Help!! How to make it easier??

[Spida]

Last night was the first time! I am not a virgin I guess.. I was fucked sort of. It hurt too bad and I felt as if I was going crap (sorry for the graphics!). What do I do to make it easier any suggestions? My butt is sore so I am going to wait a bit..

 

Thanks..

[Rick Munroe]

Sounds like you needed a more skilled top; one who knows how to relax you & get you ready with his tongue or fingers. I usually don't want to get fucked because I know how it can hurt (I'm tight) but then all someone has to do is start licking & kissing my hole, and then gently fingering it, and suddenly I'm backing up & begging with my ass for his dick. Did the guy just shove it in? How was he hung? Give us more details & we can help.

[Guest Chazzz69]

>Sounds like you needed a more skilled top; one who knows how

>to relax you & get you ready with his tongue or fingers. I

>usually don't want to get fucked because I know how it can

>hurt (I'm tight) but then all someone has to do is start

>licking & kissing my hole, and then gently fingering it, and

>suddenly I'm backing up & begging with my ass for his dick.

>Did the guy just shove it in? How was he hung? Give us

>more details & we can help.

 

Excellent advice. Rick is right on target here, of course he should be since he is our resident ass play expert.

 

One thing I could add is be sure to tell your partner what YOU want, if you need more loosing up then make sure he knows it. If he is well hung then make sure you are ready to take him. Just let him know that the more comfortable it is for YOU the better time HE is going to have as well.

 

Good luck the next time around.

 

Chazzz69:P

[Chuck50]

OOOHHHH rick you make it sound so easy can't wait to try it with you and Derek HUGS Chuck

[Rick Munroe]

>he is our resident ass play expert.

 

I thought I was just the resident smartass.

[Rick Munroe]

>can't wait to try it

>with you and Derek

 

Get your ass here & it will be our pleasure. }>

[Spida]

It was an escort, he was very nice and was pretty well hung. He basically stuck it in but slowly. I wanted to be fucked but was to shy and afraid to ask and he suggested it. He lubed me up, and then put on a condom I was on my stomach. He told me to sort of push out just a little and that helped a bit.

[Chuck50]

I remember my first two times with Escorts who I trusted. S and B and both took their time and made sure it was a good time for me. thanks guys HUGS Chuck

[Rick Munroe]

>he was very nice and was pretty well hung.

 

Hmmm...you might have been better off with someone who was nasty but small-dicked.

[Spida]

Thanks everyone, Hey one more question.. Any suggestions of a good escort who might take their time and help me out? I live in the Greater Boston area, but travel to NYC about once very 4 months or so. This was only my second experience with an escort in any way.

 

Thanks again..

[Rick Munroe]

>Any suggestions of

>a good escort who might take their time and help me out?

 

My boyfriend Derek Ross was the one who taught me how to bottom. His dick isn't small but he knows how to use it & is patient with newcomers...although once he gets going, he's a jackhammer fuck. }>

[Guest Not2Kinky4me]

Alot of good advice here guyz !

 

Here's my 2 sense:

 

Practice Practice Practice!

 

Maybe at least a good douche job would eliminate the inconfident feeling of a dump at the wrong time. Get a nice big dildo and practice screwing when home alone. Go Slow! Get an idea of how much lube you need, how long it takes to dialate your tight manhole slowly and with pleasure. Get to know the position you feel most comfortable with a dong inside and the depth it can go. Slide it back and forth and build up speed and thrust. Soon you will learn what you can, and can not do and you should then communicate such parameters and instructions to your partner.

 

Enjoy Enjoy Enjoy!

 

 

;-)

[Guest Chazzz69]

>>he is our resident ass play expert.

>

>I thought I was just the resident smartass.

 

Well that too.

 

Chazzz69:P

[Guest Chazzz69]

Tell the escort up front that its your "first time" and that previous experiences have not been what you expected. I am sure that you could find someone who can give you a good time.

 

Chazzz69

[+ Lucky]

You might have been better off with someone who is nasty and small-dicked? Does the poster live in LA??????

[Donnie]

>You might have been better off with someone who is nasty and

>small-dicked? Does the poster live in LA??????

 

Perhaps Mr. Hagen was busy that weekend.

[Guest woodli]

>>You might have been better off with someone who is nasty and

>>small-dicked? Does the poster live in LA??????

>

>Perhaps Mr. Hagen was busy that weekend.

 

Before this degenerates into one of our famous bitch-sessions: a serious question.

 

I have little experience in this area, and those I've had have not been especially pleasant. The guy definitely had a dick on the small side, and I've read somewhere that a small dick can actually hurt more than a larger one (not TOO large, and definitely with the right preparation).

 

Is this true? What has been the experience of the more experienced?

 

Hugs to all,

 

woodli

[Rick Munroe]

>I've read somewhere that a small

>dick can actually hurt more than a larger one

 

Well, since a finger can hurt, that's definitely possible (I've had inexperienced guys jab me like I was a pencil sharpener...ouch). Like I said, it's all about the skill & patience of the top. I was kidding when I said a small dick was what was needed. What can hurt is someone who doesn't understand the human anatomy! It's the same with guys who go to jerk you off really hard or suck like an industrial vaccuum...we're talking about highly sensitive body parts. A gentle approach is key, unless you're told otherwise. Listen to the other guy, whether it's moaning or words. Communication = good sex.

[CT Dick]

As only one other person has said, try using a dildo. That's a way to learn how to relax and let something big UP that chute. (You've let big things leave so it IS possible.)

 

Hopefully you will learn to enjoy the truly intense satisfaction of bottoming.

 

Dick

[BuckyXTC]

I'm not terribly experienced in this department, but, at least for me, I find it easier to lie on my back and lift my legs. I think the penetration goes smoother this way, just my opinion.