Homophobic?

[+ purplekow]

My sister's first grandchild was born yesterday and during the birth process his face was bruised because he had each of his hands placed over this eyes when he went through the birth canal and the pressure caused bruising. When asked if I heard of this happening before, I said that i hadn't but that "perhaps the child is gay and just could not bear looking at a vagina." My sister, who has little in the way of a sense of humor, said what I said was terrible. When I asked why she said it was homophobic. Anyone think this was homophobic besides the kid's grandmother.

[+ purplekow]

By the way, is there a way to edit the titles? I cannot readily correct my typo.

[whipped guy]

"Go advanced" to correct title

 

I have corrected typos in titles as I recall there is an advanced setting or some such thing when you do the edit...

 

PS: Grandma has no sense of humor... but you knew that... and the comment was certainly not homophobic...

[Rick Munroe]

I think Grandma needs a dictionary to learn the meaning of "homophobic"! What you said was just funny. Although, really, the kid should have covered his nose, if what I've heard about pussy is true.

[seeker630]

I think Grandma needs a dictionary to learn the meaning of "homophobic"! What you said was just funny. Although, really, the kid should have covered his nose, if what I've heard about pussy is true.

 

Gynophobic?

[Rick Munroe]

Gynophobic?

 

OK, if we're gonna be technical, one could call it misogynistic. But I still call it funny!

[BSR]

Everybody wants their baby to be born perfect and beautiful even though that is often not the case. Because of complications during labor, apparently I was an "ugly" baby too. I'm guessing that your sister is quite upset that her brand new grandson isn't exactly a Gerber's candidate. When you tried to make light of the situation (because if you can't laugh, life sucks big), it upset her even further. But since she couldn't exactly flat-out say, "I'm upset because my grandson is UGLY!!", she scrambled and threw out "homophobic," even though it made no sense. The bruises will heal up soon enough, and in a week or two, reassure your sister than she can submit his pix to the Gerber ad people.

[leigh.bess.toad]

First PK, congratulations on the birth of your great-nephew.

 

Homophobic? Not even remotely close. It is funny. Hysterical in fact.

[orbital sander]

First PK, congratulations on the birth of your great-nephew.

 

Homophobic? Not even remotely close. It is funny. Hysterical in fact.

 

I agree, someone needs to google the work homophobic

[BSR]

My sister, who has little in the way of a sense of humor ...

Next time you're over at her place, put a tack on her chair. It'll make her GUFFAW, I guarantee it :-D

[+ azdr0710]

have you kidded around with her before, making gay jokes and all that?....if so, she shouldn't have been so upset.....your joke could've been a bit heavy for her at the time, being all stressed and upset about the bruising.....

[justaguy]

PK, not in the least, simply funny. And congrats on the birth.

[Samai139]

Your comment was not homophobic but.........you say your sister has little or no sense of humour, so why attempt humour at a time when she is, at the last, under a little stress? Perhaps if you had saved your witty comment for a later time or for other relatives, it might have been more appropriate. Some people need humour to get through the tough times, others don't and react badly when it's used. Remember the uproar when Joan Rivers made jokes about her husband's suicide? Many thought it was tacky or worse. She explained that the jokes kept her sane. I guess we all have our ways of dealing with life and your sister needed somthing other than a witticism. Let it be.

[whipped guy]

Your comment was not homophobic but...

Samai139 hit the nail on the head here. Some people just don't get humor and perhaps it was not the time to make a witticism no matter how urbane it might have been. I unfortunately have to deal with such individuals all the time and knowing their personalities I simple refrain from the joking around as they would either take things the wrong way, not get it at all, or simply be offended.

 

Your sister... unlike the esteemed PK... unfortunately seems to be one of those individuals who will always be missing something out of life...

[Steven_Draker]

Some people just don't get humor and perhaps it was not the time to make a witticism no matter how urbane it might have been.

 

... is that like telling people what they WANT TO HEAR ?

 

I can give you a few examples, but I agree with you: probably it wasn't the right time.

[+ purplekow]

i think you are right that humor was probably not right at the moment but realize that the moment was about 4 hours after the birth, the swelling and bruising had subsided quite a bit and we were looking at the first picture taken just after his birth. So though i was a bit callous, I was not totally and irrevocably insensitive.

 

I should not have said my sister has no sense of humor, she has a sense of humor and it is pristine, as it has never been used.

[Guest Rich.]

PK, I hope you're not beating yourself up over this? You're comment was completely and totally appropriate. Mistimed? OK, maybe! Oh, and your Sister? I'm afraid she needs to learn Life 101: "If fate doesn't make you laugh, then you don't get the joke".

 

I trust your Nephew, although battered and bruised from the birth canal, is healthy and I'm sure he'll grow up happy, handsome, tall and strong. I already know he's quids-in, because he's got a GREAT Uncle.

 

Give yourself a break.

 

Richard