Flirting with disaster

[gcursor]

So if you hire somebody for a period of time and it's a little ways off...do you flirt with them by email a bit before you see them? Is it expected? Do they flirt back?

 

I'm not so good at small talk and I've tried flirting through email but I haven't had very good results at all. The results I get are similar to people who stare at an accident as they are driving by "Oh no..that wasn't good at all." except in word form.

 

I mean how exactly are you supposed to flirt?

[doitb4ugo]

So if you hire somebody for a period of time and it's a little ways off...do you flirt with them by email a bit before you see them? Is it expected? Do they flirt back?

 

I'm not so good at small talk and I've tried flirting through email but I haven't had very good results at all. The results I get are similar to people who stare at an accident as they are driving by "Oh no..that wasn't good at all." except in word form.

 

I mean how exactly are you supposed to flirt?

 

I know how you feel. I too am not very good at that type of thing, even though I want to try....some escorts are great at it and seem to want to play before you meet....I am always hesitant because mypersonality is a bit withdrawn and I tell myself that I don;t want to be a pest....but to be honest, I do want that kind of contact...It makes to actual meeting so much more intense when you get to play ahead of time....just wish it were easier and wish I knew when it was welcome and when it was not....

[instudiocity]

The best sex starts and ends between the ears! Getting laid is something you think about more than you do. Just email your thoughts.

 

Damn, you're pictures are so hot, I can't wait to see the real thing!

 

Baby, your rod is going to feel so good when you...

[ChiTown]

I know how you feel. I too am not very good at that type of thing, even though I want to try....some escorts are great at it and seem to want to play before you meet....I am always hesitant because mypersonality is a bit withdrawn and I tell myself that I don;t want to be a pest....but to be honest, I do want that kind of contact...It makes to actual meeting so much more intense when you get to play ahead of time....just wish it were easier and wish I knew when it was welcome and when it was not....

 

I personally enjoy the flirtiness that precedes the meeting and am sometimes at a loss over whether it should be initiated by the escort or the client. I'm sure that not all escorts are into it and/or their interest varies with the client. Make the first step and if it doesn't get a response, forget it.

[ChiTown]

The best sex starts and ends between the ears! Getting laid is something you think about more than you do. Just email your thoughts.

 

Damn, you're pictures are so hot, I can't wait to see the real thing!

 

Baby, your rod is going to feel so good when you...

 

Now that, I like!

[ross06]

I know what you mean -- I love to flirt before I meet with an escort -- Sometimes they are very open to it, other times it does seem like I might be bothering them -- Have fpound it best to just ask them up front if you can keep in touch with them periodically until your appointment -

[instudiocity]

Now that, I like!

 

What can I say? We're both in sales - drawing pictures with words in order to deliver a product or service.

[gcursor]

Flirt line

 

Hey..how's this for a flirt line?

 

You're hotter than any cookbook I've read...

 

 

 

The best sex starts and ends between the ears! Getting laid is something you think about more than you do. Just email your thoughts.

 

Damn, you're pictures are so hot, I can't wait to see the real thing!

 

Baby, your rod is going to feel so good when you...

[instudiocity]

Hey..how's this for a flirt line?

 

You're hotter than any cookbook I've read...

 

Was it a Mexican cookbook?

 

You don't need a comparison. Just say "You're SO HOT!"

[gcursor]

what do u mean

 

so give me an example of what you'd say ross when you say that

 

I know what you mean -- I love to flirt before I meet with an escort -- Sometimes they are very open to it, other times it does seem like I might be bothering them -- Have fpound it best to just ask them up front if you can keep in touch with them periodically until your appointment -

[gcursor]

Hot Taco!

 

Sounds a bit banal and ordinary. Ok..how about this

 

you're hotter than a mexican chili pepper in a fireworks store in the death valley in the middle of Summer?

 

btw I like your icon

 

Was it a Mexican cookbook?

 

You don't need a comparison. Just say "You're SO HOT!"

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

Since I usually book more than a month in advance, I start with the simple, truthful flirtations and some scheduling details via email. For example, in preparing for a trip to Chicago, a co-worker recommended her favorite restaurant. I sent an email asking if that suggestion would be accept to the escort and if I could make reservations. After working on the itinerary, I wrapped up with a "can't wait to see all of you again" closing.

[instudiocity]

Sounds a bit banal and ordinary. Ok..how about this you're hotter than a mexican chili pepper in a fireworks store in the death valley in the middle of Summer? btw I like your icon

 

I just don't think you need a comparison. And chili pepper only works for me if the escort is a Latino. Then maybe I'd say, "Every time I hear The Red Hot Chili Peppers, I think of my red hot chili pepper.". But that's a stretch.

 

I don't really say things like, "Your hot!". I say things like, Congratulations on being Daddy's Cover Boy! Can't wait to get you under my covers!" Or "Congratulations Daddy's Coverboy today. But I cannot wait to get you uncovered!"

[ChiTown]

Sell the sizzle . . .

 

What can I say? We're both in sales - drawing pictures with words in order to deliver a product or service.

 

You've got it, man! . . . Sell the sizzle, not the steak.

[doitb4ugo]

You've got it, man! . . . Sell the sizzle, not the steak.

 

I've even been sold the sizzle on a hot dog (steamed) so I can attest to the power of marketing....

[Kevin Slater]

I hate to be a dissenting voice in a fun conversation, but there are numerous threads on here about working guys not caring for too many emails ahead of time. I think many of us have had the experience of trading copious flirtatious or graphic emails with supposed clients just to find that the booking never ends up happening-- that he was just exercising his wit as well as his wrist. See for example http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?77981-How-do-I-get-an-escort-to-cantact-me-and-then-what.

 

You are the customer and if prior flirtation is important to you, I'm sure you can find someone who will gladly engage and show you a wonderful time remotely as well as in person, but don't be surprised if some escorts decline the experience.

 

Kevin Slater

[instudiocity]

Kevin, You are absolutely right to point out at least two things in your post - #1 - don't be jerking your escort around for jerking's sake and #2 - Follow through is THE most important part of the experience for both Client and Escort.

 

I frequently point out: "The only difference between a con-artist and a salesman is that the salesman delivers the goods as promised." Daddy's Reviews and Daddy's M4M Message Forum exist for the sole purpose of separating the con-artists from the salesmen. And hopefully, separating the lurkers/jerkers from the clients.

 

I hate to be a dissenting voice in a fun conversation, but there are numerous threads on here about working guys not caring for too many emails ahead of time. I think many of us have had the experience of trading copious flirtatious or graphic emails with supposed clients just to find that the booking never ends up happening-- that he was just exercising his wit as well as his wrist. See for example http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?77981-How-do-I-get-an-escort-to-cantact-me-and-then-what.

 

You are the customer and if prior flirtation is important to you, I'm sure you can find someone who will gladly engage and show you a wonderful time remotely as well as in person, but don't be surprised if some escorts decline the experience.

 

Kevin Slater

[seeker630]

Kevin, You are absolutely right to point out at least two things in your post - #1 - don't be jerking your escort around for jerking's sake and #2 - Follow through is THE most important part of the experience for both Client and Escort.

 

I frequently point out: "The only difference between a con-artist and a salesman is that the salesman delivers the goods as promised." Daddy's Reviews and Daddy's M4M Message Forum exist for the sole purpose of separating the con-artists from the salesmen. And hopefully, separating the lurkers/jerkers from the clients.

 

I suspect an escort is more likely to be willing to invest in pre-appointment flirting if you have a history with him. Divulgiing your M/C identity might also establish your bona fides. But most clients are not M/C members, and I'm sure that some 'lurkers' here hire.

[+ Gar1eth]

Normally, I exchange a few emails, but one time I got burned. The escort kept replying, so I thought he wanted me to reply back. Then I made a slight joke-- it was coming up on my birthday-- and I sent that he would have to treat me extra nice. I was joking-believe me-- I had no expectations that he would treat me badly to begin with. However stripped of emotional context by email- he became upset. He sent me an email saying something about he had wasted more time on my e-mails than on people he had actually met. And seriously the only reason, I kept replying was because he kept replying to me. I thought he wanted me too. I always try to keep this mind in when emailing escorts.

 

Gman

[hornytwells]

Kevin's point illustrates exactly what I was going to say: if you spend too much time emailing an escort back and forth, you are really trying to get them to invest their professional time while not being paid, and they could take that as an example of someone who wants virtual, rather than real sex! having said that, I am not as inclined to book an escort who sends me a short unfriendly reply to my initial enquiry> I also work freelance in the arts and try to treat prospective clients with a level of interest and courtesy which makes them feel they will be valued if they come to consult me-I think a really good escort should do the same, but it must be galling to have guys send endless emails talking about it and then not actually doing it, so i get their point!

[instudiocity]

I suspect an escort is more likely to be willing to invest in pre-appointment flirting if you have a history with him. Divulgiing your M/C identity might also establish your bona fides. But most clients are not M/C members, and I'm sure that some 'lurkers' here hire.

 

Daddy recently posted elsewhere on the forum that the forum has 1/5 the hits that reviews has.

[JackTwist]

Good thread. I've enjoyed reading the different perspectives on this issue. Gcursor: Thanks for starting it.

 

Time is money for escorts--just as it is for most of us here who work for a living. A couple of flirtatious messages sent to your escort in advance is probably cool, but I can't imagine expecting him to continue an on-going "sexy" conversation back and forth for a month prior to your appointment. I don't like people sending me frivolous, unnecessary emails to my professional work email address. I'm betting most escorts are the same way. Most of the best (busiest) escorts I've hired tell me they spend hours keeping up with daily phone, email and text correspondence. Unless I was willing to pay my guy extra for the frequent "advance flirting" communication, I'd keep those kind of messages and calls to a minimum. But that's just me and my humble opinion.

[instudiocity]

Jack, you're right but part of marketing is keeping the client sold up to the point of collecting the fee. So part of any successful escort's marketing plan is maintaining the relationship/illusion of relationship before the first date and building a database of repeat customers via that emailing activity. So while I doubt any escort wants an email every 5 minutes, I'm sure an email a week(s) probably wouldn't hurt.

 

Good thread. I've enjoyed reading the different perspectives on this issue. Gcursor: Thanks for starting it.

 

Time is money for escorts--just as it is for most of us here who work for a living. A couple of flirtatious messages sent to your escort in advance is probably cool, but I can't imagine expecting him to continue an on-going "sexy" conversation back and forth for a month prior to your appointment. I don't like people sending me frivolous, unnecessary emails to my professional work email address. I'm betting most escorts are the same way. Most of the best (busiest) escorts I've hired tell me they spend hours keeping up with daily phone, email and text correspondence. Unless I was willing to pay my guy extra for the frequent "advance flirting" communication, I'd keep those kind of messages and calls to a minimum. But that's just me and my humble opinion.

[seeker630]

Daddy recently posted elsewhere on the forum that the forum has 1/5 the hits that reviews has.

 

It would also be interesting to know how many unique readers (as well as regular or repeat readers) there are for each site. I read the reviews once daily but I visit here several times a day and geenrate a lot more page views here, i suspect.

 

The M/C may get more hits per user/reader than the reviews - which would mean the number of people who read the reviews is even more than 5 times greater. (Just speculation on my part.) Actually, I think Daddy used the term 'traffic', whihc may or may nopt be hte same as 'hits'.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

Time is money for escorts--just as it is for most of us here who work for a living. A couple of flirtatious messages sent to your escort in advance is probably cool, but I can't imagine expecting him to continue an on-going "sexy" conversation back and forth for a month prior to your appointment. I don't like people sending me frivolous, unnecessary emails to my professional work email address. I'm betting most escorts are the same way. Most of the best (busiest) escorts I've hired tell me they spend hours keeping up with daily phone, email and text correspondence. Unless I was willing to pay my guy extra for the frequent "advance flirting" communication, I'd keep those kind of messages and calls to a minimum. But that's just me and my humble opinion.

 

Good point, and I didn't mean to start an exchange of messages in advance of an appointment in my previous reply. My limited experience has limited email communication to needs based on setting the appointment - confirming dates, confirming travel arrangements where we will meet, and scheduling a show or sporting event to attend. So maybe just one or two exchanges between setting the date and the actual event. Then I might throw in a line of flirtation into those messages. However, I never send an email just to flirt before the event.