Worst Nightmare come true

[Guest TomBuStone]

Hey Guys.

 

Had a very bad experience last night.

 

I'm willing to discuss it here in order to get some feedback and support from guys who may have had similar experiences.

 

I have posted to the 'escort's only' section the information necessary to help other escorts avoid this particular client if they so choose.

 

What happened:

 

Went to the Handelry Hotel in SF to see a new first time client.

This client and I had spoken on the phone several times previously, seemed ok.. Nice, well to do professional of Australian descent, friends of his own the Handelry hotel (has reputation as one of the better hotels in SF), works in the interior decorating biz for hotels (He says). Indicated that sexually he likes to suck and get topped, likes guys of my physical description.

 

I arrive to find a rather animated but nice older gentleman, alcohol on his breath (but not obviously drunk), has my fee already out on table (I saw it and left it there untouched) wants to get down to business right away..

 

I notice also that the reason I had such a hard time understanding him on the phone wasn't so much his thick Australian accent, but rather his missing teeth ( ! ). I looked around for a pair of uppers and lowers in the room, didn't see any. (That can actually be a rather cool oral experience for a well hung guy).

 

He then shuts the lights off. COMPLETELY off. PITCH black. I stop right there and protest, insisting that we put SOME lights on. He reluctantly complies.

 

I get a very bad feeling and start glancing around the room more carefully to see what this man might be trying to hide. I focus again on his mouth. He has a tooth or 2 after all.. Okay.. Perhaps he's just shy or ashamed of his poor teeth. While not happy about it, I can understand that..

 

We proceed. He starts to go down on me. Sure enough, theres a tooth in there.. He seems reasonably careful. I caution him to go slow. he does. Ok.. so he knows he has bad teeth and he's being extra careful. So far so good. My dick's only about half hard, I'm just starting to relax and get into it.

 

About 3 minutes into this, he starts bobbing up and down wildly like a Singer sewing machine. SLICES MY DICK TO SHREDS. BLOOD EVERYWHERE. HURTS LIKE HELL.

 

I loudly and firmly say "STOP!" GRAB him by the single lock of blonde hair on his head and PULL him off of me, turn on the lights nearest the bed. What a mess.

 

I go to the bathroom, using cold water and clean washcloths to clean up. He keeps asking "Are you alright?"

"NO" I reply. "I'm cut badly and need medical attention. I'm sorry, but our session is over."

 

"You're not blaming ME for this are you?" he askes indigantly..

 

At this point I truly am at a loss to know how to respond..

 

I think I said "WHAT?!" and "Well, it certainly wasn't MY teeth that just cut my dick to shreds..)

 

He then denies that he did this to me, saying that "how do I know that you didn't place that blood there yourself?' , grabbed my fee off the table and said "I'm not paying you! This was a great disappointment!" . "Fine. Whatever." I said "Are you SURE that you're HIV Negative?" was my response. He was actually offended that I told him after the fact that he had sharp teeth and probably ought to see a dental professional about his options. He INSISTED that his teeth are perfect (but wouldn't open his mouth to let me see). This guy is in total denial, not a hint of an apology.

I left injured and empty-handed, unable to work for at least a week, not knowing what kind of disease I may have possibly put myself at risk of contracting. I now have to call several clients who have made plans to see me this weekend and cancel or try to reschedule (Some from out of town).

 

His parting words? "Don't ever set foot in this hotel again!"

 

Unbelievable.

 

I can't say if this was a pure accident or some kind of a set up. The fact that he quickly turned the lights off to pitch blackness makes me think that something was up.

He also talked part of the time about how he has this ongoing relationship with another escort currently advertising in my area (he says) who goes by (John X Doe). (if this is some kind of a twisted plan to put the competition for (John X Doe) out of business, its working..)

 

I can handle the fact this might well have been an accident, but what I couldn't handle was the way the guy behaved after he did what he did!

 

I do find it rather odd that in the rare event I have a problem of any sort with a client, I find that the profile of the problem client is one with money and privilege.

 

I would like to hear from other guys about their experiences with mis-treatment by clients of power and privilege as well as those who have been injured by their clients (or escorts).

 

I'm not interested in retribution or retaliation. I am more interested in avoiding situations, preventing escalation, and dealing with the feelings of the experience.

 

Thank you.

Tom BuStone

415-256-6743 pager voicemail

[email protected]

[BuckyXTC]

Tom:

 

All I can say is that I'm terribly sorry this happened to you. So many folks get so concerned here about getting burned by escorts, but less frequently do we hear of a horror story like this.

I hope you're ok, and that you suffer no furher consequences from such a rotten encounter. I'm glad that you saw fit to post the info on this creep in the Escorts Only forum. No one should have to go through what you've just experienced. I pray your recovery is swift and complete.

[Guest lipstick]

Whoa! This IS a horror story. As a client, I've always

wondered how you 'scorts evaluate a situation to prevent something like this from happening.

 

It is darn lucky that you insisted the lights were on. I think had things proceeded in the dark, it would have only added to the confusion and chaos, and you surely would have not been able to react as quickly as you did.

 

Hopefully, the guys who workout, can handle yourselves physically and have quick reflexes would have been able to put a stop to this type of brutal behavior IMMEDIATELY.

 

I know you're not looking for retribution, but this is brutality, and in any other context, he would have been reported to the cops. From what you relayed here, it seems to me that what the client did was all intentional, and God knows what he may have done other 'scorts....

 

I know that the whole idea of hiring escorts can be thrilling and a wonderful adventure, but there are also cases like this that make you shudder. Certainly, female prostitutues have been subjected to this form of abuse in many forms.

 

I hope everything works out for you, Tom, and that all you 'scort guys watch out for each other in situations like this. Incidents like this are difficult to predict, but it can and does apparently happen.

[Guest in yer face]

Man, thats terrible. Contact the Anti-Violence project an report the guy. They may also have some other interesting outlets for you to persue. Dont just walk away from this.

 

http://www.avp.org

[Guest Thunderbuns]

I agree with the other members who have posted their disgust and dsimay at what happened to you. If it is any consolation at all, I don't think you have much to fear re HIV infection as I have heard that syliva is not a transporter.

 

Although I understand you are not seeking revenge - I would probably do a couple of things just to make his life difficult. Firstly I would contact the owner of the hotel (seeing as he claimed a friendship) and tell them what had transpired. Then I would complain to whatever authority controls the spread of infectious disease and pretend that you are concerned about HIV and see if you can get then to haul him in for testing.

 

He will probably claim you are a ho. You can deny it. No $$ changed hands and it is your word against his.

 

Hope you recover from this asap and are able to put it out of your mind.

 

Thunderbuns

[+ Axiom2001]

Tom--my sentiments are with you. Bucky's empathy is also mine; thus I wont be redundant. Since I know you it was difficult for me to fathom what this bastard did to you. AX

[marc anthony]

Obviously horrible. And obviously you have the moral support of me and hopefully everyone else on this board.

[Rick Munroe]

>So many folks get so concerned here about getting

>burned by escorts, but less frequently do we hear of a

>horror story like this.

 

Exactly. Tom, I'm really sorry to hear this happened to you (especially since that's such a nice looking dick). I only wish you had at least gotten your money. Whenever I get blown by a guy who doesn't know what he's doing and I feel the teeth (I'm thick, too), I immediately check to see if I've been cut. It's never happened (knock woody) but now all I'll think about is you. Thanks for the image. Seriously, though...I'm pissed off to hear that happened to you.

 

As for escorts getting burned by clients, it happens frequently. Just last week, I got burned monetarily twice (you'd think I would learn after 3 years!) by not one but two different clients who said, "Can I stay another hour?", assured me they had the cash to cover it (I never ask for it upfront, of course), and ended up giggling after two hours, saying, "Ooops...can I owe it to you next time?" Not wanting to seem like a jerk by making them go to an ATM, I just sucked it up (after sucking them off). These weren't the first times that's happened (when will I learn? I'm way too fucking nice!)...only the most recent. Last night, I had a call from a nice-sounding guy who wanted to come to my place "in a half hour." I was going to go to the gym but said "fine," and proceeded to wait for 2 hours (I went online & lost track of time) for someone who never intended to show up. I had his # on my caller-ID but it turned out to be a fax. None of these can remotely compare to what's happened to Tom...but it's true that we do take risks...physically, emotionally, monetarily. And let's not even start discussing stalkers (I've had three!). x(

[+ deej]

Tom, as with the others you have my full sympathy. You were assaulted in the worst possible way. The client's behavior is absolutely reprehensible.

 

I'm tempted to suggest we suspend the site's confidentiality rules to expose this jerk, but only HooBoy can do that.

 

I hate that you've gone through this, but if just ONE escort avoids this creep your post has served its purpose. If only you'd had the same warning, eh?

 

Here's hoping you heal well and quickly, pal!

[BuckyXTC]

I've always thought it took a lot of balls (both literally and figuratively) to be an escort. When my best friend was escorting some time back, I used to worry a lot about his safety. He worked for an agency (now defunct) and the agency owner always bragged about how he was diligent in protecting his escorts from harm. Of course, that line was meant to reassure the escorts and concerned clients like me that these "special" guys were going to be kept safe. But when they would be sent out to meet a client in a distant town, with little more than an address and phone number for the client, I often wondered what could happen, and it troubled me for the safety of my friend.

 

I imagine the risks are even higher for the independent escorts. If you make an appointment to meet a client at his place, God only knows what could happen if this is a sicko you're meeting. Of course, as we've now seen by Tom's story, it can even happen in a posh hotel.

 

As clients, maybe we ought to pause and consider the kinds of risks these guys take to provide the pleasure we desire, and be a bit kinder and gentler and not take offense when they exercise caution when meeting us.

 

As I've come to know a number of escorts through this site who I now count as friends, I really worry about safety issues for them. Hell, I'm the kind of client who who upon finishing a session with an escort, goes away hoping that the escort really enjoyed his time with me.

 

So as far as I'm concerned, escorts should take all the precautions they can to guarantee their safety and well-being. And if clients find those extra precautions offensive, then tough nuts to them.

 

(climbing down off my high horse)

[Guest JON1265]

Tom -

 

I, too, extend my best wishes to you for a quick recovery.

 

I was reading your post and it struck me that you did what many of us do - we seem to ignore our instincts. It seems you had a feeling that something was not right, and you went ahead anyway thinking the best about this creep. We all do it. I am trying to listen to my instincts more - though it is not easy.

 

I hope you pass this creep's name around and get him somewhat blackballed, but it sounds you are not the type to do that - you are a bigger man than I as I would want blood. Let's hope there is some sort of cosmic justice in this universe so this guy does get "his" - and soon.

 

Hope you are feeling better.

 

Jon:-)

[alanalt]

>I do find it rather odd that in the rare event I have a

>problem of any sort with a client, I find that the profile

>of the problem client is one with money and privilege.

 

Let's face it, unless they have a 'public profile' to protect, people with wealth and privilege have (or think they have) far fewer limitations on their behaviour than the rest of us. Other than getting the 'word' out there about this guy, I don't see much else what you can do...

 

Obviously, I'm as appalled about this as everyone else who's posted so far and like them, I'd like to wish you a speedy and complication-free recovery!

 

Regards,

 

Alan

[trilingual]

Tom, you didn't say, but if you haven't already you should see your doctor. (I assume you have one, and he knows you're sexually active!) Ordinarily there isn't much danger of HIV transmission by oral sex, but that may not be true if this guy is positive and he drew blood. Even if he's negative, human bites can be nasty from a medical standpoint. Although I'm sure you washed as soon as possible, your doc may want you to take antibiotics to prevent an infection from developing. We don't want anything happening to that wonder-cock of yours, and you don't want an infection there. (VERY painful, at the least.) Also, if you haven't had a recent tetanus booster, your doc may want you to have one. Once you've taken care of yourself, and recovered from the shock a bit, you can figure out what to do about the creep.

 

I'd offer to just kiss it and make it well :7 but in this case you really need more specialized care. Honestly, don't delay, because you DON'T want to risk a serious infection, which anyone can easily develop after being bitten by another person.

 

Take care of yourself, and I hope everything's OK soon.

[Guest SeaGuy]

Now having recovered somewhat from the shock, all us guys are very sensitive about our little or in your case not-so-little buddies being mistreated and abused, but this was really almost Lorena Bobbit sick. My best wishes to you and hope you recover quickly not only physically but psychologically as well. I'm such a sissy just hearing about this has put me off sex for awhile. I know you said you're not interested in retribution but this sick bastard deserves to have his remaining teeth knocked out and shoved up his ass so he can chew his guts out. Let us know how you're doing.

[eastbayguy]

To Tom:

 

First, I am horrified to hear your story. Thank you for telling the community here. Hopefully some good for someone will come of knowing what happened to you. This is just beyond disgusting.

 

I hope you have access to a good physician. You really should see a doctor. The risk of AIDS transmission seems fairly low, based on how you describe things. Unfortunately, the human mouth is home to some pretty nasty bacteria. Probably, your greatest risk is a regular old infection of some sort. An infection in your the skin of your penis is really, really unpleasant. Plus, there could also be damage not visible from the outside to your member.

 

Taking the high road is commendable. The creep that did this to you needs to be stopped, though. He's probably done this or perhaps worse to others. If you don't want to persue the guy yourself, perhaps with the collective wisdom of the group, other ways to stop the guy can be devised. We ought to be able to craft a (nearly) legal way to open up a can of gay whoop-ass on the creep.

 

If money is an issue, I'll chip in on either your medical bills or some attorney time if appropriate should you wish to persue the creep. No doubt others will do so as well.

 

Again, I am horrified to hear your story, and wish you a swift recovery.

 

--EBG

[Will]

First, I add my sympathy and concern to everyone else's. That's enough to put you off of your work for a while, and not just because you're injured.

 

Second, I hope you'll take the advice of In Yer Face and contact the anti-violence league.

 

Third -- and this is to Hooboy -- I think it's worth considering deej's suggestion, at least for this board and this particular incident. Here's my reasoning:

 

Somebody already pointed out that no prostitution was involved because no money changed hands. Therefore, if there was a crime at all, it was a crime of assault against Tom.

 

To reinforce that, consider the following: Tom is a delivery man; he delivers a package to a guest in the hotel; once inside the room, the guest switches off the lights; the next thing the delivery man knows is that he feels he's being bitten and turns on the lights; sure enough, he has. No matter how much the guest denies having drawn Tom's blood, who else is there to have done it?

 

Would Tom be justified in complaining to the hotel? Yes. Would he be justified in calling the police on a complaint of assault? Yes. Are we in fact talking about a violent crime committed by the hotel guest against the delivery man? Yes.

 

This toothless troll is dangerous and escorts, at the very least, should know who he is. And if he lurks here, he should know that all the rest of us know who he is as well.

[+ Lucky]

In San Francisco the authorities would not be concerned as to the reason why Tom met the client. They would be concerned to arrest the man who perpetrated this assault. I assume there is proof in that others saw the damage, and others could verify the appointment.

 

Unfortunately, prostitutes, along with illegal immigrants, are often victimized. In order to stop crime, the police cannot let the person's business or status keep them from finding the person who did it.

So, if that is a worry why Tom does not report this, it should not be. Best wishes to you, Tom.

[Guest in yer face]

I have one other thought for you. The mayor on San Fran has made it clear that the police force is not interested in persuing prostitutes that dont work on the street. Call the cops, call the hotel. I think its high time for a sort of coalition of escorts and bodyworkers. Gonna put some thought into a webpage thats accessable only by working boys (and girls at some point). Perhaps a no show and client red alert list that is actually useful (real numbers and names)

 

In the meatime, you did good to get out. And Rick, next time someone tries to short you for the time, grab that mother fucker by the collar, walk his sorry ass down to an ATM and stand real close while he gets the money.

[+ Axiom2001]

Yes, Yes, Yes, Tom has our utmost "moral support"!

[+ honcho]

>Man, thats terrible. Contact the Anti-Violence project an

>report the guy.

 

>http://www.avp.org

 

The San Francisco version of this is http://www.cuav.org/

[Guest TomBuStone]

Thanks to everyone for your kind words and advice.

 

Sorry I haven't been up to responding to you all individually.

 

I can appreciate the squeemishness one might feel regarding the Lorena Bobbit factor. I apologize if my post grossed anyone out. Heartfelt thanks to all those who were able to overcome that.

Your contributions have all been touching and comforting.

 

Update: I seem to be healing very quickly. My Doctor advised simple flushing with peroxide and applying antibiotic ointment. Other than some minor scratches (already healed) the injury is largely a single puncture wound, about 1/4" x 1/2" deep. Unbelievably, it appears nearly 75% healed already. With regard to infection, there do not seem to be any obvious signs of one. A doctor acquaintance also advised that because I bled profusely ( ! ) that any pathogens were likely immediately flushed out.

 

I understand that the SF authorities would most likely come to my aid without repercussion to myself. (I have 2 friends who are retired bay area law enforcement). My issue is that this may well have been an accident. (The guy had been drinking.) While still not acceptable behavior, it would be very difficult to prove malicious intent. The injury is not as severe as I first thought. Also, my injury is healing so rapidly that there likely would not be much to show in a very short space of time. Any pusuit of this matter would most likely bring a whole lot of unwanted attention, exposure and drama (I hate drama). The clientele I tend to attract highly values discretion and anonymity. Some of my clients probably would not see me if my face became associated with escorting to the general public.

 

I have contacted hotel management and made them aware of the situation. They handled my initial call with surprising professionalism. I was told that upper management would get back to me. (So far they have not. I called after business hours yesterday. It is noon here now.) Hotel management has confirmed that this individual is a regular guest of the hotel. They would or could not confirm if he was associated in any way with the hotel or its owners.

I'm not sure what purpose it would serve to pursue anything with the hotel though. Its not like they could do anything. It actually might be best if nothing was done on this front, as it would make this guy very easy to find (and avoid) consistently at one hotel when he is in SF.

 

I AM VERY curious to speak with the escort this guy purports to carry on a relationship with. My calls to his pager have continued to go unanswered.

 

I am going to contact the anti-violence project in SF today and see what they have to say. Thank you guys for the suggestion.

 

While I have listed this client's information in the escorts only section of this website (as well as his purported escort friend), I will not list it here. I am not interested in putting Hooboy at risk for a potential slander or libel lawsuit (The principle reason that client blacklists are ultimately forced out of existence).

 

The worst part? Honestly?

 

I haven't gotten head in 2 days!!!!

 

(I must be feeling better..right?)

 

Thanks again guys. really.

 

 

Tom

 

Tom BuStone

415-256-6743

[email protected]

[Will]

>The worst part? Honestly?

>

>I haven't gotten head in 2 days!!!!

 

Poor baby! I'm sure I'm not the only one who would be glad to step up and make it all better.

[Guest unlimited_horizons2002]

nice to hear you are healing well.

 

how the hell did the guy cut you. i dont understand this. did he have a razor blade in his mouth? i met a vietnam veteran once in miami and he told me that in vietnam the girls/boys used to put razorblades \in their vaginas to cut the american soldiers and the boys had their methods also.

take care and check the teeth of the next client first. well lucky guy he will get a full load.:9

[Guest TomBuStone]

Hello

 

In response to how did he cut me, I think that he had a single tooth that was ground to a point or a VERY sharp edge. My guess was that he has uppers and lowers but that they may have left 1 or 2 teeth in place as anchors (?) I'm not a dentist. Just a wild guess.

And i really did try to look into his mouth before hand, but he wasn't very willing to let me see. My guess is that he was embarrassed.

 

That other escort whom this client indicated he had a relationship with called me back finally. (He was out of town) The facts are that this escort had seen this client twice, 2 nights in a row. (Hardly a relationship). He was surprised to hear of the incident indicating that the guy is generally pretty nice, but is prone to exaggeration. He also comfirms that the guy is a consistent heavy drinker.

 

The SF equivilent of the ant violence project people were very nice and very supportive. Their suggestion given the circumstances was to make the community aware of this guy through posting on sites like this and craigslist. Seems like reasonable advice.

 

All in all, this is looking more and more like an unfortunate accident. Just the same, the guy is a menace with those teeth!

 

That's all for now.

 

 

Thanks again everyone.

 

Tom

 

Tom BuStone

415-256-6743

[email protected]

[Donnie]

>Poor baby! I'm sure I'm not the only one who would be glad

>to step up and make it all better.

 

ummmm perhaps Tom wants to have GOOD sex before he jumps back into another bad BJ - but I'm sure he'd take your cash!