Can a client and escort be good friends? Close Friends?

[NYTomcat]

I was thinking more along the lines of:

http://i394.photobucket.com/albums/pp21/startrekstuntman/FamliaRobinson.jpg

[AdamSmith]

I was thinking more along the lines of:

 

Passing by the 2 or 3 most obvious jokes without comment, all the possible permutations and combinations are too sinful to contemplate.

[gp0560]

Take a look at those high-laced boots and the guys they're attached to. Imagine what they could . . . Excuse me, I have to go now.

[+ Gar1eth]

My best friend on earth is someone I first met by hiring him. Rare; dangerous; precious.

 

I didn't say never-- but I maintain I think it happens less often than all the clients who wish it to happen think it might-- or why is this question always cropping up on this Forum? And if it is cropping up this frequently on the Forum here-- how often is the question occuring to clients who don't even know about this Forum the world over. It's natural in most cases to want the person pleasuring you whether through sex or anything else to be your friend. It's how we are built. And again friendships happen just not as often as the client wishes.

 

G

[+ Gar1eth]

Ok I only glanced at the poem. I promise to go back and reread it when I have more time. But I'm not sure if the individual lines made a lot of sense to me. I guess I'm not very bright.

 

G

[KMEM]

Thk u. My point being (as you well know): To assume that every single one of these connections must in the end reduce to zero degrees Kelvin is just too cynical to countenance. Why then bother?

 

 

 

Well, more and more of them, alas. As before:

 

http://www.maleescortreview.com/forum/index.php?/topic/3706-deaths/page__p__19441__hl__sarcophagus

 

Do I HAVE to die to become your friend NOT of this earth? I actually took this originally to mean folks not from this planet or not from this solar sytem, etc. In other words, aliens not from here. Of course, after reading the poem, I thought differently. Or, should I say.

 

I, too, miss my friends who have passed on to other places and, as you suggest, there are only too many of them. I can only say, gone, but not forgotten.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[+ deej]

http://i394.photobucket.com/albums/pp21/startrekstuntman/FamliaRobinson.jpg

 

Every time someone brings up that damn show I spend the rest of the day trying to get the theme music out of my head.

 

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[+ bigjoey]

Yes, it can happen and has happened to me. The men involved are great guys and I am lucky to have them in my life. There are some pretty wonderful men who just happen to be escorts and sometimes, the chemistry and interests just work out right.

[Guest IndyMedic2006]

I like your answer bigjoey!

[Rick Munroe]

Sorry Rick, while I do sometimes agree with you-- and I'm not saying that escorts and clients can never be friends-- I have to call you out on this one.

 

I'm not sure what you mean by "calling me out." We happen to have developed very close & genuine friendships with a few of our regular clients.

[Juan Vancouver]

When those endorphins kick in just on an instinctual level if it's someone you have sex frequently with either friend or escort I think emotions come in to play-- I think the human race is designed that way.

 

I just finished a book which pretty much incontestably debunks all the myths and pseudo science that has until now justified the Victorian view of human sexuality. It is an incredibly witty and fun book with a lot of mind blowing material: Apparently Darwin know nothing about sex. (How this still shocks some is beyond me.)

 

If you are not afraid of having your view of yourself meddled with and enjoy a good read, make sure you get:

 

Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality by Christopher Ryan, Ph.D. & Cacilda Jethá, M.D.

 

http://sexatdawn.com/

 

It would seem that biologically speaking I am not alone: all human beings are biologically programmed to be debaucherous, lewd, lustful creatures fueled by wanton desires of debonair fleshly pleasures and little complications.

 

I love feeling vindicated by science.

[Damascene]

The answer is yes, but, as said earlier what are your non sex interactions? You can compartmentalize the sex and money into its own separate part of the relationship. Here is my tests - have you met his friends and do they not know you are his client (which may depending on whether your escort is open with his friends)? Can you comment on his facebook status and vice-versa? Does he call you out of the blue to do something non sexual and vice-a-versa? I can say two past escorts I have had this interaction and one current.

 

There is the question of whether the compartmentalized sex is healthy? I am not sure, but I enjoy the ride.

[Guest greatness]

Well

 

The book lacks clear evidence for many of the arguments it makes. Most of all, the book seemingly misinterprets or misrepresents other people's research. It is an entertaining book but I don't necessary agree with what it says.

[Bart]

A good thread first growing up, Lost In Space was one of favorite shows. The black and white version of the show was actually scary and fun to watch for a kid. Jonathan Harris's role as Dr Smith, the robot great watching that first night after the central standard time and then playing outside like you were on the planet. Saddly the shows writing developed Dr Smith into a comic buffoon rather than keeping the edge as a sinister evil character. I thought the first two seasons had great writing and kept the interest.

 

Now to the theme of the thread I thought I had friends but that was only on my part not theirs, until last year when I began talking with this new escort. We began a sort of relationship talking, texting, emailing. I was a challenge for him as he and I had the same position. But I wanted to meet him for business and it clicked well. We talk regularly usually weekly. I sort of let him take the lead in the communications because I have been down that road of letting my heart get involved. I have been to his place in a non-working place. If I could introduce into my regular life with out creating ??? I would. Somehow we have developed a friendship with more give on his part than take. It can happen I see plenty of other guys and I think that's how you have to do it. If it becomes exclusive that is where the issues come up. Plus no way could we be a pair we both really want to be on the same possition. Anyway yes it can happen, but I dont think its the norm. Remember you cant go out looking for friendship it happens or it doesn't. I just would not get caught up in it or not. Remember this is for fun, right.

[NYTomcat]

I'd like to reverse or expand the topic. Without stealing indy's premise. What if you have a friend who suddenly starts escorting. Can you hire and maintain the friendship. I know the minefield but still do you even go down that road?

[Guest greatness]

well if he is just a friend then yes I will be still be friends with him. Nobody answered your question so I'm giving you my opinion. Kisses and hugs~~~

[+ Gar1eth]

I'm not sure what you mean by "calling me out." We happen to have developed very close & genuine friendships with a few of our regular clients.

 

In my opinion-- and maybe it's only mine-- but if you are accepting their money-- then there is a likelihood it's not a true friendship. How often do you see or talk to them on a non-business basis? Do you buy them gifts? Do you ever take them out for a meal or a movie? Do you ever call them up and say, "hey, let's hang out-- go to a comedy club- go to an author reading together, go to a movie, head out to the beach?"

 

Gman

[Guest greatness]

True

In my opinion-- and maybe it's only mine-- but if you are accepting their money-- then there is a likelihood it's not a true friendship.

Gman

[NYTomcat]

In my opinion-- and maybe it's only mine-- but if you are accepting their money-- then there is a likelihood it's not a true friendship. How often do you see or talk to them on a non-business basis? Do you buy them gifts? Do you ever take them out for a meal or a movie? Do you ever call them up and say, "hey, let's hang out-- go to a comedy club- go to an author reading together, go to a movie, head out to the beach?"

 

Gman

 

Well that is the mark of the friendship. Someone you choose to hang out with on your own time. Who you text call email and get together with even without monetary compensation. But the reality is I don't sleep with my friends generally ... but there is no reason you can't have such a friendship. And then hire their services. God knows I go out to dinner and have even gone on vacation with my accountant. But I still pay to have my taxes done .... just as he pays for legal services. As long as you understand your not hiring for love but for play it can be the best escort relationship. You have a service provider. Who knows you intimately and can provide the services that most escorts would not have the insight into you to even see or consider.

 

The drawback....

Well that kind of intimacy can easily start to be blurred as more than friends that hire. Guess I've always been that Guy who likes walking along the edge.

[Guest greatness]

When you are young and strong it might be fun but it might be not work when you get old and weak. Just my humble opinion. Kisses and hugs...

The drawback....

Guess I've always been that Guy who likes walking along the edge.

[NYTomcat]

When you are young and strong it might be fun but it might be not work when you get old and weak. Just my humble opinion. Kisses and hugs...

 

Perhaps your right greatness. But I think that line gets even less blurry with time. The friendship may be more rare. Since you have a greater age difference and less in common.... but. It would also seem your chances of mistaking a hired friend for something more would diminish. Just mho.

[+ Tom Isern]

Can dogs walk? Can cats swim? Does the air really contain oxygen? Does the pope wear a dress? Was Proust really gay? Are tennis shoes better for running than dress shoes? Can rabbits breed?

[Guest greatness]

My cat can't swim other than that.. Yes!