Barebacking

[Guest Kalifornia]

>I need a good advice in this department. I decided to

>bareback for this guy I'd been going out with for a year

>now. He is very gorgeous hoyt horny stud and we both enjoyed

>each other company. We both feel that barebacking will

>reaffirm our trust and feeling with each other.

 

Sounds as if the reationship is very weak. You need to have raw sex to "reaffirm our trust and feeling with each other," to achieve this? It's not mentally healthy or realistic to make such a statement. What happened to respect and love?

 

Bareback all you like, I have no opinion either way. Though do not rationalize it with a load of bullshit. Just do it.

 

Mark -Kalifornia

[taylorky]

>reaffirm our trust and feeling with each other.

>>>>>>>>>so would playing russian roullete with five bullets:o

[Guest in yer face]

I would say soemthing here, but it really just sounds like you are trying to start a fight, so I aint saying nothing.

 

 

 

>I need a good advice in this department. I decided to

>bareback for this guy I'd been going out with for a year

>now. He is very gorgeous hoyt horny stud and we both enjoyed

>each other company. We both feel that barebacking will

>reaffirm our trust and feeling with each other. We always

>have a great and earth-shaking anal sex together. I as a

>bottom and he as a top. Will this be the same during

>barebacking?

>

>I need the counsel of the great minds on how we go through

>this.

[Guest Blink]

I need a good advice in this department. I decided to bareback for this guy I'd been going out with for a year now. He is very gorgeous hoyt horny stud and we both enjoyed each other company. We both feel that barebacking will reaffirm our trust and feeling with each other. We always have a great and earth-shaking anal sex together. I as a bottom and he as a top. Will this be the same during barebacking?

 

I need the counsel of the great minds on how we go through this.

[Guest]

Of course, you'd be the main one to suffer if the trust were misplaced. A problem I can see is that if at some point there were some cheating, the cheating partner would be forced to admit to the cheating if he wanted to keep his partner safe. Or he could just continue to act as if nothing happened, thus putting his boyfriend at risk. That's a lot of pressure...

[Guest Merlin]

A large percentage of AIDS patients are guys who trusted their boyfriends. I don't think you will find many on this board who will encourage you.

[Guest chicagojeff]

I agree with In Yer Face, it sounds as if you are just lookin' to start something. What kind of advice could anyone give you? "Do it"; "Don't do it."??

 

If you are a responsible gay man, then you presumably know everything there is to know about this issue. In any case, not sure that it makes much sense to be taking advice on so important a matter from strangers.

[Guest Fin Fang Foom]

>I need a good advice in this department. I decided to

>bareback for this guy I'd been going out with for a year

>now.

 

FIRST, you need to tell us who brought up the idea - you or him?

 

Also, it's interesting that you characterize this year-long relationship as merely "going out". If you're still just "going out", neither one of you is in a position to require "trust" or the reaffirmation of it.

 

It sounds to me like you've got a really hot fuck buddy and you're getting bored with having protected sex.

 

>He is very gorgeous hoyt horny stud

 

Aren't they always?

 

>We both feel that barebacking will

>reaffirm our trust and feeling with each other.

 

If you really want to reaffirm your "feeling with (sic) each other", you'll keep have protected sex and then start talking about moving in together. THAT, young man, is where the rubber hits the road.

 

Helpfully yours,

 

FFF

[+ Charlie]

I'm with FFF all the way on this one.

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[Guest Blink]

Thank you..thank you for all your advice. Indeed, I will surely heed the wisdom of the elder.

 

We actually talked about it last night and we reaffirmed our commitment with each other. Meanwhile, we'll stick to the safer version of hot and passionate sex. We can always look back and tell ourselves that we once did it. Also, with barebacking, he was very very careful not to hurt me because there are times, while we were rubber protected, I will be in bloody pain.

 

We also discussed moving in together. It will be a good idea for both of us as we both train together as a triathlete. My concern is that, half of the week, he will be coming home at 4am from a long day working as an intern in a nearby hospital. Usually, he wants to recap his day with passionate lovemaking but at that hour of the day, I am very useless. He loves to top and insert that big tool of his in my still-tight ass. That will be a lot of work for me very early in the morning and I am your regular 8-5 guy. Now, I need to work on my sleeping schedule to accomodate him.

 

So, my dear great counsel, what should I do?

[Cooper]

We both feel that barebacking will

>reaffirm our trust and feeling with each other.

>I need the counsel of the great minds on how we go through

>this.

 

Oh Blink, hmmmm, you really need "great minds" to "counsel" you on this topic.

It doesn't take a rocket scientist to say NO! I've been with my BF for 9 months and we have and always will play it safe. If trust is an issue, loan him $5,000. and see if he pays it back...If you do decide to go against the views expressed on this board, please check out the small print on your health insurance policy before proceeding...Get back to us with your decision.

[Guest chicagojeff]

Whatever, doode

[Guest sdmuscl4hire]

Better start researching the options available regarding what medication, cocktail, etc you want to start on and also when. Its alot of work and involvement but if you start now you might get a head start

[Guest dstud4hire]

>Thank you..thank you for all your advice. Indeed, I will

>surely heed the wisdom of the elder.

>

>We actually talked about it last night and we reaffirmed our

>commitment with each other. Meanwhile, we'll stick to the

>safer version of hot and passionate sex. We can always look

>back and tell ourselves that we once did it.

 

ONE THOUGHT THAT YOU MIGHT WANT TO TAKE FROM THIS EXPERIENCE IS THAT THERE ARE, IN THE VERY LEAST, SOME YELLOW FLAGS, IF NOT GREATER, TO WATCH OUT FOR....MAINLY AROUND THE AREA OF COMMUNICATION AND WHAT IS GOING DOWN DEEP INSIDE YOU....TO JUSTIFY BAREBACKING, THE TWO OF YOU MADE IT MORE PALATABLE BY COMING UP WITH THE EASY EXCUSE THAT RIDS YOURSELF OF THE GUILT THAT GOES WITH IT, RATHER THAN EACH TAKING YOUR PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY WITH THE ACT, AND THE KNOWLEDGE OF THE POTENTIAL EFFECTS OF SUCH A DECISION. IT'S LIKE WHEN I WAS WITH MY LAST BF, I FINALLY MET A GUY WHO COULD TALK HONESTLY (WELL, AT LEAST ABOUT SEX), AND FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER, I HAD AN OPEN AND HONEST DISCUSSION ABOUT MONOGAMY VS. NON MONOGAMY. BEFORE HAND, PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIPS HAVE ALWAYS SKIRTED AROUND THE ISSUE, OR WE CAME UP WITH OTHER WAYS TO JUSTIFY OUR BEHAVIOR. YOU MIGHT WANT TO TAKE A LOOK AT THAT ISSUE....CAUSE TO SAY IT WILL REAFIRM TRUST DOESN'T WASH...

 

>barebacking, he was very very careful not to hurt me because

>there are times, while we were rubber protected, I will be

>in bloody pain. WELL, I HAVE HEARD FROM SOME PEOPLE THAT YOU CAN ACTUALLY BE ALLERGIC OR DEVELOPE REACTIONS TO THE LATEX CONDOM.

>

>We also discussed moving in together. It will be a good

>idea for both of us as we both train together as a

>triathlete. My concern is that, half of the week, he will be

>coming home at 4am from a long day working as an intern in a

>nearby hospital. Usually, he wants to recap his day with

>passionate lovemaking but at that hour of the day, I am very

>useless. He loves to top and insert that big tool of his in

>my still-tight ass. That will be a lot of work for me very

>early in the morning and I am your regular 8-5 guy. Now, I

>need to work on my sleeping schedule to accomodate him.

 

THERE AGAIN, WE GO BACK TO COMMUNICATION ,AND WHAT WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY VS. HIM. THOUGH I KNOW YOU WERE USING THE FACT THAT YOU ARE BOTH IN TRAINING TOGETHER AS A SIMPLE EXAMPLE OF WHY IT WOULD BE GOOD TO MOVE IN WITH ONE ANOTHER, I FIND IT INTERESTING THAT IT WAS THE EXAMPLE YOU USED. CLEARLY, YOU CAN SEE THAT THE ABOVE REASONING AS ONE EXAMPLE OFN WHY IT WOULD BE GOOD TO LIVE WITH EACHOTHER DIMINISHING THE SERIOUSNESS OF ACTUALLY DOINGF IT.

 

FURTHERMORE THOUGH, YOU END WITH STATING HOW YOU ARE NOW GOING TO HAVE TO ACCOMMODATE HIS SLEEPING SCHEDULE. I CAN TOTALLY SEE WHERE YOU AE COMING FROM, CAUSE I'VE BEEN THERE BEFORE: SO IN LOVE WITHA GUY THAT I WOULD DO JUST ABOUT ANYTHING FOR HIM..WAIT BY THE PHONE FOPR HIS CALLS, STAY UP LATE TO ACCOMMODATE HIS WORKING SCHEDULE, OR DO WHAT HE WANTS TO DO SEXUALLY, EVEN IF I WASN'T REALLY INTO THAT....THANK GOD I WORKED ON THAT CO-DEPENDENCY.

 

NOW, I'M NOT SAYING YOU SHOULDN'T MEET HIM HALF WAY OR ANYTHING....BUT MAKE SURE YOU CAN HONESTLY SAY, AFTER MUCH INTROSPECTION, THAT YOUR NEEDS ARE BEING MET.

 

ANYWAY, I REALIZE THAT THIS IS OFF THE TOPIC OF BAREBACKING, BUT BAREBACKING WAS JUST A SURFACE ISSUE AS I SAW IT, INTO WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON IN THE RELATIONSHIP, AND IN THE VERY LEAST, IT DESERVES SOME PONDERING.

 

GOOD LUCK TO YOU!

>

>So, my dear great counsel, what should I do?

[foxy]

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