NYC options for relaxed experience

[bobchitown]

It seems like most escorts in NYC are reviewed/selected for their ability to provide a hot and heavy fuck as in "when I came into the room he was already rock hard, flipped me over, and stuck it to me like a bull."

 

I'm struggling with quite the right word to use for what I'm looking for, but I"ll settle on "relaxed." I'm not looking for BF experience per se, but something where one can spend a couple hour session by first chatting a bit and relaxing, kissing to start things off, then exploring bit by bit, THEN having a great fuck, and then ending the session with more cuddling and pillow talk.

 

Any recommendations?

[jjkrkwood]

It seems like most escorts in NYC are reviewed/selected for their ability to provide a hot and heavy fuck as in "when I came into the room he was already rock hard, flipped me over, and stuck it to me like a bull."

 

I'm struggling with quite the right word to use for what I'm looking for, but I"ll settle on "relaxed." I'm not looking for BF experience per se, but something where one can spend a couple hour session chatting a bit, relaxing, kissing to start things off, then exploring bit by bit, THEN having a great fuck, and then ending the session with more cuddling and pillow talk.

 

Any recommendations?

 

I'd call that "EXPENSIVE" .......

[josephga]

lol

[Lewis H]

It seems like most escorts in NYC are reviewed/selected for their ability to provide a hot and heavy fuck as in "when I came into the room he was already rock hard, flipped me over, and stuck it to me like a bull."

 

I'm struggling with quite the right word to use for what I'm looking for, but I"ll settle on "relaxed." I'm not looking for BF experience per se, but something where one can spend a couple hour session by first chatting a bit and relaxing, kissing to start things off, then exploring bit by bit, THEN having a great fuck, and then ending the session with more cuddling and pillow talk.

 

Any recommendations?

 

I don't think this is a function of the escort so much as how you drive your session. What you describe is pretty much how all my sessions run, and the consistent thing in all of them is myself. Perhaps it's a matter of chatting with the escort you contact and seeing if they are the type to engage you on the phone, before hiring them. Dave Bruno and Kurt come to mind, as they do converse a bit more.

[jjkrkwood]

I don't think this is a function of the escort so much as how you drive your session. What you describe is pretty much how all my sessions run, and the consistent thing in all of them is myself. Perhaps it's a matter of chatting with the escort you contact and seeing if they are the type to engage you on the phone, before hiring them. Dave Bruno and Kurt come to mind, as they do converse a bit more.

 

Well my sessions are a bit different, since I CANT talk with my mouth FULL, its pretty much just alot of slurpin and moanin.....But it Works !

[+ azdr0710]

I'm with you on that, Bob.....my kind of scene, also......however, haven't been to Gotham lately.....

[JT Brooklyn]

He was "Hard/Flipped me over/Stuck it to me" That my Friend is called a 1 Hr Session! "Ya wants more your gonna have to definitely "ante up"!

[+ azdr0710]

I'm with you on that, Bob.....my kind of scene, also......however, haven't been to Gotham lately.....

 

and, as BG says, I don't think I've ever had a meet that was < two hours....usually go for three if I can manage it.....yup, like to chat

[jjkrkwood]

and, as BG says, I don't think I've ever had a meet that was < two hours....usually go for three if I can manage it.....yup, like to chat

 

Paying escort rates to TALK ???? Whats with you guys ???? You WANT TO TALK, GO TO CHURCH AND TAKE A CONFESSIONAL.....

[josephga]

Id make a horrible escort. I wouldn't want less than 2 hr sessions

[daviddd49]

I really had a wonderful time with Kyle Vong. My review should be up in the not too distant future ... once Daddy gets to it. I rated him HIGHLY.

[gp0560]

Paying escort rates to TALK ????

 

Damn straight, JJ. Maybe you are lucky enough to have friends you can share your mind and heart with, but not all of us are that fortunate. I'd go crazy (admittedly a short distance) if I couldn't have friends (with benefits) to talk to, even though I have to hire them.

 

Then again, maybe I should not have taken your comment seriously. It really is funny, you know, especially in the tone of voice I imagine with it. The form is funny, but the content struck too close to home.

[+ azdr0710]

I presume jj was messing around with us talkers.....

[JT Brooklyn]

For those who have had this "Hobby" for any amount of TIME and have learned from THEIR experiences..90% of "Working Guys" when doing a 2 Hour Session or Longer do get alot more into the Session from THEIR end!

 

IF ya gotta think about The Paying Part and "Equate it to the Talking Parts" you best find another Hobby!

[leigh.bess.toad]

I presume jj was messing around with us talkers.....

 

I certainly wouldn't make that assumption.

 

There are plenty of guys who simply want to walk in, drop trow, do the bidness and leave. They want nothing more than that.

 

But for me, as apparently for you and many others I know, it's more about personal interaction -- establishing a relationship even if not the bfe. I know I've grown and learned a lot about myself both as a gay man and simply as a man because of my experiences with these men. I've been blessed to have some truly great men in my life and I'm better for it. Sure the sex is awesome. But there is so much more to it. At least for me.

[gp0560]

Paying escort rates to TALK ???? Whats with you guys ???? You WANT TO TALK, GO TO CHURCH AND TAKE A CONFESSIONAL.....]

I presume jj was messing around with us talkers.....

I certainly wouldn't make that assumption.

 

Presumption or assumption, I certainly agree now that jj was only teasing us. Just imagine the tone of voice jj would use if he said it out loud. But then, maybe I recognize his sarcasm because I love it see it put to good use. Not to mention that it is so damn tiring to have to use and all the time. , JJ,

 

JJ: Any chance you could find some non-sarcastic way of helping us out here?

[+ Cash4Trash]

You've got to check out Mick here in New York, a truly kind man.

[jjkrkwood]

I presume jj was messing around with us talkers.....

 

Yes and No. Obvioulsy I meant NO disrespect for anyones situation and choices, but I feel you can always find someone to talk to and confide in without having to PAY for it. I guess it stems from MY own perception of the role of an escort. I see them in a totally sexual position, and would NEVER expect them to care anything about me if I wasnt shelling out the dollars. I know many of you feel as though you have made "friends" with your escorts and they do care about you "without" any money beng involved. That has not been MY experience. Yes, I do have friends and family with whom I can talk and confide in, BUT if I didnt, I would join groups or do volunteer work to build relationships that would afford me people who care about ME with whom I could share. Different strokes I suppose? BUT in no way was any disrespect to Anyone intended.

[jjkrkwood]

Presumption or assumption, I certainly agree now that jj was only teasing us. Just imagine the tone of voice jj would use if he said it out loud. But then, maybe I recognize his sarcasm because I love it see it put to good use. Not to mention that it is so damn tiring to have to use and all the time. , JJ,

 

JJ: Any chance you could find some non-sarcastic way of helping us out here?

 

GP, I posted a reply to the forums inquiry of my comment and tone which should clarify everything for ya'll. However, I really wish you all would lighten up. If anyone else would have made that comment, it would have been received and written off as some brilliant reparte'. but because it was ME and with my history here, everyone just wants to pounce.... As this is a chat site, I think people need to take comments as merely just that, and not inject a personal element into what is said. Things may strike a chord with you, but thats what it is intended to do, and that is why posters Post..... Regardless of what a small few of you think here, I AM NOT the enemy. Like everyone else I am here to share my thoughts and learn. I may not always agree with things that are posted, BUT I have never attacked anyone (unless attacked first) for their views or opinions, the way that I have been routinely attacked by many here. PEACE guys.

[bobchitown]

Yes and No. Obvioulsy I meant NO disrespect for anyones situation and choices, but I feel you can always find someone to talk to and confide in without having to PAY for it. I guess it stems from MY own perception of the role of an escort. I see them in a totally sexual position, and would NEVER expect them to care anything about me if I wasnt shelling out the dollars. I know many of you feel as though you have made "friends" with your escorts and they do care about you "without" any money beng involved. That has not been MY experience. Yes, I do have friends and family with whom I can talk and confide in, BUT if I didnt, I would join groups or do volunteer work to build relationships that would afford me people who care about ME with whom I could share. Different strokes I suppose? BUT in no way was any disrespect to Anyone intended.

 

No offense taken. We're all built differently, and I certainly have many friends who I chat with and confide in. I'd never pour out my personal problems to an escort, nor would I confide in them, but I also can't imagine walking into a room, dropping trou and getting right into the saddle. For me sitting on the couch and kissing/cuddling is just as enjoyable as the fucking - on some days more so, and chatting is a natural part of that. There have been studies that show that after sex some hormone kicks in that makes one completely relaxed and in a happy place, I want to savor that moment rather than throw on my clothes and rush for the door. That's just me, YMMV.

[ross06]

You can always try Pat Bateman when he returns to NYC --- Very relaxing and "warm" -- Never in a rush

[+ purplekow]

Yes and No. Obvioulsy I meant NO disrespect for anyones situation and choices, but I feel you can always find someone to talk to and confide in without having to PAY for it. .

Psychiatrists, psychologists, psychiatric social workers, pastors, life coaches, and other mental health therapists perform a valuable service for many people and many of them make a nice living doing so. That the men who utilize this site might find an escort with a friendly ear as appealing as one with a hard dick, is not surprising. Some people like the idea of blowing off steam before or after getting blown, certainly an escort who satisfies both of these needs, would for me, be a much hotter companion than the hottest guy with a disconnected and disinterested demeanor.

[gp0560]

Peace be with you, too.

 

However, I really wish you all would lighten up. If anyone else would have made that comment, it would have been received and written off as some brilliant reparte'. but because it was ME and with my history here, everyone just wants to pounce.... Regardless of what a small few of you think here, I AM NOT the enemy. Like everyone else I am here to share my thoughts and learn. I may not always agree with things that are posted, BUT I have never attacked anyone (unless attacked first) for their views or opinions. PEACE guys.

 

jj, I agree that it was brilliant repartee, as you can see in the comments I made after my first knee-jerk reaction. I did not feel personally attacked, and I do not think of you as an enemy. That said, at the time of my knee-jerk, I was thinking that you don't understand the plight of us who have no other opportunity to dump our souls to a sympathetic ear. Sometimes the sympathy may be faked, but that's not really an issue for us closeted, married men.

 

And sometimes, a sympathetic ear is all we need (pace PK).

 

Anyway, jj, I can welcome sarcasm and exaggerated responses, but it really is too bad that the written word doesn't have all the signals we get in face-to-face conversation. If you're open to a suggestion, try using the emoticons and see how they work for you.

 

Pax tecum,

 

--Jerry

[jjkrkwood]

jj, I agree that it was brilliant repartee, as you can see in the comments I made after my first knee-jerk reaction. I did not feel personally attacked, and I do not think of you as an enemy. That said, at the time of my knee-jerk, I was thinking that you don't understand the plight of us who have no other opportunity to dump our souls to a sympathetic ear. Sometimes the sympathy may be faked, but that's not really an issue for us closeted, married men.

 

Anyway, jj, I can welcome sarcasm and exaggerated responses, but it really is too bad that the written word doesn't have all the signals we get in face-to-face conversation. If you're open to a suggestion, try using the emoticons and see how they work for you.

 

Pax tecum,

 

--Jerry

 

jj - :o;):o

[gp0560]

jj - :o;):o

 

Well done!