Making Noise

[unsub2O17]

I've always been very quiet during sex. It's always seemed distracting to me. Now I'm told that it makes it more enjoyable for me as well as serving as a guide for the escort. So, how do I incorporate making sounds into my sex life? Any help would be much appreciated.

[Bosguy]

Making sounds (not noise) during sex is a turn on to most hiring guys and working guys. From heavier breathing to moans to words of encouragement are all simple ways of expressing mutual e enjoyment. Just make it REAL--nothing worse than the phony variety.

 

Boston Bill

[maxwellissmart]

I've always been very quiet during sex. It's always seemed distracting to me. Now I'm told that it makes it more enjoyable for me as well as serving as a guide for the escort. So, how do I incorporate making sounds into my sex life? Any help would be much appreciated.

 

So did I. It's only been within the last couple of years that I've started being noisier (and sometimes during orgasm I sound like I dropped a brick on my toe). Someone posted something earlier on the boards about saying your partner's name during sex. I thought I would try it, and I like it.

 

Start there and see where it takes you. Say things or make noises you're comfortable with—that aren't distracting or embarrasing or require lots of thought. If you need practice, do it while masturbating, so you get used to hearing the sound of your own voice. It's just like singing in the car.

 

Keep in mind—your sounds serve as a GREAT method for communicating your needs/desires to your partner, and can be a huge turn on or boost to their ego. Personally, I love it. Granted, there's a line that can be crossed between "omigod-that's-so-incredibly-hot" and "would-you-shut-the-fuck-up-now," but if you try to keep things within reason—I think you'll be pleased with the results and so will your partner.

 

Of course, the opposite game can be fun too—try not to make any noise whatsoever. But maybe put a new spin on this one by blindfolding yourself as well. You might find that sensory deprivation of one sort heightens the experience in other ways.

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey Unsub,

 

Thank you for your question. I find that it touches a very important subject in the field of sexuality and intimacy.

 

Let me start by saying that many people have a lot of opinions about what is good and bad during sex, what is better and how you can improve. I personally find that opinions are very much like assholes: we all have one and we are very attached to it. Just like assholes, our opinions are all real, concrete, important and valid, but whenever we try to indiscriminately use someone else's asshole we may get ourselves into a situation.

 

Some people like being vocal but some like the soothing concentration that silence brings. My only advise would be to try to determine whether you want to explore the field of sounds during sex because you feel curious about it, because you want to, or because someone else thinks you will be better if you do. If you are curious about it because someone says it's better, I'd recommend you to give this person back his asshole (his opinion) and focus on your own. You are good and perfect as you are, and you should not try to change anything to please anyone else; however, if you are wanting to find more about sounds because you are curious, because you want to try other things, because you want to learn new ways in which you can explore your sexuality, then I think you could have a lot of fun with it.

 

You could start by focusing on your breath. When you are masturbating or in the middle of sex, try to relax by breathing deeply and pleasurably. S.O.F.T.L.Y. Very often, because of the stress that sex brings with it, we not only forget to breath, but end up holding our breath for long uncomfortable periods. Breathing deeply will not only help you relax but will allow for Endorphins and Serotonin to be released more profusely. These substances are responsible for making you feel happy, horny, connected, alive, and can only flow freely when you are breathing deeply, when you are relaxed. If you are tensed up, your body is more likely to secrete Adrenalin, which make you want to fight or flight.

 

Once you become comfortable with breathing consciously during sex, you can play a little with abandoning yourself into the pleasure during the exhalation, making a slight noise, an appreciative moan, a groan, a purr. Be sure that you only do this when you experience a surge of pleasure, a real increase in enjoyment. Stay away from making noises for the sake of making noises, this not only would be very distracting to you, inorganic, but would also have the potential to confuse your partner making him think that you really enjoy things that you may not care about. Apparently human beings constantly pick up non verbal cues from each other that help us read every situation, and sex is one of the activities in which we subconsciously pick the most cues trying to read our partner. That is why it is very important that you only acknowledge with a pleasurable sound that which increases your pleasure.

 

If you are lucky to have a good escort who enjoys helping men become more comfortable with their sexuality tell him that you want to try this and hopefully you two can play together.

 

Lastly, this is not a task. This should not be work. This is all about pleasure! So, whether you breathe, moan, purr or sing an entire aria in Old German, remember that if you stop having fun you should stop, refocus and make it simpler.

 

I hope this is helpful.

[instudiocity]

Hey Unsub,

 

Thank you for your question. I find that it touches a very important subject in the field of sexuality and intimacy.

Another OPUS from the man of complete paragraphs, thoughtful and erotic. Thanks Juan!

[Juan Vancouver]

It's entirely my pleasure, Instudiocity.

 

Big hug, man!

[Okliehomo]

Such memories......

 

Juan, Juan, Juan...

 

Purring? An aria in Old German? You make me laugh. How you talk.

 

Personally, as you and so many can recall.... I am not very noisy during the deed. Couldn't be, really... almost physically impossible... with your hot, hot, hot and silky smooth muscled butt mounted and thereby, muzzling me....moistly... and memorably.

 

Do like it when the guy in the saddle talks it up..... like he likes it. Like you and Ty and Jim Slade....

 

And David...... he knew just what to say. He did from day one.... in and out of bed. Sexy, sexy, sexy....

 

Many thanks.

 

Okie

[robberbaron4u]

O. O. O. It hurts so good. O. O. O.

[unsub2O17]

Oh yes! Thank you, Juan. That was a great help and guide.

[Lohengrin1979]

Oh yes! Thank you, Juan. That was a great help and guide.

 

An aria in Old German? That sounds like an interesting challenge.

[Phil_musc]

The only possibility for an old German aria would be in Wagner - Parsifal & Meistersinger come to mind. But I think even these are in modern German. Still, I don't want to be a nit-picker. I get the point.

[jankeedaddy]

It could be an aria sung by, about, or to an 'old German'. Or is this germane?

[TruthBTold]

Just wanted to get some guidance. I'm one of those guys that really likes to hear (and make) some noise during sex. I definitely do not want an ongoing conversation but an occasional moan, "Fuck me, baby," or "Do you like that?," don't cross any line for me and let's me know that my sex partner likes what I am doing. And no matter how pathetic it may seem, it boosts my sexual confidence. The working guy I am with (and have been with for years) is great at what he does and I love sex with him. However, he makes little, if any, noise of any sort. I have tried to broach the subject subtly but he just lets me know that "he has never made much noise" during sex. I thought my asking about it would let him know that I would like a little more noise. Do I need to be more straight-forward? I don't want it to seem a criticism since I am sure that my rock hard cock would lead anyone with any sense to think that all is well in the Fuck Kingdom. I also don't want the phoniness of the situation to override any enjoyment on our parts. Yikes.

[maxwellissmart]

And no matter how pathetic it may seem, it boosts my sexual confidence.

 

Right with you—I think it's a huge turn-on to make someone pant, moan, squeal, what have you, and it makes me feel good about myself.

[Juan Vancouver]

Dear Truthbtold,

 

I really like your question because it reminds me of something that people often think about the escort-client interaction; something that in my opinion is not entirely true, or could be not entirely healthy.

 

You see an escort that you like, with whom you have spent many wonderful hours, with whom you have a great relationship and connection. You yearn for something else apart from what you two have and you have point blank asked him to provide that. He, unceremoniously and honestly has responded that this is something he doesn't provide.

 

To me this sounds like a perfectly healthy interaction, which will result in nothing but mutual satisfaction.

 

What catches my attention here is the generalized misconception that because you are a paying customer he is supposed to adapt to whatever you are demanding of him. This is similar to going to a flower shop and buying a rose. You choose your rose carefully and pay for it. Once you have it, you can arrange it solo in a tall vase, you can make it the center of attention in a huge arrangement, you can do ikebana with it, you can submerge it in seltzer water in a fish tank, you can wear it in your lapel or display it as rose petals in a bowl... hell, you can even spray paint it in whatever colour you like. What you cannot do, even if you paid for it, even if it is YOUR rose, is ask the rose to become a lily, or an orchid or a mum.

 

I agree with the general concept that if it is within an escort's field of expertise, and if it is requested kindly, the escort should be amenable to any requests, what I have trouble accepting is when people assume that because they are with a paid professional they are entitled to get anything they want.

 

My guess would be that you and your escort have a wonderful relationship and if you have kept seeing him for such a long time, it is because he has brought pleasure to your life. You have asked, and he has said he will not be able to comply. My suggestion would be to either keep seeing him and accept him for what he is, revel in the joy he brings or you could look for another sex partner with whom you can get your auditory fancies tickled.

 

Of course, I am latino, which means that I am greedy, which means I am "friendly", so my suggestion would be to keep having wonderful, memorable times with your favourite escort, and at the same time, diversify. One of the biggest beauties of the client-escort relationship is that at no time any of the participants is obliged to be exclusive.

 

I hope this helps, and I hope that soon you will be enjoying the company of a loud, groaning, moaning, screaming, passionate stud.

[+ Lucky]

I don't like it when the escort makes sounds that he thinks will show me he is enjoying what I am doing, yet the sounds are not appropriate or are overdone.

To me, that's fakery, and I don't find that a turn-on. On the other hand, I am pretty quiet myself, but will let the other person know when I like something.

[TruthBTold]

Dear Truthbtold,

 

I really like your question because it reminds me of something that people often think about the escort-client interaction; something that in my opinion is not entirely true, or could be not entirely healthy.

 

You see an escort that you like, with whom you have spent many wonderful hours, with whom you have a great relationship and connection. You yearn for something else apart from what you two have and you have point blank asked him to provide that. He, unceremoniously and honestly has responded that this is something he doesn't provide.

 

To me this sounds like a perfectly healthy interaction, which will result in nothing but mutual satisfaction.

 

What catches my attention here is the generalized misconception that because you are a paying customer he is supposed to adapt to whatever you are demanding of him. This is similar to going to a flower shop and buying a rose. You choose your rose carefully and pay for it. Once you have it, you can arrange it solo in a tall vase, you can make it the center of attention in a huge arrangement, you can do ikebana with it, you can submerge it in seltzer water in a fish tank, you can wear it in your lapel or display it as rose petals in a bowl... hell, you can even spray paint it in whatever colour you like. What you cannot do, even if you paid for it, even if it is YOUR rose, is ask the rose to become a lily, or an orchid or a mum.

 

I agree with the general concept that if it is within an escort's field of expertise, and if it is requested kindly, the escort should be amenable to any requests, what I have trouble accepting is when people assume that because they are with a paid professional they are entitled to get anything they want.

 

My guess would be that you and your escort have a wonderful relationship and if you have kept seeing him for such a long time, it is because he has brought pleasure to your life. You have asked, and he has said he will not be able to comply. My suggestion would be to either keep seeing him and accept him for what he is, revel in the joy he brings or you could look for another sex partner with whom you can get your auditory fancies tickled.

 

Of course, I am latino, which means that I am greedy, which means I am "friendly", so my suggestion would be to keep having wonderful, memorable times with your favourite escort, and at the same time, diversify. One of the biggest beauties of the client-escort relationship is that at no time any of the participants is obliged to be exclusive.

 

I hope this helps, and I hope that soon you will be enjoying the company of a loud, groaning, moaning, screaming, passionate stud.

 

Why Mr. Vancouver, are you suggesting that I see if your Latin love sounds are more to my liking?

 

No, seriously. Thank you for taking the time to provide the thoughtful answer that you did. You are completely right that there is so much that I really like about him and our sex is usually so great that this focus on sounds (particularly because he explained he is just not used to doing it) is probably nonsensical. Also, although it made perfect sense for you to assume that I thought he should make sounds if I asked him to because "Goddamn it" I was paying him, that really had not crossed my mind. Or at least I thought it did not. Maybe because I had not been in many longterm relationships (escort or otherwise) that I was not sure how it generally gets handled.

 

Of course, that does not mean that I cannot examine if a handsome Latin guy moans and groans if my tongue gets repeatedly inserted in his wet hole whenever he happens to be in town.

[Guest joeburger]

well, if you like it just moan and groan, maybe even talk dirty.

[raulgmanzo]

I've always been very quiet during sex. It's always seemed distracting to me. Now I'm told that it makes it more enjoyable for me as well as serving as a guide for the escort. So, how do I incorporate making sounds into my sex life? Any help would be much appreciated.

 

I wouldn't worry about it. Experiment a little with vocalizing your feelings. Breathing as Juan sensibly points out is a good step.

But honestly most of the noise that many escorts make is fake, corny and sometimes creepy.

 

If sounds of unnatural death and suffering are a turnon one could always save money by renting a zombie movie.

I find that the soundtracks are often interchangeable with porn. Yick.