what makes a good top?

[Steven_Draker]

I agree with you about technique. I also would add that whether u r a top or bottom good oral skills, both ways, are what makes a great escort- period. That is a fact.

 

Mikey9nola, the question was "what makes a good top?" and my answer was technique more than size. If someone asked me the question what makes a great escort I'd say: the total package! Personality, sense of humor, intuition, ability to 'read' the client's needs, aiming to please, connecting on a different level ... being a great escort is more than just being a BIG DICK, in my humble opinion of course. Sorry for interrupting.

 

Now back to SIZE ...

[cany10011]

I think a good top must also be a good bottom.... a guy I met recently identified himself as being a power bottom yet when I asked him to top me, he hit ALL the right buttons and then some. Truly an excellent hook up.

[Rick Munroe]

If someone under any circumstance whether as a top, as a bottom, as a lover, as a hairstylist, as a bus driver, or as anything -really, told me (whether with his words or with his attitude) "I know how to give you _________, so shut up and count your blessings" I would politely (or maybe not so politely) remove myself from the scene immediately. My answer may be totally lame and entirely free of dirty visualizations but what I look for in a partner in any human interaction is to be listened to, to be seen, to be honoured and to have things proposed to me.

 

Yes, I can totally see a bus driver honoring you and proposing things to you: "Please, my liege, allow me to transport you on the designated route." Seriously, I agree about expecting mutual respect in most situations, but role play in sex is very different. A lot of guys, for example, who are very much in-charge at the office like to be dominated and treated roughly in bed. As you said, we're all different and look for different things. Personally, I find it kind of hot if a guy just wants to fuck me without regard for my comfort, provided, of course, he knows what he's doing and doesn't cause any damage other than a pleasantly sore reminder the next day.

 

Asses are like women: while one may have the feeling that one knows them, truth is that they constantly change, their moods change every second and it is impossible and dangerous to try to predict what they will be feeling like.

 

LOL Unlike men, who are always strong, resolute and decisive, right, Archie Bunker?

[+ Gar1eth]

As a top myself, I don't know that I can boast of being great. I can however, say that those guys I see in porn that are tops and working for me are those that aren't just slamming it in and out of their bottoms and treating it as just a hole, but are going after it, intensely, with all of themselves; often lost in the moment looking into each other's eyes, touching, stroking, kissing, nibbling, giving as much pleasure as receiving. Being focused and having just as much on the journey together as the climactic destination. That is great and hot to me.

 

Racket-- CONGRATULATIONS for being the 1st non- professional to make my purely hypothetical list of guys I'd be willing to let f-ck me, if I ever decided to bottom. Of course, stop me if you've heard this before, I don't ever plan to.

 

Gman

[Racketjock]

Thanks for making me blush, Gman. And even though you don't ever plan to, a boy can always dream......

[leigh.bess.toad]

I've been thinking about this quesiton for a few days now. As a bottom, it certainly has made me think about the guys I've been with, both escort and dates/fuck buddies. I've got a FB now who would certainily qualify -- even though he's in his mid-60's, the man knows what he's doing.

 

Once you cross a certain threshhold, dick size, to me, is relatively unimportant. The parts of my ass that enjoy it the most are easily reachable by most dicks, at least the ones that I've had in my ass. No, being a great top is so very much more. First and foremost to me is the connection with me while we are fucking. The look in our eyes meeting is priceless. But the desire of the top to give me, the bottom, the most pleasure is in the final analysis what may make a great top. Communication throughout our time -- talking dirty to me, telling me what you're thinking and doing, directing me on where you want me positioned, how you want me positioned, which way we're moving so he doesn't come out when we change positions all are key. The ablity to change things up constantly -- hard and fast, slow and gentle, long strokes, short strokes, staying in for an extended period versus in and out, even staying out and making me beg for it -- during my time with a great top I get all of that. Not solely focusing on my ass while he's fucking me -- play with my nips, stroke my hair (both hairs as I'm almost bald ), kissing me, hell even biting me, smacking my ass -- simply being completely and totally into the moment and our time is what makes a great top. Listening to me -- what I'm saying (or screaming), how my body reacts to what you are doing, even looking at my face to see what it's telling you. I know I'm giving off clues right and left. The great ones read all of that. Steven is right in that it's technique, and all of the above probably falls into technique. But technique is such a dry cold term. Technique, coupled with passion, committment and total involvement with me, your bottom, is what makes a great top. At least to me.

 

But how do you know you've been with a great top? When Madeline Kahn is running through your head at the end:

 

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