Do You Show A Copy of A Review You Have Written Prior to Submission?

[leigh.bess.toad]

jjk posted a comment on another thread that made me wonder:

 

there have been cases where I was asked NOT to write a review, or if I was to do so, the escort wanted approval before it was posted.

 

I have never had an escort ask for approval before posting. Maybe because I always send them a copy of the review prior to submission. At my advanced years, I can barely remember to breathe, so I'd like the input of the other participant (or participants in several cases) to see if I forgot something, said something they'd rather omit, or if I was correct and actually saw them in the first place (old and forgetful ain't a good combination ). Then when I get the bounceback confirmation from Daddy, I send it to them again for any final changes/suggestions (especially in the "biographical" section). Only a couple of times have they made suggestions or corrections, but I always offer.

 

Am I the only one who sends their escort a review they have written prior to submission?

[jjkrkwood]

jjk posted a comment on another thread that made me wonder:

 

 

 

I have never had an escort ask for approval before posting. Maybe because I always send them a copy of the review prior to submission. At my advanced years, I can barely remember to breathe, so I'd like the input of the other participant (or participants in several cases) to see if I forgot something, said something they'd rather omit, or if I was correct and actually saw them in the first place (old and forgetful ain't a good combination ). Then when I get the bounceback confirmation from Daddy, I send it to them again for any final changes/suggestions (especially in the "biographical" section). Only a couple of times have they made suggestions or corrections, but I always offer.

 

Am I the only one who sends their escort a review they have written prior to submission?

 

Lee, thanks for paying attention to my posts, however keep in mind that YOUR relationship with escorts is Vastly different than mine. You have established relationships with REPEAT escorts, so the courtesy you extend them is understandable. I usually do "one shot deals" and have discussed doing a review at the end of the session, at which time various scenarios ensued, and hence the comment that I made about the escort seeking approval rights prior to submission.

 

I think a question for the escorts goes hand-in-hand : Does the escort EXPECT to be notified of a pending review, and do they WANT/EXPECT approval rights before submission. ?

[+ Charlie]

Would an opera critic show a copy of his review to the director before it's published? I have never shown an escort my review before submitting it.

[seeker630]

I don't think I've ever given an escort a preview of a review, or a chance to provide input. It's an account of my experience.

[Lohengrin1979]

Even if I were to give a preview of a review I submit for a masseur or escort, which I wouldn't, doesn't Daddy request contact information so he can get approval from said escort or masseur to publish the review anyway? If it's a matter of an escort not wanting a review at all, I think Daddy covers it. As far as letting someone vet a review that I'm writing about them, no thanks. I agree with the Earl on this one. It should be uninfluenced by the subject.

[+ newatthis]

I was very surprised a few years ago to receive a gushing email from an escort thanking me for the wonderful review I had given him...several days before the review appeared. I asked how he knew about it; he replied that the site had contacted him for verification of stats in the review and to ask for a picture to use. So, at least back then, and at least for escorts being reviewed for the first time, daddy's reviews had a policy of showing reviews to escorts in advance.

 

So far as I know, that didn't mean escorts got to request changes in a review (which I took to be the subtext of the original question).

[seeker630]

Even if I were to give a preview of a review I submit for a masseur or escort, which I wouldn't, doesn't Daddy request contact information so he can get approval from said escort or masseur to publish the review anyway? If it's a matter of an escort not wanting a review at all, I think Daddy covers it. As far as letting someone vet a review that I'm writing about them, no thanks. I agree with the Earl on this one. It should be uninfluenced by the subject.

I didn't think escorts had the option to request that a review not be published (unless they could demonstrate it was a fake). They do get a chance to respond.

 

Am I wrong?

[leigh.bess.toad]

I didn't think escorts had the option to request that a review not be published (unless they could demonstrate it was a fake). They do get a chance to respond.

 

Am I wrong?

 

No, escorts do not have the option of not having a review published. From the FAQ on the reviews section:

 

"If you want your picture removed from the site, tell me and I'll take it down! But the reviews will stand. A professional actor or other entertainer does NOT write email to Roger Ebert and demand that he stop the presses and delete his reviews of their work."

 

And they will only get a chance to respond in the event of a negative review, if I remember correctly.

[adriano46]

Would an opera critic show a copy of his review to the director before it's published? I have never shown an escort my review before submitting it.

 

Excellent perspective, as always Charlie -- and as others have noted, this site does contact the escorts for "verification" and the escort does have the chance for a rebuttal if it is something he feels is needed. I generally do NOT advertise I will send in a review (but some know that I am a guy who uses this site and submits reviews). Only 2 or 3 times did an escort actually solicit a review -- and thank God in each case it was after a blissful hour (or two, or overnight) with guys I would give 5-stars to. And to be "fair and balanced" I once refrained from a negative review of an escort who often posted here and was considered one of the most popular. I was not at all so entertained, but rather than submit a review, I simply wrote and told him -- and then underwent days of scathing e-mails, threats, insults and other over-the-top acts until I simply walked away from the boards and forums for a while (a sort of self-imposed "time out").

[whipped guy]

Well hardly ever!

 

I really never show an escort a review prior to submission... but there has been an exception to the rule and I will mention it below.

 

I wrote my first review well over a decade ago and that was way before I even thought of formally joining this Forum. At that time, being a newbie, I asked the escort if he wanted to read it prior to submission. His response was that the review should encapsulate my perceptions and experiences and therefore it would not be fair to ask for or even want any input or advice from him. That has been my basic modus operandi ever since.

 

The exception concerned a session where the escort decided to turn the tables and become the sub in an S&M scenario… and I wanted to be very careful as to how I presented the situation as I was afraid that the review could possibly send the wrong message to potential clients. In that case I forwarded my rough draft of the review to assure the escort that I would not give a wrong impression as to what future clients could expect. Plus, I made it clear in the review that our session was based on mutual respect, an appreciation for limits and boundaries, and safety. I also emphasized that our previous relationships had paved the way for such an encounter and was not something that would be done indiscriminately. The escort was comfortable with the draft which was subsequently fine tuned and submitted. In essence there was no input from the escort other than the fact that he gave his imprimatur to the publication of the review.

 

So the short answer would be that just like the opera review situation the escort does not get to see a copy not the review beforehand… but I guess there are exceptions to every rule!

 

So as Gilbert and Sullivan would say:

 

What never?

No never.

What never?

Well hardly ever!

[RockCreekRunr]

Whipped Guy, I've been in the same boat as you--sort of. I have never run a review by an escort prior to submitting it, with one exception. A well-known escort/porn actor who advertises as "top-only" agreed to bottom for me after we had met a couple of times and developed some chemistry and camaraderie. When I wrote a very favorable review of him a couple of years ago, I ran it by him first to be sure I was not revealing any details than he felt should have remained between us. He did kindly ask me to revise a sentence or two. I obliged his requests since the edits did not change the accuracy or tone of the overall review.

[whipped guy]

RCR... When faced with situations where S&M is not the escorts main or even advertised activity I always ask if a review would be appreciated. Usually the answer is "yes" because it would indicate a certain amount of versatility. However, on one occasion the escort felt that it would be better to just keep things between the two of us and I certainly respected his request.

[seeker630]

Whipped Guy, I've been in the same boat as you--sort of. I have never run a review by an escort prior to submitting it, with one exception. A well-known escort/porn actor who advertises as "top-only" agreed to bottom for me after we had met a couple of times and developed some chemistry and camaraderie. When I wrote a very favorable review of him a couple of years ago, I ran it by him first to be sure I was not revealing any details than he felt should have remained between us. He did kindly ask me to revise a sentence or two. I obliged his requests since the edits did not change the accuracy or tone of the overall review.

 

I had a similar experience with a 'top only' escort. At the end of the session, he asked me not to tell anyone that he bottomed because he didn't want clients to expect that, and I did I omit that one act that from my review.

[Epigonos]

I have never run a review past an escort prior to submission to this site. I always discuss the site with an escort for whom I would like to write a review and ask if he has any objections. Thus far none have objected. This might change in the very near future. I will soon be doing an overnight with an escort who I have a feeling will not want a review written no matter how good. If that is indeed the case I will not write a review.

[GoodFella69]

If possible, help me understand why an escort would not want a positive review posted about him?

[Lohengrin1979]

No, escorts do not have the option of not having a review published. From the FAQ on the reviews section:

 

"If you want your picture removed from the site, tell me and I'll take it down! But the reviews will stand. A professional actor or other entertainer does NOT write email to Roger Ebert and demand that he stop the presses and delete his reviews of their work."

 

And they will only get a chance to respond in the event of a negative review, if I remember correctly.

 

Mea culpa on that one Lee. I stand by the rest of my comment though.

[+ Cash4Trash]

I do run a copy of the review past the escort prior to forwarding it. Usually don't review someone I haven't seen more than once and plan on seeing again. Just a courtesy and a step in building a cordial relationship. I've been

seeing some guys for 10 years and plan on endorsing my Social Security checks over to them when we're happily ensconced in a senior citizens home.

 

I review under the name Cheap Violin.

[jjkrkwood]

If possible, help me understand why an escort would not want a positive review posted about him?

 

In MY particular case, the escorts I usually select might be considered "alternative", or out of the ordinary, and project a certain "image", however my sceen is somewhat "vanilla", and although I think it speaks volumes that an escort can adjust to the demands of the client, certain escorts DO NOT want their image tarnished by a review that goes against a particular image they are trying to project and maintain.

[Bosguy]

I always send a copy prior to submission, primarily so they can make sure data and statistics are correct and that my descriptions did not exceed both of our agreed upon terms.

 

The guys really appreciate this

 

Boston Bill

[adriano46]

To add a PS to what I wrote, I am careful to always balance both details of what occurred with respecting too the escorts "limits" in his ad. For instance, if I meet a guy for a sensual massage that - at his decision - goes further but does not enttail extra $$$ - I would not mention this as I leave it to his discretion. Similarly, with a guy who in the heat of the moment wanted to do BB (which we did not do)... I am not going to report this as I never consumated the act and chalk it up really to his "not thinking" -- If I declare he is into BB, it is based on what? He may have asked to do it, I refused, so as far as I am concerned, case closed. Unless there was other dangerous behavior or inappropriate behavior on his part, I just skip over this. And, after all -- the escorts can refute what we write in a review - and often do.

[gregkidman]

In one case, an escort wanted to ensure that I mention that we practiced safe sex. Since if I omit it, the session in the review may imply we were barebacking. In this case, I am glad to get feedback from the escort before I submitted it (which I tweaked to included safe sex).

[JT Brooklyn]

Would an opera critic show a copy of his review to the director before it's published? I have never shown an escort my review before submitting it.

 

Totally Agree! The "Experience" was what it was..Good/Bad/or Ugly!

[ragazzolupo]

I usually submit only positive reviews. If I didn't click with the escort, I presume it was just "not in the cards". I don't go back for a second helping of "not in the cards." Only rarely have I shown a review to an escort. One was a guy I had seen quite a few times and who had no reviews. That we had a 'relationship' and that this was going to be his first review on Daddy's or any other site, I thought I would get him the copy to 'look it over'. I am happy to report that since then he has gotten many other positive reviews. Another example was an escort that I had spent a brilliant vacation and his rate was 'stupid low' by my standards. Even with a 50% tip I still wanted to check with him that the rate that I was publishing was 'O.K.' to put out in public.

[Epigonos]

GoodFella69 sorry I haven’t responded to your question sooner. Some guys escort on the side and are full time students or have full time jobs. Here in Southern California some of these guys are aspiring actors and they do NOT under any circumstances what it generally know that they escort. They are convinced that if that information got out it would damage their potential acting career. Some guys who are students intend to pursue careers that they believe would be difficult or impossible to pursue if it was known that they escorted. They are very careful about the photographs they post on rentboy or men4rent. They are sincerely afraid that any review written about them might jeopardize their anonymity. Whether or not their concern is valid I don’t know but their fear is real. Hope that answers your question

[gcursor]

I usually only hire guys that have had several reviews already so there's usually not a problem with me posting a review on them. As for the review itself, I send them a copy of the review as I submit it to Daddy for posting. I've never been asked to change any part of my reviews and I'm very happy about that. It would depend on what they were asking me to change as to whether I would do it or not. However I try to be very fair in all my reviews so I would never anticipate that somebody would want to make changes to one.