Would you rather date a guy who is an escort or who does crystal meth?

[JoeyBryant]

So I'm still a bit peeved about a guy I met couple weeks ago. He really seemed like my type and I was really interested in him. We went on 2 dates, but the first night he came over to my place. It was going to start off as a hookup, but apparently he liked me so much that he didn't want to do sex on the 1st date.

 

The deal breaker was when he showed up 4 hours late to our 1st date which seemed kind of flaky and unreliable and I don't like dealing with guys like that. He was also open about partying with Tina occasionally.

 

After that I didn't see him as 100% relationship material...but on our 2nd date I was really starting to like him.

 

Well, the thing I kind of regret is when I had a regular client, we were doing our first overnight and after a few drinks decided we wanted a 3rd over. The only guy I knew who'd be willing to was the guy. This guy never escorted in his life. But at the same time he was all for it and up for the money. It was a simple request, nothing too graphic. But it was horrible. Like he didn't even want to be there. I felt bad for him and my client.

 

But afterwards his view towards me changed 360 degrees. He didn't want to kiss anymore, and told me that he just couldn't be serious with me. Then he said we could hangout and be friends, but I have stopped hearing from him.

 

In a way, I'm like...how can he be so judgmental? It's like you party with Tina and I didn't dismiss you on the spot, but you can't accept me for what I'm doing? You also fully agreed on coming to join and now you make me feel resentful for it.

 

It just makes me feel at this point I'm hesitant about moving forward with anyone else, especially under 40. It seems like guys 40+ are fine with it, but for some odd reason guys my age 20s and 30s seem like they hold it against you. Guys in their 40s seem to understand the reasoning behind it whereas the younger guys can't seem to understand. And the guy I was referring to had on his profile that he was 28 but he told me on the 2nd date that he was 32!

[bigvalboy]

Joey first of all, Are you kidding me! Tina occasionally? No body does that shit occasionally, Period. End of story. So don't even go there, and then you are baffled when this new BF can't make a rational decision, or think clearly. You always claim to be this well traveled, worldly, young intelligent escort, but then you go home and climb into bed with some guy who is spun out on Meth. You need to sit calmly and watch the video that Steven posted and really listen. AND then watch it again.

[+ purplekow]

Seems there is a lesson here about mixing business with pleasure. However, I think it is probably best to avoid getting too involved with crystal meth users unless you are ready to face up to the possibility of having your stuff stolen, being stood up and lied to over and over again and in general dating someone who stands a real chance of passing away each time they leave the house to meet Tina.

[Steven_Draker]

Joey, being TEN times more addictive than speed and cocaine, there's NO such a thing as "occasionally" when it comes to partying with crystal meth. You need to cut it short ASAP before it gets too late. This a serious call.

 

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Daz3GzqhRfU

[bigvalboy]

Steven, Thank you thank you thank you for posting. This is so rampant in society. It is everywhere. It is more prevalent in the Burbs than the inner city. Old, young, rich, poor... It is the most higly addictive drug know to man. How people still think that you can control or do this occasionally is insane. Joey trust me when I say this to you, I know what I am talking about. Who you date, the kinds of guys you date, how old they are is the least of your problems....besides, tweeker sex is shit sex.

[justaguy]

Joey, please hear what's being said. This is a drug that takes over lives like nothing else.

 

As far as the question posed by your thread, I think PK hit on the crux of the problem. The guy didn't want to have sex on the first date. That should have told you something about him. If you really wanted to date this guy, IMO you should not have made him part of your business. I'm not suggesting that you hide the fact that you escort. What I am saying is that by calling him in for a business 3 way, you probably negatively effected the way he thinks you see him.

[+ Cash4Trash]

Plus you gave a drug addict information about yourself (escort) he can use to blackmail you if and when he

gets vindictive or desperate. Never give away the bullets someone may use to shoot you.

[leigh.bess.toad]

Joey -- I'm with the others. Tina is a huge problem and I would stay as far away from someone with the meth problem as humanly possible.

 

Having to choose to date an escort or a meth user, the answer is so easy. Escort. No problem.

[bigvalboy]

Plus you gave a drug addict information about yourself (escort) he can use to blackmail you if and when he

gets vindictive or desperate. Never give away the bullets someone may use to shoot you.

 

Excellent point Cash4Trash, especially Joey since your reputation is something that is always on the line. Once you lose that, you have nothing...

[JT Brooklyn]

Neither!

[dane michaels]

I have 2 friends that are addicts and I can only say that where once we were all very close, we are no more. It tears me up to see them in that state and I am only around now to offer help with food and maybe hygiene supplies, but never in cash. This is a heart wrenching addiction that eats at the very core of who they are and the only ones that can help, are themselves and till they see what hold it has, no one can intervene. Joey I hope that you can walk away from this guy and very swiftly. I dated a guy that made me feel my worth in this world was that I was an escort for hire. That really hurt and I was very much so in love with him. It was actually men on this forum, whom I've worked with and spent much time with that actually helped me walk away. I hope the same for you in this situation. We are men who try to provide the best good that we can in the best way that we can and to be made to feel that its any other way is wrong. The best to you in your situation Joey. *powerful documentary Steven, thanks for posting that*

[Decatur Guy]

As long as he used protection with me every time and had some degree of energy and time left for me, I'd date an escort.

 

I would not date a crystal meth user.

[RockCreekRunr]

Date an escort? Absolutely, no problem.

 

Date a meth addict? Not a chance in hell!

 

Joey, for your own safety and sanity, stay away from this guy.

[JoeyBryant]

Joey first of all, Are you kidding me! Tina occasionally? No body does that shit occasionally, Period. End of story. So don't even go there, and then you are baffled when this new BF can't make a rational decision, or think clearly. You always claim to be this well traveled, worldly, young intelligent escort, but then you go home and climb into bed with some guy who is spun out on Meth.

 

He didn't show up at my place strung out on Meth. I am all the things that you mentioned...but if you had seen this guy you'd probably sweep it under the rug too. But it's whatever, we never ended up as boyfriends, just went on a couple of dates.

 

Seems there is a lesson here about mixing business with pleasure. However, I think it is probably best to avoid getting too involved with crystal meth users unless you are ready to face up to the possibility of having your stuff stolen, being stood up and lied to over and over again and in general dating someone who stands a real chance of passing away each time they leave the house to meet Tina.

 

LOL, sounds like a dodged a bullet. I'm sorry, I just didn't know crystal was that explicit. I've had some pretty bad experiences with friends who did coke, but that's about it.

 

I'm glad now that I've been able to get the go ahead to move on (I have not seen or heard from him since that night). But overall he seemed like such a stable and level-headed guy, it was hard for me to hold it against him on the spot. Every time we had a conversation; it was a clear, no nonsense, intellectual conversation. He always thought I couldn't understand him because English wasn't his first language, but I did.

 

Plus you gave a drug addict information about yourself (escort) he can use to blackmail you if and when he

gets vindictive or desperate. Never give away the bullets someone may use to shoot you.

 

Nah, he wouldn't. He's a bit older than me and at this point I think he's terrified of me for being an escort LOL. We don't know each other well enough for him to do anything like that. I'm not paranoid about it.

 

I joked around with him afterwards saying, "I feel like I raped you, you're not going to run to the fuzz on me are you??" He then says, "Of course not! I'm doing crystal!"

 

The bullet would ricochet off my chest and hit him right in the head...