Anyone else into greedy guys?

[Jakeoconner79]

I don't know why but I love when a guy uses me for money or gifts or anything else . I'm not sure why it turns me on so much. I am 29 years old 6ft, good shape cute. I know I can get laid... But it turns me on if I have to pay...If I am on manhunt or adam4adam. I hope the guy bluntly rejects me so I can offer him money. One time a guy asked for a tip after he fucked me, I thought it was the hottest thing ever ! Anyone else into guys like this? I'd love to talk to someone

[jjkrkwood]

I don't know why but I love when a guy uses me for money or gifts or anything else . I'm not sure why it turns me on so much. I am 29 years old 6ft, good shape cute. I know I can get laid... But it turns me on if I have to pay...If I am on manhunt or adam4adam. I hope the guy bluntly rejects me so I can offer him money. One time a guy asked for a tip after he fucked me, I thought it was the hottest thing ever ! Anyone else into guys like this? I'd love to talk to someone

 

Ummmm......

[josephga]

I was always the care giver in relationships. I always liked babying guys giving them gifts and such. normally not money but i was always the emotional supporter, the shoulder to cry on. paid for mostly everything i did. every guy ive dated but 1 has been 10 years younger than me and they asked me out not the other way around. Even when the guy was older I was still the daddy role in the relationship

[jjkrkwood]

I was always the care giver in relationships. I always liked babying guys giving them gifts and such. normally not money but i was always the emotional supporter, the shoulder to cry on. paid for mostly everything i did. every guy ive dated but 1 has been 10 years younger than me and they asked me out not the other way around. Even when the guy was older I was still the daddy role in the relationship

 

A Daddy role doesnt necessarily imply "Being taken advantage of". Thats a whole different "emotional need", and probably relates back to an issue of low self esteem. However, if BOTH parties are comfortable with their scene or arrangement, there really is no problem, or judgement to be made.

[+ Axiom2001]

I don't know why but I love when a guy uses me for money or gifts or anything else . I'm not sure why it turns me on so much. I am 29 years old 6ft, good shape cute. I know I can get laid... But it turns me on if I have to pay...If I am on manhunt or adam4adam. I hope the guy bluntly rejects me so I can offer him money. One time a guy asked for a tip after he fucked me, I thought it was the hottest thing ever ! Anyone else into guys like this? I'd love to talk to someone

 

Jack, your thread baffles me! I'll leave it at that! lol lol - - -

[jjkrkwood]

Jack, your thread baffles me! I'll leave it at that! lol lol - - -

 

BAFFLE....thats the word I was searching for !

[Jakeoconner79]

Oh yeah u guess its weird ... Thanks for replying tho. I don't have anyone to talk to about this stuff so it was nice to express it

[+ Travis69]

Is it just in a sexual situation that you enjoy this? If you go out with friends to dinner and they always stick you with the check is that a turn on? I have known others who enjoy paying for sex over "free hook-ups" due to the control aspect but yours sounds like you don't enjoy the control issue.

[Cooper]

Money, Money, Money...

 

Back in the days of the Gaiety, you would occasionally see customers shower the dancers (while on stage) with $$$$$'s... It seemed to give those customers pleasure but appeared odd to the rest of us... Hey, if it floats your boat, do it...

[Jakeoconner79]

Only in sexual situations. I would never get taken advantage at work or with friends ... I guess it's being with a cocky VGL stud who knows he can get people to do whatever he wants... Thanks for replying to my post ,

[Jakeoconner79]

I was only able to go to the gaiety a few times b4 it closed I think I was like 23 or something , i don't think I'd do anything like that .... I would want something in return if I was giving them money, such a Shame that place closed! Sounds like it was amazing, Ever know of a tell all book about that place? Would love to read about what really went down there?

[+ Travis69]

Sounds like the "alpha male" type turns you on. Ever hook up with a definite "alpha male" type without the monetary situation?

[raulgmanzo]

Actually this is more common than many realize.

Or put another way there are a lot of guys out there who think they are alone in feeling the way you feel.

Many are just not as honest about expressing it as you have been.

As long as you can afford it and you enjoy it then there is nothing wrong with it.

 

Raul

 

I don't know why but I love when a guy uses me for money or gifts or anything else . I'm not sure why it turns me on so much. I am 29 years old 6ft, good shape cute. I know I can get laid... But it turns me on if I have to pay...If I am on manhunt or adam4adam. I hope the guy bluntly rejects me so I can offer him money. One time a guy asked for a tip after he fucked me, I thought it was the hottest thing ever ! Anyone else into guys like this? I'd love to talk to someone

[+ Charlie]

A few times recently I have been surprised to see ads from REALLY cocky guys who say they are looking for "financial slaves", or some such term, as well as more traditional S/M types of sex. Perhaps you could do a search for such terms on Rentboy. It certainly would not appeal to me, but there must be other clients who want it, or the escort wouldn't reveal it in an ad.

[jjkrkwood]

Is it just in a sexual situation that you enjoy this? If you go out with friends to dinner and they always stick you with the check is that a turn on? I have known others who enjoy paying for sex over "free hook-ups" due to the control aspect but yours sounds like you don't enjoy the control issue.

 

Travis, FREE hookups can also have a control aspect. Often one party or the other is dominant and in control, so therefore i would say the only

difference between the 2 is the MONEY being exchanged.... However, the OP didnt mention CONTROL, he mentioned "being taken advantage of" as the big Turn-on. So therefore I am wondering if he allows his other service providers like Doctors, Lawyers, Insurance carriers, plumbers to overchage him or Rip him off as well ? Or does this NEED only apply to sexual situations?

[jjkrkwood]

I was only able to go to the gaiety a few times b4 it closed I think I was like 23 or something , i don't think I'd do anything like that .... I would want something in return if I was giving them money, such a Shame that place closed! Sounds like it was amazing, Ever know of a tell all book about that place? Would love to read about what really went down there?

 

It was pretty tame. Boys for Sale. All the sex was behind the scenes. Afterall the place was a dump, with mylar curtains... But it was certainly Iconic, and I loved it.... I still have the fanny pack I carried that was stuffed with dollar bills. ;-)

[jjkrkwood]

Back in the days of the Gaiety, you would occasionally see customers shower the dancers (while on stage) with $$$$$'s... It seemed to give those customers pleasure but appeared odd to the rest of us... Hey, if it floats your boat, do it...

 

the Gaiety also "sunk" a few peoples boats. I knew several guys who would wait for their Social Security checks to come, then go to the Gaiety and blow it all on the "Dancing Boys".... then would have to make a can of tuna last them a whole week.....

[zeyfur]

Jake. I will send you a pm but I need £100 per message LOLOL

[Jakeoconner79]

It was pretty tame. Boys for Sale. All the sex was behind the scenes. Afterall the place was a dump, with mylar curtains... But it was certainly Iconic, and I loved it.... I still have the fanny pack I carried that was stuffed with dollar bills. ;-)

 

I wish I was able to see more of it ... I do remember a guy called dr mike maybe Where he would come on the stage with a sergical mask on , I remember him being amazing looking and me wishing I had a few hundred dollars

[Jakeoconner79]

Travis, FREE hookups can also have a control aspect. Often one party or the other is dominant and in control, so therefore i would say the only

difference between the 2 is the MONEY being exchanged.... However, the OP didnt mention CONTROL, he mentioned "being taken advantage of" as the big Turn-on. So therefore I am wondering if he allows his other service providers like Doctors, Lawyers, Insurance carriers, plumbers to overchage him or Rip him off as well ? Or does this NEED only apply to sexual situations?

 

Its just in sexual relationships .... If the plumber was very hot and hung ... Then I'd be into him taking advantage

[josephga]

A Daddy role doesnt necessarily imply "Being taken advantage of". Thats a whole different "emotional need", and probably relates back to an issue of low self esteem. However, if BOTH parties are comfortable with their scene or arrangement, there really is no problem, or judgement to be made.

 

Your very insightful. My first bf use to call me a martyr. For years I thought I suffered from depression even took meds prescribed by a general physician. Still I felt no different. Then I saw a therapist for a few sessions and she said I didn’t suffer from depression but from a form of codependency. Codependent people usually put the needs and welfare of others ahead of their own and believe they are responsible for other people. Codependent people may have poor self-esteem and feel a deep need to seek approval and recognition from others. They fear losing relationships. There’s a wide range of codependency behavior but that’s that traits she said I fell into.

[Guest verymarried]

To Original Poster: I agree with Raul. Do not be put off by anyone who calls your comments weird. I hang out with a dancer in New Orleans whom I enjoy taking shopping and buying clothes for him. It is probably a similar fetish.

[jjkrkwood]

To Original Poster: I agree with Raul. Do not be put off by anyone who calls your comments weird. I hang out with a dancer in New Orleans whom I enjoy taking shopping and buying clothes for him. It is probably a similar fetish.

 

I think when we exhibit THIS kind of behavior we are subconsciously HOPING our deeds will result in a desired goal, maybe sexual, maybe otherwise. Most behaviors have a reason or motive behind them, often not clear or evident to us. In other cases they ARE clearcut and are a "means to an end".. If the only adverse affect to you is financial, but you are confortable with that, than there is no problem. But if the behavior is uncontrollable and overwheming, then professional help may be needed. Just be honest with YOURSELF as to what is happening in the situation.

[+ Travis69]

Jake - Sounds to me it is the personality of the guy, not the exchange of money, that is the turn on. You have the idea you won't get the guy without the money therefore you throw the monetary hook to them. Some of these arrogant gorgeous guys will come running just as quick if you promise them a "sexual doormat" for them to use at their whim. You'll end up with the same result without having to spend any money. Just don't want you to get in financial trouble. Also being a "sexual doormat" still means they respect your limits.

[Jakeoconner79]

Jake - Sounds to me it is the personality of the guy, not the exchange of money, that is the turn on. You have the idea you won't get the guy without the money therefore you throw the monetary hook to them. Some of these arrogant gorgeous guys will come running just as quick if you promise them a "sexual doormat" for them to use at their whim. You'll end up with the same result without having to spend any money. Just don't want you to get in financial trouble. Also being a "sexual doormat" still means they respect your limits.

 

Hey I think you're. Right. ... I guess the money part comes into play so that I can get guys out of my league