Our Sex is Really Hot - But I really don't like him at all

[Guest Zack]

I met this guy a few weeks ago and after hanging out with him for a few hours I realized that I really didn't like him very much at all. Yet, I was extremely attracted to him physically.

 

A few days later we ran into each other at a very late hour after what had been a long evening of fun and beverage consumption.

 

We went home and fucked and the sex was hotter than I had experienced in sometime. The same was true for him too, but I'm not sure if he dislikes me personally in the way I do him.

 

Since then we have hooked up two other times and like the first time, the sex was amazing. But right afterward, like the times before, I just wanted him to get out and leave.

 

I find sex with this guy amazing. But in view of how I feel about him personally, I'm beginning to feel conflicted about having and enjoying sex with someone I really do not like.

 

Has anyone else ever experienced something like this? If so, what did you do?

[cany10011]

same here...

 

The guy i normally hook up (nonescort) with has a sick body: skinny, bubble butt, lean white twink. Sex is hot with him and he has a delicious ass. He likes me and i know he wants to do more. However, whenever we go out his table manners are horrible and he needs dental work. Not sure what to do as I like him but it's hard to be seen in public with him....Another guy, i hook up occasionally with is a hot korean physician...however, all he wants to do is have quick sex (over in 20 minutes) and then he leaves... he's still in the closet.

 

I sort of try to give them the cold shoulder by not answering their texts immediately and respond in a very casual manner. However, they still keep calling... so i just meet with them once week or so...after all, sex with them is free and very good.

 

I find it's easier to change my behavior or expectations than to change anyone else (i've learned from my past mistakes) and accept these guys as who they are... as good, reliable, backkup fuckbuddies...

 

 

 

 

I met this guy a few weeks ago and after hanging out with him for a few hours I realized that I really didn't like him very much at all. Yet, I was extremely attracted to him physically.

 

A few days later we ran into each other at a very late hour after what had been a long evening of fun and beverage consumption.

 

We went home and fucked and the sex was hotter than I had experienced in sometime. The same was true for him too, but I'm not sure if he dislikes me personally in the way I do him.

 

Since then we have hooked up two other times and like the first time, the sex was amazing. But right afterward, like the times before, I just wanted him to get out and leave.

 

I find sex with this guy amazing. But in view of how I feel about him personally, I'm beginning to feel conflicted about having and enjoying sex with someone I really do not like.

 

Has anyone else ever experienced something like this? If so, what did you do?

[instudiocity]

The guy i normally hook up (nonescort) with has a sick body: skinny, bubble butt, lean white twink. Sex is hot with him and he has a delicious ass. He likes me and i know he wants to do more. However, whenever we go out his table manners are horrible and he needs dental work. Not sure what to do as I like him but it's hard to be seen in public with him....

 

I find it's easier to change my behavior or expectations than to change anyone else (i've learned from my past mistakes) and accept these guys as who they are... as good, reliable, backkup fuckbuddies...

 

Hmmm, I think I might be tempted to explore some things with hot twinky boy. I'd be very subtle, but improving table manners is very easy if he wants to do it. It's more a matter of letting him know it's off-putting to eat with him and see if he's interested in learning etiquette. Teeth? Now that's a whole 'nother can of worms. If he wants it, if he 'values' it, he might be agreeable to get some dental work. I'd tell the story of how I learned that good dental work early, protects and preserves the teeth when you're older - that's why I've spent so much getting my teeth fixed. But you might have to give up BJ's for a while.

[Diverdan]

Zack,

I used to have a fb with much the same issues. We had fantastic sex, but I got tired of him complaining about everything... his job, his love life, his friends, his income, etc., etc., etc. Everything about him was HOT... he had been a model at one time (and he knew how hot he was), had wonderful equipment and loved everything about sex, and preferred to be with older guys. I took him on a couple of trips with me and we wore each other out. But the complaining never stopped. I eventually stopped seeing him, as I never enjoyed being out in public and having to deal with his complaining. He eventually found a "sugar daddy" and although we kept seeing each other 3 or 4 times a year after that, I eventually stopped seeing him. Good luck in trying to figure out what it is you don't like about his personality or his actions and maybe then you can deal with it. Otherwise, just enjoy your times together, but at least let him know that there is probably no long term future with him except the sex.

Good luck... and enjoy while you can... :-)

DD

[Guest greatness]

You guys are lucky to have sex with hot guys you don't even like. Kisses and hugs~~~

[josephga]

you guys are lucky to have sex with hot guys you don't even like. Kisses and hugs~~~

 

lol

[Guest greatness]

Joe.. It's true..

[+ Gar1eth]

Joe.. It's true..

 

 

I have to agree with Greatness. I am envious of all you guys with friends and fuck-buddies. This is coming from someone who has had unpaid sex like twice in his entire life.

 

Gman

[JT Brooklyn]

This is what is called SEX for the sake of SEX until you run into someone NEW! Nothing NEW about the Scenario at all...IF your Paying for it then it better be Great! LOL

[Guest greatness]

Zero, nada, negative 100000000 here.. So you are much luckier than I am.. Gar1eth.. Kisses and hugs~~~

 

I have to agree with Greatness. I am envious of all you guys with friends and fuck-buddies. This is coming from someone who has had unpaid sex like twice in his entire life.

 

Gman

[+ deej]

I have to agree with Greatness. I am envious of all you guys with friends and fuck-buddies. This is coming from someone who has had unpaid sex like twice in his entire life.

 

Look at the larger picture, Gman.

 

If Tiger Woods could say what you just did he would've saved himself a $100 million divorce settlement plus lost endorsement deals.

 

You just might be the winner here.

[Guest greatness]

Thanks Deej, you made my day for posting for Gman. And Gman let's have a positive outlook. You had two guys! I had none but I am ok so cheer up. Kisses and hugs~~~

 

Look at the larger picture, Gman.

 

If Tiger Woods could say what you just did he would've saved himself a $100 million divorce settlement plus lost endorsement deals.

 

You just might be the winner here.

[instudiocity]

I don't think Tiger would refer to any of his sexcapades as unpaid. One woman waited until the end and took him for a bundle!

 

Look at the larger picture, Gman.

 

If Tiger Woods could say what you just did he would've saved himself a $100 million divorce settlement plus lost endorsement deals.

 

You just might be the winner here.

[instudiocity]

I have to agree with Greatness. I am envious of all you guys with friends and fuck-buddies. This is coming from someone who has had unpaid sex like twice in his entire life.

Gman

 

Some of us choose to limit our exposure, others risk half of all they own!

[leigh.bess.toad]

Hey, I can have sex anytime I want with my very best friend. And he's convenient too. His name is Lefty and he's located just at the end of my left arm.

 

Seriously guys, I don't know where you are but have you looked at the hookup sites (adam4adam, manhunt, squirt, gaydar, gay.com). If you live anywhere near any city of size you can probably find someone to hookup with. Maybe not a regular FB or FWB but still.

 

I did have a FB a few years ago and it was great. And we did get along. There was only one problem. He was looking for Mr. Right and I wasn't it. And then he thought he found him and we were done. Amicably. I don't know if they really did end up together, but he wanted to try. I haven't been on the hookup sites long but I've gotten together with a few guys already and it wasn't much of an effort and I really wasn't all that aggressive. And I'm old and look like Jo-Jo, the dog-faced monkey boy. So if I can do it ....

 

And I think I may have found a potential FB on adam4adam. And on top of that, he goes to my gym so we can be workout partners as well. But give it a try. At least that's my advice.

 

Of course, my advice and $25.00 will buy you a shotglass full of coffee at Starbucks. Maybe.

[Diverdan]

Great Advise Lee,

I have met several great guys in Europe and Asia through gaydar.com, and I am no adonis or young buck either. It takes a bit of time and patience, but the rewards can be great! Congratulations on finding someone to play with and work out with besides... I would consider that a twofer! With a workout partner you will soon be one of Ken's or Rich's posts here in the Forum... and looking forward to seeing the results of that shared activity!

Have a great week.

DD

[Guest greatness]

Oh my you guys are making me more miserable.. You guys are so humble! Kisses and hugs~~~~

 

Great Advise Lee,

I have met several great guys in Europe and Asia through gaydar.com, and I am no adonis or young buck either. It takes a bit of time and patience, but the rewards can be great! Congratulations on finding someone to play with and work out with besides... I would consider that a twofer! With a workout partner you will soon be one of Ken's or Rich's posts here in the Forum... and looking forward to seeing the results of that shared activity!

Have a great week.

DD

[Guest FTLdude]

I find sex with this guy amazing. But in view of how I feel about him personally, I'm beginning to feel conflicted about having and enjoying sex with someone I really do not like.

 

Has anyone else ever experienced something like this? If so, what did you do?

 

I have. I hooked up with him online while I was in college back in the mid 90s, and we sorta became fuck buddies after we'd been on a few bad dates together and knew that the relationship thing was not in the cards for us. Did not like him very much at all. But he was hot in the sack. Very hot. It would go on with him for hours and hours every time we got together. It wasn't easy to give that up. It was strange how the sex felt so good while we were doing it, yet immediately afterwards I felt filthy. Couldn't wait for him to leave so I could shower and wash all traces of it (and him) away. In retrospect, I think the awesomeness of the sex made it seem worthwhile at the time, but no way I'd be able to deal with a situation like that now. Each time right after I hooked up with him I'd feel a little worse than I did the time before. Til it got to the point where I had to stop because I just didn't want to do it anymore. I think what happened in my case was that we were hanging on and pretending to be friends after our attempt at a relationship had failed. Apart from the sex, we had nothing at all in common. Even our attempts at casual conversation were a contrivance. Perhaps if we had hooked up just for sex from the very start things would have been different. But I know what you mean about having and enjoying sex with someone you really don't like. Having a fuck buddy is a good thing for single person, but for me the situation works out better if we like each other at least some.

 

You havent said exactly what it is about him that you don't like though.

[Guest Zack]

You havent said exactly what it is about him that you don't like though.

 

And I'd rather not do that.

 

But here's one of the things that make this conflicting for me.

 

With probably about 99.9% of all the sex partners I have ever had, it has always been important for me to know that my partner was enjoying what we were doing as much as I was.

 

With this guy, I could really care less and don't even think about if he's having a hot time. Obviously he is, but it isn't anything that crosses my mind and if he wasn't I don't think it would bother me in the least.

 

I'm thinking that maybe this is why the sex is so good. Maybe this is more about me than about him.

 

With this guy it's just about selfish sex. Period. No inhibitions, no concerns, no caring, no nothing, but lustful selfish sex.

 

If I didn't dislike him so much I'd be concerned about falling in love with him.

[Decatur Guy]

There can be something really HOT about having good sex without someone you don't like. I had sex with a guy a few times that I can't say I hated -- I didn't know him well enough for that -- but I definitely found him unlikable. And we had great sex. I'm sorry we didn't have more sessions. You can get very aggressive with someone you dislike. Maybe that's the attraction.

[+ Axiom2001]

Be "honest" and "sincere" and "tactful" with your hot man; then sees where it goes after that! - If this man decides NOT to see you again after your being honest and concerned, do you think you could handle this?