Do Escort Bottoms "have the easy life," or is that an urban legend?

[bcohen7719]

On a highly-reviewed television show, a series of "gay-for-pay" several escorts discussed sexual roles. A significant number said it was easier to be a bottom because "you didn't have to do anything."

Was that really true, or just imprudent banter?

 

BC

[josephga]

I think it would be easier for a escort that's strictly bottom for clients. I personally could never get it up for someone that I'm not extremely attracted too. never bottomed in my life but if i was a escort id have no other choice.. I think those that strictly bottom could take more clients in aday compared to a top guy

[+ dupontversDC]

A good bottom is very active in my book. I had a twink btm on Thursday who was amazing, he loved to kiss, rim, suck and he rode me.... a ton of fun.

 

As to the gay for pay boys, I think some prefer btm as they have trouble keeping it up and hard for extended topping sessions, especially in a porn shoot which can take quite a long time.

[+ deej]

Discussions of gay-for-pay in gay porn, among people involved in making the stuff, usually mentions that the "straight" guys usually bottom because they don't have to worry about getting or staying hard.

 

A porn veteran many years ago, Donnie Russo, once told an interviewer he actually *liked* working with the straight models. (Understand, Donnie had a bit of a sadistic side, which was part of his popularity.) He particularly liked it when the straight guys brought their GF to the set. He said he'd fuck 'em extra hard to make sure the GF heard the screaming.

[Diverdan]

Hey deej,

I loved your comment quoting Donnie Russo... I recently got to know a guy who is in the porno business, and while he loves to bottom, he said the same thing about loving to top straight guys when they brought their GF to a set. He has the most appreciation, however, for the guys who are consistently great tops no matter who their partner(s) is, and either male or female!

DD

[JackTwist]

On a highly-reviewed television show, a series of "gay-for-pay" several escorts discussed sexual roles. A significant number said it was easier to be a bottom because "you didn't have to do anything." BC

 

Hi BC,

What was the television show? Were these escorts guys we might know? Just curious...bet it was interesting. wish I had seen it.

[josephga]

Hi BC,

What was the television show? Were these escorts guys we might know? Just curious...bet it was interesting. wish I had seen it.

 

tyra banks had gay for pay guys once. it was pretty funny

[video=youtube;PQensCD7xcE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PQensCD7xcE

[CowboyUp]

I always thought it would be harder to be a Bottom, but I guess it's a matter of perspective and personal preference. I only hire Bottoms or Vers. Bottoms and am duly impressed at how some of the great ones endurance levels and how they can take it no matter how big the guy's cock is. I've tried to bottom twice in my life and it was horribly painful both times and with different men--the closest thing to giving birth that I've ever felt. Thank goodness there's working-boys who love taking it, but I don't imagine it's always "easy" for them.

[JackTwist]

tyra banks had gay for pay guys once. it was pretty funny

 

Thanks Joseph. You're the man!

[Toulouse]

I always thought bottoms had more "prep work" getting ready for appointments.

[josephga]

I always thought bottoms had more "prep work" getting ready for appointments.

 

I wondered about that too. A good bottom will be clean and douched out. however most doctors will tell you doing enema's everyday isn't healthy.

[nate_sf]

I only hire Bottoms or Vers. Bottoms and am duly impressed at how some of the great ones endurance levels and how they can take it no matter how big the guy's cock is. I've tried to bottom twice in my life and it was horribly painful both times and with different men--the closest thing to giving birth that I've ever felt. Thank goodness there's working-boys who love taking it, but I don't imagine it's always "easy" for them.

 

These are the instances where the bottom does not have "the easy life" that's for sure! I love both topping and bottoming, but as a bottom when the top is both really big and wants to go for an extended period, it can be a challenge. But if you are bottoming as an escort, you want the client to have a good time so need to be prepared to accommodate an extended pounding if that's what's what he wants (within reason). Fortunately almost always it's fun being the bottom, but every now and then, yeah it can be an endurance challenge!

[bcohen7719]

This was a 4-part series previously aired on a show called "Tyra." I just noted that these guys self-identify as gay-for-pay porn stars, not escorts...I beg forgiveness leaping to conclusions...but nevertheless:

 

[video=youtube;PQensCD7xcE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PQensCD7xcE

[Juan Vancouver]

It takes all types...

 

Hey BC,

 

I think that what they meant in that show is that a bottom doesn't need to worry about getting hard, but yes, that is when it concerns porn.

 

As an escort I can tell you that bottoming is in no way easier than topping. I do both regularly and I would be hard pressed to try to decide which one is easier or harder; they are both quite fun, they demand a lot of savoir fare, creativity, experience, relaxation, communication and all the other things one needs to be a good lover. I am quite lucky, though. My ass is always perfectly ready to be fucked and I am always in the mood, and I know as a fact that some of my colleagues or friends have to go through a long process to get themselves ready.

 

Something that I have discovered in my bottoming practice is that there are two type of top clients: One type is a normal guy, like any other client who simply wants to have a great time. The other type of top client is the client who is hung like a small humpback whale and doesn't seem to find non-professionals that will be receptive to their amorous advances in a satisfying way. This type of client needs to engage the services of a professional bottom in order to have a relaxed and fulfilling experience.

 

A couple years ago I had a client who had a really big cock, and even if he had to insert it slowly for me to get used to it, all of a sudden he was fucking me like there was no tomorrow, during which he had a very strange expression on his face. (An expression that clearly conveyed a mixture of terror, delight, surprise, relief and wild abandon.) When we were done and we were talking I asked him about it and he knew exactly what I meant. He responded wild-eyed:

 

"Normally I am lucky if I can barely fully put it inside someone; after half a minute of very careful fucking they often announce that they cannot take it any longer... I have never, ever before, been able to actually fuck someone without having to worry about their expressions of pain."

 

And... no; I was not in pain. =)

 

Is it a great profession for me? Without a shadow of a doubt.

 

Is it that "easy life" of the urban legend? I would not be able to answer to that, because I have never heard that urban legend.

 

I know there are escorts who would not be able to bottom for clients, I know there are some who would not be able to top, I know there are some for whom it would be difficult not doing both... (And doing it often.)

 

It takes all types... but not all types take it.

[justaguy]

I have been always been impressed with your articulate, thoughtful posts. This post puts together the brain and the body. You're reputation is well deserved.

[Guest GQ Pro]

Though I have no problem topping my b/f, there are times when I can't top for a client. It can be especially difficult if the client demands it and does no foreplay. I've found that if a client doesn't insist before I meet him that all he was to do is bottom, bottom, bottom, and more bottom....then there is no pressure and I'm more likely to maintain an erection to give him a proper plowing.

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[leigh.bess.toad]

Juan -- I guess that does raise an interesting quesstion for someone such as yourself who is so completely and totally versatile: Is it safe to assume you have a fairly in depth conversation with a prospective client before you meet for the first time to find out their interests? Are they a top, a bottom, versatile? Because I assume that would affect your preparation for the initial meeting? Maybe this question can go out to all the escorts, maybe it should be a separate thread: What preparations do you do if any for a new client that you might not have to do for a repeat client because you know their interests and tendencies? Do you have new clients where you haven't had those discussions at all and if so, how do you prepare for them?

[Dave]

can't always have the luxury of those sorts of conversations beforehand. so sometimes it's a crap shoot

 

it's damn hard to be a bottom. it's damn hard to be a top. so clients - tip your escorts well - they are working HARD for you!

 

Juan, this is not the place for me to suggest it (after making such cheeky comments) but i got to thinking - perhaps we should coordinate a visit to tokyo together? i responded to your japan post a few minutes ago, and i'm now starting to wonder what it would be like to work alongside you/inside me/inside you. not only do i admire your brain, and you're hot, but you're versatile, too. we could flip fuck for clients, and do them, too...

 

ps in japanese, "juan juan" is what a dog says (ruff ruff!)

 

woof

[leigh.bess.toad]

can't always have the luxury of those sorts of conversations beforehand. so sometimes it's a crap shoot

 

I can't imagine that Dave. I'm sure you ALWAYS have detailed, in depth conversations with new clients before you meet them for the very first time. Don't you?

 

Juan, this is not the place for me to suggest it (after making such cheeky comments) but i got to thinking - perhaps we should coordinate a visit to tokyo together? i responded to your japan post a few minutes ago, and i'm now starting to wonder what it would be like to work alongside you/inside me/inside you. not only do i admire your brain, and you're hot, but you're versatile, too. we could flip fuck for clients, and do them, too...

 

Now Dave, this is where you and I are going to have an issue. There is no way in the world you and Juan should get together in Tokyo. Well you can do it, but not first. You need a practice run first. There is only one place this should be done. And that is in Washington DC. PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm begging you. I'm on my knees. I'm grovelling here. There will a line out your studio reaching from Frederick to Fredericksburg. But they'd better wait because I would be camped out inside. Damn, just the thought of the two of you together sends shivers up and down my spine. And warm thoughts in a lot of other directions.

 

The sheer combustability in that room could threaten to blow the Capitol apart. Woof doesn't even begin to remotely come close to that. OMFG. That is the stuff of fantasies. God, please let me win the Powerball tonight so I can make it happen.

[Poolboy21409]

L.B.T

 

You CANNOT have him (Dave) all to yourself. I am right behind you!! I bought my Mega Million yesterday and heading out now for the Powerball.

 

Pool

[leigh.bess.toad]

L.B.T

 

You CANNOT have him (Dave) all to yourself. I am right behind you!! I bought my Mega Million yesterday and heading out now for the Powerball.

 

Pool

 

It isn't Dave by himself that I want -- well yes I do want that too. But Dave with Juan -- OMFG that would be absolutely, positively the most intense period of time ever. I'm not sure how long someone could survive it, but I'm willing to test the bounds of human endurance. All in the name of science, mind you. Because I'm just that concerned for my fellow citizens. It's me warm heart. Big enough for all God's creatures.

[Guest greatness]

Bottoming takes too much preparation. I used to put a lot of effort into it but after a while I gave up. It is indeed a lot of work to do it right. I wish I were a woman so I don't have to go through this but come to think of it, then I would start to have periods. Nothing in life is easy I guess. Hugs~~

[Poolboy21409]

LBT-

 

I see a four way here.

 

Pool

[josephga]

Bottoming takes too much preparation. I used to put a lot of effort into it but after a while I gave up. It is indeed a lot of work to do it right. I wish I were a woman so I don't have to go through this but come to think of it, then I would start to have periods. Nothing in life is easy I guess. Hugs~~

 

I agree. last 2 guys I dated made me hate anal sex they put absolutly no effort in preparation i couldn't belive guys not knowing they were supose to prep.

[instudiocity]

All in the name of science, mind you. Because I'm just that concerned for my fellow citizens.

And since you're in DC, maybe you can get funding from the National Science Foundation to offset the expenses of your research. Maybe they can send someone out to observe?

 

I'd leave that knight in shining armor / idiot in aluminum foil stuff out of the proposal, though.

http://www.nsf.gov/