masc only; my age or younger; str8-acting

[jjkrkwood]

People can be blunt. I agree don't give a shit what others think. I saw 2 profiles that came to mind few weeks ago they both had 2 lines in their ads that stood out.

one said. vanilla & spice no chocolate or rice. the other said. I block more Asians than the great wall of china

 

joseph, theres no denying prejudice, and I suppose the only way you weed out what you DONT want is to be blunt about it. Keep in mind that these are Strangers, they dont care about you or your feelings. Their profiles are focused and written with a specific goal. It is what it is...

[josephga]

I don't view someone who only wants to date their own race as prejudice. It's preference not prejudice. It's how they deliver the message with those types of lines. If I'm not interested in someone I just avoid those profiles that don't interest me. or block the ones that don't interest me

[josephga]

I think most people on those sites have no intention of ever meeting regardless of the situation. Some just want attention due to low self worth and need a ego stroke. I talked to this one guy off and on for over 2 years sometimes going months in between. He won't ever meet and I know it. talked with others weeks some months and always an excuse. Some guys are waiting for perfection. scared if they agree to go out with guy 1 that guy 2 who they really like just a little bit more will finally say yes. lol

[jjkrkwood]

I think most people on those sites have no intention of ever meeting regardless of the situation. Some just want attention due to low self worth and need a ego stroke. I talked to this one guy off and on for over 2 years sometimes going months in between. He won't ever meet and I know it. talked with others weeks some months and always an excuse. Some guys are waiting for perfection. scared if they agree to go out with guy 1 that guy 2 who they really like just a little bit more will finally say yes. lol

 

Exactly, its more of a game of cat and mouse for most. Once they catch you, they disappear. Its really Sad, and a big waste of time, thats why i have started deleting my profile off of many hookup sites. I am not there to chat, make friends or increase my Christmas card list. If you aint serious about a hookup, I need to move on.

[josephga]

Not just hookup sites either same thing with match com. had a profile on there for 90 days and met no one. same people have profiles on every site. I ended up deleting that one

[+ Archer]

To all the guys out there who narrowly define their attractions and deny themselves the pleasures of a variety of men: THANK YOU! Please continue painting yourselves into a corner. Leaves more men for me. Although I am partial to hairy guys; I like all sizes, shapes, ages and colors of men.

 

For the men who are turned down by these very sad guys: No matter how good looking they are, would you really want to hook up with someone like that?

[JoeyBryant]

People can be blunt. I agree don't give a shit what others think. I saw 2 profiles that came to mind few weeks ago they both had 2 lines in their ads that stood out.

one said. vanilla & spice no chocolate or rice. the other said. I block more Asians than the great wall of china

 

LOL, you almost made me chock on my food from laughter. I mean, anyone who dislikes Asians that much is silly. I'm seeing a guy who is technically 'Mexican' but has Asian and Italian background. So he's actually not 'Mexican' at all. But someone who doesn't know any better would say, "No Mexicans, White or Asian only" and offend the kid. Another reason why I think 'preferences' is bullocks.

 

joseph, theres no denying prejudice, and I suppose the only way you weed out what you DONT want is to be blunt about it. Keep in mind that these are Strangers, they dont care about you or your feelings. Their profiles are focused and written with a specific goal. It is what it is...

 

Those wimps need to stop waiting for the perfect guy, and GO AFTER the perfect guy. That's what I did. I got tired of getting the same messages from people I didn't want, and instead went after what I wanted occasionally. People who are happy with someone don't waste their time telling people what they don't want. They just go after what they do want. Which is why I like clients. They tend to know what they want and go after it.

[jjkrkwood]

 

Those wimps need to stop waiting for the perfect guy, and GO AFTER the perfect guy. That's what I did. I got tired of getting the same messages from people I didn't want, and instead went after what I wanted occasionally. People who are happy with someone don't waste their time telling people what they don't want. They just go after what they do want. Which is why I like clients. They tend to know what they want and go after it.[/QUOTE]

 

Yes Joey, BUT they are paying for what they want. Those guys that cant afford to pay have to rely on Real World encounters that usually dont materialize. Its frustrating and depressing. Chemistry cant be felt over the internet. Alot of successful connections are the result of GOOD chemistry. The only way to test chemistry is with a face-to-face but guys are usually reluctant to take the plunge and meet.

[+ FreshFluff]

I have to agree with JJkrkwood and Philmusc: Preferences are a fact of life. One Fab commenter had this response to the idea of forgetting desire and focusing on "pleasure" only:

 

"Perhaps you all should open your mind to women and realize we have vaginas that accommodate your penises better than any ass could. Stop discriminating against women!"

 

Seriously, I understand that it stings when you read 100 ads that say they want someone that's not you. But would it be better if that same person had to experience that same rejection face to face 40 times.

[justaguy]

This topic/debate has been going on forever. Study after study demonstrates one thing: beauty rules. Is it fair? No. Is it the way it is? Yes. Studies show that even before we can say a word, we as a species know what attracts us. Infants will focus longer on pictures of classically proportioned faces and bodies than on pictures of less classically proportioned faces and bodies. That being said, it's good to be open to new experiences and occasionally trying something that doesn't immediately appeal. You never know what will surprise you in the moment.

[josephga]

I knew a guy once that started escorting very good looking guy He told me he always struck out on the sites like manhunt adam4adam and grindr. Never had a bf in his life. He said it was strange that he call sell it but can't give it away.

[gallahadesquire]

I knew a guy once that started escorting very good looking guy He told me he always struck out on the sites like manhunt adam4adam and grindr. Never had a bf in his life. He said it was strange that he call sell it but can't give it away.

 

I'm reminded of two (out of three) quotes called the Rules of Life:

 

* Learn to laugh at yourself. If you don't, somebody else WILL, and it won't be as much fun.

* If you can't stand solitude, maybe other people find you boring, too.

[EZEtoGRU]

To all the guys out there who narrowly define their attractions and deny themselves the pleasures of a variety of men: THANK YOU! Please continue painting yourselves into a corner. Leaves more men for me. Although I am partial to hairy guys; I like all sizes, shapes, ages and colors of men.

 

For the men who are turned down by these very sad guys: No matter how good looking they are, would you really want to hook up with someone like that?

 

Huh? So having preferences and certain attractions makes one sad and prejudiced? So the fact that I cannot get into rolling in the sheets with an obese man or someone with a small penis makes me sad? Really? Well I guess everyone on this forum is "sad" in one way or another. Now I feel "sad" for all of us. In fact, since most of us exclude women from our search for a partner, I supposed that makes us prejudiced against females too.

 

Its absurd for anyone to contend that everyone has to feign attraction to all types of people. Sorry, its not in our DNA. We have certain built-in attractions and interests.

 

Wow.....I don't know how I missed this thread.

[MrBigTL]

It is pretty simple really, people like what they like, we all have certain things that trip our triggers, and we all have things that turn us on and turn us off. There is no reason to be hurtful about it, but some people have broader tastes than others. If someone like older men, and they want to share it in their profile then that's all good, but in my view, I have no problem with people telling me things that are deal breakers for them. It's real, it's true, and it makes the world go around. Remember the old saying, "There is no accounting for taste, said the old maid as she kissed the old gray mule." You cannot make everyone have sex with everyone. That's why we have the market we have, that's why we have escorts, and I thank God that we do.

[bcohen7719]

Thats the way it is DC. Often when I read Daddys escort reviews, they are often by middle aged to older, overweight gentlemen, so I guess the Free sex doesnt flow so freely for them,, and hence they Pay for what they want. I have commented myself on This site that alot of guys choosen by the members as "attractive and desirable" look like pre-teen girls..... Fantasy, fantasy, fantasy.....

 

JJ:

 

So true, so hilarious!

 

BC

[+ Gar1eth]

The Great Experiment Has Ended!!!

 

Originally Posted by Decatur Guy

What I love is reading someone wants a guy 25 or younger, athletic, straight-acting, ect., and he turns out to be 45, "slightly" overweight, etc. ... yeah, good luck with that mister.

 

 

Thats the way it is DC. Often when I read Daddys escort reviews, they are often by middle aged to older, overweight gentlemen, so I guess the Free sex doesnt flow so freely for them,, and hence they Pay for what they want. I have commented myself on This site that alot of guys choosen by the members as "attractive and desirable" look like pre-teen girls..... Fantasy, fantasy, fantasy.....

 

 

'Free sex doesn't flow so easily for them'- in my case translate 'doesn't flow so easily' to almost never

 

I would like to represent the chubby ( code speak for fat) middle aged guys out there ( if there are any besides me) and say why should this be so surprising? Don't straight guys in similar circumstances often still want younger women? Now do I really expect to find someone like that interested in me- no. In my case it's unfortunate because I never tried doing anything with guys my own age when I was younger and very slightly in better shape and might have been able to attract them. So I have lost the chance for my time in the sun without a chance to ever obtain it.

 

Which brings me to the title of my post---on the advice of counsel- I joined Adam4Adam, Manhunt, OkCupid in August, and a little bit afterward Scruff, Grindr, Growlr, Bear 411, and recently Silver Daddys. Out of all these sites - I met one guy ( partnered) who still seems to want to have some sort of relationship, another guy also partnered who seems somewhat interested me- but we haven't met due to living far apart-other than these guys- I've met 3 guys for not totally fulfilling 'sex' or quickies- and a few guys- about 3 contacted me- who I wasn't attracted to ( I know looking like me - I shouldn't throw aside anyone- but there has to be some attraction there on my part).

 

Other than that- I pretty much haven't had any interest in me. So as of last week, I decided that it was too much torture seeing all the hunky guys- both younger and more mature --that were never going to be interested in me- and I deleted/deactivated/took off my pictures from all the sites ( unless there is a site that I've forgotten). I even deleted my OkCupid Account- I don't know what matching algorithm they use but it's lousy. It may match people on questions- but totally ignores what people put in their personal statements on what they are looking for.

 

So I was on the sites looking for quickies but also friends with benefits- neither really occurred. So as I've said in the past- I really despair of ever finding anyone outside the escort world. I'm not quite as despairing as I was in the past- because I have had a few ( very few) non escort experiences now, but they are so few and far between that they might as well be non- existent. I can't live my life eternally waiting for something ( non escort sex) that happens at about the same rate of occurrence as February 29ths.

 

Gman

[josephga]

they are allot of younger guys out there that only want older guys. When I came out and started dating I wanted to try too stick with guys around my own age. And I went the first 6 months and no dates. All the guys my age or older weren't contacting me and when I contacted them they just blew me off. While in the mean time I was getting daily messages from guys 18 to 24 range. After 6 months no dates I decided to take them up on it. Then those same guys my age or older started calling me names and being cruel. names like chicken hawk comes to mind. however I not once approached a younger guy first. After that it was always like that. I could put a profile up on any site and 90% of the messages would come from 18 to 24. Currently I have grindr, scruff and jack'd and currently talking with 7 guys all 18 to 27 all contacted me first..

[+ Gar1eth]

they are allot of younger guys out there that only want older guys. When I came out and started dating I wanted to try too stick with guys around my own age. And I went the first 6 months and no dates. All the guys my age or older weren't contacting me and when I contacted them they just blew me off. While in the mean time I was getting daily messages from guys 18 to 24 range. After 6 months no dates I decided to take them up on it. Then those same guys my age or older started calling me names and being cruel. names like chicken hawk comes to mind. however I not once approached a younger guy first. After that it was always like that. I could put a profile up on any site and 90% of the messages would come from 18 to 24. Currently I have grindr, scruff and jack'd and currently talking with 7 guys all 18 to 27 all contacted me first..

 

Then you are very lucky, Joseph. A few young guys did contact me- but one was from Saudi Arabia and another was from Singapore.

 

Gman

[+ Travis69]

A friend of mine did Match.com. Met a lot of nice guys looking for dinner dates, movie dates and some for sex. More of a dating site than hook up. He actually met his partner and they have been together for 6 years.

[+ Gar1eth]

A friend of mine did Match.com. Met a lot of nice guys looking for dinner dates, movie dates and some for sex. More of a dating site than hook up. He actually met his partner and they have been together for 6 years.

 

Supposedly- OkCupid was a match site too. I hadn't liked Match.com in the past because they initially wouldn't accept gays. But I will take a look- thanks, Travis.

 

Gman

[josephga]

Supposedly- OkCupid was a match site too. I hadn't liked Match.com in the past because they initially wouldn't accept gays. But I will take a look- thanks, Travis.

 

Gman

 

match com was a bust for me. i paid for a 3 month membership. i talked with a few others with the same experience. also you going too find some good on all sites and allot of bad. I talked with this one guy 24 years old, talked for a few days off and on on grindr. he wanted too come over. spent 3hrs here. oh joseph i just love your blue eyes ,your chin, chin? never heard that one b4. anyway had a great time. had his cell number said to text anytime. he wasn't gone 15 minutes when I logged on to grindr. He had blocked me. I texted him asked why? He said he always does that never heard from him again