Is it Rude to ask for a review?

[Guest Hottiewithabody]

Ive been thinking about this alot lately as im coming to my 1 year Anniversary of starting in the escort world. One year ago I was completely oblivious to how things worked. As a matter of fact I remember coming on this site frequently to get opinions from both escorts/clients on how to exactly go about booking/calling/planning etc. I have had exceptionally well experiences for the most part and pride myself on being exactly what I advertise. Being that im in this for the long term(I really do enjoy what I do) I believe that making sure you represent yourself 100% of your advertisements along with keeping in touch..asking questions etc is key for longevity. Of course there are those few escorts that could care less..one minute they are in town the next month they disappear. I have had a wide variety of clients/overnights/ and one client imparticular who hired me every weekend for the entire summer last year. I always just "assumed" that ones ad spoke for itself but Ive noticed alot of growing curiosity for other peoples opinions on an escort such as a review. Unfortunately where I advertise (In Ohio) I think most of my clients have been married professional guys that basically want to wash their hands clean of the meeting so they can go about their married lives rather than clients who hire on a regular basis and post reviews. Im wondering simply should i just start asking my clients to review me? I would assume they would be happy too..I cant stress enough how enjoyable its been on both parts and certain clients hire me everytime they are in town so obviously its enjoyable. I just dont want to come across as rude.

 

Like I mentioned it wasnt untill recently I started thinking heavily about this..all of the clients Ive had that enjoyed my time and just recently I had one client imparticular leave the most nastiest review I think one could write. Not only did he say in so many words I "Misrepresented" myself but he also said I wasnt into kissing etc...COMPLETE FABRICATION. Of course this could be seen as a he said/ she said thing. But this one review has cost me tremendously. It was literally a few days later I had another client who had nothing but positive things to say..Polar Opposite of the first client.

 

Just as there are bad escorts out there..I think people should realize that there are also bad clients. Escorts are not pieces of ass. They are people. With families. I take what i do very seriously and to meet this client who was completely drunk as I walked in then pratically ripping off my clothes..well lets just say it was a lesson learned. Yes some escorts have "issues" but I think this one client imparticular thrives on hiring escorts and then giving them bad reviews..he has posted over 60 reviews and if you go through most of them they are 98% negative basically griping about the same thing. What exactly is this client getting out of slandering an escort?

 

That being said I believe my side of the story should be heard. I take this very...VERY seriously. I love what I do. And Im considering asking my clients from now on to post a review..im just hoping this isnt considred rude. As Ive mentioned you would "assume" most clients post reviews but actually most of them are all about being discrete and dont want a "trail" of the encounter..at least thats been my experience in Ohio. Please any advice anyone would have feel free to comment.

[JoeyBryant]

he has posted over 60 reviews and if you go through most of them they are 98% negative basically griping about the same thing. What exactly is this client getting out of slandering an escort?

 

That being said I believe my side of the story should be heard. I take this very...VERY seriously. I love what I do. And Im considering asking my clients from now on to post a review..im just hoping this isnt considred rude. As Ive mentioned you would "assume" most clients post reviews but actually most of them are all about being discrete and dont want a "trail" of the encounter..at least thats been my experience in Ohio. Please any advice anyone would have feel free to comment.

 

Remember too, there are clients who say they'll write a review...even when asked, and don't do it.

 

I had a client who sincerely offered to write a review, had me text him 2 review sites I'm on including this one, but didn't write shit. I wasn't mad, but unless his plane crashed on the way back home...I cant see why he would fabricate such an offer.

 

I see it like this. When I go to a hotel, they always ask me to write a review. I call AAA, they want me to write a review on my last roadside experience. I get pop ups from my bank asking 'how are we doing?". The so called Better Business Bureau is filled with complaints, not reviews. Everybody wants a review.

 

As a customer (not a client LOL), I'm a bit annoyed to be asked for a review...even if the service was superior. I'll return the favor by coming back again. Its fine to ask for feedback such as, "how was it?" But especially in this business, I wouldn't jeopardize an encounter by forcing a review on them. Cause thats basically what it does. Jeopardizes. Forcing them to tell about something that they may not feel comfortable even talking about.

 

Of course, reviews are great. All of my reviews have been offered, I never asked. I may only have a couple, but that says nothing about my services and repeats. It just means I haven't been around for 10 years and like you, reside in a somewhat DL state in an even more DL city. Thats all it means.

[josephga]

I think some people just don't write reviews. you said in your area lots of married guys that want to wash their hands of it and move on. When I was giving massages I had allot of similar clients. In the 11 years I was a massage therapist I gave around 8000 massages. those 8000 massages produced around 40 something reviews. I know some guys ask but I personally wouldn't ask for a review

[doitb4ugo]

Never Asked By An Escort

 

Because I spend so much time here and value the reviews on this site as the best source for gathering infoon an escort, I have written a review for each person that I have hired. My first escort encounter did not end with a review because I had some personal issues that made for a not great experience but it certainly was not the escorts doing. I have written a review for him since based on a return visit.

 

I have never been asked to write a review by an escort but on the massage side I was asked more othen than not to submit a review....

 

Because I write reviews I understand the effort that goes into the process. I spend a good amount of time making sure the review provides some info on both the escort and myself. I may be a bit of a media slut.

For me, because I do think alot about everything, the discipline of writing the review really helps me put the experience into perspective for me.

 

Most guys don't write reviews because it is not a simple process and they fo not get very much out of doing so.

[josephga]

thats a good point. the process. I'm not sure what the process is here but on some sites you have to register, give a email addy, or in some cases a phone number. Them married ones are nervous and sometimes scared and Just don't want to deal with the process. I use to have this one guy, very sweet guy he got a massage twice a week for 4 years from me not once did he every write a review. He told me he just wasn't into that sort of thing. In his words that 20.00 tip i give you every time shows i like it, no need for a review lol

[uwsman2]

re asking for reviews

 

I've never been asked to write a review by an escort. I usually do write a review, but not always after a first encounter. And, of course, since I've been seeing a few of the same guys repeatedly in recent years, I will wait a considerable while before submitting a second review. On the other hand, recently I made a date with a new guy because I was attracted by a review and his photo on this site, and I've submitted a review -- but it hasn't been published yet. (My experience first with Hooboy and now with Daddy is that the reviews I submit eventually get published, but sometimes it takes a month or more. It depends how long the backlog is, since Daddy tries to verify reviews before posting them and that's time-consuming work, so if there is a long backlog of submitted ads, one may not be published for quite a while. But I've also submitted reviews that showed up after a week or so.)

 

So a word to the escorts out there - if a client promises to write a review, have some patience, since it may be a month or more in the line-up and vetting process before it gets posted!

[orbital sander]

I think some people just don't write reviews. you said in your area lots of married guys that want to wash their hands of it and move on. When I was giving massages I had allot of similar clients. In the 11 years I was a massage therapist I gave around 8000 massages. those 8000 massages produced around 40 something reviews. I know some guys ask but I personally wouldn't ask for a review

 

I would agree 100% with this. I do not give reviews or feedback or fill out comment cards often at all. I cannot tell you why exactly, but generally it is because I only do it when I feel that someone has treated me exceptionally well. In other words, a review from me is because I was very happy with the service, hotel staff, guide, etc. I have submitted a few reviews here, but it is only a fraction of my experiences. I travel a bit, and I almost never do reviews of my travel experiences because I feel that single experiences, even if good, really give little useful information. Additionally, sometimes I just want to keep to myself. Rarely have I had a bad encounter and so-so experiences (also few) can be for all kinds of reasons, so I do not feel that they provide reason for a review good or bad. I know it sounds odd, but sometimes reviews mean little to me that others write as well...I guess it depends on the who, why, where, etc.

[Toulouse]

I've never had an escort ask me for a review, but if someone ever does, I would not consider it rude of them.

[Guest]

There's nothing wrong with being asked to do a review. I've had several escorts ask that of me (although I must say whether I write one or not doesn't have much to do with whether he asks me or not).

[jgoo]

Hey Hottie, hope you are doing well. You're awesome.

 

In my view it is not at all rude to ask for a review. It is even easier and more appropriate to ask for one from a repeat client. Often times it is not the request itself but how the request is made that makes the difference.

 

One approach that I have had an escort do in the past that I appreciated (and did result in a review being posted) was after our meeting he followed up with a "thank you" email for the time spent together and at the end suggested that if I had as good a time as he believed I did that he would definitely appreciate me considering doing a review. To make things a bit easier he put a link to the couple review sites he was already listed on. I appreciated the followup thank you and also I think it made it a bit easier/less awkward to do it in this way rather than at the end of the meeting.

 

I think this approach worked well for me because I have done many reviews in the past but others who have not done reviews at all may need a bit more effort. So overall one possible better way is to consider that there are several key aspects to actually getting reviews posted if you decide to ask for one. Various of these relate to getting the client aware of, interested in and agreeing to do a review. Talking about reviews at the end of the meeting would help and specifically asking for one face to face would, I believe, make it more likely that the client would agree to do it rather than by a followup email since those are relatively easier to ignore. And if they say they prefer not to, you can get some idea as to what the issue(s) might be that is making them hesitate. A potential downside is that the client may feel a bit pressured to say yes which could limit future hiring if he doesn't follow through. Another key aspect is actually having the client go through the whole process of submitting a review. I think that a followup email gently reminding them about the review, links to the review site(s) and as much detail (your stats, rates, contact info, etc) to help make it easier for the reviewer to fill in forms and submit the reivew would help.

 

So I think you should do whatever approach you feel most comfortable with and works best for you, the circumstances and the client.

[N.N.]

One escort asked me for a good review when we were in the middle of fucking.

 

I thought it was presumptuous to ask not just for a review but for a good one,

and it was inappropriate for him to be talking about something that would benefit

him rather than being attentive to what we were in the middle of doing.

 

The same escort grabbed his cell phone less than a minute after cumming

so that he could see what messages he missed. Kids these days, I tell ya.

[josephga]

one escort asked me for a good review when we were in the middle of fucking.

 

I thought it was presumptuous to ask not just for a review but for a good one,

and it was inappropriate for him to be talking about something that would benefit

him rather than being attentive to what we were in the middle of doing.

 

The same escort grabbed his cell phone less than a minute after cumming

so that he could see what messages he missed. Kids these days, i tell ya.

 

 

lmao

[+ Axiom2001]

I've never had an escort ask me for a review, but if someone ever does, I would not consider it rude of them.

 

Toulouse, of the men who I have had the honor of seeing/meeting, only one or two have requested a review. I feel obliged-- especially if we'd clicked and our time was memorably spent! I like to write, too!

 

So, in my responding to the query, I, like Toulouse, would not "consider it rude of them" for asking me to write a review.

 

For me-- the reviews here have been valuable. I've only had two experiences where the escorts did not do for me as they'd done for others (which was a disappointment to me), but I just guess that the chemistry on our part did not blend!!!!!

[whipped guy]

Some guys are shy about it...

 

A few years back I saw a guy and was so happy with his expertise that I hired him right on the spot for a return engagement the following week... Interestingly, that was shortly after I had joined this forum and a couple of fellow posters helped do some research for me... but I digress.

 

At the conclusion of our second session I was just about to ask if he would appreciate a review when he very timidly, nervously, and oh so shyly asked if I knew about a website called Hooboy where clients could submit reviews. (Now this person had such a sweet manner about him and even spoke with a slight stutter when a bit nervous, so it made the whole scene seem all the more endearing…) I said that I did and that coincidentally I was just going to mention that I was going to ask him if he would like a review… He then began beaming like the proverbial child on Christmas morning.

 

That was a number of years ago. He then moved out of the area. I wonder if he is still escorting as my review is still his most recent... not sure why because he excelled at what he did.

[Boomer]

It's a mixed bag Hottie. You have 2 reviews, which I'm sure you know. One is great the other not. I haven't reviewed in a long time since I don't hire as much. I have a regular who is not a pro and only escorts occasionally. When I did write reviews it was only if I was blown away by the experience or if it was to warn others of a bad experience.

 

I don't think that there's any harm in asking, but you know the old cliche, "be careful what you ask for." I would suggest going with your insitincts on a client by client basis.

[Guest Hottiewithabody]

It's a mixed bag Hottie. You have 2 reviews, which I'm sure you know. One is great the other not. I haven't reviewed in a long time since I don't hire as much. I have a regular who is not a pro and only escorts occasionally. When I did write reviews it was only if I was blown away by the experience or if it was to warn others of a bad experience.

 

I don't think that there's any harm in asking, but you know the old cliche, "be careful what you ask for." I would suggest going with your insitincts on a client by client basis.

 

 

 

Great Point Boomer..there are only 2 reviews there. And as one potential client pointed out to me in the initial contact email "I heavily rely on Reviews before hiring..I noticed you have one bad review and a complete polar oppisite review of how amazing the experience was"--

 

If I were a client..I would ask the same thing..I mean how can you go from a complete 180 degrees in a matter of days? As I mentioned both of these clients who left reviews were booked and spent time with me DAYS apart..not years. So I could understand the confusion on a clients end. I just feel since I have had clients who make an effort to see me whenever in town(I think a sure way of knowing if a client actually enjoys your time is being hired again..obviously the initial fee isnt suggesting they enjoyed it rather its expected)

 

Whats sad is all of the great experiences Ive had and continuing encounters and I didnt think twice about a review untill the Bad one. At first I thought maybe I had done something wrong(If you read my response to it it goes in great detail) But then of course certain things like my kissing preferences/body type etc where I realized this guy was set on making me seem like a fraud. It wasnt untill I read other reviews he had listed that I realized there was a much..much..bigger issue. This man was unhappy and for some reason got off on slandering most of the escorts he hired. One escort imparticular had a very similar experience to mine a few years earlier with the client(also posted in the response). I dont want to relive that..or again turn this into a he said/she said thing. I may be young but I am bigger than that. I will take the high road.

 

I think Jgoo summed it up and gave me a good idea to send a thank you email rather than the encounter. My god I couldnt picture asking during intimacy nor in the beginning because I think it makes things less personable.

[+ purplekow]

In regard to bad reviews carrying undo weight. I have an acquaintance who works for Horizon. Back when HMO's were all the rage, the insurance companies would promise doctors that if they received a good rating by their patients, they would be entiitled to a bonus payment at the end of the year. Most doctors felt that their patient's would give them good evaluations and therefore thought this was a good aspect to the program. What was not shown, is that happy people don't write elective evaluations, at least not in the numbers that unhappy people do. Horizon told doctors in my state they needed a 4.5 rating out of 5 to get a bonust. Well it takes 9 5 ratings to make up for one 0 rating. Add in, those who are hard markers and there you are, the majority of doctors who got bonuses had to solicit reviews from their satisfied patient. Bad reviews carry much more weight, in general, than raves. That is true of doctors, movies, theatrical performances, CDs and escorts.

[Guest OCBeachbody]

A business is a business. If you provide excellent service then by all means ask for your clients to write a review. If your clients want to keep you around in business you need work, and a review helps out in that area.

[+ azdr0710]

A few years back I saw a guy and was so happy with his expertise that I hired him right on the spot for a return engagement the following week... Interestingly, that was shortly after I had joined this forum and a couple of fellow posters helped do some research for me... but I digress.

 

At the conclusion of our second session I was just about to ask if he would appreciate a review when he very timidly, nervously, and oh so shyly asked if I knew about a website called Hooboy where clients could submit reviews. (Now this person had such a sweet manner about him and even spoke with a slight stutter when a bit nervous, so it made the whole scene seem all the more endearing…) I said that I did and that coincidentally I was just going to mention that I was going to ask him if he would like a review… He then began beaming like the proverbial child on Christmas morning.

 

That was a number of years ago. He then moved out of the area. I wonder if he is still escorting as my review is still his most recent... not sure why because he excelled at what he did.

 

 

Whipped!....that is the coolest little story!....since he hasn't been reviewed in "years", any chance you can divulge his name and his 20 so I/we can check out this timid guy?....thanks

[rvwnsd]

...Im considering asking my clients from now on to post a review..im just hoping this isnt considred rude. ...

 

Assuming that you ask nicely, I don't think it would be rude. Certainly, asking in the middle of an encounter is rude, but I'm guessing you would not do that. Another option is to judge the situation and if it feels right to ask, ask and if it doesn't, don't. It is possible that some clients might not know about review sites, so you could be opening their eyes.

[whipped guy]

Some guys are not so shy about it.

 

Assuming that you ask nicely, I don't think it would be rude. Certainly, asking in the middle of an encounter is rude, but I'm guessing you would not do that.

Having mention the "shy approach" above. One guy kept hounding me relentlessly during the encounter about wanting a review... He seemed to be obsessed with getting reviews. He did the same thing to the buddy who referred me to him... and on his website he had a link to the then Hooboy site labeled "write me a review". It was rude and a total turn off... I ultimately did write a review, just to shut him up as for a short period of time I did enjoy his services... but he became rude in other ways... such as hounding me with emails to hire him... and that became a total turn off... Still, I was a bit green back then and in retrospect should have realized that the the guy was a bozo and moved on sooner... much sooner. Now I would just tell him to shut up and fry ice.

 

A review is something that comes from the heart... at least a good review... and if you have a heart and are honest I guess a bad review as well... and that is something that can't be coerced.

 

I actually remember the first review that I wrote... I told the guy after the session that I wanted to thank him by writing a review as I was so pleased... He seemed very neutral about the whole thing... well perhaps he was ecstatic inside, but "poker-face-like" he did not show any external emotion at all. He simply said that it would be fine as it would be interesting to see my thoughts and feeling expressed in words.

[whipped guy]

The shy guy who really wan't shy when it counted!

 

Whipped!....that is the coolest little story!....since he hasn't been reviewed in "years", any chance you can divulge his name and his 20 so I/we can check out this timid guy?....thanks

Well the guy was porn star Adam Faust... and he was just so shy... but when filming I guess the stutter and shyness disappeared. He certainly was not shy when in BDSM mode!

 

I recall when I first spoke to him on the phone. I was in the lobby of my hotel when the phone rang and he was so soft spoken that I could not hear him...I actually had to cover my left ear. Plus, his voice was so kind and gentle.

 

I just Googled him and he has moved on to other things. His website says he is officially closed... and he thanks everyone for the "support and kind words". At the time he told me what his true profession was... possibly accounting or some such thing related to the business word, but I forget.

 

Another endearing story, he mentioned how a dear old aunt was going to visit his apartment... and how he had not only to clean up the place... it always exhibited a bit of clutter... but also hide all the tools of the trade...

[buzz]

A number of escorts have asked me -- at THE END of the session, not during -- to write a review. I have always agreed and done so, because I genuinely enjoyed the encounter. Several have responded with thanks when the review was published. One very hot man even extended our next session considerably in appreciation for the rave review I gave him and which he truly deserved. Somtimes I have offered to write a review and guys usually appreciate that. I would be totally turned off if an escort asked me "in flagrante...." about doing a review, but I certainly don't mind a man saying "If you enjoyed yourself, would you please write a review for me?"

Bottom line...done politely and at the right moment, it's fine with me.

buzz

[Boomer]

Great Point Boomer..there are only 2 reviews there. And as one potential client pointed out to me in the initial contact email "I heavily rely on Reviews before hiring..I noticed you have one bad review and a complete polar oppisite review of how amazing the experience was"--

 

If I were a client..I would ask the same thing..I mean how can you go from a complete 180 degrees in a matter of days? As I mentioned both of these clients who left reviews were booked and spent time with me DAYS apart..not years. So I could understand the confusion on a clients end. I just feel since I have had clients who make an effort to see me whenever in town(I think a sure way of knowing if a client actually enjoys your time is being hired again..obviously the initial fee isnt suggesting they enjoyed it rather its expected)

 

Whats sad is all of the great experiences Ive had and continuing encounters and I didnt think twice about a review untill the Bad one. At first I thought maybe I had done something wrong(If you read my response to it it goes in great detail) But then of course certain things like my kissing preferences/body type etc where I realized this guy was set on making me seem like a fraud. It wasnt untill I read other reviews he had listed that I realized there was a much..much..bigger issue. This man was unhappy and for some reason got off on slandering most of the escorts he hired. One escort imparticular had a very similar experience to mine a few years earlier with the client(also posted in the response). I dont want to relive that..or again turn this into a he said/she said thing. I may be young but I am bigger than that. I will take the high road.

 

I think Jgoo summed it up and gave me a good idea to send a thank you email rather than the encounter. My god I couldnt picture asking during intimacy nor in the beginning because I think it makes things less personable.

 

It's funny how we can get hundreds of compliments and one person is critical and we forget all the compliments and can't get the criticism out of our heads. Human nature I guess. BTW I could not find your response to the negative review.

[Guest ChgoBoy]

Asking for a review is like asking for a tip. Unprofessional.