role play

[Guest verymarried]

A reviewer today today speaks of "role play" but does not elaborate on the role play he devised. While I can think of what role play might include, such as possibly one of a pair being the more dominate partner in BDSM, I do not understand the range of rp possibilities nor do I have any idea what can make it successful. What is the best way to learn about role play? I think I like the idea but feel a little foolish approaching an escort about some ideas. I guess you just find someone you trust and feel comfortable with, like anything else in life, and go from there.

[gcursor]

uncomfortable

 

although I have seen several escorts, I have never really felt comfortable in discussing what kind of "role play" turns me on. I am guessing that takes some time investing in that relationship before sharing that.

 

Typically, because of my unique personality, if I want to do role play then I will do it online via chat client. Many of my roleplaying is something that you have to ease into with escorts. For example:

 

Mickey Mouse make-up sex with Goofy

Batman and Robin figure out what the bat cave really can be used for

 

p.s. that last part is made-up. i do like roleplaying very much but as I said, i would never tell that to an escort (for some time) as these are part of my deepest desires and aren't something I hand out like candy on Halloween.

 

 

A reviewer today today speaks of "role play" but does not elaborate on the role play he devised. While I can think of what role play might include, such as possibly one of a pair being the more dominate partner in BDSM, I do not understand the range of rp possibilities nor do I have any idea what can make it successful. What is the best way to learn about role play? I think I like the idea but feel a little foolish approaching an escort about some ideas. I guess you just find someone you trust and feel comfortable with, like anything else in life, and go from there.

[Guest Spanker01]

Role play is all about fantasy. It's that simple. It's taking a senario and making it become in as far as possible real. In my case I love to spank ass, and I am very good at it. Whenever, I approach an escort I ask if he would be willing to let me spank him. If he says yes then we discuss roleplay possibilities amoung other things. If he seems interested in role play, then we need to establish what kind, i.e. father/son, principal/student, warden/prisioner, and on and on. If this is our first time together, I try to schedule at least two hours so I can really get to know the guy. It might turn out that role play will not work out, at least this time, and so he can still get a good one without it. And that's o.k. It's all about honesty and good communication.

 

So if you have a fantasy you want to act out with an escort, ask him. The worse he can say is "no".

 

Spanker

[whipped guy]

Tristan Baldwin role-play review

 

VM… I read that review… plus the review just below it which speaks of role-play as well… and one has to remember that Tristan Baldwin is a professional “actor” if doing porn is considered acting… well he is a professional wrestler as well and that is acting if there ever was acting! So he is established as being able to act, and that is the criteria for success. Over the years I have hooked up with a porn star or two and they have more or less been able to pull off the role-play scenario. However, most guys sound stiff and uncomfortable. Indeed I have tried to do it as well and not having been a thespian since high school it gives me an uneasy feeling… Often it is hard to keep a straight face. In fact, it can get down right comical… and usually that is not the mood one wants to achieve. At times one is tempted to write a script based on a certain fantasy and then attempt to recreate it. That has never really worked for me… Like most things, it is usually best to let things flow naturally. Heck, if the guy has a naturally dominant personality and that’s what you want it’s probably going to work. However, asking a mild-mannered guy to pretend he is Attila the Hun is usually not going to be successful. Still, certain guys can pull it off… so one must ask and see of such a talent is part of the escort’s bag of tricks.

 

The bottom line in my experience is that when dealing with the average escort it is usually best to devise a simple scenario and then play it out more or less logically based on the personalities involved. Of course, it helps to have established a certain rapport. Indeed there was an escort that I saw over a period of three years and either his acting skills improved or we just clicked better… but things seemed to transpire fluently and effortlessly over time.

[JT Brooklyn]

What Whip said! A Working Guy like Tristan Baldwin has been Role Playing for about 10 years now on Wrestling Tapes etc! So he is a very Talented Trained Professional!

 

 

This does not mean that ANY Working Guy can work that Magic..cause they can't!

 

That being said I'm sure alot more guys would enjoy "Role Playing" as opposed to the "Slam Bam Thank You Ma'm" Bend Over 1 hour Sessions they usually have!

[+ beethoven]

I like to role play with some massseurs. I've found that VERY FEW are any good at it, so I don't suggeest it to everyone, and I wait until the third time (if there is one) before suggesting it, just to be sure that we'll be comfortable with it. (Not that a massage session is a dud if the masseur turns out not to be good at it.) A scenario might be that he is auditioning for a porn film, and after showing me a few things, I tell him that I wouldn't hire him to mop cum off the floor, and to get the hell out of my studio! At which point he attacks me, saying that NOW he'll show me what abuse feels like. Or he's here to fix my computer, and one of us is gay and one of us is straight, and the gay guy can't keep his hands off the straight guy, who's totally surprised by this, and resists -- up to a point, 'cause we're ALL a bit curious, right? Or he's come here (I'm an alumnus, so we use my apartment) for a college interview, and I ask him if he has any special talents that would make his application stand out from the rest....

[Guest verymarried]

Would role play include asking an escort to pose at a gay bar as my boyfriend dressed in a leather collar or leather wrist cuffs as if he were the less dominant of the pair? Is this considered role-playing or just satisfying ego?

[jjkrkwood]

Would role play include asking an escort to pose at a gay bar as my boyfriend dressed in a leather collar or leather wrist cuffs as if he were the less dominant of the pair? Is this considered role-playing or just satisfying ego?

 

I would say that it would probably cost you another $200, whatever its considered.....

[whipped guy]

I would say that it would probably cost you another $200, whatever its considered.....

VM... it actually sounds quite reasonable to me... be it role-playing or ego... who cares! I have heard of crazier requests... plus some guys will do anything for a certain amount of Ben Franklins... but then again it may be something that the escort enjoys or simply needs to have done as well. So in the ideal situation there might not be any extra cash involved... It depends!

 

Shoot, I even know of a guy who has flogged an escort or two in a public setting!

[Bosguy]

VM... it actually sounds quite reasonable to me... be it role-playing or ego... who cares! I have heard of crazier requests... plus some guys will do anything for a certain amount of Ben Franklins... but then again it may be something that the escort enjoys or simply needs to have done as well. So in the ideal situation there might not be any extra cash involved... It depends!

 

Shoot, I even know of a guy who has flogged an escort or two in a public setting!

 

Of course, you meant to say two or more in a public setting in a week

 

You're such a subtle guy

 

Boston Bill

[+ tristanbaldwin]

As far as escorting goes, I absolutely adore the idea of roleplay. I agree with BrooklynGuy, who out there wouldn't enjoy more of a 'challenge' with a session, versus the 'wham bam thank you ma'am'. To me, the guys on RB and M4RN should really push the acting to go with each session. Let me clarify that- the BIG NAMES on RB and M4RN should do so. The guys without a picture of their face...whose profile consists of a picture of their cock or asshole...with simply a price a phone # or email...THAT'S the type of guy that should jump on the wham bam sessions.

 

I also adore the idea of going out in public with clients; I'm not afraid of it one bit, and the idea of making others jealous on some level, is a compliment/flattery when you search to the route of it. However, alot of clients may be closeted or on the DL...or they live around such a small town USA that if they're seen in public with a guy that someone else recognizes from gay porn- they might be done for. Thus, the notoriety of being a 'big name' can work against you in some situations as well.

 

Alot of guys ask me to try out the BDSM/leatherdaddy sessions with them. As I like parents like to do with their kids to get them to eat Broccoli or a veggie they don't like...you can dress it up with cheese, with anything you like...but it's still Broccoli. Thus, I might have a ton of leather gear in my closet, but I'm honest when I say...I don't pull off being a leather punisher too well. I might be rough and tough on the outside...but deep down...I just can't do alot of those things to my partner or who I'm with...EVEN if they enjoyed it, I'd still be too worried.

 

Here's a great 'roleplay' story...without kissing and telling where my client was from. He saw me first in a situation where he had to pop in, pop out, on his lunch hour. Married guy, wham bam thank you ma'am session. But, he really liked the personality or somehow trusted me enough(luckily for him, it wasn't misplaced...but there are some escorts where doing this would be a mistake) to want to set up a 'session' or sorts...where I came to his house to do yardwork over the summer. In front of his wife, kids, whole nine yards.

 

So I named a super good price, considering there was no sex involved. I literally was doing YARDWORK...in the blazing heat, stripping off my shirt, sweating my balls off. He meanwhile, is in the house with the wife and kids(and AC....LOL). When the wife was away in another room, he would jerk off looking out the window at me. Then, finally...at the end of the day...I literally had to do 4 or 5 hours of yardwork to make it convincing..I shot over to a motel down the street. Client told his wife 15 minutes after I left, "Oh, I have to run to radioshack to get something!" and pops into the motel to see me after I showered.

 

For him, it's the anxiety that is the attraction...the fact that he has done something that could possibly RUIN him...but he's getting away with it. The nervousness keeps you on the 'edge', and makes for a powerful fuckin' orgasm. I'm always into the anxiety situations too, so I think that specific roleplay, rocked.

[+ tristanbaldwin]

What's also hillarious to me(seeing as how I've had like 4 reviews all of a sudden get posted in two months...)...is that there was never a time in the past 3 years that I've taken more than a few weeks off from escorting. If anything, I do it a bit more concentrated...a week on tour on the road, then a week at home relaxing(and seeing intermittent local New England guys). So at the begining I got a ton of reviews...and then in the past 2 months I got a ton of reviews...but there was this huggggggeeee gap in the middle...people must have thought I retired or disappeared! But was just as active as ever. Just curious to note it. There's always a mathmatical explanation somewhere...LOL. The moon must be closer, and gravity syphons the reviews out of people..LOL.

 

Also, seeing as how we were on a roleplay thread....also interesting to note. Had only gotten a few calls over the first few years doing this for superhero/superman, in the New England area...where I'm home based. Then all of a sudden, you'd get 4 or 5 calls in a SINGLE WEEK for it, in the same area...all different phone numbers! Turns out there was an IT/Computer conference in Boston for the week...and there must be an elevated number of guys within their ranks- that are into the sci-fi stuff, than if the conference wasn't in town!

[bigvalboy]

Hold on beethoven...........let me get a cigarette. This stuff is pretty good.

[whipped guy]

TB is one of the good ones!

 

Alot of guys ask me to try out the BDSM/leatherdaddy sessions with them. As I like parents like to do with their kids to get them to eat Broccoli or a veggie they don't like...you can dress it up with cheese, with anything you like...but it's still Broccoli. Thus, I might have a ton of leather gear in my closet, but I'm honest when I say...I don't pull off being a leather punisher too well. I might be rough and tough on the outside...but deep down...I just can't do alot of those things to my partner or who I'm with...EVEN if they enjoyed it, I'd still be too worried.

I can respect that... and I appreciate your honesty... but your personality type actually makes the best BDSM dom. It's all about caring and nurturing... it sounds silly I know... but if the sub knows that the dom "is worried", concerned, and is compassionate about the whole scene... and is basically a lover as well... It gives the sub the trust and confidence to submit to the top guy and simply enjoy the ride. Still, many guys feel the way that you do... they worry, and when push comes to shove can't get themselves to do it... Eventually the day may come when you will be able to follow through with BDSM as just an intense and highly passionate and alternative way to make love... Still, I respect your position, and it is an extremely tough concept to ultimately comprehend fully for many guys... Well basically I think you "get it" and "understand it", but guys such as yourself are so infused with compassion that they just can't ultimately get themselves to totally go "all the way"... Heck it just says that Tristan Baldwin is one of the good guys out there... and that is not a bad thing at all.

[+ Axiom2001]

I would say that it would probably cost you another $200, whatever its considered.....

 

[+ tristanbaldwin]

LOL. Certainly alot of 'pain pigs' out there in the world...the ones that I don't understand, feel bad for...and won't see because I don't like using the word...are the ones that prefer a 'straightish' jock to come in for a roleplay scene...like a workout...roleplaying a personal trainer and his client type deal..only the client starts to touch the personal trainer, who gets ANGRY for some reason. I've done it plenty of times where the personal trainer is 'on the DL' himself and is therefore relieved, gets into it, and the sexual stuff starts. However, I've gotten numerous calls where the client wants the trainer to get ANGRY as a result of the touching, and then forcibly pretty much rape him with dominance. The part that I found disturbing is that the client wanted to be called "a dirty faggot" and that "your family must be ashamed of you", and all sorts of horrible things like that.

 

Obviously there are some deep seeded issues here...I'm not a psychologist..but I couldn't in good ethic do that scene. I was born in '82, so the two words that I was raised not to use were the 'n' word, and the 'f' word(not fuck). I drop the fuck-bomb every 6 words, due to the time in the Army...but the REAL f- bomb, I'll never use. The 'c' word- cunt cunt cunt cunt. LOL. That doesn't offend me ONE bit and I have no problem throwing it out there...LOL. But to use the 'f' word and also 'ashamed' in the sentance- you could offer me 1,000 and I still wouldn't see that client. Even though it might be a 'release' of some kind for him, I'd be worried about longer term psychological impact.

 

Time for the gym. My new favorite song- 'Otis Taylor- ten million slaves'. Tell me what you think?

[Irish69]

Time for the gym. My new favorite song- 'Otis Taylor- ten million slaves'. Tell me what you think?

 

I Agree, I Don't like when Others Use the F-Bomb.

 

Interesting Song Choice :-)

 

Rick

[jjkrkwood]

i AM ALL FOR A LITTLE HARMLESS ROLE PLAY, CURSING, SWEARING ETC, as long as there is a discussion beforehand, and limits are clearly established and understood. However, what I never understood is the "humiliation" scene; guys that want to be verbally abused and called all sorts of horrible things, be made to feel like shit and on top of that, PAY FOR IT ! I guess I dont understand what causes self-loathing and low self esteem ? Do these people really feel worthless and NEED people to keep reminding them of it ? Certainly I would think a condition like this would/should require therapy, where the money would be better spent than on a "humiliation" escort.... But again, as long as everything is consensual and noone is getting physically hurt, I suppose its OK. Afterall, their psyches cant be any more damaged than they already are.

[+ Shoreboy]

When I am away in a hotel work related, which is my favorite time to hire, I sometimes get into a frisky mood for some role playing. I always ask whomever I email if they are into role playing since some list on other sites that they are into all sorts of things yet have no clue as to what to do when it comes time to deliver.

 

Some are outstanding with role playing and you can tell from their responses and others show up at the door (and I like the scenario to start as soon as I open the door) say "hello" and walk in and then look like a deer in the headlights when I bring up the scenario....

 

Two of my favorite scenes are super simple and require very few acting skills. Here are the truncated versions..

 

The first is the TV repairman who come to my hotel to fix the TV, I forgot to call him and tell him someone else already came and fixed it and I was supposed to call him and cancel. He gets a tad annoyed since it is late and he is already late for a date. He asks to take a shower since that will save him time to get to his date....he comes out of the shower either naked or in a towel and calls his date only to find out that his date has canceled since it is too late.

 

He then gets annoyed at me saying it is my fault and he was going to get laid tonight and now he is horny and frustrated. I say somthing condescending back to him and he then has his way with me...although I protest in the beginning.

 

The second one is when I am inthe mood for a twink.

 

The twink comes to my hotel room selling magazines or whatever. I invite the twink in and give him a lecture about what he is doing is illegal, there is a "do not disturb" sign on my door and I am going to call the hotel security on him since it will be a tough love lesson.

 

He pleads for me not to and then asks if he can use the bathroom...

 

I say yes but when you are finished I am calling security.

 

He comes out naked or in his underwear, I ask him what the hell he is doing and he says he is going to show me come tough love and if I don't comply he will call hotel security and tell them that I propositioned him...

 

Ah the joys of these two simple scenarios.

 

But, just as a closing statement since I did not think I was going to compose an essay...communication with role playing is so important laying out all of the details and also a "safe word" if either of us wants to stop and also giving the escort the freedom to alter, change or make the scene hotter. If you lay out the basic components and then allow the proper escort to make it their own it is a lot hotter plus it adds an element of surprise.

 

Long story short....role playing can be a lot of fun if you get the correct escort who understands that it is all a game even when it does not involve role playing

[Decatur Guy]

I've never been able to do role-play ... pretending to be a coach, pretending to be a cop, etc.

 

The closest I've come: I hired an escort, and he and I both pretended to a third, non-escort guy that I had lost a poker bet to him (the escort), and the bet was I would suck a cock in front of him (the escort). We found someone -- who believed it -- and it was hot because the guy I sucked genuinely believed I was having owe up on a bad poker bet. He definitely got off on the idea I was sucking him under a form of duress, and that made it hot for me and the escort, too.

 

But to me, that's different than role play. In role play, both people know it's a fantasy. And if both people know, then I just figure why bother. I just can't get into it. I tried it once at a guy's request, and I ended up laughing and making him mad. Just not for me.

 

Now the "I lost a bet and have to suck your cock" third-party thing -- that's hot. I'd do that again, except it's rather elaborate and time-consuming to set up.

[jjkrkwood]

Role playing is something you really need to commit to....or else as DG states, it becomes awkward and often laughable....

 

I aint good t role play. I just want to be Myself, and fed Huge cock, bull balls, or have a hot, delicious bubble butt sitting on my face for rimming.

 

I think thats more than enuf to ask for....

[Muscle Lover 2]

I love role play. Might of even been one of my reviews that started the string. It helps me relax with someone I just met to be pretending I am someone else. It is my experience that few men are very good at it. But when they are!!!!!

 

My favorite to date: I set up with 2 escorts. One of them and I were classmates at a 20th reunion. He and I had been friends in high school. Talked briefly at the reunion and I mentioned to him my room number and hotel and that we might have a drink in my room and catch up a little more if he did not stay too late at the reunion. Just as I was getting ready for bed, he shows up -- with another guy. He proceeds to tell me he is gay and that the guy with him is his partner. I am (of course) totally cool with that. He then mentions that he always want to have sex with me in high school but did not know whether I was gay or not. That he thought that might be why I invited him to my room. I protest that I am not gay but before long they convince me I might at least be bi!!!!! It was hot.

[uwsman2]

The first session I had with Master Victor, a BDSM top who doesn't seem to be actively escorting any more, was a role play of sorts. We exchanged email and he asked what I was looking for. I sent him a detailed scenario spun out of the various fantasies of SM stuff I had always wanted to experience but was too shy to suggest face-to-face. He was terrific. He internalized that script which we followed when I showed up to his apartment - it was one of the most satisfying experiences I ever had with an escort, but so intense that I couldn't repeat it for quite a while as I pondered whether it was what I really wanted. I ended up having 2 or 3 more sessions with him over the course of the next few years... But then his listing disappeared from the predecessor of this site and his ad disappeared from rentboy, so I didn't try to contact him further. What was good about the scenario was that it was general enough to give him plenty of leeway to improvise, but specific enough that I was able to fulfill my desire to experience a range of things I was hoping to experience. It didn't involve roles any more specific than dominant and submissive - no cops and robbers or college buds or any of that stuff - but it was in a true sense a successful role play. (None of our subsequent sessions were that scripted, leaving more to spontaneity, and they varied widely in their effectiveness...)

[Muscle Lover 2]

That is so hot Tristan. I love a man who loves the roleplay.