advice

[Guest bubbatcat]

I am a "newbie" in every sense of the word. I've never had gay sex (except a circle jerk in h.s.) and I really want to try. I've been thinking that trying it first with an experienced escort would be the best. Plus, the idea of an escort is both frightening and exciting. I'm going up to Chicago later this week and I've been checking out the guys on the escort sites. I have questions but don't know who to ask. Like: (1)how do you pay for the time? up front or after? am I supposed to tip? (2)how does the time spent move into the "consenting adults" portion of the evening? (3)do i have to provide condoms, lube, etc? (4)are there any escorts who specialize in breaking in virgins? I don't know if I'll have the guts to actually go through with setting up an appointment - but having answers and suggestions would be very helpful. Thanks!!

[VaHawk]

Well, welcome to both this board and the wonderful world of gay sex! :-) If you get any nasty replies, just ignore them as some who post here have forgotten what it is like to be a "newbie" to this site, much less a "newbie" to man on man sex (I seriously doubt you'll find any virgins here!). If you look at the archives and later pages on the folders, you will find that most of your questions have been discussed before with input from both escorts and clients. If I remember correctly, there was even a thread on Chicago escorts. Since this is your first "gay experience", I would suggest that you not hire one of the shall we say "endowed" escorts if you are looking to be on the receiving end. :o Remember that you only live once and if this is something you have always wanted to try, then you should just go for it and not let your fright stop you. However, if you do make an appointment with an escort and find that you are just "too uptight" to go thru with it, then please call the escort and let him know you have changed your mind, and do so early enough that they can feel free to make other appointments and not waste their time (and thus money) sitting around waiting for a no show. I would also advise you to hire an escort with good reviews on this site and where those reviews were posted by a client not doing his first review. As to your specific questions:

1. Never pay up front if it is your first (and in your case it is)

encounter with the escort. Most reputable escorts don't

demand this, although some will expect to have the money in

view. A tip is usual if you are hiring an escort thru an

agency, otherwise most don't expect it as you will negotiate

a price with them that is usually higher than an agency

charges. However, if you wish, then tip as I have never

found an escort who has refused a tip!

2. The "adult portion" starts when they show up at your place

or hotel. If you want to spend an hour in small talk

before the action starts, then you have to pay for that

hour plus additional for every half-hour/hour you spend

in sexual activity. A lot of escorts offer a lower hourly

rate if you want to book a multi-hour or overnight session

so get all that clear with the escort up front.

3. Reputable escorts provide their own condoms, lube, etc.,

as they heatlth concious as every should be and often have

their own preference to brand, etc. However, always have

some of your own to ensure you get what you contracted for

and for your own safety. If you have any preference for

these items, discuss it first with the escort when you are

making the appointment.

4. Since I've never hired a Chicago escort and have not

been a virgin since I was 11 yo, I can't answer your

last query, but maybe others here can.

 

Good luck and have a Great Time! I can't stress enough how important it is for the client and escort to COMMUNICATE and practice COURTESY with each other to ensure a good encounter.

 

BTW, since you are a "newbie" virgin to gay sex can we call you MADONNA? :-) :-) :-) :-)

[Guest bubbatcat]

Thanks for the advice. I have been checking out the site. Someone like Michael Adam in Chicago looks like what I might be looking for. He's gotten some pretty good reviews.

 

BTW, I'm more the ultra-Madonna because I'm not "like a virgin" - I'm a full-on virgin (hoping to get touched for the very first time.

[nate_sf]

VaHawk's advice here is good. I'd add that, because this is your first time, tell this to the prospective escort(s) before seeting up the appointment. Read the reviews and see which guys seem to fit the bill as someone who might show you the ropes, vs. someone you might just want to get down to business with under different circumstances (there's alaways time for that! ). Then e-mail or call a couple and see how they respond. Some will be tuned in to what you're looking for, others might not -- trust your instincts, and make an appointment with the one you like best. As an escort, I've been asked to help guys out with trying things that were new to them which they've always wanted to do but hadn't yet for whatever reason, so be assured that what you're looking for is not unusual. The advantage of having an escort is that YOU set the terms and the boundaries.

 

An alternative you might also want to consider is to have a sensual(code: erotic) massage, which may be easier for you to get your courage up (among other things...). Or, when you meet with an escort, start with a massage, since it is a great way to ease into things. Again, just let him know beforehand what you're looking for.

 

Sorry, I'm not too familiar with Chicago either. But good luck, relax, and have fun!

[Guest DevonSFescort]

>Someone like Michael Adam in Chicago looks like what I might

>be looking for. He's gotten some pretty good reviews.

 

Michael is a VERY sweet guy. I had the pleasure of meeting and getting to know him earlier this year. They don't come nicer, and he's got the most beautiful eyes.

[Guest]

Just be sure to hire someone who's had a number of positive reviews from established reviewers (NOT first-time reviewers) for your first encounter. I would even go so far as to say that this is more important than whether he's physically your type (at least for your first escort encounter). I don't generally discuss anything sexual beforehand, as it's illegal. The information on the escort's preferences and abilities should be available on this site or on the escort's own website. If it isn't, move on to another escort. It's OK (and probably a good idea) to let the escort know you're a virgin. Most would probably be flattered you chose them for your first experience.

[+ Lucky]

Dear Mr. Newbie

If you are under 18, please ignore all of the above advice. If you are over 18, find an escort you like, just be yourself and let him guide you through all the rules. The price escorts charge is for their time only. If in the course of meeting, you both decide as consensual adults to have sex, then you can choose to waive any time remaining and go on to the sex, or you can continue to talk until the agreed time is over, and then proceed to the sex! It is possible to hire an escort for companionship rather than for sex. It's your choice!

Hope that helps.

[Guest bubbatcat]

Thanks Lucky. I'm well past jail bait age. I appreciate the advice.

[Guest BenAJ]

RE: "Newbie" needs advice

 

I agree with some other poster in that if your looking to be on the receiving end find a less "endowed" escort. Some emphasize bigger is better but not is this case. Also, if you plan to be on the receiving end make sure to be "clean" this will make the experience better for you and the escort.

 

Otherwise this site is a create reference tool. Find someone you like and you feel you will be comfortable with and read the reviews carefully to make sure he is what your looking for.

 

If you want someone gentle and his review says he pounds like a jackhammer maybe you should find someone else.

 

Anyway good luck to you and keep us updated. I hope you thoroughly enjoy it! :9

 

If only I was in Chicago...I would be glad to lend a helping hand...or anything else

 

;-)